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MK Question by MK on Aug 05, 2022Hindi
Relationship

I want to keep it anonymous.
I am a 30 years old independent woman married for 5 months only.
My husband and I were in same college but were not friends.
He had been approaching me for getting married since 2017, but every time I had rejected his proposal, later in February, 2021 I talked to him openly and mentioned my inability to conceive if we get married.
To which his response was that he really liked me and is ready to accept me with my inability.
I made our families met and we got engaged.
During the one year of courtship period, initial 4-5 months were peaceful, but he and I were missing a bond, yet we thought may be with time we will find it.
After the initial phase as we started meeting for family functions.
He started finding flaws in me. Things like, I stare at other men when I go out, I don’t give him priority, why do I talk to any male friend beyond necessity, why do I praise my senior at office parties etc.
He started controlling me in these areas and used to get angry if I talk to my siblings late night.
I started feeling trapped and suffocated, and always under the fear that any of my action could make my husband angry.
In that anger he seemed like a very different person, someone aggressive.
We started fighting, arguing over petty things.
He wanted me to change but I was reluctant as those were very normal things for me and I started telling him that this relationship is not working.
We are two persons with different mindset and ideologies and since we are unable to reach to a solution over any issue, let’s call it off.
I tried to call this wedding off for like 6 times, but he never agreed to this stating that he loves me and he will change his attitude and will not stop me from doing anything.
Whenever I tried to break up with him he'd start crying, stating things like you are my only happiness in life, and I would die without you and all.
I involved my family into the matter and shared things with them.
They used to call my husband to make him understand my expectations from him.
In front of them my husband used to admit that he would change his behaviour.
He used to stay calm for 5-6 days and then continue with the same attitude.
Basically, it was an on and off behaviour from his side and because of that my behaviour was also affected.
I was trying to see his positive side as he had accepted me with my inability, so he must be a good person.
Somehow, after so many issues, we got married.
After marriage, we went for honeymoon, but he showed a different attitude.
He started insulting me that I stare at other people, including the waiter.
He would fight with me aggressively, and when I cry he'd calm me down stating that this fight is my fault; had I not done this he would not have fought; had I obeyed him he would not have gotten angry. Then he used to make love to me.
For 4 days this happened continuously.
On the 4th day I told him I cannot stand him and bear his mind numbing torture.
If he sees so many flaws in my character we must part our ways, and there is not point of staying together.
He agreed but later he started apologising, asking for another chance to this marriage. I agreed.
But his behaviour didn’t improve much. We used to live with his parents, he started taking active participation in local politics which used to keep him busy.
He started controlling me indirectly for visiting my moms and relatives.
He'd taunt me for not sharing my salary with his parents.
Later I found out his work is not running smooth and he is not making enough.
The issue of staring at men and shaking hands with men while greeting congratulations, was also an issue to him.
He'd remain normal as long as I did things as per his wish.
If I said or did anything opposite, he'd get aggressive and disrespectful towards me.
Love was nowhere around. He never said I am a good looking woman. My husband rarely complimented me though I get many whenever I go out.
He seemed not to be bothered about me except for the time I do something he doesn’t like.
My mom also supported him. His behaviour started taking a toll on my mental condition and I started feeling uncomfortable around him.
I stopped being physical as I was feeling emotionally detached.
The fights had broken me, my bare minimum expectations were not fulfilled.
My husband also broke relations with my family and was disrespectful to them.
Initially he had promised that I will be free to visit my mom whenever I want and he will not seek my salary ever or doubt my character, but nothing turned to be true.
After 4 months of torture, I came to my mom's place and told my husband that I cannot live with him.
I actually feel much better without him. As soon as he knew that I am leaving him he has surrendered and is admitting that he made mistakes and doesn’t want to lose me.
He says I am his only hope in life and he loves me a lot and can’t live without me.
He does the same emotional drama every time I try to part ways with him.
My family is pressurising me to give him another chance. But my trust is shattered beyond repair.
He made my cry, he pushed me into depression.
I do not respect him. He accepted me with my inability, but I feel he never liked the real me.
He is not ready to admit this fact that we have not been good for each other.
To me he seems like a male chauvinist, a dominating and controlling person.
He stays grumpy most of the time, behaves well with others but is arrogant with family members.
What do I do? I am in utter confusion, I am unable to force myself into a love-less marriage and my family and husband doesn’t understand it.
(I am a government officer and my husband runs a small business)

Ans:

Dear MK,

This is a classic case of crying out, blaming the spouse for the crying and sending her on a guilt trip, promising to do better, not following through and when she walks out, crying out again.

It's cyclical and traps you within in the loop.

He really needs to work out his stuff with a professional, else this is going to be something that you have to deal with repeatedly.

