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I have been married for 12years . I married when I was 19. I have 2sons . My husband doesn’t love me and he had said to me many times .i even have doubt on him bcus he doesn’t come home to sleep 2 times in 2 weeks . Everyday I feel anxious and worried if he would not come bck . I have beg him many times to not sleep outside. Whenever he go out he never picks up my call even once. He is seeing a girl. For that we fought all the time . He asked for divorce many times but why can’t I u love him and leave him. I feel like I would die if I can’t be together with him.

Ans: Dear Phy,
If you have a spouse who has begun to ignore your pleas and request, what else can you do? Where is the respect that he must be giving you as a life partner?
Now, I also want you to ask yourself if your doubts are just figment of your imagination or are they based on facts? Have you seen any message on his phone or a call to anyone planning a meeting?
Yes, it's strange and suspicious I will agree that he stays out a few days every few weeks, but make sure of what exactly is happening. When you are sure that what you suspect is true, confront him with the support of your family members but not threaten him where he retracts from you completely.
And the bitter truth, if he has asked for divorce many times, maybe it's his way of saying that there is nothing more left in the marriage for him. It hurts you for sure, but what's the point of living with someone who cannot appreciate your presence and love?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Hi Anu,I m 32 yr old girl and been married in arrange marriage with a guy he is also 32 it's been one year.He is very harsh to talk to and I get usually very hurt because of his words. I always feel like walking out of this marriage for peace. He is very unromantic and ungrateful. On top of this our views on marriage, togetherness and sex are very different. I never had sex with him till now. And I don't feel like having sex with him. There are many fights between us. The way his mother and father talk I feel stuck in my life.There is no progress in career because constantly we are under tensions. My past relationships were very nice and sweet so I always happened to compare him with my ex in my mind. I don't know what happens to me. When he comes close to me I stop talking breaths. We just cuddle each other and hug but other things like kiss and sex I don't feel to have. Please guide me as soon as possible.
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Dear RJ,

Is there any reason for not wanting to be sexually intimate?

Most often this is linked to some emotional distress or filters in the mind that you are unaware of and which could be interfering in the two of you coming closer together.

A good round of talks with your partner can help you express your exact feelings to him.

What is bothering you, what you feel you don’t receive from him, why is it that you are unable to reciprocate…these are a few things that you can discuss with him.

Also, spending quality time together can ease and spruce up things a bit.

Most often, we love throwing our feelings under the rug pretending that they will go away; but they don’t, they come back to haunt you at times that you least expect them to.

So, when you feel stuck, think of what you can do to get un-stuck? What are all things that you can think, feel and do to free yourself so that you not only feel good, but you also start to focus on things that matter; like for example your career.

Comparing one human to the another and expecting them to change and be someone else; could this be one of the reasons for you to not want the sexual intimacy?

Sex is one of the dimensions in a marriage and it can bring the couple closer.

So rather than thinking of what is going wrong, focus on how you can make things work and enable your partner to join this journey of bringing back finer and joyful moments in a marriage.

Be happy!

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My name is Gatima, I’m 36 years old and a housewife. I’m married from past 10 years and it was a love marriage. I was bought up in metro cities like Delhi and Mumbai. I married to a guy from Goa and a shipy (merchant navy). I was working when I got married but I left immediately because I wanted to sail with my husband, initial years were good. I have one boy who is 5 now . We used to fight all d time but initially we used to understand each other and patch up fast , but from last one year our fights increased so much and we stop talking for even months. My husband has lots of complaints from me and always blames me for every fight. I’m feeling so guilty. I always curse myself and ask God why he made me so bad person. Whenever we fight, all other family members cut off communication with me. Although I am surrounded by so many I’m alone. I cry most of time but now my eyes have dried and there are no tears. I hate myself and my life. I cannot face the mirror for days bcoz I hate myself. I am living for my 5 year old son. But I’m very depressed and have PCOD . I don’t get sleep plus I get migraine attacks.
Ans: Dear GN, The past year has been different for different people; marriages have been rebuilt, new marriages have taken place, divorces have happened…relationships have gone through a huge transitions, in short.

Of course, not to undermine what you are experiencing right now!

