i have been married for 9 months but my husband is nver interest in sex. He doe not even hug me properly. It is an arrange marriage but our engagement lasted for 1.5 years and at that we had good physical relationship. we used to make out whenever we could get a chance. But after the day we were married he is never interested. he did not even try to have sex on our first night or at our honeymoon. We do make out once a month but that too only if i initiate. We sleep in the same bed but he has never come to cuddle with me after first week of marriage. He is not making any efforts to make me feel loved, special or beautiful. I have tried a lot of time to talk to him openly but he answers to any questions. He says that he loves me but never puts in any effort to make me feel like i am being loved. And whenever i complain he will try to change for 1 week and then everything is as it is. But 1 thing i have noticed is that he wanted to have sex if i go away to my parents house for 1-2 weeks and comeback. Can you help me.

Ans: It's commendable that you're considering the best investment route for your Rs. 1 crore savings. Let's evaluate the options you've mentioned and explore a comprehensive approach to wealth creation.

Understanding Your Investment Options
1. Investing in the Additional Flat

Illiquidity Concerns: Real estate investments are typically illiquid. Selling a property can take time and may not fetch the expected price.

Maintenance and Other Costs: Owning an additional flat comes with recurring expenses like maintenance charges, property taxes, and potential renovation costs.

Market Volatility: Property prices can fluctuate based on various factors, including economic conditions and government policies.

Rental Income Uncertainty: If you're considering renting out the flat, rental yields in many Indian cities are relatively low compared to the property's value.

2. Keeping the Amount in Fixed Deposits (FDs)

Low Returns: FDs offer fixed returns, but these may not outpace inflation, leading to a decrease in real purchasing power over time.

Tax Implications: Interest earned from FDs is taxable as per your income slab, which can further reduce the net returns.

Lack of Flexibility: Premature withdrawal from FDs can attract penalties, limiting liquidity.

Exploring Mutual Funds as an Alternative
Given that you're new to mutual funds and SIPs, it's essential to understand their potential benefits:

Professional Management: Mutual funds are managed by experienced fund managers who make investment decisions based on thorough research.

Diversification: By investing in a mutual fund, your money is spread across various assets, reducing risk.

Liquidity: Most mutual funds offer high liquidity, allowing you to redeem your investment when needed.

Potential for Higher Returns: Historically, mutual funds, especially equity-oriented ones, have offered higher returns over the long term compared to traditional instruments like FDs.

Tax Efficiency: Mutual funds can be more tax-efficient, especially with the benefits available under certain sections of the Income Tax Act.

Recommended Approach
Considering your current situation and the pros and cons of each investment option:

Avoid Investing in the Additional Flat: Given the illiquidity, associated costs, and potential market volatility, investing in another property may not be the most efficient use of your funds.

Limit Exposure to FDs: While FDs offer safety, the returns may not be sufficient to meet long-term financial goals, especially after accounting for inflation and taxes.

Consider Mutual Funds for Wealth Creation:

Start with a Lump Sum Investment: Allocate a portion of your Rs. 1 crore savings into mutual funds, focusing on a mix of equity and debt funds based on your risk appetite.

Initiate SIPs: Set up Systematic Investment Plans to invest a fixed amount regularly, benefiting from rupee cost averaging and disciplined investing.

Consult a Certified Financial Planner: Given your unfamiliarity with mutual funds, seeking guidance from a certified professional can help tailor an investment strategy aligned with your financial goals.

Final Insights
Your initiative to seek advice before making a significant investment decision is commendable. By steering clear of additional real estate investments and limiting exposure to low-yield instruments like FDs, you can explore avenues like mutual funds that offer the potential for higher returns and greater flexibility. Engaging with a certified financial planner can further ensure that your investment strategy is well-aligned with your long-term financial objectives.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ans: You have already done a lot of planning. Your awareness and discipline are strong. This gives you a great advantage for your retirement and children’s future.

Understanding Your Present Financial Snapshot
 

You are above 50 years of age and have around 10 years to retire.

 

Your yearly family income is Rs.22 lakh. Expenses are around Rs.13.1 lakh.

 

That means you are saving close to Rs.8.9 lakh yearly. That’s a strong surplus.

 

Monthly SIP is Rs.65,000. You have a solid SIP discipline in place.

 

Current MF SIP corpus is Rs.1.8 crore. That’s a significant base.