To not be able to take responsibility for his actions, shifting blame onto you, acting insecure and preventing you from leading your life the way that you are used to -- like talking to your family and friends -- are all red flags.

Step up, take charge and suggest that he goes to a professional if he wants the marriage to work.

If he doesn’t and continues the same way, you know what you must do to secure yourself and your life.

All the best!

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 Hello mam,(I want to remain anonymous )I want to ask regarding my relationship with my husband.We got married in 2013 and after a month and so...He started saying I shouldn't mingle with Muslim friends who were my colleagues in my office. I told him they are good people and we've never had such kind of differences. But he got angry and from here one by one he started picking fights for each and everything. Since we are newly weds, I asked if we can explore new nearby(one day trip)places during the weekend, which he didn't do. My parents lived nearby and since we used to stay at home they'd call us on weekends for lunch or dinner. He started fighting for that also. He also started body shaming me saying I have gained weight (and everyone in his home are commenting about my weight). I had only gained 3 kgs after my marriage.He said I have relationships with colleagues even after my engagement, which was not the case. Later he said I shouldn't go out for lunch meetings arranged by the company for the whole team. He said I'm wasting time in the company and there is no bright future. I tried to find a job outside but I couldn't cope up with the demeaning and exhausting behaviour in the house and non-stop workload in the office. I agree I was a bit lazy to find a new job but I couldn't do it. In 2015 I left the job and was jobless for 2 months (this happened drastically after a big fight in his hometown that too for trivial reasons). During these two months he made my life a living hell. He would fight for the smallest of things. I had to take care of the house, his younger brother and sister. There were times when we fought because I took care more of his siblings and not him (I used to wonder why he is being hostile when taking care of his family).In 2016 we started our family planning and by God's grace we had baby in 2017. Even when I was pregnant he used to pressurize me to ask my mom to come and take care of me but my mom used to work in a different city and I was thoroughly taken care by my granny and my father. He had problems with that as well. When he started fighting for this matter, I asked him to bring his mother (I knew it was not possible because it's difficult to leave the home and come take care of me) but he kept on saying weird things and insulting my mother saying she is dominating, irresponsible.After having the baby he left me in his hometown for 1 whole year saying that till I prepare myself for the interview and find a new job he will not live with me. I kept begging him, fought with him and even tried to commit suicide because I didn't want to live there anymore after 8 months. I just wanted to come back and have my family which he denied saying he has financial problems. Ultimately I had to pressurise my parents to intervene and take me and my child to their home.Whenever he felt like seeing his daughter he used to come. Otherwise he totally ignored us. My parents and I begged him to come home and stay but he refused (we had a tight financial situation so we couldn't afford a house). My father arranged a small home without any amenities to keep his house's unwanted things. My husband said he will stay there and not in my parents’ house for which I objected. Yet he stayed there for almost 6 months. Later I found a job and moved to a new house.When the pandemic hit I lost my beloved father and my job. I could have saved him but my husband did not allow me to go to my parents place even after explaining to him the situation that my parents are facing. My father did not die of Covid but due to medical negligence. He wanted me to cook and take care of his family in his hometown.He suggested my mother and brother to take leave of two months and sort out all the legal activities which they couldn't. My brother had to leave for his job overseas and mother back to her job. She used to come every three weeks and ask for my help to get things done. He got angry for that and kept on blaming me that I only take care of my family and not him. After my father's death he started insulting my mother. He even made his father to call my mom and talk cheap with her and my brother.Fast forward to now, we have been fighting non-stop and every week there will be a fight, name calling, vulgar words exchanged. He stops talking to me for months together and there has hardly been any physical or emotional intimacy. Even after I confess, cajole and plead with him to sort out our family, he agrees momentarily and again within a week there will be a new topic to fight on in such a way it goes to extremes.This roller coaster ride -- the fights in our relationship -- has affected my child immensely and sometimes for the sake of the child we plan not to divorce each other. But I'm guilty that I'm not providing my child a healthy environment. That I'm not a good wife. I'm confused whether I should continue in this relationship or quit it for the betterment of the three of us because I cannot take this emotional abuse and have my child watching me cry non-stop. Please guide me if my husband will change in future. Should I try counselling or do I divorce him? Because whenever I keep my hopes positive, he goes back to his old ways.
Ans:

Dear VS,

You are married to a man who gets his self-esteem and validation by showing you in poor light, exercises control by telling you who your professional/social circle should be, makes you weak by detaching you from your parents and those who are your support system.

Does this put things into perspective for you as to where you are in within your marriage?

Once you fulfil the above, he might be willing to somewhat accept you, but there will be constant new demands to keep his self-esteem high. It’s all about him, him, and him.