Conflicts, arguments, debates are common in a marriage…but they can be worked upon as long as both of you want the same thing and want to stick around in the marriage.

What according to you has changed now when you say that things used to easily resolve earlier and now that doesn’t happen? What has caused this?

When you say, he complains and blames you, how does he do that? Does he actually say it aloud or are you interpreting it?

These questions get you closer to the truth of the matter at hand.

It takes two people to create a conflict, of course the phase of life or whatever the phase he is in, maybe he finds it convenient to blame you.

So why do play the role of the victim when you are not actually one?

And Yes, he may not be justified in what he is doing and throwing it all on you. But if simply being in this pool of misery has achieved anything, it has made you a victim…

If you want to feel better or change something about this situation, wake up NOW…do something, do anything; support or no support from anyone!

A small change in the way you perceive things and act for yourself can change your physical well-being as well.

PCOS/Migraine can be an indirect result of the anxiety and stress that you are carrying inside you.

Start focusing on what you are eating and if you are exercising enough…these can help a great deal in keeping PCOS/Migraine under control.

What you think is what you become…so keep your son also in mind and get yourself out of this misery or find an expert who can help you. You want this for yourself and your son, don’t you?

My best wishes are with you!

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Mam, I am married for 13 yrs and it was a love marriage. We have 2 kids. My husband is less supportive. I look after my kids, my work, home without help from him. Even when I work he does not bother to make tea or help with cooking. He would get angry and abuse physically for intimacy. For last few years he started drinking a lot and indulge in fight outside. He had 2 police cases against him. I came close to someone. I told my husband I want to separate, but instead he became abusive. I don't love him. I feel I am his sex slave just fulfilling his desire, if I won't do that he will quarrel, stop eating and harass me mentally. What should I do?
Ans: Dear P,
If a dear friend had come to you with the same problem, what would you have suggested to her?
Would you have asked her to continue with a person who's being inconsiderate?
Would you have not suggested to her that she might need to go into couples therapy?
Certainly, status quo isn't something that you would have advised her to be in especially when she's with someone who has had two police cases against him!
You are dealing with a person who has had a massive change in behavior. Did you not see these red flags earlier? No point digging the past...
Thers is no need to submit to his tantrums and give into sex. He's using it to 'tame' you and make you meek.
Seek the help of someone strong within the family to talk to him...
Move out for a few days/weeks to gain your confidence back...if this is not possible, sleep in a separate room...if he pesters you for sex, look him firmly in the eye and say NO...
Have a dear friend/family member on speed dial...
The welfare of your children's is dependent on you; so to safeguard them, you need to care about yourself first!
You are not meek, do what you would have advised your friend.
All the best!

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Hi Anu Mam, I'm 36 yrs. old my husband is 46 now we have 2 sons. Before marriage my husband was in love with another girl. under pressure of parents that girl married to someone else and left city. later few months we got married. For few days of marriage everything was good he used to treat me nice and use to take out for shopping outing etc. i got pregnant he same year during my pregnancy he had to go to abroad for office work for 8 months, so gap came between us. he completely changed he minimized talking, chatting with family. we ignored may be due to work pressure he became like that. later i came to know he is interested in meeting new ppl especially ladies going with them for lunch dinner n all. after few years he met ex-girlfriend without our knowledge stayed with her few days. so, years passed he ignored us and always scolding getting angry with little things he started maintain distance with us. after 8 yrs. again i got pregnant. He used to go for site visits to other places he stayed back at hotels going with other Females spending time with them. through Facebook he made lot of friends always doing videocalls and chatting with them. everything i knew but i confronted him he uses to scold and flies from the spot saying if u want to stay, stay or else get lost. because of kids i had to stay. now he is renting a house in a same city where we live, (agreement was in his laptop bag) and we don't know what is going on? he never shares and opens anything with us. I asked him many times if u don't want to live with me divorce. He never liked me in this marriage he is always treating me anger. I feel loneliness in my life. Need help what should i do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It must surely be shocking BUT over the years I am sure you would have felt it all slipping away...
He's just in the marriage with no great emotional connect with you; I don't know how he's with the children.
Knowing that over the years, he has not any great attempt to work on the marriage and bond with his family, do you feel that he is going to do that in the future?
Rather than 'BEG' for his time and attention, what if you started to focus on yourself and your children and start afresh? He's anyway living elsewhere...can you take this opportunity and actually figure out what you want from life, from your marriage?
Are you willing to be unsettled like the way you are now even 10 years from now?
A few answers will hit you hard; BUT don't waste anymore time waiting and watching for someone to accept you. It maybe an endless wait-game.
Of course, you do have an option of asking an elder member of the family to step in and intervene and hope that he will have a change of heart. But, be prepared to take a strong stance where required. He's doing this even more as he realizes that you are weak and won't object and 'anything goes' with you.
NO, it doesn't, right? Then buck up and speak for yourself. Whatever it is, come from a place of strength. Try the route of familial intervention first and then a lot will be clear as the way forward for you.

