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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Aug 21, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 21, 2023Hindi

Relationship

If your husband asks you to wipe off your lipstick or doesn't hold your hand in public, how is it a sign of toxic behaviour? Is there something for us to learn from celeb couple behaviour that applies to our lives?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It entirely depends on the context. It's not always black or white. It can be interpreted in various ways depending on other factors in the relationship. To determine whether it is toxic, it is important to look at the broader pattern of behavior in the relationship, like if there's always a lack of respect or if one partner's wants and needs are always overshadowed by another's. It could be a sign of issues in a relationship or it might be a harmless request or preference. Or, it can even be that the person is an introvert and is not comfortable with public displays of affection.

It wouldn't be fair to make comments or pass judgment based on a few snippets of someone's life.

Best Wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 24, 2023Hindi

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What are the warning signs that your partner is a toxic one?

Ans: A- Dear Anonymous,

It is tricky to identify if your partner is toxic, or to recognize toxic traits but here are some behaviors that are considered toxic in most cases, but these too depend on the context.

• Jealousy- If your partner seems jealous every time you speak to the opposite sex or even of your success, it is ideally considered a toxic trait.
• Controlling- Trying to control how you carry yourself, whom you meet or even your social circle is a clear red flag. In every possible scenario, this is toxic.
• Keeping score- Yesterday you fought, so today your partner feels they are entitled to start a fight, or last week they sorted a fight so this week you should or the ball is in their court. If this is how your partner handles every situation and brings in a sense of competition in your relationship, it can be easily defined as an unhealthy relationship.
• Drama- Does your partner thrive on drama? No amount of love is worth it.
• Cheating- It goes without saying that cheating is a red flag. Not only if your partner has been physically involved with someone else but also if they are building a romantic emotional connection with someone.
• Trust issues- It can happen to the best of us, but if someone is suffering from trust issues, the onus is on them to sort it out instead of doubting their partner's every move.

If your partner exhibits one or all of these traits, it is best you have a clear discussion and point out the habits that are bothering you. But remember, some of these can be harmless based on the situation.

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 11, 2025Hindi

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My husband deletes our couple pics before posting on Instagram. He is okay with posting pictures of his friends. He says he wants to keep his family life private. I find it very odd. Is this secrecy a red flag? He doesn't smile in our pictures.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
First let’s talk about the not smiling part; that is common for many. It doesn’t necessarily have to mean anything bad. But coupled with the fact that he deletes the couple pics, it does raise a few red flags. I don’t want to outrightly say that it seems fishy but it doesn’t exactly scream green flag either. He might be telling the truth about keeping his family life private but I have to stress on the “might” here. And most importantly, your gut says it’s odd. Usually that happens only when we see other subtle signs. Please be cautious and if you ever think something more is going on, don’t hesitate to communicate your concerns. It’s the unsaid things that build up more tension in a marriage.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 30, 2025Hindi

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My partner gets angry over very small things. Last time, I didn't respond to his call for 15 minutes and he kept calling to check what happened. Earlier, I thought it was out of concern, but even if I meet my friends without telling him, he gets upset. We fight over little, trivial things, and he would later say he didn’t mean it. I am scared to speak my mind. I don't know what will make him angry. How do I know if this is a toxic relationship?

Ans: I am scared to speak my mind. you said this. This will end up becoming a relationship you will not wish to be in.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 01, 2025Hindi

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Not happy with previous answer. Asking again. My boyfriend gets angry over very small things. Last time, I didn't respond to his call for 15 minutes and he kept calling to check what happened. Earlier, I thought it was out of concern, but even if I meet my friends without telling him, he gets upset. We fight over little, trivial things, and he would later say he didn’t mean it. I am scared to speak my mind. I don't know what will make him angry. How do I know if this is a toxic relationship? We know each other for 3 years now

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you are scared to speak your mind out, then you are obviously in a relationship that is suffocating you...It can be toxic at few and many levels. Evaluate what this relationship is giving you that you are still in it; the moment you know that moving out might offer you your freedom and space to breathe, you may start to think differently about your boyfriend and the relationship.
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 30, 2026Hindi