 

PPF corpus is Rs.40 lakh. That’s a good stable portion of your savings.

 

Shares are worth Rs.50 lakh. FD value is Rs.43 lakh.

 

You have Rs.4–5 lakh in liquid cash. Sukanya balance is Rs.6 lakh.

 

You are staying on rent. You have an old flat in Lucknow worth Rs.75 lakh.

 

You want to sell the flat in 4–5 years. Use funds for buying a new flat.

 

Health insurance floater of Rs.50 lakh is excellent.

 

Term insurance of Rs.1.7 crore till age 62 is also strong.

 

Likely Corpus in Next 10 Years
 

Your existing investments are already close to Rs.3.7 crore.

 

With SIPs and expected growth, this corpus will rise steadily.

 

Assuming consistent investment, the corpus could cross Rs.6 crore in 10 years.

 

This figure depends on SIP continuation, market returns, and investment review.

 

If you sell the flat in 5 years, you may get Rs.80–85 lakh or more.

 

That can also be redirected to another house purchase.

 

But remember, house is not an investment. It’s a utility asset.

 

It will not support retirement income unless sold or rented.

 

How Much Corpus Is Needed at Retirement?
 

Your current annual spending is Rs.13.1 lakh.

 

Post-retirement, this may reduce slightly. But not by much.

 

Assume 80% of current expenses will continue. That’s around Rs.10.5 lakh yearly.

 

Over 25+ years, this amount will rise due to inflation.

 

A safe minimum retirement corpus can be around Rs.5.5–6 crore.

 

This should cover lifestyle, healthcare, and emergency spending.

 

It also assumes a balanced investment portfolio post-retirement.

 

PPF, FDs, and some debt funds can give regular income.

 

Equity mutual funds should be continued partially for growth.

 

Can You Achieve the Required Corpus?
 

Yes, based on your present investments and habits, you are on track.

 

You must keep SIPs running without breaks for the next 10 years.

 

Increase your SIPs by 8–10% every year.

 

This single habit increases your total retirement corpus sharply.

 

Don’t withdraw from MF portfolio for house or other large expenses.

 

Use surplus from share sale or FD maturity for daughter’s or son’s needs.

 

Maintain separate goals. Don’t mix retirement and child-related funds.

 

Likely Monthly Expenses After Retirement
 

Your monthly spending may reduce, but not disappear.

 

House rent may go if you buy a flat. But other costs may rise.

 

Healthcare costs will rise as you age. So will travel and daily needs.

 

Monthly spending may be around Rs.80,000 to Rs.90,000 after retirement.

 

This will keep increasing due to inflation.

 

Plan for this by keeping a rising income source post-retirement.

 

Part of your MF portfolio must remain in equity to beat inflation.

 

Should You Restructure Your SIP Portfolio?
 

Yes. You can share your SIP portfolio. It should be reviewed in detail.

 

Fund selection must suit your goals, risk, and retirement timeline.

 

If SIPs are selected by self, mistakes may remain unnoticed.

 

Self-managed portfolios often carry duplication and poor diversification.

 

Review will ensure you hold right funds in correct proportion.

 

Regular rebalancing and fund replacement are also needed.

 

Avoid index funds. They copy the index. No expert decision-making involved.

 

Actively managed funds give better chances of outperformance.

 

A fund manager takes timely calls based on market data.

 

Direct Plans vs Regular Plans
 

Many people choose direct funds thinking returns will be more.

 

But direct plans give no advice, no monitoring, no fund review.

 

Wrong choices can erode gains, which you may not notice.

 

Investing through MFD with CFP support gives many advantages.

 

You get continuous guidance, strategy correction, and emotional discipline.

 

A small extra cost is worth it for safer long-term performance.

 

Use regular plans under a Certified Financial Planner to avoid mistakes.

 

Should You Hire a Certified Financial Planner?
 

Yes, it is the right time to do so.

 

You are close to retirement. No room for errors now.

 

One bad year or wrong withdrawal can hurt long-term stability.

 

A planner prepares a full retirement roadmap. Step-by-step.

 

Helps manage retirement income, investment allocation, and cashflow.

 

Plans for children’s education, marriage, and tax-saving.

 

Also prepares a Will, estate plan, and contingency system.

 

You have built wealth. A planner helps protect and grow it safely.

 

Other Action Points You Must Consider
 

Keep 6 months’ expenses in liquid mutual funds. That’s your emergency fund.

