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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 26, 2024Hindi
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Is it normal for my boyfriend to be chatting with his cousins more often I'm curious because I've been asking him what's going on because at first they saved each others contact with their real names but now they changed to lovely cousin with some love emojes. He used to tell me that I should send him my pictures whenever I'm far from him but now he stopped yet he put his cousin on status daily with different captions including love emojes When I ask him, he always replies that there is nothing between them

Ans: Its normal to be interacting with cousins daily - they are siblings. But the behaviour you have shared does make the antennas go up. We are going with this assumption that you and your boyfriend are adults are of 20 years and above. If I were in your place and my sixth sense came to play, I would put this relationship on hold till I gather complete trust in my boyfriend. Wishing you the best.

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Hello sir, I have been following your suggestion quite on this platform, please suggest! My daughter secured 72 percentile in jee main 2026. Her rank is in in 4 lakhs. Secured 180 marks in bitsat 1. What should she further do. Which counselling she should register? She wants to pursue btech in cse or in ai ml. What best university is for her at the moment and best field for her, she has had pcmb with cs in class 12
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