Does he need to visit a professional who can guide him to a better way of thinking? Yes, but that will happen only when he acknowledges his false sense of existence and flushed ego.

If that is possible, do visit a professional who can help him ably and then he might be able to see the marriage in a new light and his contribution towards it.

Till then, this seems to be a battle with a child who is adamant about getting one candy and then another and yet another and then crying out loud when denied.

The child is absolutely growing up in an emotionally challenging environment and this will obviously affect his growth, both physically and emotionally.

I am glad you have been thinking about what to do and now you know what an absolute must-have for the marriage is, to continue.

He must change the way he thinks and acts and treats you like his partner and not someone who was married to him for his sense of validation and self-esteem.

Be wise, watch and decide!

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 14, 2024
Relationship
Recently, we had an Arranged Marriage. Before committing for the Marriage, we had a few Months of Courtship Period & got to understand each other well. He seemed to be a very Loving & Caring Person. Once, He asked me whether I was Virgin, I lied saying that I was, because I didn't want to lose such a Wonderful Guy. On our Wedding Night, he got Suspicious as I didn't bleed. Upon further Interrogation, I broke down & confessed the Truth that I had been Sexually Active in my previous Relationships, before getting Married to him. He got Disappointed as he felt Cheated & Betrayed. Since then, he's been sleeping in a seperate Room & not even talking to me properly, there's no Romance between us, at all. He'd also cancelled our Honeymoon Trip to Bali. He comes Home late, often having eaten out, doesn't ask me anything about my Day or even Care about me at all. He's become quite opposite of what he was, during our Courtship Period. Many times, I've tried to break the Ice & build some Chemistry between us, but he told me that he lost all Feelings for me, and he wouldn't even Care if I left him & his House for Good. He was Ready to give me a Divorce, if I wanted to Leave him. But I don't want to throw away this Marriage, I want to try & make it work, but there's no Cooperation at all from his side. He blatantly refused to go for Marriage Counseling with me. In the presence of other Family Members, he tries to act like a normal Husband, just to maintain his image in the Society. But when we both are alone at Home, he acts as if I don't even exist. Now I am getting frustrated, I don't understand what to do? I don't regret all that I did in my Past, I had the Right to Enjoy my Life, when I was Young & Unmarried & I don't owe any Explanation to anyone, about my Past. Now I feel I am being treated too Coldly just for a little White Lie. Did I really do something so Wrong that I don't even deserve to be Loved by the Person, I Married? If it leads to a Divorce, we both have got a lot to lose out on, hence I am trying to avoid the extreme Decision. But I don't have any idea as to how our Marriage can be Repaired & Rejuvenated, when my Husband is not at all interested in the Marriage? Please advise me what to do.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you understand him, your virginity meant a lot to him...that was one of his core beliefs that one preserves their virginity until marriage. Now, he feels cheated as what he believes in has gone against him. It seems very old-fashioned to want the bride to 'bleed' on the first night and conclude that she isn't pure...I get your point, but that are his values...
Can he change and actually look at things differently and save the marriage? YES only if he wants to...he has to commit to it...

For you, the fear of losing him made you hide the fact. Who's right and who isn't? Neither! It's all a matter of the way you look at it; each one will hold their impressions as the truth. So, he's holding onto what he feels is his truth and unwilling to budge and make the marriage work. What can you do? Perhaps apologize for hurting him; he is hurt and angry, isn't it?

It may seem trivial and foolish to you that he gives this so much importance in this day and age. You can't shake people off their beliefs. Anything that you hide eventually comes to bite you; so act wisely...
- talk to him about how you feel about him and the marriage
- tell him what he means to you and why you hid the facts that was most important to him
- lastly apologize to him from your heart

