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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 21, 2024Hindi
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I am married for past 2 years it's an arranged marriage. On the first night of marriage my husband told me that he is in love with someone else I was fine with it then when I told my family they asked me to stop being a fool and try to build this marriage. In these 2 years I have been strictly checking his phone asking for his location as advised by his father still he has never touched me . We never talk and i have lost interest in trying after 1 year .I like living with him as I get freedom even though there is no relationship between us I live in joint family and if I go back and take divorce they will get me married again soon . Why should I do !? Should I leave him as he is still in love with someone. Or should I enjoy my freedom. I have asked him to not ask me anything about my life and i will never ask anything to him about his life... please help ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your first goof-up was being okay with a person who said that he loves someone else.
Your second goof-up was trying to make the marriage work by doing what your father-in-law wanted you to do (check phone).

In both cases, you placed HOPE over your common sense. Maybe it did not occur to you that you are stepping into a world that may never let you live a normal married life?

Now, my question to you is: What freedom are you talking about? This same freedom will someday come back to haunt you as there is no family system that you are part of, no relationships to be part of...Is this okay with you?

Marriages or Life partnerships are not like: you mind your own business and I will mind mine. There is communication, trust, mutual respect, love, affection, giving-receiving...do you think your marriage will have this OR can the two of you work towards this? If YES, give it your best shot else, you really must think: What do I want for and in my life?

All the best!
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Hi I am 38 year married woman with one 12yr boy and living in joint family. I am doing everything very honestly and sincerely as a lady does as housewife but I never got love respect as wife from my husband and few years after our marriage I had seen changes in his behavior and day by day he is getting very rude towards me. So I decided to enquire the reason behind these and came to know that he is having affairs with someone whom he is treating as his wife and giving everything to her as his wife and also wants her to get married. I told these to both of our parents and after talking with him he assured of not continuing the affair. But after that incident I had not seen any change in his behavior and still acting in the same way. I told these to my parents but because of some compulsion we both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is but these is very difficult for me to accept these and continue these relationship. In my schooldays I likes a boy, we love each other but after my marriage we had never been in contact with each other and he also not contacted me respecting my decision.But after these incident and during Corona I contacted him to know how he is and came to know that he is still unmarried and waiting for me and I told him about my married life.As he loves me very much and still wants me as his wife and told me that he will accept me as I am. As I also loves him a lot and after knowing that he is still waiting for me its become very difficult for me live without him as now i doesn’t feel complete without him. I remain honest in my married life but after these incident I dont want to live here and also unable to leave because of family condition and also because of the society we lived in. We shares everything with each other . He respects me and my feelings and loves me a lot and I feel that he is always there for her and will support me in all respect. Kindly guide me what shall I do.
Ans: Dear P,
It is unfortunate that you had to snoop around and find out about your husband's affair.
And it is understandable that you are trying to ease the pain but HOW?

The way the mind responds is to immediately move away from pain to feel better. But that doesn't mean you jump into another relationship. It is not healthy. This person from your past can be a good friend who can support you as you go through your marriage challenges and decisions that you might eventually make. take time to get to know each other. Who you knew him in the past, may not be the person who he is now. Priorities change, situations change.
Do not assume the same attraction till you have given each other the time and space with each other to gauge this. Even a bit of care and attention will seem like attraction especially when you have a husband who is being just the opposite.
So, my suggestion is to start on a friendly note and see how it grows first before thinking of a committed relationship AND don't forget you have a child too. Your friend will have to understand that if he accepts you, he also needs to be willing to take responsibility to treat your son as his. So, go slow and don't let this connection become a mere distraction. You will both end up spoiling it and you would not done anything to fix your marriage as well.
Does this make sense? You probably wanted a better response from me to get a go-ahead. I can't do that as it will just bring you more heartbreak. Close one door to be able to walk through another one confidently.

