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Relationships Expert - Answered on Jan 25, 2022

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A Question by A on Jan 25, 2022Hindi
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Dear Love Guru
We are in a live-in for two years.
We entered the live-in committing we were going to marry after one year if everything was fine.
But every time I ask him, he makes some excuse. Even he says because of the pandemic.
I don’t want a big wedding. Even registered marriage is fine.
I asked him many times if he does not want to marry me but he saying I am overthinking.
What do I do? I did not even want the live-in but I agreed because I love him so much.
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He’s stalling. Ask him why point blank.

Obviously, the living-in part was to see how compatible you are under the same roof together and, if it’s the ideal situation, he should be as on-board as you.

And yes, plenty of people are registering their marriages during lockdown and holding receptions after so that can’t be a valid reason.

If it’s so important to you, and that was the decision you made when you moved in together, tell him to honour it or let you know the truth about why he’s still not sure.

And if he isn’t sure, well that’s a whole other ballgame. You can’t pressure someone into marrying you and if you did, that would be a mistake.

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Hi, i am in a relationship with a guy since last 14 years but due to some ups-downs in his life he denied to marry me two years ago so i remain single in that period and searching for suitable guy in a arrange marriage setup. Now, in this year he came back and said he want to marry me, since i did not able to find any match till then so i said yes, i tried to convince my parents for him but they did not got convinced and started forcing me for arrange marriage for the sake of community and their pride, i dont know what should i do, because whatever they are bringing are good matches and i would have consider or marry them if i am not committed to him.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you have really decided that you will only marry him, then you should continue trying to convince your parents. Both of you are consenting adults and I am sure you both love each other since you have been together for so many years. Highlight these and any other positive points in your partner to your parents; let them know he is a nice person and he has been committed to you for so long.

I am not sure whether you two broke up for a while or just weren't sure about marriage, but either way, it looks like there was a break in the relationship. So this time around, if you want to rethink the relationship, there is no harm. And if you are not sure what you want, you should take some time to think about it. Don't rush.

Moreover, consider your parent's point of view. Why are they not convinced? Are they seeing something in your partner that you are overlooking because of love? You can ask them for the reason directly and evaluate how reasonable they are.
Hope these suggestions help

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Feb 20, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 14, 2025Hindi
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Hello Me and my boyfriend were in relationship for more than 1.5 years he is 29 and i am 23 He was getting alot proposals for marriage from his parents when i saw this i told him to talk about us and he said that he would take time for all this then i told him that its been more than 1.5 years and now also you need to take time He said yess and then i said him that if he won’t tell his parents i will go from his life he said i will ask by Saturday then now on Thursday night he is telling that his parents are planning to go to haj so thatswhy he can’t talk to his parents and asking for more time But i have seen in his mobile he was updating his biodata for marriage and everything and he is getting min 2 pictures everyday for marriage I am not sure what shall i do Shall I give hime more time or shall i walk off Coz if at this point i dont walk off i would be hurt from inside I even told him that we can end at a good note so that he can atleast see the proposals for marriage properly Because i loved him alot I can’t see him getting forced by me It’s just I can’t see him that he is getting proposals and he is just delaying for me I am not sure what to do please suggest me something
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you strongly believe that he is just keeping you hanging and he is interested in marrying by his parent's choice, then I too feel that your decision to part ways might be the right one. After all, your self-respect is the most important thing here. Please speak to him directly once and let him know that you are reconsidering the relationship and see how he reacts. You can decide after that.
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I can invest Rs 10,000 every month for 10 years. Kindly suggest investing options -- where should I invest? How much wealth can I create after 10 years?
Ans: Investing Rs 10,000 per month for 10 years is a great decision. It will help you build substantial wealth over time. Here’s a detailed assessment of the best investment options and the potential returns you can expect.

Investment Options for Rs 10,000 Per Month
1. Equity Mutual Funds (Actively Managed)
Suitable for long-term wealth creation.

Professional fund managers make investment decisions.

Offers better flexibility compared to direct stock investment.

Can generate high returns over a 10-year period.

Ideal for those who can take moderate to high risk.

2. Debt Mutual Funds
Provides stability to your portfolio.

Lower risk compared to equity mutual funds.

Useful for balancing risk and return.

Returns are better than FDs over a long period.

3. Hybrid Mutual Funds
Invests in both equity and debt.

Suitable for investors looking for stability with some growth.

Balances market volatility better than pure equity funds.

4. Gold Investment (Sovereign Gold Bonds - SGBs)
Offers capital appreciation and fixed interest income.

Safe investment backed by the Government of India.

Can act as a hedge against inflation.

5. Public Provident Fund (PPF)
Tax-free returns.

Provides capital protection.

Best for those looking for safe and guaranteed returns.

Lock-in period of 15 years, but partial withdrawals allowed after 5 years.

6. National Pension System (NPS)
Ideal for retirement savings.

Provides tax benefits under Section 80C and 80CCD.

Investment mix of equity, corporate bonds, and government securities.

Partial withdrawal allowed after a few years.

Suggested Investment Allocation
Equity Mutual Funds: Rs 6,000 per month

Debt Mutual Funds: Rs 2,000 per month

Gold (SGBs): Rs 1,000 per month

PPF: Rs 1,000 per month

This diversified approach helps reduce risk and maximize returns.

Expected Wealth Creation After 10 Years
The wealth you create depends on returns from different assets. Here’s an estimate:

Equity Mutual Funds: Can generate higher returns over 10 years.

Debt Mutual Funds: Provides stability with moderate returns.

Gold (SGBs): Prices depend on market demand and inflation.

PPF: Offers safe and steady returns.

You can expect to build a significant corpus by following this plan.

Why Not Index Funds?
Index funds do not offer active management.

They simply track market movements without strategy.

Actively managed mutual funds can beat index funds over time.

Fund managers adjust portfolios based on market conditions.

Higher potential for wealth creation with actively managed funds.

Final Insights
A mix of equity, debt, gold, and PPF creates a balanced portfolio.

Stay invested for 10 years to benefit from compounding.

Review your investments every year.

Consider increasing your SIP amount whenever possible.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner for better guidance.

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