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SHASHANK Question by SHASHANK on Jun 15, 2023Hindi
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I'm 48 unmarried n looking gorward to get married. I once suffered with bladder cancer which is cured. Also takes medicines for epilepsy which is under control. I'm in contact with a 45 yrs old girl who is feeling unsecured of getting married as she thinks that its too late to get married n there will be complications in conceiving a baby. Pls help how i can assure her a good life even if we are not able to hv our baby. Is it really a problem in having a baby at this age?

Ans: Having a baby at your age can be challenging, but it’s not impossible. Plus there is your medical history to consider. With the help of medical science today, however, there are a lot of options available for you to explore. That said, the grounds for marriage should not be whether or not you can have a baby together. Many couples opt not to have children even when they can. Marriage is spending the rest of your lives together as a couple, not merely to have babies. If that is her mindset, maybe it’s not the best idea to keep pursuing her.

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I'm 48 years old never married guy. I once suffered from rare cancer which is cured now. Also hv epilepsy whose treatment will go life long. Doctor says that i should disclose my health issue with whom I'm thinking of getting married but no one takes talks further. I'm infact ready for divorcee or widow too but failed. Some ppl reject me as my salary is mot much, some says that i dont hv my own hm etc but i hv many friens who are getting less salary but are happily married. My whole family if highly educated although I'm also pg but still get rejected. My dad expired n was too worried for my marriage. Now my mother is with me n i dont know what to do. I hv spend approx 35k on matrimonial advertisements but got no success. Im currently in touch with girl for last 1+ year but dont know whether she likes me or not although i hd expressed my feelings to her many times but she never respond n get silent on that. Kindly help whether i should approach this girl or leave her. I like this girl very much. Should i still search for a bride or leave this issue. Kindly help.
Ans: Dear Shashank,

If you have been straightforward about your feelings for this woman and expressed the same and yet she has never reciprocated it even once so far, it might be because she does not feel the same about it. I'd suggest you talk to her about this. Instead of leaving it open-ended, like "I like you," and letting her react to it, be direct. For instance, "I like you. What about you? Do you like me?" Being direct would definitively fetch you some real answers. If she replies to your question, there you go; you have your answer. If she ignores it still, you can safely assume that she doesn't feel the same way as you do. Don't delay this; ask her as soon as possible. Stretching a relationship that ultimately leads to a dead-end will harm your peace and happiness in the longer run.

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 15, 2025Hindi
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Hello sir, I am 50 age and investing in the below funds by sip mode: Nippon india large cap - 2000 pm Nippon india multi cap - 2000 pm Nippon india small cap - 2000 pm ICICI prudential flexi cap - 2000 pm MO midcap fund - 2000 pm Mahindra ML large & midcap - 2000 pm Uti nifty 50 index - 1500 pm ICICI Pru nifty next 50 index - 1500 pm Nippon IT index - 1500 pm ICICI bse sensex index - 1500 pm ICICI Pru multi asset allocation - 5000 pm DSP multi asset allocation - 1000 pm SBI retirement aggressive - 1000 pm HDFC balanced advantage - 2500 pm Can I continue the above for the next 10 years OR is there a need for any changes to be made. My current MF investment stands at 20 L Looking forward to you advise please.
Ans: You are investing in a diverse set of funds across multiple categories. It is important to check if your portfolio is well-balanced, tax-efficient, and aligned with your risk appetite.

Fund Overlap and Diversification
You have too many funds in the same category.

Multiple large-cap, multi-cap, and index funds create unnecessary duplication.

A smaller, well-chosen portfolio will improve returns and reduce complexity.

Index Funds in Your Portfolio
You are investing in four index funds.

Index funds lack downside protection in market crashes.

Actively managed funds have better potential to beat the market.

Consider reducing index fund exposure to improve returns.

Sector and Thematic Funds
You have a technology sector fund.

Sector funds can be high-risk, as they depend on one industry’s performance.

A diversified portfolio is better than relying on a single sector.

If held, sector funds should be less than 10% of the total portfolio.

Multi-Asset and Hybrid Funds
Multi-asset funds help in balancing risk with exposure to equity, debt, and gold.

You have three multi-asset funds, which may be too many.

It is better to consolidate and hold only one or two of the best-performing funds.

Retirement Fund and Balanced Advantage Fund
SBI Retirement Aggressive Fund is designed for long-term wealth creation.

HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund helps in managing market volatility.

These funds are suitable for investors above 50, as they lower risk.

Recommended Changes
Reduce fund duplication by keeping only one multi-asset fund.

Exit some index funds and switch to actively managed funds.

Limit sector funds to a small portion of your portfolio.

Continue investing in flexi-cap and balanced advantage funds for long-term stability.

Final Insights
Your portfolio has good diversification but can be simplified.

Reducing overlapping funds will improve returns and ease tracking.

Shifting from index funds to actively managed funds may provide better growth.

Holding for 10 years is a good strategy, but regular rebalancing is needed.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

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What are possibilities of getting maintenance for a working woman (with a kid) from husband . My husband has abandoned us since birth of my daughter 4years. Not taking the child's responsibility. Husband says as I am earning I should take care of financial requirement of the child too. I am doing extra duties/ work just to take care of my daughter's education and future. As I am a healthcare professional my work consists of night duties. These duties are taking toll on my health and also my daughter's . People are saying as I am a working woman I can't claim maintenance from husband. But taking care of young child is more difficult with working. I just can't leave my job , just to show nil income to claim maintenance as no one is there to support me and my daughter. Hiring a nanny , maid etc along with rent comes around 85k per month apart from school expenses. As I live in metropolitan city. Husband earns more than me but transfers money to his mother's account.He has taken me granted financially since marriage.Not able to save anything for the future. Don't have any property on my name .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This is a question for a legal expert; so go ahead and seek the guidance of someone who can handle your case. Along with this, you will have to think of a good balance that will allow for you to manage work and home plus your health.

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