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Hi I am 38 year married woman with one 12yr boy and living in joint family. I am doing everything very honestly and sincerely as a lady does as housewife but I never got love, respect as wife from my husband and few years after our marriage I had seen changes in his behavior and day by day he is getting very rude towards me. So I decided to enquire the reason behind these and came to know that he is having affairs with someone whom he is treating as his wife and giving everything to her as his wife and also wants to marry her. I told these to our parents and after talking with him he assured of not continuing the affair. But after that incident I had not seen any change in his behavior and still acting in the same way. I told these to my parents but because of some compulsion I decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is but these is very difficult for me to accept these and continue these relationship. In my schooldays I likes a boy, we love each other but after my marriage we had never been in contact with each other and he also not contacted me respecting my decision.But after these incident I contacted him to know how he is and came to know that he is still unmarried and waiting for me and I told him about my married life.As he loves me very much and still wants me as his wife and told me that he will accept me as I am. As I also loves him a lot and after knowing that he is still waiting for me its become very difficult for me live without him . I remain honest in my married life but after these incident I dont want to live here and also unable to leave because of family condition and also because of the society we lived in but now its became very difficult for me to continue these married life. We shares everything with each other . He respects me and my feelings and loves me a lot and I feel that he is always there for me and will support me in all respect. Kindly guide me what shall I do.
Ans: Dear P.
Never use a current situation to justify a new relationship. You are simply using the new relationship as a distraction from the old unsuccessful one.
Any reason why you had decided to accept your husband's affair?

You have not moved past your marriage to be able to handle another relationship. First things first...
1. What happens to your son in this confusion?
2. Have you decided to separate/divorce your husband before pursuing the new person?
3. Is the new person willing to accept your son and understand that he is a part of all this?
4. Are you living some unfulfilled dream with this man from your past?
5. Are you running away from the pain of your marriage and seeking solace in the new person?

Kindly answer these questions before you jump from one relationship to another. It will save you a lot of heartache and trouble.
Relationships are not something to be used to escape from and into BUT something to be grown into and grown from.

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Ans: Dear P
Dear P

Big hugs

It sounds like you are in a very difficult and complex situation. Your husband's behavior towards you is not acceptable, and it is understandable that you feel hurt and unsupported in your marriage. It is also understandable that you have feelings for someone from your past who has always been respectful of your marriage and who now wants to be with you.

However, it's important to remember that any decision you make will have consequences, and it's important to carefully consider all the potential outcomes before making a choice. It's also important to think about what is best for you and your son, as well as for the other people involved.

Here are a few things to consider:

Talk to a professional: It may be helpful to speak with a therapist or counselor to help you sort through your feelings and make a decision that is right for you. A professional can provide an objective perspective and help you explore your options.

Think about your priorities: Consider what is most important to you in your life. Do you want to prioritize your own happiness and pursue a relationship with the person you love, or do you want to prioritize your family and the stability of your current living situation?

Consider the impact on your son: Think about how any decision you make will impact your son. Will he be able to adjust to a new living situation, and how will he be affected by your decision to leave your current marriage?

Talk to your husband: If you haven't already, it may be helpful to have an honest conversation with your husband about how his behavior has made you feel and what you need from him in order to feel supported and respected in your marriage.

Think about the long-term: Consider the long-term implications of any decision you make. How will it impact your financial situation, your relationships with family members, and your own emotional well-being?

Ultimately, the decision about what to do is yours, and it's important to make a choice that feels right for you. Just remember to take your time, think carefully, and seek support from those you trust.

