I got married (arranged marriage) two months back. But my husband has not proceeded for any intimate physical contact. He just hugs me occasionally but never proceeds further. When I asked him whether he likes me or not …he says he loves me…but tells need to develop more compatibility before proceeding. He is a gentleman and takes care of me. But not willing to proceed for physical intimacy. I am confused and don’t know how to address this issue. Both of us are IT professionals with MNCs and work from home.

Hi Anu, plz helpI am 42 years old and married since 9 years. We (husband and I) are childless. It's nine years since our marriage but we have not been intimate for even 90 times. My husband has no interest in sex. He had shown interest only in first week of marriage after that He never initiate. I understand his nature and always try to initiate but he always gives cold shoulder, he never reciprocates warmly, never holds me tightly or kisses willing. I always have to force' him or ask him to kiss or hug me. And this turns my mood off. This way we seldom have sex. I eagerly want it at least once a month and have told him, forced him several times but all in vain. I get frustrated. I feel restless. I can't share this with anyone. Whenever I try to get close, he ignores. Both of us respect and love each other. We don’t have extra marital affair. He cares for me too. I feel like running away from this situation but I love him and don’t want to leave him alone. Please respond.

i have been married for 9 months but my husband is nver interest in sex. He doe not even hug me properly. It is an arrange marriage but our engagement lasted for 1.5 years and at that we had good physical relationship. we used to make out whenever we could get a chance. But after the day we were married he is never interested. he did not even try to have sex on our first night or at our honeymoon. We do make out once a month but that too only if i initiate. We sleep in the same bed but he has never come to cuddle with me after first week of marriage. He is not making any efforts to make me feel loved, special or beautiful. I have tried a lot of time to talk to him openly but he answers to any questions. He says that he loves me but never puts in any effort to make me feel like i am being loved. And whenever i complain he will try to change for 1 week and then everything is as it is. But 1 thing i have noticed is that he wanted to have sex if i go away to my parents house for 1-2 weeks and comeback. Can you help me.

Hello Ma'am, I am 35 yrs old, it's been 5yrs since I got married, and I am not happy in my marriage. We don't have any kind of physical relationship since we git married, I always tried getting closed with hime but he for some or the other reason didn't let me get close... and I really don't know the reason why, I have been craving for his touch,love and emotions but he is least interested otherwise he holds me and sleep take care of me my needs but when it comes about physical it's zero between us. Since I got married our bedroom door is always open I told him mannier time about privacy after so long he started closing the door that also after my MIL get asleep (FIL passed away when he was 20) and he gets up early in morning and open the door for MIL so that she can use our washroom though we have in all 2 washroom but she wants to use only the western one which is in out bedroom so evry now and then she come in our room randomly also so privacy is zero she always get interfere with some or the other topics whenever me and my husband talks so I don't get chance to have normal conversation with my husband, so coming back or physical relation I had to discuss late night with my husband because of my MIL I have discussed with him and asked him in a very friendly manner that what would be the cause that you don't want to get physical, is there any one you like it's fine just let me know so that I get away between you both rather then wasting time but he said No theirs no such problems he said it's just we don't have that intimacy between us...he dragged me that I also don't have that intimacy which is wrong I have tried getting closer but he didn't allowed me at start we use to try but before somthing start he use to go to washroom and sit for long n I use to wait and sleep I thought it will get improve but it been 5 yrs and we are on same page he is good person he he supports me financially and also helped my family in worse situation he thinks for all problem money is the solution, he says physical is not that important part of relationship. I use to be independent but then I left my job because it was night shift and I could not manage household chores and night job because I didn't get help I couldn't get proper sleep I was facing health issues..I thought I will work on my relationship because it's very stressful and depressive I am not able to sleep I feel suffocated, I feel like running away due to this in between I always go to my moms place for some time cause I feel like m not valued at my In laws place no physical relationship nothing so for what i am leaving there? I am getting habitat with the relationship situation I can leave with him without physical need but not with my mother in law I have shared my problem with her as well as she was behind me for baby planning but she is not taking any action knowing the situation she is quite she asked to my husband that what's going on I got to know from your wife that you both don't have physical relationship what's the problem, my husband reply ye we don't have don't ask for baby and harras her or me, that it. So my MIL is also quite now. I am looking for job again as I want to be independent I don't like to ask for money everytime and also fulfill my dreams and needs on my own but My MIL wants me to see for local job but m not getting in the sam city and what is the need to stay in same city where every one just want me to stay just to show fake that we are married and happy, my MIL wants every puja and vrat for his son to be done by me, after knowing my situation I am so depressed I don't have now any interest in doing these rituals now, I live the in a control way, my husband just think doing shopping, watching movies, savings is enough for happy relationship. Please guide me what should I do is leaving with him is worth.and I cannot leave with my MIN as she is very insecure mother everytime she wants his son to listen her.please tell me should I live with him is their any hope or what would be the solution I am looking for job in other city now cause till these time I just thought of him and wasted my career. Please suggest. Thanks for your time.