Dear Love Guru,
Please keep me anonymous.
I am a 45 years old married male. Ours was an arranged marriage.
My spouse as well as my in-laws have cynical attitude towards life. They are always abusive towards everyone at their back even.
Earlier, I used to take it lightly and also tried to make my wife understand that there are good people also in the world.
I also used to think that she may not be having the same attitude at least towards me but I was wrong. I always did my best whenever she was in trouble or otherwise, be it in her social, professional or medical needs but instead of acknowledging she always found some ulterior motive of mine.
She acts sweet whenever she wants anything or to get things done from me otherwise she becomes abusive. Moreover, since beginning she discusses everything over phone with her mother and acts as per her guidance.
I don't think that anything whatever happens in between us be it good or bad or in our house is not known to her mother. Whenever we have any quarrel she immediately calls her mother and tells her only her side of the things and uses abusive words for me.
I have even requested her that even if she feels like calling her mother to lighten up, she may do it, but at least in privacy so that I should not hear the words she uses.
But, now after 14 years I am getting fed up and don't feel like being with her. I am continuing because of my daughter as separation may affect the child.
We no longer share any emotional or physical intimacy. I am exhausted. Please advise. 
Regards,
Anonymous

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Ans: Hi Adarsh,

Both are national institutes. There will be some differences in the curriculum and faculty, but other factors are almost similar.

Regarding Placement: I have a few questions. Kindly provide the answers to the following questions.
Are you a good student? Are you meritorious? Do you have strong skills?
Additionally, could you let me know your rank in the 12th standard? What are your class rank and school rank in HSC? KINDLY SHARE.
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Ans: HI NIKHIL,
Relatively good but might not guarantee a seat in COMPETITIVE IISERs, there's a chance you'll be able to secure a seat later rounds or at one of the IISERs.
DO PARTICIPATE IN THE COUNSELING PROCESS.
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Ans: Hi Ray Sir,

PSG is undoubtedly a good institute, but the other one is a national institute. Both offer different programs. Naturally, everyone will prefer the known program in all aspects. I am unable to provide a response to your query without more details. Which program has he been offered in NFSU? If you provide that information, I can offer my suggestions.
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Ans: Hi,

Let’s consider this: Are you a good student? Meritorious? Skilled? Based on your rank, you have secured a seat at IIIT. If there is any possibility, try to go for upgradation, so that you can aim for either competitive programs or a more desirable location.

However, worrying about placement before even joining is not a good attitude. Remember, you have just completed your HSC and are yet to pursue your basic degree. What are your next plans?
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