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Hi Anu I need advice for my marriage. Ours was love cum arrange marriage 14 yrs ago.For first few years all was good .I am financially independent with good salary. My spouse s self employed. We hav one child 10 yrs old.My married s become more like a suffocating situation which I am not able to change.My husband is not at all interested in me now.He treats me invisible when it comes to husband wife relationship. He s good father and human being.But since last few yrs i am not having any emotional relationship with him.We spent so many days and time together yet not a single word of love emotions between us.He s busy with his calls mobile netflix all night while i keep awake all night.I have confronted him many times everytime he says you are always fighting with me and Want all this nonsense. He seem to avoid me all day. He want to discuss about his son and finances since i am earning more than him. its been years i cant handle it now.I want someone to look at me talk to me praise me love me.I deserve happiness but since my son is too small i can't think of living separately but i will die like this one day.I dont knw whats wrong with me seems its like he dont want to touch me as there s no physical relationship between us if we are home alone also.He tortures me mentally but remails happy.I failed as a wife despite giving my everything. I have none to discuss such embarrassing life .Pls advice what shall i do ?Should i found someone else as i dont have capacity to beg again and again?Its very difficult to imagine such long life with a partner who treats u invisible since years ?shall i shift to another city with my son?I am completely lost.Pls help everything. I cant beg for love and attention everytime
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There's almost and always a reason for any behavior change. Maybe you might want to understand what exactly made your husband lose interest in you. Did something happen for him to look the other way?
It's really hell living with a spouse who cold shoulders and stone walls you...My suggestion: Rather than blame yourself, have a discussion and not confrontation with him. Confrontations invariably lead you nowhere as you will be caught in an ego tussle. Discussion is where you try and understand what's on his mind and share how you feel.
Now, will he want that? Maybe not...but if this continues, you may want to give him an ultimatum. He must know that he isn't making a great point by ignoring you and that he must communicate the same with you instead.

All the best!
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Hello sir, My income is 20. I took 3lakh gold loan Roi 13% PA flat interest. My monthly expenditure is 15k. I have done 5k sip and now 1.6lk accumulated. Should I continue sip or should I redeemed sip and prepay gold loan.
Ans: You are already showing a strong habit of investing despite having a loan.
You have built Rs. 1.6 lakh corpus through SIP.
This shows commitment to long-term financial health.

» Understanding your current position
– Monthly income is Rs. 20,000.
– Monthly expense is Rs. 15,000.
– SIP of Rs. 5,000 has accumulated Rs. 1.6 lakh.
– Gold loan is Rs. 3 lakh at 13% flat interest.
– Flat rate means effective cost is much higher than it appears.

» Assessing the gold loan impact
– Gold loan interest is high and constant each year.
– Flat rate makes repayment costlier than reducing balance loans.
– The longer you keep it, the more interest you pay.
– Prepayment will save significant interest outflow.

» Comparing SIP returns and loan cost
– Equity SIPs can give higher returns long term.
– But short-term returns are not guaranteed.
– Loan cost is fixed and much higher than current SIP gains.
– Paying off high-cost debt is safer than chasing returns now.

» Why prepayment makes sense here
– Prepaying gold loan will give risk-free saving equal to loan interest rate.
– It frees monthly cash flow used for EMI.
– This extra cash can restart SIP after loan closure.
– It reduces financial pressure and mental stress.

» Emergency fund consideration
– Current cash is not mentioned beyond SIP corpus.
– Ensure you keep at least 3 months’ expenses in safe liquid form.
– This avoids taking fresh loans in emergencies.
– Use part of SIP redemption only after securing this fund.

» Redeeming SIP for loan closure
– Redeem the accumulated Rs. 1.6 lakh from SIP.
– Use it to part-prepay gold loan immediately.
– Continue paying regular EMI for reduced loan balance.
– This will cut interest outgo and shorten loan term.

» Restarting investments after loan closure
– Once gold loan is cleared, restart SIP without delay.
– Increase SIP amount by what was earlier paid as EMI.
– This will recover the lost investment period faster.
– Equity SIP works best over long term with uninterrupted contributions.

» Avoiding high-cost loans in future
– Gold loan flat rate is costly compared to many other credit options.
– Always compare reducing balance rate before taking loans.
– Build an emergency fund to avoid such borrowings again.
– Plan large expenses in advance to fund them through savings.

» Maintaining insurance protection
– Even small income earners need life and health cover.
– A basic term plan protects dependents from future liabilities.
– Health insurance avoids medical emergencies draining your corpus.
– Premiums are small compared to the risk of not having cover.