 

Keep track of new MF capital gains tax rules.

 

If equity MF gains exceed Rs.1.25 lakh in a year, excess is taxed at 12.5%.

 

If sold within one year, tax is 20% on profits.

 

For debt funds, all gains are taxed as per your income slab.

 

File taxes properly. Use Form 26AS and AIS to avoid mismatch.

 

Make a written Will. Register it if possible.

 

Update nominations in all mutual funds, FDs, and insurance.

 

Involve your spouse in all investment decisions. Keep them informed.

 

Retirement Income Management Strategy
 

Break your retirement portfolio into three buckets.

 

First: Emergency and liquidity. Use FDs and liquid funds here.

 

Second: Stable monthly income. Use PPF, debt mutual funds, and bonds.

 

Third: Long-term growth. Keep some mutual funds in equity.

 

Withdraw only what is needed. Keep rest invested.

 

Review once a year with your planner.

 

Children’s Education and Marriage Planning
 

PG for daughter is immediate. Use FD interest or surplus cash.

 

Don’t disturb mutual funds meant for retirement.

 

PhD is long-term. Plan SIPs separately for that.

 

Son’s education is 4–5 years away. Start new SIPs today.

 

Marriage cost is hard to predict. But start a separate investment for that now.

 

Keep gifts, bonuses, or land sale proceeds for such events.

 

Don’t allow such costs to delay or reduce your retirement corpus.

 

Final Insights
 

You are in a strong financial position. That itself is an advantage.

 

But with multiple goals ahead, clear planning becomes important.

 

Don’t self-manage complex portfolios at this stage.

 

Avoid real estate dependence. Use it only for living, not investing.

 

Stay away from index and direct funds. They don’t give personal strategy.

 

Increase SIPs each year. Tag each goal separately.

 

Use a Certified Financial Planner to guide your retirement strategy.

 

Update nominations, Will, and insurance coverage.

 

Monitor your retirement portfolio closely, but don’t panic with market ups and downs.

 

Stay invested. Think long-term. Follow a guided, reviewed plan.

 

You can retire comfortably and fulfil all family goals with peace of mind.

 

Best Regards,
 

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: It shows you are thinking ahead for your family and future. That itself is a great start.

Let’s break this down step by step.

 

Retirement Planning – 10 Years Away
 

You want Rs.5 crore in 10 years.

 

You are already investing Rs.25,000 monthly through SIPs. This is a good habit.

 

But just investing isn’t enough. The amount, fund selection, and review also matter.

 

Rs.5 crore is a big target. It needs a solid, focused investment plan.

 

You need to check whether Rs.25,000 per month is enough for this goal.

 

Based on typical growth rates, it may fall short. We need to increase SIPs gradually.

 

A Certified Financial Planner can help assess the exact shortfall. Then a step-wise plan can be made.

 

Your retirement plan should not depend on land. Land is not liquid. Selling it can take time.

 

Continue SIPs and increase it by 10% every year. That helps stay ahead of inflation.

 

Actively managed mutual funds should be selected. They give a better edge with expert fund manager decisions.

 

Index funds lack flexibility. They copy the index. No chance to beat the market.

 

With actively managed funds, the fund manager reacts fast to changes. That is an advantage.

 

Asset allocation should be reviewed every year. Rebalancing keeps the risk in control.

 

Keep a separate portfolio for retirement. Do not mix children’s education goal with this.

 

Children’s Education Planning
 

Your children are now in 6th and 8th grades.

 

In 6–8 years, you’ll need funds for their higher education.

 

Education costs are rising sharply. This cannot be ignored.

 

Start separate SIPs for their education goal now.

 

Do not depend on money-back policies for education.

 

These give low returns. Hardly beat inflation. Not suitable for education needs.

 

Surrender these policies. Reinvest the proceeds into mutual funds.

 

A Certified Financial Planner can guide on which policies to surrender and how.

 

Use mutual funds for better returns and flexibility.

 

Choose a mix of equity and balanced funds. This gives better growth with some safety.

 

Review this portfolio every year. Make changes if fund performance drops.

 

Never use retirement funds for education or other goals.

 

Keep clear boundaries between each financial goal.

 

Insurance Assessment – Life and Health
 

You have Rs.60 lakh term insurance. It is a good starting point.

 

But is it enough? Likely not.