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My bf checks my phone without permission. I am in a two-year relationship with my boyfriend, and initially everything felt perfect, but now he constantly criticises what I wear, who I talk to, and even checks my phone's notifications. Last week, he created a scene at my friend’s birthday party because I was talking to a male colleague. He even blamed me for “disrespecting” the relationship and did not speak to me for two days. I feel mentally exhausted trying to explain but he says he is too committed and wants to know if I am genuinely interested in a life ahead with him. Part of me is also scared of losing him because he was there for me during a difficult phase in my life. When I explain something and he apologises, I see a side to him which makes it harder to leave. My friends who have not met him feel this is a toxic red flag behaviour . Do you think they could be right or is this something that can improve with time? How do I understand if this relationship is turning emotionally abusive?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how exhausting it can be to be constantly doubted when you are not doing anything wrong. Well, your friends’ opinion, while a bit harsh, is not completely wrong. It is a toxic pattern and it needs to be checked if you want to have a healthy relationship. You need to have an open discussion about this with him; tell him how it makes you feel whenever he suspects you of some wrongdoing. Also ask him why does he feel this way so often when every time it is proven that you are loyal to the relationship and him. It is important to understand what is the root cause of this mistrust. This is the only way to move ahead with this relationship and not lose your sanity. If, even after the talk, he continues to exhibit the same behavioural pattern, I would recommend you rethink the relationship because it won’t be an easy life, where you have to constantly prove your innocence. Relationships aren’t based just on love; it needs mutual trust and respect to grow.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 23, 2026Hindi

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Hello sir My son gets 35210 rank in mains, resident of Maharashtra, looking for CSE/ECS/EE What are possibilities Please guide on IIITs like Surat, vadodara, nagpur and Bhopal

Ans: At CRL 35,210, General male, Maharashtra, CSE in top NITs is difficult, but strong chances exist for CSE/ECE in several IIITs and ECE/EE in some NITs/GFTIs. JoSAA confirms Open-seat cut-offs are based on CRL rank.

For your target IIITs:
IIIT Surat – CSE is borderline/tough, but ECE is realistic. In 2025, IIIT Surat ECE closed around 31k–33k+, while CSE was around 24k–26k in regular rounds.
IIIT Vadodara / IIIT-Vadodara International Campus Diu – better chances for CSE/ECE, especially Diu campus.
IIIT Nagpur – ECE/EE-related branches possible; CSE tougher.
IIIT Bhopal – CSE tough but ECE/IT-related options possible.

Also try VNIT Nagpur (EE/Mechanical), MANIT Bhopal, SVNIT Surat, NIT Raipur, NIT Jalandhar for ECE/EE/lower CSE-allied branches. Backup: CSAB, MHT-CET CAP counselling, COEP/VJTI/SPIT/PICT, and good private colleges. Prioritise branch interest over only institute tag.

At CRL 35,210, General male, Maharashtra, CSE in top NITs is difficult, but strong chances exist for CSE/ECE in several IIITs and ECE/EE in some NITs/GFTIs. JoSAA confirms Open-seat cut-offs are based on CRL rank.

For your target IIITs:
IIIT Surat – CSE is borderline/tough, but ECE is realistic. In 2025, IIIT Surat ECE closed around 31k–33k+, while CSE was around 24k–26k in regular rounds.
IIIT Vadodara / IIIT-Vadodara International Campus Diu – better chances for CSE/ECE, especially Diu campus.
IIIT Nagpur – ECE/EE-related branches possible; CSE tougher.
IIIT Bhopal – CSE tough but ECE/IT-related options possible.

Also try VNIT Nagpur (EE/Mechanical), MANIT Bhopal, SVNIT Surat, NIT Raipur, NIT Jalandhar for ECE/EE/lower CSE-allied branches. Backup: CSAB, MHT-CET CAP counselling, COEP/VJTI/SPIT/PICT, and good private colleges. Prioritise branch interest over only institute tag.

At CRL 35,210, General male, Maharashtra, CSE in top NITs is difficult, but strong chances exist for CSE/ECE in several IIITs and ECE/EE in some NITs/GFTIs. JoSAA confirms Open-seat cut-offs are based on CRL rank.

For your target IIITs:
IIIT Surat – CSE is borderline/tough, but ECE is realistic. In 2025, IIIT Surat ECE closed around 31k–33k+, while CSE was around 24k–26k in regular rounds.
IIIT Vadodara / IIIT-Vadodara International Campus Diu – better chances for CSE/ECE, especially Diu campus.
IIIT Nagpur – ECE/EE-related branches possible; CSE tougher.
IIIT Bhopal – CSE tough but ECE/IT-related options possible.

Also try VNIT Nagpur (EE/Mechanical), MANIT Bhopal, SVNIT Surat, NIT Raipur, NIT Jalandhar for ECE/EE/lower CSE-allied branches. Backup: CSAB, MHT-CET CAP counselling, COEP/VJTI/SPIT/PICT, and good private colleges. Prioritise branch interest over only institute tag.

