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Why Do I Feel Attracted to Girls as a Woman?

Ravi Mittal |423 Answers |Ask -Follow

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 20, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 14, 2024Hindi

Relationship

why do i feel attracted to girls

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am not sure how to answer this but attraction is a very personal thing. It is shaped by biology, human experiences, preferences, and emotions. In most cases, attraction is not a bad thing. I am not sure why this raises questions in your mind, but it is important to navigate these feelings without judgment. Be kind to yourself and others while you figure things out.

Best Wishes.

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You’re very likely gay, and THAT’S OKAY. It’s not some fatal disease you have; it’s just that your sexual orientation is different. That said, it’s still normal.

You obviously seem to be struggling with coming to terms with this and I’d recommend that you start seeing a professional therapist.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sex is not just a physical act. Learn to first connect as partners first; love, care trust...these help in intimacy.
If you are able to get all excited over other women what you are looking at is LUST and not LOVE...In your marriage, focus more on Love and intimacy will follow. Spend time together even at 44, this is a must!
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hello mam, Iam raj, male 28 yrs,having physical attraction towards older woman than me. even though I have a healthy sexlife with my gf. I feel only matured older women can satisfy me. i sometimes feel ashamed of such thoughts and sometimes I cannot control. why is this happening to me.

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Question by Deepak - Nov 20, 2024Hindi

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Sir, in how many years , I can turn 1crore to 20 crore.So that I can retire.Im investing about 1.35lakh as sip every month . Im 44 now . I have about 60 lakh iin different funds now, im hoping to reach a crore 2026.Thanks in advance.

Ans: To achieve a corpus of Rs 20 crore with your current financial inputs, let's break it down step by step:

Your Current Investments and SIP Plan
Current Investment: Rs 60 lakh (expected to grow to Rs 1 crore by 2026).
Monthly SIP Contribution: Rs 1.35 lakh.
Expected Rate of Return: 12% annually.
Timeframe to Reach Rs 20 Crore
With a starting corpus of Rs 1 crore (by 2026) and continuing a SIP of Rs 1.35 lakh monthly at 12%, it will take 23 years to grow to Rs 20 crore.
By the time you turn 67 years old, your desired retirement corpus can be achieved.

Key Assumptions
The 12% return assumption is realistic for equity-heavy portfolios. However, past performance is no guarantee for the future.
The SIP contributions should continue consistently without interruption for the given timeframe.
Inflation and changing lifestyle expenses are not considered here.

Points to Consider
Diversify Your Investments: Ensure your portfolio includes a mix of equity and debt. Adjust allocations as you approach retirement to reduce risk.

Monitor Progress Regularly: Periodically review your investments and returns. Rebalancing may be necessary to stay aligned with your goal.

Increase SIP Contributions Gradually: With rising income, consider increasing your SIPs by 5-10% annually to reduce the timeframe.

Emergency Fund and Insurance: Ensure you have a robust emergency fund and sufficient term insurance to secure your family.

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Hi Sir, I’m a 33yo male seeking your guidance on investments. We're expecting ?16 lakh from the maturity of a ULIP and a chit fund. Could you advise whether it'd be better to invest this amount in a POS monthly scheme, SWP or FD? We intend to use this as income for my parents, who are both 60+ and agriculturists. Looking forward to your suggestions, thank you????

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SCSS would be better due to higher interest rate (8.2%) but flipside is quarterly interest payments.

In that case POMIS looks optimal.

Both these schemes are backed by GOI so no fear of capital loss but they have tenure only of 5 years ofcourse you can always reinvest again but the rate of interest may not be the same.

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Hello sir I am 26 years old and I am investing 1k in quant infrastructure cap, 2k in Tata small cap, 1k in Tata Mid cap, 1k in HDFC life fund, 1k Is it good for long term like 30 years. Plz advice me

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To begin with, this is okay but you need to top-up the sip amount by
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Also review performance of funds annually.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 17, 2024Hindi

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Hello, I have been married for 8yrs now and my wife has been talking to her ex boyfriend secretly since the time we've been married. I've raised this issue with her several times promised to stop but no change. Eventually 2yrs ago I brought it to the attention of our family but still no change. Recent deleted communication was 19th October, 2024. At this I am disappointed with myself for not managing this embarrassing situation and the only question that remains in my mind is "What to do"... please advise me.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Since it's bothering you so much, I am guessing that these communications have a romantic undertone to them. I am sorry you are going through this. But please try to have an open discussion with her, without assigning blame or judgment. Ask her what is lacking in the marriage that she needs to reach out to her ex; it will help you get to the root of the matter and work on it from there. Let her know that these interactions are extremely hurtful to you and it is also unacceptable. You can also see a marriage counselor to resolve things in a more structured way.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 14, 2024Hindi

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Hi, I'm soon to be 36 M, unmarried and never had any relationship in all my years, I have registered myself with many matrimony sites and have been searching for a girl or maybe a woman now, for last 5 or 6 years. My problem is that most girls in matrimonial reject me out right for reason like looks, money/property, age, etc, now I have asked some of my friends discreetly about my looks and I'm very confident about myself, also I know I do earn good bucks, despite that I don't understand what could be possible reason to not even have a single conversation before they reject someone. I have even tried my hands on dating apps, but I have not had success there as well. Some time I feel worthless and have breakdowns because of this. I don't have anyone to share this with and I know no one cares about it anyway as everyone has their own problem and you will be the last thing in their mind. I know the answer I'm going to get here - "keep trying", "life is not fair" etc, but I feel this is total crap, why does no women want a man who would respect her and care for her, why cry later for justice, domestic violence and cheating. After all this, I'm losing hope that I'll find my or any love in this world.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I agree what's happening to you is not fair, and however you are feeling right now, it is valid. But having said that, you can't justify saying "why cry later for justice, domestic violence and cheating." These are entirely different and serious matters. Do not trivialize them. Rejecting a man who would've loved her does not automatically mean the woman deserves to find a man who should cheat, beat, or abuse her.

Now, coming to your issue, rejection comes for several reasons; it doesn't necessarily have to do anything with your appearance. Since you mentioned getting rejected even before a conversation, my first guess would be that the profile might not be standing out in the crowd of profiles out there. You can try adding hints of humor to your BIO to make it more attractive. Use the 70-30 method in your Bio, where 70% of it showcases you as a person and the remaining 30 subtly indicates your version of an ideal partner. Additionally, try optimizing your DP and select something that shows your fun side.

But I would like to remind you that not everyone's love story runs at the same pace; some take time to start. I know you think it's cliched but people say it because it has truth to it- keep going; I am sure you will find someone.

Best Wishes.

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Question by Gayathri - Oct 10, 2024Hindi

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Dear ma'am/sir, I am 30 years old. I am an experienced English teacher. I find my job quite stressful and hectic since I work in a private school with very very low payment. I have plans to quit the job and look for better opportunities, like IT or other sectors communication related. Kindly guide me...

Ans: Dear Gayatri,

First understand which industry your interests is in.
Understand any shift you will do it will be from scratch that means you need to have patience until you built it
If you interest lies in the IT industry understand your skills (do SWOT analysis) and see basis your skills what value add can you bring.
Upgrade your skills as per the industry by taking up few courses

Hope this helps

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