All the best!
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Now I'm 43 years old, but next 5 year's I need 3cr with best mutual funds to invest and son education, marriage and my retirement, currently I have housing loan commitment. 70lakhs, how should I close my loan ASAP and I should have 3cr in my hand. Kindly help me, I'm in scary situation, I'm working in private sector 95k my take home and current home loan emi is 63k, 4500 recently started investment through groww app in parakh Parikh small fund, 12500 in PPF etc, kindly help. I'm completely in debt trap.
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People always delay retirement planning for later stage but this is not ok.

Because when you are young the investible surplus amount maybe less but you have the biggest resource, time on your side.

A mere 25K monthly sip can achieve 3 Cr in 20+ years

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If you need this corpus in 5 years then you need to make a monthly sip of 3.55 Lacs Minimum to reach 3 Cr corpus in 5 yrs.(modest return of 13% considered).

Focus on improving your earning because then you can earmark larger amounts for investing towards your goals.

Also try to prepay the home loan as early as possible through EPF corpus or some asset sale.

Do not panic if you diligently pre-close the home loan you have ample time to invest and create a comfortable corpus for your goals.

Continue investing in MFs with increasing allocation, PPF to reach your goals.

Happy Investing!!

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I am 24 years old and earn a monthly salary of Rs.65,000. I am interested in investing some of my funds for future financial security and am also planning to marry in two years. As I have no prior knowledge of investment, I would greatly appreciate guidance on this matter.
Ans: Hello;

First and foremost buy a good term life cover including riders for critical care and accident benefit.

Ensure that you can top-up the sum assured later when you grow your responsibilities after marriage.

For retirement planning you should consider investing in NPS. If your office provides it well and good but otherwise also you can open NPS account and contribute regularly for financing your retirement. It's an E-E-E type of scheme. Charges are quite low and you can decide to select allocation to the asset classes like equity, corporate debt or sovereign bonds as per your risk tolerance. It allows limited withdrawal before 60.

If you decide to contribute to NPS per month an amount of 20 K, it will grow into a corpus of 6.51 Cr by the time you are 60 years of age.(A modest return of 9% is considered)

For all other goals such as marriage, house, kid's education, car, vacation you can use mutual funds as your mode of investments.

If you do a monthly sip of say 15 K into a pure equity mutual fund then at the end of 5 years you may expect to receive a corpus of 12.72 L considering moderate return of 13%.

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Hi Gurus I'm 39, married and no kids, sole breadwinner in the family. My salary is 1.2 lakh per month and investing in mutual funds (since 2020) through SIP as below and step up investment 10-15% every year. Current corpus stands at 14 lakh. I have 10lakh in my PF account and I get another 5 lakh from gratuity. Mirae Asset tax saver fund 5k Parag parikh tax saver 3k Quant elss 3k Canara robecco small cap 5k SBI small cap 5k Tata digital India fund 5k I have parked 20 lakhs in debt fund and FD which I'm planning to use it to buy a flat within a year. Every month I keep aside 15k towards savings and emergency fund. I move it to debt fund, FD and I invest small portion of my bonus in existing MFs as lumpsum. My goal is to accumulate 2 CR by the time I turn 50 and need suggestions and plans to achieve the same.
Ans: You are 39 years old, married, and the sole breadwinner. Your monthly salary is Rs 1.2 lakh, and you have been investing in mutual funds since 2020. Your investments include a combination of tax-saving mutual funds, small-cap funds, and a sector-specific fund. You have also parked Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits for buying a flat within a year. Additionally, you have Rs 10 lakh in your Provident Fund (PF) and Rs 5 lakh in gratuity.