All this may seem 'going over the top' BUT hey, you wish to make the marriage work, right? At times, going that extreme bit can bring back things...So, if there's a 'Feminist' side of you that seems to disagree, keep that at bay for a while and ask: Do I want the marriage?
If YES, then do what it takes...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 16, 2025
Relationship
Dear Anu, Am Shilpa,36 years old.Got married to a friend in 2015.It was a love come arranged.Initially married life was going smooth.I was working before marriage and due to marriage and relocation , discontinued the job. After marriage i started new job even though my husband was against it.Some misunderstanding started between us slowly and most of the adjustments were done by me to avoid fights.After 2 years we were blessed with a baby boy and i had to reluctantly and was also forced to quit job to take care of our kid.And i agreed and things went smoothly again for 3 more years.I got busy with my motherhood. I felt my husband was happy and was changing for the happy family. But i was wrong, he had a physical relationship with his ex college friend. They used to have sex in hotels. They even had sex chats and used to share nude pictures . This broke my heart completely and was disturbed mentally. I wanted to enquire my husband with all the proofs in my hand.without the proof he would prove me mentally retarded women. Initially he asaulted and abused me for blaming on him.But when he knew abt the proofs, he accepted and apologised for his mistake and begged me not to take divorce only for the sake of our son.Even i dropped the idea of divorce thinking the future of our son.Later few months he acted as if he changed himself completely but he always had disrespect on me and my parents. I even suffered domestic violence once which shattered me into pieces. Even then he apologised me and forced me to drop the idea of divorce. I again started to adjust and compromise with my life only because of my kid and his good future as all elders advice. This adjustments continued for few more months.But once i saw his ex girlfriend calls and daughter pics in his mobile, i was again mentally disturbed and after thinking many times, i made up my mind and left him without explanning him . I packed all my luggage and came to my parents with my kid. Now i got a job in which i opted work from home so that i can concentrate on my kid and support myself financially. Am trying to move on but my true love towards him is making it difficult. Please advice me on this Anu mam. The step which i took is right ? After seperation he is harassing me to visit son and kidnapped him 2 times. I really don't want to share my son with him.Please advice what should I do.
Ans: Dear Shilpa,
You have done what you needed to in order to protect your child and your sanity. Your husband could never get over his affair and he possibly won't. He maybe never even tried...

I firmly suggest you go to the cops so that he does not try to take the child away...Also, have you thought about a legal separation? That will offer you and your child enough protection and it will stop his harassment. This is not an easy decision to make BUT what choice is he leaving you with? Kidnapping the child? If by kidnapping you mean that he takes away the child without informing you, please watch out and contact a lawyer. A BIG BIG RED FLAG...Act soon...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 05, 2025Hindi
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Hello Sir, I am 42 year old , have parents, wife and 2 daughter. monthly take home is 2.25 lakh, current savings are- 1- MF - 25lakh 2- PPF- 8 lakh 3- stocks 80k 4- NPS- 1 lakh 5- PF - 24 lakh 6- Sukankya Samridhi - 1 lakh have a house loan of 36lakh, give EMI of 50k per month. I am planning for retirement by 50 years. any suggestion for any fix on current investment. I am single earner in my family, any suggestion on my current investment to make it better.
Ans: You are 42 years old with a solid monthly income of Rs. 2.25 lakh. You are managing family responsibilities for wife, two daughters, and parents. You are also repaying a home loan with Rs. 50,000 EMI monthly. You have already built up a strong savings base, which shows discipline. You plan to retire at 50. That gives you only 8 years. This is an ambitious goal. But with the right approach, it's possible.

Let us now go step by step to assess and improve your current investments. This will be a full-circle view covering risk, returns, liquidity, taxes, and future goals.

Your Current Investment Snapshot
From what you’ve shared, your assets are spread across:

Mutual Funds: Rs. 25 lakh

PPF: Rs. 8 lakh

Stocks: Rs. 80,000

NPS: Rs. 1 lakh

EPF: Rs. 24 lakh

Sukanya Samriddhi: Rs. 1 lakh

House Loan: Rs. 36 lakh (EMI Rs. 50,000 per month)

This is a very good base to start with. There is growth, safety, and diversification. But you also have responsibility as a single earner. Let us now do a 360-degree assessment.

Family Protection First
Since you are the only earner, protection is very important.

Suggestions:

Term insurance should be at least 15 times your yearly income.

In your case, it should be around Rs. 4 crore or more.

Don’t mix investment with insurance.

Avoid ULIPs or traditional endowment plans.

Surrender such policies if already taken. Reinvest in mutual funds.

Health insurance:

Ensure your entire family is covered.

Buy a family floater plan with Rs. 10 lakh cover or more.

Also buy personal accident cover.

Add critical illness policy for long-term protection.

This protection is needed to secure your savings from any health shocks.

Understanding Your Retirement Goal at 50
You have just 8 years left for retirement.

That means:

You have to build a retirement corpus fast.

You need to cover expenses for 30+ years post retirement.

Medical inflation and daily expenses will rise.

Your current retirement assets:

PF + NPS = Rs. 25 lakh

Mutual Funds: Rs. 25 lakh

PPF (part can be used)

Stocks, Sukanya and home equity are not ideal for retirement

Your home is not an investment unless sold. EMI is a cash outflow.

So, retirement corpus must come mainly from mutual funds, EPF, and NPS.

Mutual Fund Investments – Review Needed
You have Rs. 25 lakh in mutual funds.

Suggestions:

Review fund selection carefully.

Are they active funds or index funds?

Don’t go for index funds. They follow the market blindly.

