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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 07, 2025Hindi
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I am in a serious relationship with a guy I met in my college. I am 29, he is 31. We have been dating for 3 years now. I think we are ready to take this relationship to the next step. I want to get married to him and have some stability, but my partner keeps saying 'let's see where life takes us.' I feel stuck between waiting and moving on. How do I know if I'm being patient or just postponing the inevitable?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are right; it does sound like he is stalling, but then again, we might be wrong. The best way to gain clarity is to ask him about it. Asking directly might cause a conflict, so do it in a more subtle way- ask him where he sees himself in 5 years. If he does not mention you in his plans, it would be an indication that he is not serious about the relationship. And keep note of small things like if he is making small-term plans with him, like a travel plan 3 months later or long-term plans, like a friend’s wedding that will happen one and half years later. These small details can help you get a rough idea of what he is up to. But I want you to remember that all of these are just speculations. You can take your speculations, put it on the table and have a clear discussion.

I hope these help.

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My sister has an option to go for EEE/ECE in VIT Vellore campus or AI/ML in VIT Amravati/Bhopal campus. Which option should she go for? Want to maximise on placement opportunities in these uncertain times. Other colleges in list: 1. CSE, AI in SRM University (Ramapuram) 2. CSE /AI in Alliance University 3. CSE/ AI in Mahindra Ecole School of Engineering. Would really appreciate some help.
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