You have set a goal to accumulate Rs 2 crore by the age of 50. This is an achievable goal, but it will require some adjustments and strategic planning to optimise your savings and investments.

You are also setting aside Rs 15,000 each month towards an emergency fund and savings, while reinvesting some of your bonus into mutual funds. Let's go step-by-step to achieve your goal while ensuring financial security along the way.

Current Investment Strategy
Your investment portfolio includes:

Three tax-saving mutual funds
Small-cap mutual funds
A sector-specific fund
Rs 20 lakh parked in debt funds and fixed deposits for a future property purchase
Your current investment strategy is diversified across equity and debt instruments. This diversification is good, but there is room for improvement in your equity mutual fund selection and tax efficiency.

Analysis of Current Investments
Equity Mutual Funds
Small-Cap and Sector-Specific Funds: Small-cap funds can provide high returns over time but also carry higher risks. Over-exposure to small-cap funds can make your portfolio volatile, especially as you near your retirement goal. A sector-specific fund, while offering focused growth, can also be risky if the sector underperforms.

Tax-Saving Funds: While tax-saving mutual funds (ELSS) provide tax benefits, there may be an overlap in the holdings of your ELSS funds. Additionally, ELSS funds have a 3-year lock-in period, which reduces liquidity.

Debt Funds and FDs
You have wisely parked Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits, which ensures stability and liquidity for your property purchase. However, investing large amounts in fixed deposits may not be the most tax-efficient strategy in the long run due to the high tax on interest income.

Suggestions for Achieving Your Rs 2 Crore Goal
To accumulate Rs 2 crore by the age of 50, you need a more optimised approach. Here are the steps:

1. Review and Adjust Your Equity Allocation
Increase Mid-Cap and Flexi-Cap Exposure: As you are still 11 years away from your goal, consider shifting a portion of your investments from small-cap and sector-specific funds to more balanced options like mid-cap and flexi-cap funds. These funds offer a balance between risk and return, providing more stability than small-cap funds while still offering high growth potential.

Reduce Sector-Specific Fund Exposure: Sector funds can be volatile. Consider reallocating your investment in this fund to more diversified equity funds like flexi-cap or large-cap funds. These funds are less volatile and provide more stable returns over time.

2. Reassess Your Tax-Saving Funds
Optimise ELSS Investments: You already have multiple ELSS funds, which may result in overlapping holdings and lower diversification. You could consolidate your ELSS investments into one or two well-performing funds. This will simplify your portfolio and improve returns while still offering tax benefits.

Consider the Lock-in: Keep in mind the 3-year lock-in period of ELSS funds. If liquidity is a concern, consider reducing your ELSS exposure once you’ve maximised your Section 80C limit.

3. Focus on Regular Funds over Direct Funds
Investing through a certified financial planner (CFP) in regular funds is better than investing in direct funds by yourself. A CFP can provide ongoing advice, portfolio rebalancing, and support during market fluctuations, which is crucial for reaching your Rs 2 crore goal.

4. Build a Strong Emergency Fund
You are already setting aside Rs 15,000 per month towards savings and your emergency fund. Aim to build a fund that covers at least 6 to 12 months' worth of expenses. Given your Rs 50,000 monthly expense, this would mean an emergency fund of Rs 3 lakh to Rs 6 lakh.

Continue to park this money in debt funds or fixed deposits for easy liquidity. This will safeguard you from any unforeseen expenses while ensuring that your long-term investments remain untouched.

5. Bonus Investment Strategy
You are already investing your bonus into mutual funds as a lump sum. This is a good practice, but consider utilising this money strategically:

Top-Up Your Existing SIPs: Rather than investing the entire bonus in one go, you could use it to top up your SIPs in your existing mutual funds. This will average your investment cost and reduce market timing risks.

Boost Equity Allocation: If your risk appetite allows, allocate more of your bonus towards equity mutual funds. This can provide higher returns in the long run, contributing significantly to your Rs 2 crore goal.