Actively managed funds adjust based on market cycles.

That gives better protection in falling markets.

If you are using direct funds:

It may save cost, but it gives no guidance.

Wrong fund selection will cost more than saved expense.

Always go for regular plans via Mutual Fund Distributor with CFP credential.

You get professional support, handholding, reviews, and behaviour coaching.

This service is valuable, especially near retirement.

Monthly Investment Strategy
After paying Rs. 50,000 EMI, you still have Rs. 1.75 lakh.

Let us plan your monthly surplus wisely.

Suggestions:

Keep Rs. 20,000 for monthly emergency fund top-up.

Allocate Rs. 80,000 into mutual fund SIPs.

Invest another Rs. 25,000 in NPS Tier I for tax saving and retirement.

Use Rs. 30,000 to prepay part of the home loan (optional).

Rest can be kept for family needs and flexible savings.

Your SIP should include:

Large-cap actively managed fund

Flexi-cap fund

Hybrid aggressive fund

Balanced advantage fund

Each fund should match your risk profile and goal duration.

Debt Instruments Review
You have:

EPF – Rs. 24 lakh

PPF – Rs. 8 lakh

Sukanya Samriddhi – Rs. 1 lakh

NPS – Rs. 1 lakh

Analysis:

EPF and PPF are safe, long-term, and tax-free.

They offer low but guaranteed growth.

Don’t invest more into PPF now. Returns are slow.

Instead, increase NPS contribution for tax benefit and retirement.

For daughters:

Sukanya Samriddhi is good. Continue yearly contribution.

Don't go overboard. Fund their education through mutual funds also.

Equity Stocks – Handle with Caution
You hold Rs. 80,000 in direct stocks.

Suggestions:

Keep direct stocks only if you have time and knowledge.

Otherwise, shift funds to equity mutual funds.

Let experts manage stocks through mutual funds.

Don’t depend on stock tips or social media suggestions. Stay focused on long-term wealth building.

Home Loan Strategy
Your outstanding loan is Rs. 36 lakh. EMI is Rs. 50,000.

Suggestions:

Don't rush to close the loan unless you are nearing retirement.

Interest rates are now moderate.

Prepay small amounts yearly if you have excess cash.

But don’t compromise retirement corpus to close the loan early.

It’s better to invest and earn 11-12% than save 8% on loan interest.

Retirement Income Strategy
From age 50, your income will stop. Your savings must generate monthly income.

Suggestions:

Shift mutual fund investments slowly to balanced or hybrid funds.

Use Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) from mutual funds.

Avoid annuities. Returns are poor, and capital is locked.

Keep 3 years’ worth expenses in safe liquid mutual funds.

Don’t rely only on pension. Mix growth and income wisely.

Build a portfolio that can support you till 85-90 years.

Emergency and Liquidity Planning
As single earner, emergency fund is important.

Suggestions:

Keep 6 to 9 months of expenses in liquid mutual funds.

Don’t lock all money in long-term options.

Have a separate account for emergency cash.

Update all nominations. Keep documents handy.

Tax Efficiency Strategy
You are in the highest income tax slab.

Suggestions:

Use Section 80C through EPF, NPS, Sukanya, and ELSS.

Invest in NPS for Section 80CCD(1B) extra benefit.

Use mutual funds wisely to avoid unnecessary taxes.

Sell equity mutual funds after 1 year. LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Avoid short-term gains. They are taxed at 20%.

Mutual funds give flexibility. But use them smartly.

Goal-Based Investing for Daughters
Education and marriage are two important goals.

Suggestions:

Open separate SIPs for education and marriage goals.

Use aggressive hybrid or flexi-cap funds for education.

Use multi-cap and balanced funds for marriage.

Shift to debt funds slowly as the goal comes near.

Keep goals separate. Don’t mix them.

Review and Rebalancing
You must not ignore this step.

Suggestions:

Do yearly review with a Certified Financial Planner.

Check if asset allocation is as per goal timeline.

Shift from equity to debt slowly near goal years.

Don’t invest emotionally or by watching the market.

Stick to your plan. Avoid over-trading.

Final Insights
You are in a strong position. Income is good. Investments are spread well.

You have clear goals. You are serious about retirement. That’s a very positive sign.

But you need to act now. Because time is short. You want to retire in 8 years.

Start monthly SIPs in right mix of mutual funds. Use regular plans with CFP-backed distributor support.

Avoid index funds. They are passive. No decision-making during market changes.

Avoid direct plans. No guidance leads to wrong fund selection. That spoils the outcome.

Review your portfolio yearly. Rebalance as needed. Don’t let emotions decide investments.

Keep protection strong. Life and health insurance must be updated.