» Building wealth after debt clearance
– With loan gone, invest more towards future goals.
– Divide investments between equity for growth and debt for stability.
– Use actively managed funds over index funds.
– Index funds blindly follow market, including bad-performing stocks.
– Actively managed funds have research-driven selection and timely exits.
– This improves risk-adjusted returns when guided by a Certified Financial Planner.

» Avoiding direct fund risks
– Direct funds may look cheaper but lack ongoing guidance.
– Wrong asset allocation can harm returns more than expense ratio savings.
– Many investors exit at wrong time due to market fear.
– Regular plans with a CFP ensure timely rebalancing and monitoring.

» Psychological benefit of being debt-free
– No loan means more peace of mind.
– Cash flow feels lighter and more controllable.
– Investments can grow without debt cost eating into returns.
– You feel more confident in taking bigger financial decisions.

» Finally
– Your priority now should be clearing the gold loan.
– Redeem SIP corpus after keeping small emergency fund aside.
– Prepay as much as possible to reduce high-interest cost.
– Resume and increase SIP after debt clearance.
– Build insurance and emergency corpus to avoid future costly borrowings.
– Use actively managed funds with CFP guidance for long-term growth.
– This will give both financial safety and wealth creation over time.

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age 39mand 38f with 2 kids (5yr and 1yr) , combined income 2.5 lac per month post tax( in IT) , Home loan with 18 lac balance with 55k emi balanced tenure 3 year , 40k sip with current value 4.2 lac, term ins 2cr, 6k ppf and 11k nps combined, 1 lac cash. no other corpus createx, getting worries about savings and kid's edu and fin future. pls advise with fin planning.
Ans: You are already doing well by having a high savings habit.
You have a home loan that will end soon.
You have term insurance for protection.
These are strong pillars to build further.

» Understanding your current position
– You earn Rs. 2.5 lakh per month after tax.
– You have a home loan of Rs. 18 lakh with Rs. 55k EMI.
– Tenure left is only 3 years, so closure is near.
– You invest Rs. 40k SIP monthly with value Rs. 4.2 lakh.
– You contribute Rs. 6k to PPF and Rs. 11k to NPS monthly.
– Cash available is Rs. 1 lakh.
– You have two kids aged 5 years and 1 year.

» Home loan strategy
– Your loan interest is a guaranteed outgoing.
– Since tenure is short, continue EMI as planned.
– Avoid prepaying aggressively unless interest rate is very high.
– Use extra surplus for other goals instead.
– Once EMI stops, channel Rs. 55k to investments.

» Building emergency fund
– Current cash reserve is Rs. 1 lakh only.
– You need at least 6 months’ expenses as emergency fund.
– This may be around Rs. 10-12 lakh for your family.
– Build this in liquid and safe options.
– Do not use risky assets for emergency fund.

» Securing children’s education
– Education costs rise faster than inflation.
– Start separate goal-based investments for each child.
– Match investment duration with age and goal timeline.
– For long-term goals like higher education, allocate higher equity share.
– Review plan every year to ensure target corpus is achievable.

» Retirement planning priority
– You have NPS, but it may not be enough alone.
– Create a separate retirement corpus with diversified investments.
– This avoids over-dependence on mandatory schemes.
– Invest with growth focus for the next 20 years.

» Insurance cover review
– Current term cover is Rs. 2 crore.
– With your income, you may need 10-12 times annual income.
– Consider increasing cover after home loan closure.
– Ensure both spouses have adequate cover.
– Maintain separate health insurance apart from employer plan.

» Optimising your investments
– Continue SIPs but ensure they are goal-linked.
– Avoid investing without linking to a future need.
– Prefer actively managed funds over index funds.
– Index funds cannot avoid poor performing companies in the index.
– Actively managed funds use research and can limit downside risk.
– Work with a Certified Financial Planner to select and review funds.

