Home > Relationship > Question
Need Expert Advice?Our Gurus Can Help
Ravi

Ravi Mittal  |634 Answers  |Ask -

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Aug 21, 2023

Ravi Mittal is an expert on dating and relationships.
He founded QuackQuack, an online dating platform, in 2010 with just two people. Today, it has over 20 million users in India.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Aug 21, 2023Hindi
Listen
Relationship

If your husband asks you to wipe off your lipstick or doesn't hold your hand in public, how is it a sign of toxic behaviour? Is there something for us to learn from celeb couple behaviour that applies to our lives?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It entirely depends on the context. It's not always black or white. It can be interpreted in various ways depending on other factors in the relationship. To determine whether it is toxic, it is important to look at the broader pattern of behavior in the relationship, like if there's always a lack of respect or if one partner's wants and needs are always overshadowed by another's. It could be a sign of issues in a relationship or it might be a harmless request or preference. Or, it can even be that the person is an introvert and is not comfortable with public displays of affection.

It wouldn't be fair to make comments or pass judgment based on a few snippets of someone's life.

Best Wishes!

You may like to see similar questions and answers below

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1679 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 27, 2022

Listen
Relationship
 I have been married for 9 years now with 3 kids. But my husband negates everything I say to him thinking I want to hurt him. When he says something and I try to see it the other way, he sees it as confrontational and also flares up during the conversation. He does not allow me to talk saying he already knows what is in mind. He complaints about everything in the house. In terms of sex, he does not want to know if I am tired or sick.Even though we usually make love at least two times in a week, he talks as if he is denied of his rights. He says any time he wants, he must have it. The main issue now is I’ve noticed he has locked his phone. I know he has a date with someone because he told me he has a concert to attend and won't be coming home that night. When I asked if I could go with him, he said No. Now that I have also locked my phone, he's accusing me of infidelity.
Ans:

Dear RT,

He’s playing the cool guy who wants it all and when doesn’t get it wants to act all hurt and instead of taking responsibility of his emotions finds it convenient to blame you and make you feel guilty for not fulfilling his emotional and physical needs.

How do you solve something like this? Kindly ask him to speak to someone who can make him see sense else all you will do is clean up the mess caused by his baseless emotions.

This will be the constant pattern until he realises that his self-esteem and self-worth are not something that others can create for him.

If he refuses external help, do ask a person close to him to drive some sense into his thoughts where he sees an alternate perspective.

To keep your sanity intact, dissociate from his emotions and start behaving like they don’t impact you; over time you will realise that he is just trying to be a child asking for your attention in an inappropriate way.

Take time our for yourself to indulge in a lot of self-care and self-love that will go a long way in managing your emotions and self-worth as well.

Depending on him for your sanity at this point in time is like hitting your head against the wall.

So, be right to yourself from this moment on and make sure that you spend a lot of time nurturing the children as much as you nurture yourself.

All the best!

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1679 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 14, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 11, 2023Hindi
Listen
how to explain a meetoo victim spouse to deal in public when she considers every men as predator - even male doctor, male friends, her students, her male colleagues, rickshaw driver,co passengers in bus, train, etc.Yes she faces brushing even now due to voluptous physique
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Firstly, stop calling her a MeToo victim when the event is over. The victim tag will cause her to feel more like one. It's time to move on by learning a lesson on how to respond to a situation rather than dwell on WHY it happened. It's rather sad that she has chosen to be nervous around men; all men are not predators, but in her mind, they all are...
This fear is only growing and she will need the help of a professional to rewrite this part of her life in order to live free from that fear and also knowing how to feel empowered in public places. Kindly seek an appointment with an expert as soon as possible.
So what if she is voluptuous, that does not give anyone the right to treat her as an object. A couple of Self-defence classes might help not to attack but to know that she can defend when necessary.
It's sad that as women we find it hard to feel safe, but the truth is that certain public places are not safe and that can include public transport.
Calling out to other women in the public transport for help and support may also give her the feeling that she need not be silent and can CALL OUT this behaviour. It can very well act as a deterrent.
These are a few suggestions, but the fear first must be pulled out of the roots and thrown out ASAP. She needs to get the confidence back to empower herself no matter what. Be there for her patiently and lovingly.