Separate your goals. One fund, one goal strategy works better.

Keep investing. Stay disciplined. And stay focused on your end goal – peaceful and early retirement.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 06, 2025Hindi
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I got 90.97 ile in mht cet and 81 ile in jee mains can i get into good colleges in cs or AIML ?
Ans: With a 90.97 percentile in MHT CET (approximate closing ranks between 1,500–4,000 for AI/ML and 9,000–12,000 for CSE in Maharashtra) and an 81 percentile in JEE Main (All-India rank ~200 000), these ten institutes offer achievable CS or AI/ML seats, all NBA/NAAC-accredited with PhD-qualified faculty, specialized labs, active placement cells (75–90% branch-wise placements over the last three years), robust industry tie-ups and mandatory internships:
PICT Pune Computer Engineering (1500–1540 rank) offers strong CS fundamentals; PICT AI & DS (1400–1450 rank) provides data-science specialisation; DJ Sanghvi College of Engineering Mumbai AI & ML (1600–1650 rank) focuses on machine-learning labs; VIT Bibwewadi Pune CSE (AI) (2900–2950 rank) integrates robotics and AI modules; Thadomal Shahani Engineering College Mumbai AI & DS (3750–3800 rank) emphasises analytics projects; Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering Pune AI & ML (3950–4000 rank) offers cloud-computing internships; Vishwakarma Institute of Technology Bibwewadi Pune CSE (AIML) (3950–4000 rank) blends software engineering and AI; Fr. C. Rodrigues College of Engineering Mumbai AI & DS (2250–2300 rank) has dedicated AI research centres; SPIT Mumbai CSE (12 000–14 000 rank) balances software and hardware domains; and JSPM Narhe Technical Campus Pune CSE (7 500–9 700 rank) features IoT and AI accelerators.

Recommendation:
For the best mix of CS breadth and AI specialisation, recommendation is PICT Pune CSE & AI & DS for its dual-track labs and ~85% placements. As strong alternatives, choose DJ Sanghvi AI & ML, PICT AI & DS, and VIT Bibwewadi CSE (AI) based on your preferred focus. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 06, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 05, 2025Hindi
Money
Sir im paying 65000 emi for a 80 lac home loan. If i pre pay 5lacs this yr. Will it deduct my principal amount or interest. Whats the advantage of prepayment. This is 2nd yr of my loan term of 20 yrs.
Ans: Understanding Home Loan EMI Structure

Every EMI has two parts: interest and principal.

In early years, interest portion is very high.

Principal repayment is low in the beginning.

Over time, interest reduces and principal increases.

Impact of Prepayment in 2nd Year

Prepayment goes directly towards principal.

It does not reduce the interest directly.

But it reduces total interest over the loan period.

After prepayment, your outstanding balance drops.

So future EMIs have lower interest burden.

Benefits of Prepaying Rs. 5 Lakhs Now

Reduces overall loan tenure or EMI outgo.

Saves a lot of future interest payments.

Helps build home equity faster.

Reduces total liability early in the loan cycle.

Option 1: Keep EMI Same, Reduce Tenure

Loan gets closed earlier than 20 years.

Maximum interest saved with this method.

Good if you can manage the same EMI.

Option 2: Reduce EMI, Keep Tenure Same

Monthly burden reduces.

Interest saved is lesser than Option 1.

Useful if you need more cash flow.

Which Option is Better?

Reducing tenure saves more interest.

Recommended if you can continue same EMI.

Better from wealth creation view also.

How Much Interest Can You Save?

You will save lakhs over the long term.

The earlier you prepay, the better the savings.

Interest saved is more in initial years.

Loan Amortisation Works in Reverse

Interest is front-loaded in a home loan.

So early prepayments have bigger impact.

Later prepayments have lesser benefit.

Should You Consider Prepayment Regularly?

Yes, make partial prepayments every year if possible.

Even Rs. 1–2 lakhs annually helps a lot.

It brings down total interest drastically.

How Prepayment Affects Tax Benefits

Interest deduction under Section 24(b) remains Rs. 2 lakhs per year.

Principal deduction under Section 80C is Rs. 1.5 lakhs per year.

Prepayment doesn’t reduce these deductions.

But faster closure means fewer years of tax benefit.

When to Avoid Prepayment?

If you have higher-interest debt, clear that first.

If liquidity is low, build emergency fund first.

Don’t use investments earning higher than home loan rate for prepayment.

Don’t compromise long-term goals like retirement for loan closure.

Consider These Before Prepaying

Keep at least 6–9 months’ expenses as emergency fund.

Don’t withdraw from PF or PPF for this.

Don’t redeem mutual funds with high potential return.

Prioritise financial goals first, then prepay.

