
I am a 31-year-old woman, married for 5 years, with a 3-year-old daughter and a 1-year-old son. I got married in 2019 at the age of 26, while my husband was 28. Both of us are entrepreneurs and have been running a coal business. Unfortunately, when COVID hit in 2020, our business faced significant challenges, and we have struggled to recover since then. As a result, we moved in with my in-laws.
During this transition, I had my daughter and son. We've been actively trying to start a new business, but it hasn't quite come together yet. My husband recently found a job that he loves, although it doesn't pay well enough to allow us to move out. He seems content in this position because it's close to home and aligns with his passion. However, I feel frustrated because when I suggest he look for a higher-paying job to improve our situation, he is hesitant since he’s focused on pursuing what he loves.
Living with my in-laws has been challenging, as our relationship has had its difficulties from the start. I'm concerned that they are unintentionally affecting my children's perspective on parenting, and they aren't able to care for the kids regularly so I can explore job opportunities, including remote work.
I often feel trapped and hopeless but recognize that leaving this situation isn’t viable financially. Returning to live with my parents is also not an option due to the complicated dynamics there. Despite these challenges, I want to find a way to navigate my feelings of isolation and make progress.
I would appreciate any advice or constructive suggestions on how to improve our situation and create a more supportive environment for my family and myself. Thank you.
Ans: Hello mam
I am sorry to hear about the loss your business made in covid. That time was a real challange for all of us.
Lets focus on your problem now. Mam, as now you are living with your in laws, I am sure your husband must be feeling bery secure and happy. But you may have some challanges. Diffrence of opinion always occur in joint families specially when parenting of kids are involved coz they want to raise your kids according to them which can sometime create conflicts Between the family members. Tou can discuss the matter with your husband without blaming anyone and then with his help you can talk to your in laws to support a little bit so that you can also search further for a job. This will increase your satisfaction level and you ll be happy in your family.
Think about it and try this out. I am sure it will work. Plz do tell me your feedback. Take care !
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