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Ravi Question by Ravi on Aug 01, 2023Hindi
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how to make strong relation with in arrange marriage?

Ans: Dear Ravi,
There are a few things that might work:
1. Start first by being friends rather than just spouses to one another
2. Learn about each other's likes and dislikes
3. Share about one another's happy and not-so-happy moments
4. Speak about what your goals are in life
5. Understand when your partner wants to start a family or not
6. Find out what he/she thinks about money management
7. Learn to understand each other's desires within and outside the bedroom
8. Travel a lot together
9. Take part in household activities

The above goes for love marriages as well but just that in an arranged marriage, you need to make an effort to welcome the other person into your life and learn all that you can about them.

All the best!

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I am in toxcis relationship how to get uot
Ans: Dear Jyoti,

I know it's a hard to break relationship where you have invested so much, and deciding to leave the toxicity is the first step that you have already taken and should be proud of.


Cut Off Contact

It will be crucial for you to cut off contact with your ex once the relationship has ended. Keeping in contact with your ex opens the door to getting back together. Toxic people can be emotionally manipulative and may use emotional blackmail to lure you back in. When you decide to leave your partner, end any form of communication with them unless you share children and need to co-parent. If this is the case, only communicate about the children.

Unfollow Them on Social Media

Seeing your ex across social media will keep the memory of the relationship fresh, so it’s crucial that you block them on your phone and find ways to avoid running into them in person. These actions will set a clear boundary that the toxic relationship is over, and help you stop thinking about them altogether.



Know That You Deserve Better

Months or years of being verbally abused or told you will never find anyone better can wear a person down, and you might start to believe it. But this is not true. Tearing down self-esteem and self-worth is the technique toxic partners use to keep their partner trapped in the relationship. Let “I deserve better!” become your daily mantra, by replacing negative beliefs about your self-worth with positive, affirming ones. You need to move forward for your own mental and emotional well-being.

Seek Professional Help From a Therapist

Depending on the level of seriousness, leaving a toxic relationship can require help in creating a game plan. Confiding in friends and family or finding a therapist ;to speak with can be helpful as well. A good therapist can help you cope, rebuild your sense of self-worth, and address any safety issues. A therapist can be an unbiased resource to guide you and hold you accountable for creating goals and sticking to them.

Build a safety net: If you're thinking of calling it quits, make a plan for how you are going to deal with the transition. Where will you stay? What possessions will you need to bring along? Don’t do this haphazardly. This process should be well thought out.

Set a goal to be independent: If you do not have a career or a way to support yourself, it is time to begin carving this path. Go to school, get training, begin a job (even a low-level or part-time job). Your financial independence is one of the main roads to freedom.

No more secrets. Confide in a family member or friend so that they can help you with the process. If you feel threatened, inform the local authorities that you are going to need help.




Being part of a toxic relationship is extremely detrimental to your self-esteem and mental health. It may take some time before you are ready to be part of another relationship. Don’t rush this. Take time for yourself. To help yourself recover, make time for hobbies. Start working on a pet project or your own business. Take that trip you've always wanted to go on.



Take care of yourself: Getting out of a toxic relationship can be emotionally draining. Take care of yourself by practicing self-care, such as exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough rest. Seek therapy if necessary to work through any emotional trauma from the relationship.

Remember, ending a toxic relationship takes courage, but it's a necessary step towards a happier and healthier life. It's important to recognize your self-worth and prioritize your well-being

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Hello I am 41 years old but due to careless in life I can't take decision for marriage but now I am realising something wrong happened i started searching alliance but didn't get I want to be relation soon. Please guide me
Ans: It’s completely okay to have taken time figuring out what you wanted in life. Sometimes we don’t move forward simply because we weren’t ready, or we lacked the clarity or emotional support needed at the time. But that doesn't mean you're behind. Everyone’s timeline is different, and yours is still very much unfolding.

Now that you're feeling ready for a serious relationship, here are a few steps you can take to approach this new chapter with confidence and self-awareness.

Start with clarity. Reflect on what kind of partner you're looking for—not just in terms of age or background, but emotionally and mentally. What values matter to you? What kind of connection are you seeking? Are you open to someone who has been married before? Children? When you’re clear, it becomes easier to recognize the right person when they appear.

At the same time, look inward. Do some emotional housekeeping. Ask yourself: What kind of partner do I want to be? Am I emotionally available? Am I still carrying regret, fear, or pressure about being “late” to marriage? Because entering a relationship out of guilt or urgency often leads to settling. But entering it from a place of self-respect and genuine desire creates something meaningful.

Since you're actively searching, it’s okay to use all tools at your disposal—matrimonial sites, family networks, friends, or even a good matchmaker if culturally appropriate. But be patient and realistic. Finding someone who is also ready, aligned with your values, and emotionally compatible can take time.