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At CRL 35,210, General male, Maharashtra, CSE in top NITs is difficult, but strong chances exist for CSE/ECE in several IIITs and ECE/EE in some NITs/GFTIs. JoSAA confirms Open-seat cut-offs are based on CRL rank.

For your target IIITs:
IIIT Surat – CSE is borderline/tough, but ECE is realistic. In 2025, IIIT Surat ECE closed around 31k–33k+, while CSE was around 24k–26k in regular rounds.
IIIT Vadodara / IIIT-Vadodara International Campus Diu – better chances for CSE/ECE, especially Diu campus.
IIIT Nagpur – ECE/EE-related branches possible; CSE tougher.
IIIT Bhopal – CSE tough but ECE/IT-related options possible.

Also try VNIT Nagpur (EE/Mechanical), MANIT Bhopal, SVNIT Surat, NIT Raipur, NIT Jalandhar for ECE/EE/lower CSE-allied branches. Backup: CSAB, MHT-CET CAP counselling, COEP/VJTI/SPIT/PICT, and good private colleges. Prioritise branch interest over only institute tag.

At CRL 35,210, General male, Maharashtra, CSE in top NITs is difficult, but strong chances exist for CSE/ECE in several IIITs and ECE/EE in some NITs/GFTIs. JoSAA confirms Open-seat cut-offs are based on CRL rank.

For your target IIITs:
IIIT Surat – CSE is borderline/tough, but ECE is realistic. In 2025, IIIT Surat ECE closed around 31k–33k+, while CSE was around 24k–26k in regular rounds.
IIIT Vadodara / IIIT-Vadodara International Campus Diu – better chances for CSE/ECE, especially Diu campus.
IIIT Nagpur – ECE/EE-related branches possible; CSE tougher.
IIIT Bhopal – CSE tough but ECE/IT-related options possible.

Also try VNIT Nagpur (EE/Mechanical), MANIT Bhopal, SVNIT Surat, NIT Raipur, NIT Jalandhar for ECE/EE/lower CSE-allied branches. Backup: CSAB, MHT-CET CAP counselling, COEP/VJTI/SPIT/PICT, and good private colleges. Prioritise branch interest over only institute tag.

For your son's rank, CSE in top NITs is difficult, but strong chances exist for CSE/ECE in several IIITs and ECE/EE in some NITs/GFTIs. JoSAA confirms Open-seat cut-offs are based on CRL rank.

You can try for IIIT Surat – CSE is borderline/tough, but ECE is realistic. In 2025, IIIT Surat ECE closed around 31k–33k+, while CSE was around 24k–26k in regular rounds. IIIT Vadodara / IIIT-Vadodara International Campus Diu – better chances for CSE/ECE, especially Diu campus. IIIT Nagpur – ECE/EE-related branches possible; CSE tougher. IIIT Bhopal – CSE tough but ECE/IT-related options possible. You can also try VNIT Nagpur (EE/Mechanical), MANIT Bhopal, SVNIT Surat, NIT Raipur, NIT Jalandhar for ECE/EE/lower CSE-allied branches. Have the following backups: CSAB, MHT-CET CAP counselling, COEP/VJTI/SPIT/PICT, and good private colleges. Prioritise branch interest over only institute tag. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 24, 2026Hindi

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My son jee mains 30000 rank General category me kya koi NIIT or IIIT CSE or ECE , Milsakta hai ? Kindly Advise

Ans: You have not mentioned your son's home state. Given his rank, securing a CSE seat in NITs may be challenging, but admission to ECE in some NITs and CSE/IT/ECE in several IIITs is more realistic, especially during the later JoSAA and CSAB rounds. Consider applying to IIIT Una, IIIT Kottayam, IIIT Dharwad, IIIT Kalyani, IIIT Bhagalpur, IIIT Raichur, IIIT Manipur, and IIIT Agartala. For ECE, newer and mid-tier NITs and IIITs are good options. The CSAB special rounds are crucial as they fill vacant seats after JoSAA. It is also important for your son to have backup options through GFTIs, state counseling, and reputable private CSE colleges. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Question by kaivalya - Apr 24, 2026Hindi

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ihave got 92.67 in jee 2026. what is the option now

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Question by Aryan - Apr 24, 2026Hindi

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My son got 170000 rank in jee main...nd my son want cse branch...is it possible in any good nd reputed government college?

Ans: Admission to top NITS/IIITs seems unlikely. You can try lower-ranked govt colleges/IIITs or state colleges for CSE, or consider other branches in NITs via CSAB.