» Avoiding direct fund pitfalls
– Direct funds have lower cost but no expert guidance.
– Without professional review, wrong asset mix is common.
– Many investors exit at wrong time due to emotions.
– Regular plans through a CFP offer ongoing monitoring and rebalancing.
– This ensures better long-term results despite slightly higher cost.

» Balancing debt repayment and investing
– You already invest 40k despite home loan.
– This is good discipline.
– Once EMI ends, invest most of that amount instead of lifestyle upgrades.
– This will double your investment rate quickly.
– Debt-free and high investment ratio will accelerate wealth creation.

» Tax planning efficiency
– Use Section 80C fully with PPF, NPS, and other eligible options.
– Avoid locking excess money only for tax saving without liquidity.
– Plan mutual fund redemptions to minimise tax under new capital gains rules.
– Use both debt and equity funds for tax efficiency and risk balance.

» Protecting lifestyle stability
– Maintain clear monthly budget to track surplus.
– Keep expenses controlled even after income increases.
– Avoid large discretionary spending until key goals are funded.
– Teach children about money habits early for future stability.

» Monitoring and reviewing
– Review your goals and progress every 6 months.
– Adjust SIPs if income or expenses change significantly.
– Track each goal separately instead of mixing all investments.
– Stay invested during market volatility to achieve long-term returns.

» Psychological benefits of a clear plan
– Having a defined path reduces financial anxiety.
– Goal-linked investing brings motivation to stay disciplined.
– Each milestone achieved boosts confidence for the next.
– You gain more control over your family’s financial future.

» Steps for the next 3 years
– Maintain current loan EMI and SIPs.
– Build emergency fund to at least 6 months of expenses.
– Start children’s education goal investment with equity bias.
– Increase insurance coverage where needed.
– Avoid taking new long-term debt.

» Steps after home loan closure
– Redirect Rs. 55k EMI to retirement and education funds.
– Increase SIP amounts and diversify across assets.
– Keep lifestyle inflation minimal so savings rate stays high.
– Review asset allocation to ensure right mix for each goal.

» Finally
– You are already on a good savings track.
– The home loan will end soon, giving large surplus.
– Focus on building emergency fund and kids’ education corpus now.
– Increase term and health cover to protect family.
– Invest through actively managed funds with CFP guidance for all goals.
– Maintain strict goal tracking and review schedule.
– This approach will secure your retirement, children’s education, and overall financial stability.

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www.holisticinvestment.in
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Hello. I am 30 years old and currently employed in a Public Sector Undertaking, earning a net monthly salary of approximately 75,000 rupees. I would like advice on reducing my monthly loan repayment burden. My current liabilities are: Personal loan with an outstanding balance of 380,000 rupees, monthly EMI of 7,191 rupees, interest rate of 12.5%, with 73 months remaining. Overdraft against my Provident Fund of 540,000 rupees, interest rate of 5.95%. Long-term personal loan with an outstanding balance of 480,000 rupees, monthly EMI of 6,600 rupees, interest rate of 7%. Consumer loan with an outstanding balance of 55,000 rupees, interest rate of 5.95%, monthly EMI of 1,800 rupees. My monthly expenses are approximately 20,000 rupees for household needs, 8,500 rupees for house rent, and 5,000 rupees for miscellaneous expenses.
Ans: You are already showing discipline by tracking your loans and expenses clearly.
You are also managing multiple liabilities without default.
This shows strong commitment towards financial stability.

» Understanding your income and liabilities
– Your net monthly salary is Rs. 75000.
– You have four active loans.
– Personal loan EMI is Rs. 7191 at 12.5% interest.
– Overdraft against PF is Rs. 540000 at 5.95% interest.
– Long-term personal loan EMI is Rs. 6600 at 7% interest.
– Consumer loan EMI is Rs. 1800 at 5.95% interest.
– Household needs take Rs. 20000 monthly.
– House rent is Rs. 8500.
– Miscellaneous costs are Rs. 5000.