Also, try not to let pressure—internal or external—rush you. You don’t need a "perfect" partner; you need someone who sees you, respects you, and is willing to grow with you.

And here’s something to hold on to: many people find love in their 40s, 50s, even later—and those relationships are often more conscious, mature, and fulfilling, because they’re built on real-life experience and emotional wisdom, not just youthful impulse.

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Sir pls suggest some colleges for btech in vse at 2 lakh jee mains rank general category
Ans: Typing error in your question (vse?). I assume it is 'CSE'. With a 2 lakh JEE Main rank (general category), you can secure BTech CSE admission in several reputed private and government colleges that accept higher closing ranks. Options include NIT Mizoram, NIT Arunachal Pradesh, NIT Sikkim, NIT Puducherry, NIT Goa, Assam University, Punjab Engineering College (PEC), PSG College of Technology, Symbiosis Institute of Technology Pune, Jaypee Institute of Information Technology Noida, Thapar Institute of Engineering and Technology Patiala, LNM Institute of Information Technology Jaipur, BIT Mesra, Pune Institute of Computer Technology, and Chitkara University. These institutes are AICTE/UGC approved, offer NBA/NAAC-accredited CSE programs, have strong industry tie-ups, and maintain 70–90% placement rates in CSE over the last three years. Most provide modern labs, experienced faculty, and active career cells. While top NITs and IIITs may be out of reach, these colleges offer solid infrastructure, good peer groups, and reliable placement outcomes for CSE aspirants.

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Ans: Vaishnavi, To catch up and confidently crack JEE within 6–8 months while strengthening fundamentals, follow these Around 80 practical steps under four pillars—Planning & Time Management, Concept Building & Practice, Revision & Self-Assessment, and Well-being & Motivation. Additionally, explore five backup engineering exams and ten NIRF-ranked private universities accepting JEE or school scores. 1. Draft a master timetable allocating 6 days/week with one rest day. 2. Break six months into two phases: Months 1–4 (learning and practice) and Months 5–6 (revision and mocks). 3. Assign daily 2-hour morning session (your peak focus time) for weakest subject. 4. Reserve 3 hours post-school for subject-wise study (Physics, Chemistry, Math). 5. Allocate 1 hour evening for NCERT revisions. 6. Use the Pomodoro Technique: 50-minute study, 10-minute break. 7. Plan weekly targets: chapters to complete, question sets to practice. 8. 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SRMJEEE, COMEDK UGET, VITEEE, NEST, VIT Vellore, Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham Coimbatore, Thapar University Patiala, Siksha ‘O’ Anusandhan Bhubaneswar, SRM University Chennai, Amity University Noida, SASTRA University Thanjavur, Kalasalingam Academy of Research & Education, Chandigarh University, KIIT University Bhubaneswar. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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My daughter jee percentile 96.24 , class 12 passed frim j & K with 87 percent, NIT srinagar IT is available through jossa and other down low level college, I am not intetested in NIT srinagar. She also got computer science in Thapar and srm main campus. Also got cse in madan mohan malviya university gorakhpur cse and davv indire cse. What we have to choose between government and private . Is going to mmmut is right choice for placement point of view.
Ans: Thapar Institute of Engineering & Technology’s CSE program at Patiala, a private A+ NAAC-accredited deemed university, achieved nearly 100% CSE placement in 2023 with 334 recruiters and 1,664 single offers, securing an 83% overall UG placement rate and robust industry tie-ups in IT and product roles. SRM Institute of Science & Technology main campus CSE, NAAC A++ and NBA-accredited, recorded a 96% placement consistency over the past three years with mandatory internships, extensive AI/ML labs, and 980+ recruiters such as Microsoft and Amazon. Devi Ahilya Vishwavidyalaya’s IET Indore, a government university NAAC A+ institute, reports 90–95% CSE branch placements in 2024 with 150 students placed by top firms like TCS, Infosys, and Adobe, underpinned by a proactive training cell and high internship stipends. Madan Mohan Malaviya University of Technology, Gorakhpur, a state government engineering college, posted around 85% CSE placement conversion in 2023–24, supported by a dedicated placement division and significant MNC participation. Government institutes offer lower fees and guaranteed quotas but slightly lower placement rates, whereas private deemed universities deliver stronger recruiter networks, specialized labs, and higher placement percentages.

Final Recommendation: Prioritise Thapar CSE for its near-100% placements, extensive recruiter diversity, and premium accreditation. Next, choose SRM KTR CSE for its strong 96% placement consistency and cutting-edge labs. Then consider DAVV Indore CSE for its 90–95% placements and public-university stability. Lastly, for a budget-friendly government option with solid but lower placement rates, opt for MMMUT Gorakhpur CSE. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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