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Question by sreenivasulu - Apr 23, 2026Hindi

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My daughter got jee mains 89.28 percentile /ews.in which colleges she will get admission

Ans: You have not mentioned your daughter's home state. Anyway, please note, with an 89.28 percentile as an EWS female candidate, the chances of securing a CSE seat in top NITs or IIITs are low. However, she may have opportunities in lower-ranked branches at newer NITs, some IIITs, and GFTIs, with better prospects during the CSAB special rounds. You can consider applying to IIIT Kurnool, IIIT Manipur, IIIT Dharwad, IIIT Raichur, IIIT Bhagalpur, IIIT Kalyani, and various GFTIs. While CSE and ECE seats may be challenging to obtain, other branches might become available in later rounds or through CSAB. It is advisable to also explore backup options through state counseling and reputable private universities. ALL the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 23, 2026Hindi

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Dear sir, Im based at chandigarh.My daughter got rank 99510 general in jee 2026,chandigarh home state. Is there any chance of getting admission in chandigarh or near Chandigarh, Mumbai, hyderabad.cs,ece for Btech

Ans: You can try PEC Chandigarh through JAC Chandigarh separately, not JoSAA. Through JoSAA/CSAB, fill IIIT Una, IIIT Sonepat, IIIT Kalyani, IIIT Bhagalpur, IIIT Manipur, IIIT Raichur, IIIT Dharwad, but CSE/ECE may mostly depend on CSAB vacancy movement. You must have backup options of JAC Chandigarh, HSTES Haryana, Punjab colleges, IPU Delhi, Private Universities, and State counselling. Prioritise branch interest + placement record, not only institute tag. ALL the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Hello Sir, my daughter got 50564 rank in JEE mains 2026, in General category. Any chances in any of the NIT's in South India? Why beaches can she apply to?

Ans: Chances with South NITs are slim. You may try for lower branches in lower NITs. Yet the chances are on the borderline. Better to keep an alternative option open.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 23, 2026Hindi

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My son got 98.2 percentile in JEE mains and rank of 28550, has domicile of UP. Which all places he is likely to get good branch like CSE?

Ans: At CRL 28,550, NIT CSE is difficult, including MNNIT Allahabad CSE. Better CSE chances are in IIITs, especially IIIT Bhagalpur, IIIT Kalyani, IIIT Agartala, IIIT Raichur, IIIT Dharwad, IIIT Manipur, IIIT Kottayam, IIIT Una/Sonepat in later rounds or CSAB. Some 2024 IIIT CSE closing ranks crossed 30k–37k. Also fill ECE/IT/AI-related branches in better IIITs and lower NIT branches. Have CSAB as a backup option. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 23, 2026Hindi

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Hi Sir, My Son has score 98.4 percentile in JEE Mains 2026 and CRL is 25624. We are General Category, Gender-Neutral and Home state is Telangana. He is more interest in Mechanical Stream for the b.Tech. Can you please advise best possible college options for him?

Ans: At CRL 25,624, General male, Telangana HS, Mechanical is a realistic target. NIT Warangal Mechanical may be difficult in regular JoSAA, as recent HS Open Mechanical closing ranks were around 15k–17k in early 2025 rounds and around 15k in 2024 Round 1. Better Mechanical options: NIT Calicut, NIT Rourkela, NIT Durgapur, NIT Patna, NIT Raipur, MANIT Bhopal, VNIT Nagpur, NIT Jalandhar, NIT Silchar, plus CSAB round. Also consider NIT Warangal Metallurgy/Chemical/Civil. dditionally, please review the JoSAA opening and closing ranks from the last 2-3 years to gain further insights and better understand admission trends. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Question by Dinesh - Apr 23, 2026Hindi

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Mere bete ka IIT jii main maine 85 percetile hai, 12th pass sikar se kiya hai. Home town UP main hai, category General hai 12th marks 85 percentage hai. AI, cse, kaha par batter chance hain, abhi delhi main hai. Aur kya kar sakta hai .pl advise

Ans: Dinesh Sir, CSAB Special Rounds try karo, GFTIs/newer institutes mein lower branches, aur private/state options. Sikar se padha hai to confirm karo ki Home State eligibility Rajasthan school state follow karega ya UP hometown. JoSAA & CSAB pe sirf depend mat karo, ye backups rakho: AKTU/UP counselling, REAP Rajasthan, IPU Delhi, BCA/B.Sc IT, Private CSE/AI colleges. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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