Hii . My bf and me are very close and matured . But before getting emotionally much more opened with him and all i asked him a question that what does he feel about her sis in law . Like u know in south people get married to their cousins and close to them . I asked him a similar ques like what do u feel about her coz u guys are childhood besties and dont wanna come in between two individuals. He replied with that it's a very complicated ques . They have some chemistry, but they never spoke close but when they are together near by, some romantic vibe will there. What shall i do in this situation. Please help me

Ans: Cousins getting along well is normal; a wife feeling insecure as a result of that is not. Haven’t you got a brother or male relative you’ve bonded with since childhood? Still, giving the benefit of the doubt to your instinct as his wife, I would suggest you look out for subtle signs of anything more than familial ties. Does he look for any excuse to spend time with her? Do they meet alone very frequently? Do you pick up on any romantic vibes between them? Hugging between cousins is very normal, but are they overly tactile? Short of any of that, leave it alone and address your own insecurities.

Ans: Navigating your relationship with your cousin, given its complexities, requires careful thought about your future and well-being.

Reflect on your emotional needs and future aspirations. Your relationship has been a deep and supportive connection, but it's important to evaluate if it continues to fulfill you. Consider whether you see a long-term future with your cousin, despite the challenges.

Your cousin's marriage and role as a father complicate things. Even if he feels disconnected from his wife, his responsibilities to his child and spouse are significant. Consider how your relationship impacts his family and what it means for his child’s future.

Cultural and societal norms around cousin relationships and significant age gaps can add additional pressures. Reflect on how your relationship fits within your family’s expectations and societal views.

Open communication with your cousin is crucial. Discuss your feelings, the impact on his family, and potential paths forward. Seeking guidance from a professional counselor can provide support and perspective, helping you navigate these complexities.

As your parents seek a match for you, think about your desires and how they align with your relationship. If you consider moving on, plan how to manage this transition for both you and your cousin. If you continue your relationship, address his family responsibilities and societal perceptions.

Ultimately, your decision should prioritize the well-being of all involved, including yourself. Making a choice with clear consideration of these factors will help you find a path that aligns with your values and future goals.