All the best!

..Read more

Ravi

Ravi Mittal  |634 Answers  |Ask -

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Aug 24, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 24, 2023Hindi
Listen
Relationship
What are the warning signs that your partner is a toxic one?
Ans: A- Dear Anonymous,

It is tricky to identify if your partner is toxic, or to recognize toxic traits but here are some behaviors that are considered toxic in most cases, but these too depend on the context.

• Jealousy- If your partner seems jealous every time you speak to the opposite sex or even of your success, it is ideally considered a toxic trait.
• Controlling- Trying to control how you carry yourself, whom you meet or even your social circle is a clear red flag. In every possible scenario, this is toxic.
• Keeping score- Yesterday you fought, so today your partner feels they are entitled to start a fight, or last week they sorted a fight so this week you should or the ball is in their court. If this is how your partner handles every situation and brings in a sense of competition in your relationship, it can be easily defined as an unhealthy relationship.
• Drama- Does your partner thrive on drama? No amount of love is worth it.
• Cheating- It goes without saying that cheating is a red flag. Not only if your partner has been physically involved with someone else but also if they are building a romantic emotional connection with someone.
• Trust issues- It can happen to the best of us, but if someone is suffering from trust issues, the onus is on them to sort it out instead of doubting their partner's every move.

If your partner exhibits one or all of these traits, it is best you have a clear discussion and point out the habits that are bothering you. But remember, some of these can be harmless based on the situation.

Best Wishes.

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1679 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 12, 2025

Latest Questions
Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |10358 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Aug 18, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 17, 2025Hindi
Career
My son got IIIT Nagpur CS Also getting coep CS now. There's a confusion if we should go with iiit or to choose coep Can you please guide
Ans: COEP Pune’s Computer Science program is renowned for academic excellence, historic reputation, and strong industry ties, boasting a consistent placement rate of 87–95% over the last three years, with the branch frequently achieving the highest campus placement numbers in Maharashtra. Its advanced curriculum, state-of-the-art labs, active student clubs, and frequent corporate collaborations give students wide exposure and a robust learning experience, while alumni enjoy high employability both in India and abroad. In contrast, IIIT Nagpur, though a rapidly growing institution with modern infrastructure and impressive recent CSE placement rates between 88–96%, is a newer player, attracting top recruiters but still building its brand value and breadth of alumni network. Both campuses offer competent faculty, hands-on internships, and dynamic peer communities; however, COEP’s government legacy, network, and higher national ranking (NIRF top 100) give it a clear edge in career prospects and future flexibility.

Recommendation: COEP Pune CSE should be prioritized for its historic legacy, superior placements, robust industry connections, and broader global recognition, followed by IIIT Nagpur CSE for its innovative environment and rising placement outcomes. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |10358 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Aug 18, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 18, 2025Hindi
Career
Hello sir, my son is getting admission in IIIT bho p al CSE, CSE in KNIT Sultanpur and mining in IISERNIT Shivpur. Which one is best ?
Ans: IIIT Bhopal’s CSE program is distinguished by its modern curriculum, industry integration, and consistently high placement rates of 84.9–100% for CSE graduates in the last three years; major tech companies recruit regularly and the student experience is enhanced by strong mentorship and advanced labs. KNIT Sultanpur’s CSE offers solid fundamental learning with decent placement rates of 70–85% and growing industry engagement; however, students report fewer advanced electives and comparatively lower national exposure despite active peer learning and participation in coding events. IISER NIT Shivpur's (IIEST Shibpur) mining engineering branch is nationally respected, with 78–83% placement rates, rigorous curriculum, research opportunities, and good government sector prospects, but private sector mobility and tech exposure remain limited compared to CSE branches. All three institutions have credible faculty, adequate infrastructure, and active campus networks, but CSE streams have wider scope and global relevance in current job markets.