Should You Continue or Increase EMI?

If income rises, consider increasing EMI too.

Every EMI hike reduces tenure further.

Combine prepayment with EMI increase for best results.

Long-Term Financial Impact of Prepayment

Reduces liability pressure in later years.

Helps you become debt-free early.

Creates mental peace and financial stability.

Frees up income for other investments later.

Common Misunderstandings About Prepayment

Some think interest gets adjusted directly. That’s incorrect.

Prepayment reduces the principal, not the interest.

But this reduces future interest outflow.

Some think small prepayment doesn’t help. Even small amounts matter.

Best Practices for Home Loan Management

Prepay more in first 5–7 years.

Avoid loan tenure extensions unless critical.

Avoid missing EMIs to protect credit score.

Don’t refinance unless rate benefit is over 0.5%.

Why Prepayment Is Smart in 2nd Year

Your interest share is very high now.

Every rupee paid now saves more than later.

Reduces the overall cost of the loan.

Also brings financial discipline.

Track Your Loan Statements

See how your prepayment reduces principal.

Track updated amortisation schedule.

It will show new tenure or EMI post-payment.

Ask bank to issue revised repayment schedule.

Should You Use Investments for Prepayment?

Avoid using the following:

PPF or EPF (long-term and tax-free).

High-performing mutual funds (higher return potential).

Emergency funds (keep intact for safety).
Use these instead:

Idle cash in savings account.

Low-return FDs (especially if post-tax return is less than loan rate).

Bonuses or windfalls.

Final Insights

Prepayment reduces interest and tenure.

Most useful when done in early years.

Use surplus cash without disturbing goal-based investments.

Choose tenure reduction over EMI reduction for maximum benefit.

Keep monitoring and prepay strategically over the years.

Do not over-leverage your liquidity for home loan closure.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 06, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 05, 2025Hindi
Money
Dear Sir, My age is 44 , I have two kids(daughters) of 8 and 5 years , I have one health insurance policy , One term insurance policy. Currently getting salary of 45,000/- Pm , Got own house, No loans as of now. I have investment of of 5 lakhs in FD , 5 lakh in PPF , 2 lakh bank balance. I want to plan my retirement daughters education and marriage. wanted to invest in stocks mutual and any other investment which will secure my future.
Ans: Your current situation reflects a solid foundation. At 44, with no loans, steady income, own house, good savings, insurance coverage, and two young daughters, you're ahead of many. You’re thinking ahead – retirement, daughters’ education, and marriage. That’s smart and responsible. Now, let’s look at a detailed, all-round financial strategy from all angles, keeping your goals in mind.

Understanding Your Present Financial Setup
You’re earning Rs. 45,000 per month. That’s your key cash inflow.

You’ve got:

Rs. 5 lakh in Fixed Deposit

Rs. 5 lakh in PPF

Rs. 2 lakh in bank savings

One term insurance policy

One health insurance policy

Own house

No loans

This is a clean and stable starting point. Your financial risks are low. That’s commendable.

But your investments are more in fixed return options. This will not beat long-term inflation. Let us now look at planning your future needs and aligning your money to each.

Priority Goals to Address
You have three clear financial goals:

Retirement

Daughters’ education

Daughters’ marriage

Each needs a different strategy. Let us plan for each goal separately.

Retirement Planning
You are 44 now. You may have around 16 years to plan for retirement.

Challenges:

You will not have salary after retirement.

Medical expenses may increase.

You need money for day-to-day life after 60.

Suggestions:

Avoid keeping too much in FDs. They don’t beat inflation.

PPF is safe, but it grows slowly and has a lock-in.

You need higher returns for long-term goals.

Action Steps:

Start monthly SIPs in actively managed mutual funds.

Keep investing till you reach retirement.

Increase SIPs every year as salary increases.

Combine large-cap, flexi-cap, and balanced advantage fund categories.

Don’t go for index funds. They just copy market. No flexibility.

Actively managed funds adjust during market fall. That gives safety.

Get help from a Mutual Fund Distributor who is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP).

Don’t go for direct mutual funds. No one will guide you. Mistakes can be costly.

With regular plans via CFP-MFD, you get full support. Also behavioural coaching.

Stick to funds with strong track record. Don’t change often.

Education Planning for Daughters
Your daughters are 8 and 5. You have 10-15 years before higher education.

Challenges:

Education costs are rising fast.

Inflation is higher in education sector.

You need money lump sum at that time.

Suggestions:

Begin separate mutual fund SIPs for each daughter.

Again, go for actively managed funds.

Avoid mixing insurance and investment.

Do not invest in child plans. They offer poor returns.

Keep FD and PPF for emergencies, not for education.

