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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 20, 2024
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Hii . My bf and me are very close and matured . But before getting emotionally much more opened with him and all i asked him a question that what does he feel about her sis in law . Like u know in south people get married to their cousins and close to them . I asked him a similar ques like what do u feel about her coz u guys are childhood besties and dont wanna come in between two individuals. He replied with that it's a very complicated ques . They have some chemistry, but they never spoke close but when they are together near by, some romantic vibe will there. What shall i do in this situation. Please help me

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Is it your imagination that they share a chemistry or is it true?
This is something you need to validate before over-processing his response to your question. In fact, I would suggest that you ask him again but this time let it not be to satisfy your insecurities if any but to know where his mind is. And then also be prepared to hear and accept the truth whatever that maybe.

All the best!
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