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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 21, 2023Hindi
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If your husband asks you to wipe off your lipstick or doesn't hold your hand in public, how is it a sign of toxic behaviour? Is there something for us to learn from celeb couple behaviour that applies to our lives?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It entirely depends on the context. It's not always black or white. It can be interpreted in various ways depending on other factors in the relationship. To determine whether it is toxic, it is important to look at the broader pattern of behavior in the relationship, like if there's always a lack of respect or if one partner's wants and needs are always overshadowed by another's. It could be a sign of issues in a relationship or it might be a harmless request or preference. Or, it can even be that the person is an introvert and is not comfortable with public displays of affection.

It wouldn't be fair to make comments or pass judgment based on a few snippets of someone's life.

Best Wishes!

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Dear RT,

He’s playing the cool guy who wants it all and when doesn’t get it wants to act all hurt and instead of taking responsibility of his emotions finds it convenient to blame you and make you feel guilty for not fulfilling his emotional and physical needs.

How do you solve something like this? Kindly ask him to speak to someone who can make him see sense else all you will do is clean up the mess caused by his baseless emotions.

This will be the constant pattern until he realises that his self-esteem and self-worth are not something that others can create for him.

If he refuses external help, do ask a person close to him to drive some sense into his thoughts where he sees an alternate perspective.

To keep your sanity intact, dissociate from his emotions and start behaving like they don’t impact you; over time you will realise that he is just trying to be a child asking for your attention in an inappropriate way.

Take time our for yourself to indulge in a lot of self-care and self-love that will go a long way in managing your emotions and self-worth as well.

Depending on him for your sanity at this point in time is like hitting your head against the wall.

So, be right to yourself from this moment on and make sure that you spend a lot of time nurturing the children as much as you nurture yourself.

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how to explain a meetoo victim spouse to deal in public when she considers every men as predator - even male doctor, male friends, her students, her male colleagues, rickshaw driver,co passengers in bus, train, etc.Yes she faces brushing even now due to voluptous physique
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Firstly, stop calling her a MeToo victim when the event is over. The victim tag will cause her to feel more like one. It's time to move on by learning a lesson on how to respond to a situation rather than dwell on WHY it happened. It's rather sad that she has chosen to be nervous around men; all men are not predators, but in her mind, they all are...
This fear is only growing and she will need the help of a professional to rewrite this part of her life in order to live free from that fear and also knowing how to feel empowered in public places. Kindly seek an appointment with an expert as soon as possible.
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It's sad that as women we find it hard to feel safe, but the truth is that certain public places are not safe and that can include public transport.
Calling out to other women in the public transport for help and support may also give her the feeling that she need not be silent and can CALL OUT this behaviour. It can very well act as a deterrent.
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It is tricky to identify if your partner is toxic, or to recognize toxic traits but here are some behaviors that are considered toxic in most cases, but these too depend on the context.

• Jealousy- If your partner seems jealous every time you speak to the opposite sex or even of your success, it is ideally considered a toxic trait.
• Controlling- Trying to control how you carry yourself, whom you meet or even your social circle is a clear red flag. In every possible scenario, this is toxic.
• Keeping score- Yesterday you fought, so today your partner feels they are entitled to start a fight, or last week they sorted a fight so this week you should or the ball is in their court. If this is how your partner handles every situation and brings in a sense of competition in your relationship, it can be easily defined as an unhealthy relationship.
• Drama- Does your partner thrive on drama? No amount of love is worth it.
• Cheating- It goes without saying that cheating is a red flag. Not only if your partner has been physically involved with someone else but also if they are building a romantic emotional connection with someone.
• Trust issues- It can happen to the best of us, but if someone is suffering from trust issues, the onus is on them to sort it out instead of doubting their partner's every move.

If your partner exhibits one or all of these traits, it is best you have a clear discussion and point out the habits that are bothering you. But remember, some of these can be harmless based on the situation.

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