6. Step-Up Your SIPs Annually
You have mentioned that you step up your SIPs by 10-15% every year. Continue with this approach, as it aligns well with your growing income and inflation. This will accelerate your wealth accumulation and keep your goal on track.

For instance, a 10-15% increase in SIP amounts every year can make a significant difference to your final corpus. By increasing your SIPs, you will also take advantage of compounding and market growth.

7. Debt Fund Considerations
You have Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits. Once you buy your flat, this money will likely be reduced. However, after the purchase, you should maintain a portion of your savings in debt funds as part of your overall asset allocation.

Debt funds provide stability and reduce risk, which is essential as you approach your retirement goal. A balanced portfolio of equity and debt is necessary for sustainable growth.

8. Retirement Planning
To achieve Rs 2 crore by the time you turn 50, you need a mix of aggressive growth in the early years and risk mitigation in the later years.

Increase Equity Exposure for Now: As you have 11 years until retirement, continue focusing on equity funds for growth. However, once you are within 5 years of your retirement goal, gradually shift a portion of your equity investments to debt funds to protect your capital.

Avoid Real Estate Investments: Since you are planning to buy a flat within a year, avoid additional investments in real estate. Real estate is illiquid and may not provide returns aligned with your retirement timeline.

Maximise Provident Fund Contributions: You already have Rs 10 lakh in your PF, and this will continue growing with your monthly contributions. Provident Fund provides a safe and stable return and should remain a core part of your retirement corpus.

9. Tax Efficiency
As your investments grow, consider tax efficiency:

Tax on Equity Mutual Funds: Long-term capital gains (LTCG) on equity mutual funds above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%. Be mindful of these taxes when planning withdrawals.

Tax on Debt Funds and FDs: Interest income from fixed deposits is taxed as per your income slab, which is less tax-efficient than equity investments. You can reduce your tax burden by keeping longer-term investments in equity funds and shorter-term savings in debt funds.

Final Insights
With proper planning, accumulating Rs 2 crore by the age of 50 is within your reach. You are already on the right track with a balanced approach to savings and investments. However, minor adjustments in your mutual fund selection, better tax efficiency, and maintaining a strong emergency fund can further optimise your strategy.

Your commitment to stepping up your investments and regularly reviewing your portfolio will help you stay on track. Be consistent with your SIPs and disciplined in maintaining your long-term focus.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

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Hi I am male 36 years earning Rs 90000 a month working in a government organisation. My monthly expenses are Rs 50000. I am investing in following mutual funds and Provident Fund :- Axis Bluechip Fund - Rs 1000 monthly and current value Rs 70000 Axis Mid cap Fund - Rs 1500 monthly and current value Rs 60000 Nippon India Flexi Cap Fund - Rs 1100 monthly and current value Rs 40000 SBI Nifty SMALL cap index fund - Rs 2000 monthly and current value - Rs 29000 Provident Fund - Rs 20000 monthly and current value - Rs 10 Lakhs Sukanya Smridhi Yojna for my 4 years old daughter - Rs 2500 monthly and current value Rs 118000 I have my wife, 4 years old and mother who are financially dependent on me. I have own house. No loan EMIs are going on. I wish to retire in next 10 years. Is it possible?
Ans: At 36 years old, earning Rs 90,000 per month, and investing in mutual funds and the Provident Fund, you're building a solid foundation. With a manageable monthly expense of Rs 50,000, you are saving around Rs 40,000 per month. This surplus gives you a good start towards achieving your retirement goals.

Your current investments include:

Axis Bluechip Fund: Rs 1,000 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 70,000.
Axis Mid Cap Fund: Rs 1,500 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 60,000.
Nippon India Flexi Cap Fund: Rs 1,100 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 40,000.
SBI Nifty Small Cap Index Fund: Rs 2,000 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 29,000.
Provident Fund: Rs 20,000 monthly contribution, current value Rs 10 lakh.
Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana: Rs 2,500 monthly contribution for your daughter, current value Rs 1.18 lakh.
It is commendable that you are consistently investing in mutual funds and secured schemes like the Provident Fund and Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana for your daughter. These diversified investments provide stability and growth.

Now, you have set a target to retire in the next 10 years. Let’s assess the feasibility of that goal.

