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Yukti Question by Yukti on Jul 30, 2024Hindi
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Hii I am 34 years women .I have a relationship with another person he is 39 years old .we meet and we fell in love together coz we both r not happy in our marital life .and we both are in love actually now we are not in relationship with her wife and my husband but I think he is cheating me he have also a relation with her wife .I ask him clearly many times but he dny every time .plz guide me what I will do

Ans: Dear Yukti,

If you are having some doubt, chances are there have been signs that made you think so. The best case scenario is to ask him again and if his explanations don't align, please reconsider this relationship. You are not obligated to stay with a man who is making you paranoid.

I am sorry I cannot be of much help because I am not clear on the dynamics of your relationship. Are you separated, are you divorced, do your partners know about your relationships, everything matters.

Best Wishes.

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Hi I am 39 year married woman with one 13yr boy and living in joint family. I am doing everything very honestly and sincerely as housewife but I never got love respect as wife from my husband and few years after our marriage I had seen changes in his behavior and day by day he is getting very rude towards me. So I decided to enquire the reason behind these and came to know that he is having affair with someone whom he is treating as his wife and giving everything to her as his wife and also wants to marry her. I told these to both of our parents and after talking with him he assured of not continuing the affair. But after that incident I had not seen any change in his behavior and still acting in the same way. I told these to my parents but because of some compulsion we both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is but these is very difficult for me to accept these and continue these relationship. In my schooldays I likes a boy, we love each other but after my marriage we had never been in contact with each other and he also not contacted me .But after these incident and during Corona I contacted him to know how he is and came to know that he is still unmarried and waiting for me and I told him about my married life.As he loves me very much and still wants me as his wife and told me that he will accept me as I am. As I also loves him a lot and after knowing that he is still waiting for me its become very difficult for me live without him as now i doesn’t feel complete without him. I remain honest in my married life but after these incident I dont want to live here and also unable to leave because of family condition and also because of the society we lived in. We shares everything with each other . He respects me and my feelings and loves me a lot and I feel that he is always there for me and will support me in all respect. Kindly guide
Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time. It sounds like you're in a very complex situation, and I'm not qualified to give you advice on personal or emotional matters. However, I can offer some general information that may be helpful.

It's important to remember that you're not alone in this. Many people go through difficult times in their marriages, and there are resources available to help you cope. If you're feeling overwhelmed, it may be helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with support and guidance as you work through your challenges.

If you're thinking about leaving your marriage, it's important to weigh all of your options carefully and consider the potential consequences of your decision. You may want to talk to a lawyer or financial advisor to get advice on what your rights and options are.

Ultimately, the decision of what to do is up to you. There is no right or wrong answer, and what works for one person may not work for another. However, it's important to make your decision based on what is best for you and your family.

I hope this information is helpful. Please remember that you're not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help.

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Kanchan

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 29, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 25, 2024Hindi
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My husband has been cheating on me. I recently discovered a receipt of payment that was unusual of my husband's regular activities. I called the shop and realised that the payment was genuine and it was made by my husband who was accompanied by a young lady. Since then, I have had sleepless nights. I have been wanting to talk to him but I am not mentally prepared to hear his side of the story. If he admits, it would mean our long years of marriage is over. If he denies, it would mean he is lying to me. However, there is a part of me that wants to trust him and give him some benefit of doubt. I have a 12 year old daughter. If he admits to having an affair, this news can break both of us. Pls help.
Ans: Start by acknowledging your feelings without judgment. The anxiety, sleepless nights, and fear are natural responses to such uncertainty. Allow yourself space to process these emotions. You don’t have to rush into confronting your husband until you feel emotionally steady enough to handle the conversation, regardless of the outcome. Sometimes, writing down your thoughts and questions can help organize your feelings and prepare you for the discussion.

It’s also important to consider your goals for the marriage and your family. Ask yourself what you need to feel secure and respected in the relationship. If you decide to confront him, do so with the intention of seeking understanding and clarity, not immediate resolution. This will allow you to approach the conversation with as much calm as possible.

When you're ready to speak with him, choose a time and place where you both can have a private, uninterrupted conversation. Start by expressing your feelings honestly but without accusations. For example, you might say, "I came across this receipt, and it’s been weighing heavily on me. I want to understand because I value our marriage and our family." This sets the tone for a constructive dialogue rather than an argument.

Prepare yourself for his response, whatever it may be. If he admits to wrongdoing, it will hurt, but it will also give you the clarity to decide what comes next—whether that’s working through the betrayal or choosing a different path. If he denies it, try to assess whether his explanation feels genuine or dismissive. Trust your instincts, but also give yourself time to reflect before making any major decisions.

If the uncertainty continues to eat away at you, seeking support from a counselor or therapist can be invaluable. A professional can help you process your emotions, clarify your priorities, and guide you in deciding what is best for you and your daughter. Protecting your emotional well-being is vital, as it will also help you maintain stability for your child during this challenging time.

Remember that trust and honesty are the cornerstones of any healthy relationship. Whether the truth strengthens your bond or pushes you to reconsider your future together, it’s essential to prioritize your self-respect and emotional health. You are not alone in this, and with time and support, you can navigate this difficult moment with resilience and clarity.

