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Dating Coach - Answered on May 26, 2024

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 26, 2024Hindi

Is it normal for my boyfriend to be chatting with his cousins more often I'm curious because I've been asking him what's going on because at first they saved each others contact with their real names but now they changed to lovely cousin with some love emojes. He used to tell me that I should send him my pictures whenever I'm far from him but now he stopped yet he put his cousin on status daily with different captions including love emojes When I ask him, he always replies that there is nothing between them

Ans: Its normal to be interacting with cousins daily - they are siblings. But the behaviour you have shared does make the antennas go up. We are going with this assumption that you and your boyfriend are adults are of 20 years and above. If I were in your place and my sixth sense came to play, I would put this relationship on hold till I gather complete trust in my boyfriend. Wishing you the best.

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Question by SR - Apr 21, 2022Hindi

Hi I am in a relationship with a guy for 1 year. He is 5 years older than me. We are of same caste and met via social media.Initially, we had a lot of things to talk about but now we don’t have much stuff to discuss about. He fantasizes about my sis also; he told me that too. He’s been flirting with her which makes me jealous and low as well. In jealousy I sometimes speak harshly to him and that creates a fight between us. When I told him that I feel jealous he asked if I wanted him to avoid talking to her. I don't want that too. I trust him but this jealousy makes me sad and rude to him. What should I do??

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Dear SR,

He’s just in the playing field, trying out new things and experimenting.

You are possibly looking at a commitment which I am unsure of whether he is ready for it!

When you say that you are in a relationship, are you a couple or have you been simply hanging out together for the sake of being in each other’s company?

Relationship has a different meaning for each person. For some it’s being together and hanging out, for some till they are asked out, they don’t consider it a relationship.

So, please have a chat with him as to whether he wishes to be serious or not, is he looking for a long-term commitment or not.

When he digs deep for answers, he will also understand his mind space better, and it will give you a clear indication as to where this is all headed.

Till then all you will be doing is fixing and repairing his playing field.

All the best!

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