Assessing Your Retirement Timeline
With a 10-year timeline for retirement, you need to ensure that your investments can generate sufficient wealth to cover your post-retirement expenses. You need to account for the following factors:

Inflation: Prices will rise over time, and your expenses will likely increase. Even if your current monthly expense is Rs 50,000, it could double in 10 years due to inflation.

Post-Retirement Monthly Income: After retiring, you will need a regular income to meet your living expenses, cover healthcare, and support your family.

Longevity: You should plan for a retirement period that could last 30 years or more. This means your retirement corpus must last for a long time.

Existing Dependents: You have a wife, a 4-year-old daughter, and a mother who are financially dependent on you. This adds additional responsibility and expense post-retirement.

Given these factors, retiring in 10 years is possible if you carefully plan and optimize your investments.

Recommended Asset Allocation for Retirement
A balanced investment strategy is essential for achieving your goal of early retirement. Here’s a step-by-step approach to structure your investments:

Equity Mutual Funds: Continue investing in equity mutual funds for long-term growth. However, I would recommend focusing on a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds.

Actively Managed Funds Over Index Funds: You currently have an investment in an index fund (SBI Nifty Small Cap Index Fund). Index funds tend to provide market-level returns, which may not be sufficient to meet your retirement goals. Actively managed funds offer the potential for better returns because fund managers can take advantage of market opportunities.

By switching from index funds to actively managed funds, you give yourself a higher probability of generating alpha (returns above the market average).

Provident Fund: Continue contributing to the Provident Fund, as it provides a secure, guaranteed return and will serve as a safe portion of your retirement corpus. The EPF also gives you tax-free returns, which are crucial for long-term security.

Increase SIPs Gradually: As your income grows or expenses reduce, try to increase your SIPs. A regular increase of 5% to 10% in SIP contributions can significantly enhance your retirement corpus over time.

Debt Funds for Stability: While equity funds are important for growth, debt mutual funds provide stability and regular returns. As you approach retirement, start allocating a portion of your savings to debt mutual funds. They will offer a regular income stream, while also reducing risk.

Debt funds are also tax-efficient as compared to traditional fixed deposits, especially for long-term capital gains.

Role of Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana
The Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY) for your daughter is a great way to secure her future education. However, you should continue monitoring the progress of the SSY account and ensure that you’re on track to meet her future education needs.

The SSY will also give you tax benefits under Section 80C, making it an efficient investment option from both a financial and tax-saving perspective.

This is a long-term investment, and the current contributions look sufficient for your daughter’s needs. You can gradually increase your contributions as your income grows.

Why Direct Mutual Funds May Not Be Ideal
It is important to be aware of the distinction between direct funds and regular funds. Direct funds come with lower expense ratios but require hands-on management. If you opt for direct funds, you must actively monitor and adjust your portfolio.

However, investing through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) via regular funds ensures professional advice. Your investments will be periodically reviewed and rebalanced to meet your goals. Although regular funds have a slightly higher expense ratio, they come with valuable services that can help you stay on track for retirement.

Thus, it’s better to invest through a CFP who can guide you in adjusting your portfolio as per market trends and your financial goals.

Consider Your Emergency Fund
It’s essential to maintain an emergency fund that can cover 6 to 12 months of living expenses. Given your current expenses of Rs 50,000 per month, aim to set aside around Rs 3-6 lakh in a highly liquid and safe investment, such as a liquid fund or a short-term debt fund.

This emergency fund will act as a buffer during unforeseen circumstances and help you avoid dipping into your long-term investments.

Final Insights
To retire in 10 years, you will need a substantial retirement corpus. This requires careful planning and disciplined investments. Here’s what you should do:

Continue investing in mutual funds, but shift focus towards actively managed funds.

Increase your SIP contributions as your income grows. You are currently saving Rs 40,000 per month, but try to save and invest more if possible.

Maintain a healthy balance between equity and debt investments. While equities will give you growth, debt will provide stability.

Keep contributing to Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana for your daughter’s future.

Avoid direct mutual funds unless you can actively manage the portfolio. Regular funds with a CFP offer better guidance.

Don’t forget to maintain an emergency fund.

With these strategies in place, you have a good chance of achieving your retirement goal in 10 years. But it’s important to continuously review and adjust your plan as you move closer to retirement.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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