 

A person at age 46 with children and a Rs.5 crore retirement goal needs more cover.

 

Term cover must be at least 12–15 times your annual income.

 

It should also cover children’s education and liabilities.

 

Top up your term insurance with an additional Rs.40–50 lakh at least.

 

Premiums are still manageable at your age.

 

Avoid ULIPs or money-back plans for life cover. They mix insurance and investment.

 

You have Rs.5 lakh health insurance. That is a positive step.

 

However, with rising medical costs, it is not enough.

 

Add a super top-up policy of Rs.10–15 lakh. It is cost-effective and gives added protection.

 

Ensure the entire family is covered under the policy.

 

Also keep some emergency fund in liquid funds for minor health expenses.

 

Emergency Fund and Contingency Planning
 

An emergency fund gives peace of mind.

 

It should cover at least 6 months of expenses.

 

Keep this in a liquid mutual fund or savings account.

 

Never invest emergency funds in equity or land.

 

Refill the fund if you use it anytime.

 

Existing Land Investment
 

You mentioned buying land two years ago.

 

It can be a personal asset. But not an investment.

 

Land does not generate regular income.

 

Selling land can take time. Liquidity is low.

 

Do not depend on land for your retirement or education goals.

 

Do not count land value in your net worth for investment planning.

 

Keep it as a reserve or personal utility asset only.

 

Money-Back Policies – Action Plan
 

You have Rs.5–8 lakh in money-back policies.

 

These offer low returns. Do not help in long-term wealth creation.

 

It is best to surrender these now. Don’t wait.

 

Reinvest that money into mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner.

 

Use regular plans through MFDs. They offer continuous support and monitoring.

 

Direct mutual funds offer no guidance. That leads to mistakes and poor returns.

 

Regular funds give access to a CFP’s review and hand-holding.

 

Small cost difference, but better long-term results.

 

SIP Management – Next Steps
 

You are already investing Rs.25,000 monthly. That is commendable.

 

Increase it every year. This is called SIP step-up.

 

If your income rises, increase SIPs by 10–15% yearly.

 

This one habit helps you reach goals faster.

 

Choose 4–5 diversified equity funds. Review them every 6 months.

 

Use funds with consistent track records and experienced managers.

 

Avoid index funds. They are passive. No fund manager input.

 

Actively managed funds offer better opportunities.

 

Tax Planning – For Today and Tomorrow
 

Make use of Section 80C for tax savings. SIP in ELSS can help here.

 

Avoid locking too much in PPF or NSC. They are not flexible.

 

For capital gains tax, keep new rules in mind.

 

If you sell equity funds, gains above Rs.1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

 

If sold before 1 year, gains are taxed at 20%.

 

For debt funds, all gains are taxed as per your income slab.

 

Always check tax implication before switching or redeeming funds.

 

Goal-Based Investment Planning
 

Link each SIP to a specific goal.

 

One SIP for retirement.

 

One SIP for child 1 education.

 

Another SIP for child 2 education.

 

Do not combine goals. That leads to confusion later.

 

Clear goal tagging helps track progress.

 

A Certified Financial Planner can prepare this map for you.

 

Use colour-coded tracking for each goal.

 

Will, Nomination, and Estate Planning
 

Make a basic Will. Even if your assets are small today.

 

Nominate properly in every investment and insurance.

 

Review nominations every 2 years.

 

Teach your spouse the basics of your financial plan.

 

Keep one folder with all details – policies, accounts, mutual funds.

 

Inform your family where the file is kept.

 

Three Yearly Review System
 

Review your financial plan every year.

 

Do it with the help of a Certified Financial Planner.

 

Track SIP growth. Are goals on track?

 

Rebalance asset allocation if equity grows too much.

 

Check insurance covers every 2 years.

 

Update Will, nominations, and goals if needed.

 

Final Insights
 

You have taken important first steps. That shows awareness.

 

But awareness needs a plan to be successful.

 

Surrender low-yielding policies. Reinvest wisely.

 

Keep land aside. Do not count on it for goals.

 

Increase SIPs steadily. Choose only actively managed funds.

 

Use regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner.

 

Protect family with higher life and health insurance.

 

Separate SIPs for each goal. Link every investment to a purpose.

 

Review your plan once every year. Adjust when needed.

 

Your dream of Rs.5 crore and children’s education is possible.

 

But you need focused, guided steps to reach there.

 

Best Regards,
 

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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