Action Steps:

You can use balanced advantage funds or multi-cap funds.

Review investments every 12 months.

Use SIPs. Start small. Increase yearly.

Have one goal-based investment for each daughter.

Avoid ULIPs or endowment plans. They are not fit for this goal.

Marriage Planning for Daughters
You may need funds in 15 to 20 years.

Challenges:

Not a fixed date like education. So, flexibility is needed.

Emotionally, you may not want to take risk close to that time.

Suggestions:

Use long-term mutual funds now.

Slowly move to low-risk options as the event gets closer.

Do not use gold schemes or traditional insurance for this.

Action Steps:

Start SIPs in diversified equity funds.

Around 5 years before marriage, shift from equity to hybrid funds.

Final 2 years, move fully to safe instruments like ultra-short funds.

Protecting Your Family
You have a term plan and health insurance. That’s good.

Check the following:

Term insurance must be at least 15 times your yearly income.

Health cover should include entire family, with Rs. 10 lakh coverage.

Add critical illness cover if not already there.

Avoid:

Insurance-cum-investment policies.

LIC traditional plans or ULIPs. Surrender them if you have any.

Reinvest surrender value in mutual funds via SIP.

Emergency Fund and Liquidity
Your Rs. 2 lakh bank balance is a good emergency buffer.

Suggestions:

Keep 6 months' expenses as emergency fund.

Keep this in liquid mutual fund or sweep-in FD.

Don’t invest emergency money in equity.

Tax-Saving Strategy
You already invest in PPF. That gives Section 80C benefit.

Suggestions:

Avoid locking entire 80C in one product.

Invest part in ELSS mutual fund through regular plan with CFP help.

ELSS gives better long-term returns than PPF.

Don’t go overboard with insurance for tax saving.

Rebalancing and Monitoring
Many people ignore this part. But it’s very important.

Suggestions:

Review portfolio once a year.

Rebalance asset allocation as per goal timelines.

If equity markets are too high or too low, make necessary shifts.

This prevents losses and manages risk.

Monthly Budget Discipline
Rs. 45,000 salary is decent, but needs wise handling.

Suggestions:

Track all expenses every month.

Follow 50:30:20 rule. (50% needs, 30% wants, 20% saving)

Slowly increase savings portion.

Don’t take personal loans or credit card loans.

Avoid investing in real estate again. It blocks liquidity.

Asset Allocation Guidance
You must divide money based on risk and goal timing.

Suggested mix:

Emergency Fund: Bank + Liquid fund

Short-Term Needs (

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 06, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 06, 2025Hindi
Career
Hello sir, My son scored AIR 7493 in JEE mains, AIR 9900 in JEE Advance, K-CET rank 138, MHT-CET 99.85 percentile, BITSAT 286 marks. Karnataka home state for 12th grade, parents with Maharashtra domicile. He got IIT Patna Mechanical engineering in JoSAA councilling. He may get BITs Goa or Hyderabad ECE. He may get CSE in Karnataka 's and Maharashtra's good private or Govt. engineering colleges. Which branch and college should be preferred for good future academic and professional growth? Please advise.
Ans: IIT Patna’s B.Tech Mechanical Engineering, an NBA- and NAAC-accredited programme, is delivered by PhD-qualified faculty in advanced manufacturing, CAD/CAM and thermofluids labs, integrates mandatory internships and records an 81.5% placement rate for Mechanical students over the past three years. BITS Pilani’s ECE at Goa and Hyderabad campuses, NBA-accredited with state-of-the-art VLSI, communications and IoT labs, sustains an ~81% overall placement consistency, with ECE cohorts typically matching this trend. CSE programmes in top Karnataka and Maharashtra institutes—such as COEP Pune, VJTI Mumbai, PESCE Mandya and DSCE Bengaluru—combine NAAC A+/NBA accreditation, specialized AI/ML and data-science facilities, strong corporate tie-ups and 80–90% branch-wise placement records. Accreditation ensures quality and global recognition; faculty expertise drives rigorous curricula; modern infrastructure (labs, makerspaces) underpins hands-on learning; industry collaborations and internships bolster employability; and consistent placement rates reflect sustained recruiter confidence.

Recommendation: (Order of Preference)
Given your son’s All-India ranks and state quotas, recommendation is IIT Patna (if location is OK for your son) Mechanical for its strong core-engineering training and reliable 81.5% placements. Next, choose BITS Goa/Hyderabad ECE for cutting-edge electronics exposure and ~81% placement consistency. For market-facing computing roles, consider COEP Pune CSE, VJTI Mumbai CSE, and RVCE-Bengaluru CSE in that order, leveraging their 85–90% branch placements and premier labs. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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