Recommendation: IIIT Bhopal CSE is the first preference for premier placement prospects, national exposure, and broad technology career options, followed by KNIT Sultanpur CSE for stable opportunities; IISER NIT Shivpur mining suits those keen on government or specialized roles. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |10358 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Aug 18, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 17, 2025Hindi
Career
I am confuse choosing branch mechanical engineering vs eee which is better for private sector and getting job
Ans: Mechanical Engineering and Electrical & Electronics Engineering (EEE) offer diverse opportunities in the private sector, yet differ significantly in scope and job demand. Mechanical Engineering graduates find employment in manufacturing, automotive, robotics, aerospace, energy, and construction, often as design, production, quality control or R&D engineers; recent industry trends also favor interdisciplinary roles integrating mechanical with automation, MEP (Mechanical, Electrical, and Plumbing), and smart manufacturing. Brands such as Tata Motors, L&T, Mahindra, and Siemens regularly recruit mechanical engineers, with 70–90% placement records at established private institutes. EEE’s scope is broader and rapidly growing, supported by the surge in renewable energy, smart grids, electric vehicles, telecom, semiconductor, and IT sectors. EEE graduates are recruited by top multinational and Indian firms for roles in automation, chip design, instrumentation, power systems, cyber security, and even software projects, with private sector placement rates reaching 80–95% in leading colleges. Demand for EEE engineers is projected to increase by 65% in India by 2025, driven by Industry 4.0, government investment, new energy initiatives, and digital transformation across businesses. Both branches value analytical, technical, and programming skills, but EEE offers greater cross-sector flexibility, especially for those interested in digital transformation, data science, AI, or emerging tech, while mechanical has strong fundamentals and traditional industrial roles. The five key aspects for both branches—placement rates, industry demand, future prospects, skill versatility, and global opportunities—skew more favorably toward EEE in current private sector scenarios.

Recommendation: EEE is preferable for private sector careers, offering higher placement rates, faster growth, broader cross-industry flexibility, and greater entry into emerging technology sectors, making it the best choice for future-proof employability. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |10358 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Aug 18, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 17, 2025Hindi
Career
My son is greeting CSE in Amity Manesar.....pls advise
Ans: Amity University Manesar’s BTech in Computer Science Engineering offers a comprehensive curriculum with key specialisations such as AI, Data Science, Cybersecurity, and Cloud Computing, backed by industry-oriented electives and a major project component. The campus provides robust infrastructure—AC classrooms, Wi-Fi, quality hostels, advanced labs—and a vibrant learning environment with clubs and technical societies. Faculty have solid credentials and foster both practical skills and soft skill development, complemented by regular industrial visits and workshops. Placement statistics over the last three years have ranged from 45% to 90% for CSE students, depending on academic performance and participation in internships, with many students recruited by tech and ITES firms including Capgemini, TCS, and Yamaha. The corporate resource centre ensures career guidance, and students benefit from continuous curriculum updates, though student reviews mention variable external campus life quality and room for improvement in placement outcomes for average performers.

Recommendation: Amity Manesar CSE is best suited for students seeking a multidisciplinary environment, modern infrastructure, active campus life, and solid faculty support, with good placement prospects for high achievers. All the BEST for your son's Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |10358 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Aug 18, 2025

DISCLAIMER: The content of this post by the expert is the personal view of the rediffGURU. Investment in securities market are subject to market risks. Read all the related document carefully before investing. The securities quoted are for illustration only and are not recommendatory. Users are advised to pursue the information provided by the rediffGURU only as a source of information and as a point of reference and to rely on their own judgement when making a decision. RediffGURUS is an intermediary as per India's Information Technology Act.

Close  

You haven't logged in yet. To ask a question, Please Log in below
Login

A verification OTP will be sent to this
Mobile Number / Email

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to

Resend OTP in120seconds

Dear User, You have not registered yet. Please register by filling the fields below to get expert answers from our Gurus
Sign up

By signing up, you agree to our
Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy

Already have an account?

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to Mobile

Resend OTP in120seconds

x