» Assessing EMI burden
– EMI total is over Rs. 15000 monthly.
– EMI share of income is around 20%.
– This is manageable but can be improved.
– High-interest personal loan is the biggest cost burden.
– Overdraft and consumer loan have low interest but still add pressure.

» Strategy for reducing interest cost
– Focus first on highest interest loan.
– Prepay personal loan at 12.5% whenever surplus is available.
– Even small prepayments reduce interest over time.
– Avoid using fresh personal loans for any purpose.
– Do not prepay low-interest loans before closing high-interest ones.

» Role of overdraft against PF
– Overdraft rate is much lower than personal loan.
– If possible, increase PF overdraft slightly to close part of high-interest personal loan.
– This is beneficial only if repayment discipline is maintained.
– Once personal loan is closed, focus on reducing overdraft gradually.

» Handling the long-term personal loan
– This loan is at 7% interest, which is not high.
– Do not rush to close it before clearing costlier loans.
– Maintain regular EMI without delay.
– Prepay later only after high-interest loans are cleared.

» Clearing the consumer loan
– Consumer loan is small and low interest.
– Closing it early will free Rs. 1800 monthly.
– This extra can go to personal loan prepayment.
– This creates psychological relief as well.

» Balancing loan closure and savings
– Avoid using all savings for loan closure.
– Keep at least 3 to 4 months expenses as emergency fund.
– This ensures no fresh loans during sudden needs.
– Allocate surplus after this for aggressive loan prepayment.

» Creating a surplus for prepayment
– Your expenses are Rs. 33500 including rent and misc.
– After EMI and expenses, some surplus remains.
– Track this surplus and direct it towards high-interest loan closure.
– Avoid lifestyle spending until loans are reduced.

» Managing monthly cash flow
– Maintain a clear monthly budget sheet.
– Categorise expenses into essential and optional.
– Reduce optional spends for 12 to 18 months.
– Use savings from reduced spends for prepayments.

» Avoiding future debt build-up
– Do not take new consumer loans for non-essential purchases.
– Avoid buying on EMI unless unavoidable.
– Plan purchases with savings instead of credit.
– This prevents repeating current loan situation.

» Protecting yourself with insurance
– Ensure you have adequate term insurance cover.
– Cover should be at least 10 times your annual income.
– Have a good health insurance plan beyond employer cover.
– This avoids using loans for medical emergencies.

» Using investments wisely for debt management
– If you hold low-return deposits, consider using them to close high-interest loans.
– Avoid touching PF principal as it is for retirement.
– Only interest or overdraft from PF can be considered strategically.
– Do not break long-term high-growth investments unless debt cost is much higher.

» Long-term debt-free goal
– Set a clear target to be debt-free in 3 to 5 years.
– Focus on one loan at a time for faster results.
– Celebrate each closure to maintain motivation.
– After becoming debt-free, redirect EMI amount to investments.

» Maintaining credit score during repayments
– Always pay EMIs on time, even during prepayment phase.
– Do not miss payments to avoid credit score drop.
– High score will help if you ever need future low-cost loans.

» Psychological impact of loan reduction
– Reducing EMI burden improves peace of mind.
– Surplus cash gives flexibility for emergencies.
– You can focus on wealth creation sooner.
– Debt freedom increases confidence in financial decisions.

» Building financial discipline for future
– Follow strict budgeting until all high-cost loans are cleared.
– Save first, spend later every month.
– Keep track of all loan balances to monitor progress.
– Avoid emotional purchases that harm cash flow.

» Finally
– You are already handling your loans responsibly.
– Start by closing consumer loan and then high-interest personal loan.
– Use PF overdraft wisely only to replace higher interest debt.
– Maintain emergency fund before aggressive prepayments.
– Keep long-term personal loan for later closure as cost is low.
– After becoming debt-free, invest EMI savings into growth assets.
– This approach will steadily reduce your EMI burden while protecting financial stability.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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