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Love After Caste Differences: 5-Year Relationship Broken - Did I Do Wrong?

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 05, 2024Hindi
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Sir mere 5sal ka relationship tha ham dono ke cast alag hone ke karan unke ghar wale unko bahut richer ki o mere pass5month bad call ki boli daily sms ya call karungi but unka call ya sms na aya jab mai kiya to mera number block aur rista khatam kar di mere se bat mai nahi ki mai bahut kosis kiya manane ko but o nahi mani usane mere dost ke pass sms ki thi ki mai ab nafrat karti hui aur rista khatam kar rahi hui aj ye sab hote huye 1sal 3mahine hogaya ab 3month se mai try nahi kar raha hui ab mai social media se dur hui unke aur appane sare dost ko block kar mai akela hui akhir meri galti kya thi sir ab mai kya karu ye rista thik ho skta hai ya nahi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand you are in pain. But since she is not willing to be in a relationship with you, I don't think it's a good idea to pursue her anymore. She might have valid reasons for the breakup- for instance, you already mentioned that her parents are against the relationship. It isn't easy to go against parent's wishes. Or she simply has grown out of the relationship. Either way, I would advice you to stop pursuing her and trying to convince someone who has made up her mind. It isn't fair to either one of you. Don't you think you deserve someone who'd choose you? Think about it.

Best Wishes.

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hi Anu Mam, Mai Ravi Delhi se, meri saadi 2023 feb hui thi meri wife ka afire uske sage chote fufa ke sath chal rha tha saadi se phale se, Saadi ke 3-4 months baad ek baar maine use room band kr ke insta video call pr baat karte hue pakda muze saak hua and to maine uske insta apne mobile mai chal liya ye baat usko ni pta thi par use sak ho gya muze pr to apne fufa ko chupke se facebook masanger pr bta rahi thi ki mere husband mere insta or chala rhe h msg mt krna and us pr call par baat kri maine sab dekh liya kya baat hui ghar aa kr phale gusse mai tha but baad mai use pyar se samjya to usne muze bas yahi bola ki meri inse baat Jan 2023 se ho rahi h bas baat krna acha lagta hai attraction ho gya hai maine use samjya ki age se baat mat krna, uske kuch months baad us ne aye din Suicide krna police ki dhamki dena, chat se kunda start kr diya uske family ko bulya family bale kai baar aa kr samja kr chakle jaate ye every week hona start ho gya ladai hona , abhi June- July 2024 ko uske exam the bo dene gai and muze khai se pta chala ki bo exam dene ke sath apne fufa se bhi baat krne lagi hai and us se mili bhi hai maine prof dudna start kiya and use pucha ki tu mili hai ki nhi apne fufa se usne muze bola han achank mil gai thi but maine baat ni ki iska fufa Rampur mai ratha hai or ye Ghaziabad mai center tha to ye achanak se milna ni ho sakta maine pucha to bo usi baat pr rahi uske baad maine pucha kis ke phone se tu apne fufa se baat karti h to mana krne lagi mai nhi krti baat sabki kasam kha li usne, maine jab search kiya to muze pta chala bo mere samane bali padosi ki ladki se phone le kr baar krti thi bo use phone de deti thi use nhi pta kha baat krti thi ye maine uske ladki ki call history nikli to pta chal kai baar isne baat ki hai apne fufa se jis din iska exam tha uske baad us din bhi ye mile ab mai kya kru aap batao alag ho jaau ya kya kru aap batato
Ans: Dear Ravi,
Ab jinko shaadi mein rehna hi nahin hai aur fufa se dil lagaa baithi hain, isme aap kya kar sakte hain. Aapne har tareeka apnaaya hai use waapas le aane ke liye. Bas ek koshish aur kar lijiye faislaa lene se pehle...Ek baar sirf aap aur aapki patni kahin ghoom aaiye aur yahi baat uthaiye par binaa koi naarazgi se...yeh pataa lagaaiye ki kya woh shaadi mein bandhnaa chahti hain ya nahin. Agar unka dil hi nahin, toh kya kar sakte hain aap...phir aise hi shaadi mein aap unka phone chedck karte rahenge aur proof dhoondhte rahenge...Isiliye is baat ka khulaasa kam aur samaadhaan par zyaada dhyaan dijiye taaki aap ek faislaa kar sake.

All the best!
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My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how difficult it is to let go of a relationship you have built from scratch, but is it really how you want to continue? It really seems to be going nowhere. His parents are already in bad health and he married someone else for their happiness. Does it seem like he will be able to leave her? So many people’s happiness and lives depend on this one decision. I think it’s about time you and your BF have a clear conversation about the same. If he can’t give a proper timeline, please try to understand his situation. But also make sure he understands yours and maybe rethink this equation. It really isn’t healthy. You deserve a love you can have wholly, and not just in pieces, and in the shadows.

Hope this helps

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