While dating, when someone says 'be yourself' what do they actually mean?

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It is certainly more important that you are with a nice person rather than a fashion plate and I'm glad that you are not considering changing your look or appearance to impress boys.

Damn straight, you should be the one who decides how you dress, whether it's in a salwar kameez or miniskirt.

 I would strongly suggest that you don't give in to peer pressure.

Sooner or later the right kind of guy will come along, who likes you for who you are, not based on the clothes you wear.

 

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

First of all, that's good thinking on your part. The basics of being safe while dating online dictate you take mindful steps, and this is one of them. Now, coming to how you can convey your worries without offending, you don't owe anyone any explanation on why you choose not to spend the night with them. But, if you insist on explaining, you can tell the guy that you like him but would want to know him better and on a deeper level before taking the party somewhere private.

Guys who genuinely like you will never force you into doing something you are not comfortable with or even ask you to justify your choices. If he moves on because you act "too tight," or as I'd put it, act carefully and as you see fit, so let him; you deserve and will meet someone better than that. The number of dates you have been on does not decide anything; you do.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Naveen,

A healthy relationship is one that is loaded with mutual respect and love. Here are some tips you can follow:

• Respect your partner's boundaries.
• Open and honest communication is key; listen when they say something, don't just pretend, and share your emotions too.
• Have realistic expectations from them.
• Have fair fights and do not bring in past mistakes in present conflicts.
• Let go of control; you are equal in a relationship.
• Take care of yourself; two happy people make a happy couple.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Almost 100% of introverts have a very successful love life. I would not worry about it at all. For starters, I would recommend trying online dating. You do not have to interact face-to-face and you get ample time to know your match before you finally decide to meet them in person. You can even mention that you are an introvert in your bio and find people who have a similar nature to yours. You do not have to ask a friend to find you a date, you can do it yourself and most importantly, at your own pace. Do give it a try.

Best Wishes.