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SHASHANK Question by SHASHANK on Jun 15, 2023Hindi
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I'm 48 unmarried n looking gorward to get married. I once suffered with bladder cancer which is cured. Also takes medicines for epilepsy which is under control. I'm in contact with a 45 yrs old girl who is feeling unsecured of getting married as she thinks that its too late to get married n there will be complications in conceiving a baby. Pls help how i can assure her a good life even if we are not able to hv our baby. Is it really a problem in having a baby at this age?

Ans: Having a baby at your age can be challenging, but it’s not impossible. Plus there is your medical history to consider. With the help of medical science today, however, there are a lot of options available for you to explore. That said, the grounds for marriage should not be whether or not you can have a baby together. Many couples opt not to have children even when they can. Marriage is spending the rest of your lives together as a couple, not merely to have babies. If that is her mindset, maybe it’s not the best idea to keep pursuing her.

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If you have been straightforward about your feelings for this woman and expressed the same and yet she has never reciprocated it even once so far, it might be because she does not feel the same about it. I'd suggest you talk to her about this. Instead of leaving it open-ended, like "I like you," and letting her react to it, be direct. For instance, "I like you. What about you? Do you like me?" Being direct would definitively fetch you some real answers. If she replies to your question, there you go; you have your answer. If she ignores it still, you can safely assume that she doesn't feel the same way as you do. Don't delay this; ask her as soon as possible. Stretching a relationship that ultimately leads to a dead-end will harm your peace and happiness in the longer run.

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