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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 31, 2024

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 12, 2024Hindi

Relationship

Hi mam, In past I have been fooled a lot of times and my trust have been broken a lot close ones because of which im facing a lot of trust issues , and this problem having been there for a long time has lead to a mew problem pf overthinking which is affecting my decision making process a lot . Need your suggestion on this , pls help

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Firstly, it's people's loss in terms of your connection with them when you begin to lose trust in them due to their actions...
Having said this, it will also be wise to bear in mind that it is not necessary to sharing too many details of your life with people who really are not that close to you. At times people can use this against you. Your choice of people within your immediate circle is something that you must be careful about as well!
Now overthinking due to all of this is something that you can control. If overthinking is more about WHY is this happening to me rather than WHAT can I do about this, then you know that you have begun to indulge in self-pity. Instead ask yourself: What can I do to change this for myself; you will begin to take charge of who you invite into your life and what and how you want to navigate these relationships.

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 05, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 03, 2023Hindi

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Hi, I am married for 10yrs with 2 kids. Suddenly I discovered my wife is having a relation with another man. I was devastated but rather than revealing I am aware I rather recalled all the good moments we had. She decided to part ways with another man still I wanted to know what prompted her so went into an open discussion with my wife knowing she already parted ways. She was shocked to know that I am aware but then she revealed she was emotionally down for last 6months and I was occupied with work. As I am emotionally attached with my kids and wife I decided to carry on and rather our love went more intense since the incident. Every now and then I still doubt and fail to maintain the same level of trust which I should. Please guide how I can maintain more stronger trust.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Yes, incidents like these can make you lose trust especially now when you will start to doubt her every move, every action or inaction.
You seem to be a person who has chosen to see the goodness (that's amazing) in your relationship and wants to continue in the marriage. But for this to happen effectively, the trust has to be rebuilt all over again. As a couple, talk about this...share with your wife when you have bouts of doubts BUT don't ever get into the mode where she needs to explain or prove herself every single day.

If she has realized what has been missing in the marriage that made her step outside of it, then the two of you can spend time bringing life back into the marriage.
Ask her: How can I connect with you emotionally where you feel safe and secure?
Do a lot of activities together that will help the two of you reconnect!

Either you trust OR you don't...there's no in-between...so if you two have decided to give your relationship another chance, focus on how to rebuild the connection and how to care for one another even more than before!

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 26, 2024

Question by Trade - Aug 16, 2024Hindi

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I have been married from last 20 years. It's arrange marriage and before marriage told me let she had an affair with a har college friend dena hai asked that if any relation physical relation has been done she said no I trusted her and married her but after 4 years of marriage I am notice that she didn't paid any attention or don't love me I always thought that there are some mistakes from my side that's why she behave like this . From last 16 years I was suffering from the situation. Recently I come to know when I saw her mobile accidentally and I come to know that she has the same affair from last 16 years with the same guy when I ask about this she told me that it was by mistake I am sorry I won't do this again after some pressureise she also told me that she did a physical relation with him before marriage and after marriage too. I was shocked cause physically I am fit and capable to satisfy her with all the way still she cheated me. Now she confess me all the things and told me promise me that she won't do any mistake henceforth. But no problem is whenever I am trying to get physical or emotional with her some thoughts in my mind game that she did all the things with another guy and cheating me so I can't make any relation ship with her. How can I trust her again we have to kids 10 year each. Please tell me what to do I am frustrated

Ans: Dear Trade,
You need to decide if you wish to trust her or not. It is difficult obviously with what you have discovered. But if you have chosen to carry on within the marriage, the only way that the mind can be managed is to accept what has happened and work with how things are today.
Give your marriage another chance and only then you can work your work through otherwise you will spend time only thinking about her cheating and what she did with the other person which anyone is not working well for you.
So, are you ready to forgive and move on OR hold onto the past? No decision is right or wrong; it's just what you want and then when you make that decision, make everything else work in favor of that decision.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 13, 2025

Question by arun - Jan 12, 2025Hindi

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 13, 2025Hindi

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For salaried professionals investing in equity, does this market crash affect the benefits of Section 80C investments, such as ULIPs or ELSS, which are tied to market performance?

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Anything and everything connected with the market will get affected by market volatility. (ULIPs & ELSS too)

However for investors it is like a grand new year sale.

Continue your regular investments and also do lumpsum, if possible, at every sharp decline.

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Question by Deepak - Jan 13, 2025Hindi

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Tks a lot for the clear answers to my queries regarding transmission of shares. However, I would like some more clarification on custodial account for shares entitled to C. Custodial account for C will mean a brokerage account in name of C under guardianship of B or an account in name of B but under some category called as Custodial accounts? Alternatively, can the shares entitled for C be sold by B as C's legal guardian and then the sale proceeds be brought in India directly in a bank account in name of C under B's guardianship? Thanks in advance for the support.

Ans: A custodial account for shares typically means a brokerage account held in the name of the minor (C) but managed by the guardian (B). This allows the guardian to oversee the account and make investment decisions on behalf of the minor.
Alternatively, the shares entitled to C can indeed be sold by B as C's legal guardian. The proceeds from the sale can then be brought into India and deposited into a bank account in C's name, under B's guardianship. However, it's important to ensure that all legal requirements and permissions are met, especially if the shares are part of a larger estate or property.
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 30, 2024Hindi

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Question by Nilima - Jan 12, 2025Hindi

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