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my husband after marriage cheated to me he is in relationship on that time he avoids me and ignore me but i am very loyal on that time because of son, now we both not asking eachother abt anything, not talking but abt the son any activity will be there we will be together, but we are not talking with eachother even now we are not caring eachother, the man who i met recently he is my friend my colleague he know everything abt me but now he proposed me and he treated me like a wife he knows abt my son. he really love me even i involved him my family to know my family background, he is married but divorce, even i love him a lot every habits he have as a husband he takes take he talk with me very respectively, what should i do i want a suggestion. is it right?
Ans: Dear Ruta,
It's essential to reflect on what you truly want and need for your emotional well-being and happiness. Your marriage, despite its difficulties, still ties you and your husband together, especially through your son. You both have managed to maintain a cooperative relationship for his sake, which shows your commitment as parents.

However, the new relationship you're considering brings a fresh dynamic. This person understands your struggles, respects you, and offers emotional support. It's natural to feel drawn to someone who makes you feel valued and loved, especially after experiencing neglect and betrayal.

Before making any decisions, it's important to take time to reflect on your current situation. Consider what you want from your life and relationships. Think about how any decision you make will affect not only you but also your son and everyone involved. Communicating openly with your husband about your feelings and the state of your marriage could bring some clarity, even if it's difficult.

If you choose to pursue a relationship with this new person, ensure that you're doing it for the right reasons and that you're both on the same page about the future. It's crucial to consider your emotional readiness and the potential impact on your son. This process may take time, but prioritizing your emotional well-being and happiness is essential.

Ultimately, the right path will be one that brings you peace, happiness, and stability for both you and your son. Trust yourself to make a decision that aligns with your needs and values.

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If I transfer shares Rs 10L worth from my demat to my wife, will there be any tax implications on me. Also once my wife receive the shares in her demat, if she sells what would be the tax implications on her for Rs 10L shares sold
Ans: Tax Implications on Transfer of Shares to Your Wife
No tax on the transfer:
Transferring shares to your wife is treated as a gift.
Under Indian tax laws, gifts between spouses are tax-free.
There is no gift tax for you or your wife on this transfer.

No capital gains tax at the time of transfer:
Since you are not selling the shares, there is no capital gain.
Hence, no capital gains tax applies to you.

Tax Implications When Your Wife Sells the Shares
Clubbing of Income Rules Apply:
Even though the shares are in your wife’s name, the capital gains will be taxed in your hands.
This is due to the clubbing provisions under Section 64 of the Income Tax Act.
The income from the gifted asset is added to the income of the person who gifted it.

Capital Gains Calculation:
The original cost of acquisition and the holding period will be based on when you bought the shares.
This means:

Short-term or long-term capital gain will depend on your holding period.
Indexed cost (for long-term gains) will be based on your purchase date.
Tax Rate:

Short-term capital gains (STCG): Taxed at 15% if held for less than 1 year.
Long-term capital gains (LTCG): Gains above Rs 1 lakh taxed at 10% (without indexation) if held for more than 1 year.
Key Points to Remember
The capital gain will be added to your taxable income, not your wife’s.
If your wife reinvests the proceeds, income from that reinvestment will be taxed in her name.
This clubbing rule applies only to the first level of income (capital gains in this case).
How to Reduce Tax Liability (Legally)
If your wife invests the sale proceeds into new assets, the future income from those assets will be taxed in her name.
This helps in tax planning for future earnings.
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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 08, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir Very very afternoon How To Claim Tax Amount With Out GST Number.
Ans: If you do not have a GST number, you cannot claim GST input tax credit (ITC) or get a refund of GST paid on purchases. However, depending on your situation, there are some ways to manage taxes:

1. If You Are a Salaried Employee
You don’t need a GST number to file income tax returns.
You can claim deductions under Section 80C, 80D, HRA, and other sections to reduce taxable income.
If TDS is deducted, file ITR to claim excess tax refund.
2. If You Are a Business Owner or Freelancer (Without GST Number)
If your turnover is below Rs 20 lakh (service) or Rs 40 lakh (goods), GST registration is not mandatory.
You cannot charge GST on invoices or claim input tax credit on business expenses.
Instead, show expenses as deductions under income tax rules.
3. If You Paid GST but Do Not Have a GST Number
If you have paid GST on any purchase, but you don’t have a GSTIN, you cannot claim ITC.
However, you can include those expenses as business costs to reduce income tax.
4. If You Are Eligible for GST Registration
If your business turnover exceeds the GST threshold, register for GST to claim ITC.
If you voluntarily register for GST, you can claim ITC on future purchases.
5. If You Want a GST Refund Without a GST Number
GST refunds are usually only for registered businesses.
If you are an exporter or have made a zero-rated supply, you need a GST number to claim refunds.
If you were wrongly charged GST, you can request the seller for a refund or avoid paying GST on exempted items.
Final Insights
Without a GST number, you cannot claim GST input tax credit.
For salaried employees, claim deductions under income tax laws.
For businesses, show expenses to reduce taxable income.
If eligible, register for GST to claim ITC and get refunds.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 04, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 04, 2025Hindi
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Hi Sir.. i came across this website and found many peoples' financial security questions were clarified with good advice. I'm now 35. Working in abroad. