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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 05, 2024Hindi
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Sir mere 5sal ka relationship tha ham dono ke cast alag hone ke karan unke ghar wale unko bahut richer ki o mere pass5month bad call ki boli daily sms ya call karungi but unka call ya sms na aya jab mai kiya to mera number block aur rista khatam kar di mere se bat mai nahi ki mai bahut kosis kiya manane ko but o nahi mani usane mere dost ke pass sms ki thi ki mai ab nafrat karti hui aur rista khatam kar rahi hui aj ye sab hote huye 1sal 3mahine hogaya ab 3month se mai try nahi kar raha hui ab mai social media se dur hui unke aur appane sare dost ko block kar mai akela hui akhir meri galti kya thi sir ab mai kya karu ye rista thik ho skta hai ya nahi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand you are in pain. But since she is not willing to be in a relationship with you, I don't think it's a good idea to pursue her anymore. She might have valid reasons for the breakup- for instance, you already mentioned that her parents are against the relationship. It isn't easy to go against parent's wishes. Or she simply has grown out of the relationship. Either way, I would advice you to stop pursuing her and trying to convince someone who has made up her mind. It isn't fair to either one of you. Don't you think you deserve someone who'd choose you? Think about it.

Best Wishes.

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hi Anu Mam, Mai Ravi Delhi se, meri saadi 2023 feb hui thi meri wife ka afire uske sage chote fufa ke sath chal rha tha saadi se phale se, Saadi ke 3-4 months baad ek baar maine use room band kr ke insta video call pr baat karte hue pakda muze saak hua and to maine uske insta apne mobile mai chal liya ye baat usko ni pta thi par use sak ho gya muze pr to apne fufa ko chupke se facebook masanger pr bta rahi thi ki mere husband mere insta or chala rhe h msg mt krna and us pr call par baat kri maine sab dekh liya kya baat hui ghar aa kr phale gusse mai tha but baad mai use pyar se samjya to usne muze bas yahi bola ki meri inse baat Jan 2023 se ho rahi h bas baat krna acha lagta hai attraction ho gya hai maine use samjya ki age se baat mat krna, uske kuch months baad us ne aye din Suicide krna police ki dhamki dena, chat se kunda start kr diya uske family ko bulya family bale kai baar aa kr samja kr chakle jaate ye every week hona start ho gya ladai hona , abhi June- July 2024 ko uske exam the bo dene gai and muze khai se pta chala ki bo exam dene ke sath apne fufa se bhi baat krne lagi hai and us se mili bhi hai maine prof dudna start kiya and use pucha ki tu mili hai ki nhi apne fufa se usne muze bola han achank mil gai thi but maine baat ni ki iska fufa Rampur mai ratha hai or ye Ghaziabad mai center tha to ye achanak se milna ni ho sakta maine pucha to bo usi baat pr rahi uske baad maine pucha kis ke phone se tu apne fufa se baat karti h to mana krne lagi mai nhi krti baat sabki kasam kha li usne, maine jab search kiya to muze pta chala bo mere samane bali padosi ki ladki se phone le kr baar krti thi bo use phone de deti thi use nhi pta kha baat krti thi ye maine uske ladki ki call history nikli to pta chal kai baar isne baat ki hai apne fufa se jis din iska exam tha uske baad us din bhi ye mile ab mai kya kru aap batao alag ho jaau ya kya kru aap batato
Ans: Dear Ravi,
Ab jinko shaadi mein rehna hi nahin hai aur fufa se dil lagaa baithi hain, isme aap kya kar sakte hain. Aapne har tareeka apnaaya hai use waapas le aane ke liye. Bas ek koshish aur kar lijiye faislaa lene se pehle...Ek baar sirf aap aur aapki patni kahin ghoom aaiye aur yahi baat uthaiye par binaa koi naarazgi se...yeh pataa lagaaiye ki kya woh shaadi mein bandhnaa chahti hain ya nahin. Agar unka dil hi nahin, toh kya kar sakte hain aap...phir aise hi shaadi mein aap unka phone chedck karte rahenge aur proof dhoondhte rahenge...Isiliye is baat ka khulaasa kam aur samaadhaan par zyaada dhyaan dijiye taaki aap ek faislaa kar sake.

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A secure investment strategy is essential. It should balance income, safety, and growth.

 

Key Challenges in Your Retirement Plan
Generating a stable monthly income without depleting capital.

Beating inflation so that income remains sufficient.

Minimising risk while getting reasonable returns.

Ensuring liquidity for unexpected expenses.

 

Dividing Your Corpus for Stability and Growth
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1. Emergency Fund – Rs 5 Lakh
Keep Rs 3 lakh in a high-interest savings account.

Keep Rs 2 lakh in a liquid fund for better returns.

This fund helps handle unexpected expenses without touching investments.

 

2. Monthly Income Fund – Rs 25 Lakh
Invest in a mix of debt mutual funds and conservative hybrid funds.

These funds offer better returns than bank FDs.

Withdraw Rs 30,000 per month using a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP).

This ensures stable income while keeping the capital growing.

 

3. Growth-Oriented Fund – Rs 10 Lakh
Invest in a balanced mix of equity mutual funds.

This helps to beat inflation and grow wealth over time.

Do not withdraw from this fund for at least 7-10 years.

This will help in long-term capital appreciation.

 

Why Not Rely Entirely on Fixed Deposits?
Bank FDs give lower returns than inflation.

Tax on FD interest reduces post-tax returns.

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Why Avoid Index Funds?
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Keep a portion in equity funds for growth.

Do not withdraw from growth-oriented funds in the first 7-10 years.

This ensures your capital lasts longer and grows.

 

Rebalancing Your Portfolio Regularly
Check investments every year.

Move money from growth funds to income funds when needed.

Adjust withdrawal amounts based on expenses and market conditions.

 

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Your plan should ensure financial security and peace of mind. A well-diversified portfolio will help you get a stable income while growing your wealth. A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can help you optimise this strategy.

 

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I am new to this mutual fund since last 6 month.i have been doing a sip of 18k per month.. parag parikh flexicap 5k uti nifty 50 5k motilal oswal midcap 2.2k nippon small cap 1.5k quant small cap 1.5k jm flexicap 1k icici prudential fund 2k is these good.i have a plan of 15 yr investment with 10 percent step up each year..kindly opine
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You have chosen a mix of flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.

A 15-year investment horizon allows compounding benefits.

The 10% annual step-up increases the final corpus.

You are investing consistently, which is important for long-term success.

 

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1. Too Many Funds in the Portfolio
You have seven different funds.

Some categories are overlapping, reducing diversification benefits.

A leaner portfolio can be easier to manage.

 

2. High Exposure to Small-Cap and Mid-Cap Funds
You have three funds in small-cap and mid-cap segments.

Small caps are high-risk, high-return investments.

Too much exposure can increase volatility.

 

3. Index Fund is Not the Best Choice
Index funds do not beat the market in all conditions.

Actively managed funds adjust to changing markets.

A professional fund manager can reduce downside risks.

 

Suggested Portfolio Improvements
1. Reduce the Number of Funds
Keep 3 to 4 well-managed funds instead of seven.

Choose one flexi-cap fund, one large-cap or multi-cap fund, and one mid/small-cap fund.

 

2. Balance Between Risk and Stability
Reduce exposure to too many small-cap funds.

Add a large-cap or multi-cap fund for stability.

 

3. Invest Through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP)
Direct funds require constant tracking.

A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can guide investment decisions.

Investing through an MFD with CFP credentials ensures professional fund selection.

 

Reviewing Your Plan Regularly
Check your portfolio every year.

Rebalance if some funds underperform.

Maintain discipline and avoid emotional decisions.

 

Finally
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Hello...I am planning to construct a home in next 5 years. My monthly salary is only 35000. I dont have any idea how to make my dream into a success. Please give me an idea how I can save my money to make a home with a budget of 30 lakhs.
Ans: Building a home is a big financial goal. You want to construct a house worth Rs 30 lakh in 5 years. Your monthly salary is Rs 35,000. With the right savings and investment plan, you can make this dream a reality.

 

Step 1: Understanding the Total Budget Requirement
The house construction cost is Rs 30 lakh.

You will need to save or arrange this amount in 5 years.

Costs may increase due to inflation.

Having a buffer amount is important for unexpected expenses.

 

Step 2: Evaluating Your Savings Capacity
Your monthly income is Rs 35,000. The goal is to save a portion consistently.

 

First, identify your essential monthly expenses.

Reduce unnecessary spending to increase savings.

The more you save, the less you need to borrow.

 

Step 3: Creating a Dedicated Home Fund
Open a separate investment account for home savings.

Invest in growth-oriented mutual funds.

Avoid keeping all money in fixed deposits due to lower returns.

 

Step 4: Choosing the Right Investment Strategy
A 5-year investment plan should have a balance of growth and safety.

 

1. Avoid Index Funds and ETFs
Index funds cannot adjust to market risks.

Actively managed funds perform better in volatile markets.

 

2. Avoid Direct Mutual Funds
Direct funds need market tracking and knowledge.

Investing through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) ensures proper management.

 

3. Maintain Liquidity for Construction Costs
Keep some funds in liquid investments for easy access.

Avoid locking money in long-term illiquid assets.

 

Step 5: Considering a Home Loan as an Option
If saving Rs 30 lakh is difficult, a home loan can help.

 

Banks may provide up to 80% of the home cost.

Your EMI should not exceed 40% of your income.

Higher down payment reduces loan burden.

A shorter loan tenure saves interest costs.

 

Step 6: Cutting Expenses to Boost Savings
Reduce unnecessary spending like eating out and entertainment.

Avoid impulse purchases.

Use discounts and cashback options to save more.

A simple lifestyle today helps in building your dream home sooner.

 

Step 7: Reviewing Your Plan Every Year
Track savings and investments regularly.

Adjust plans if income increases or expenses change.

Consult a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) for guidance.

 

Finally
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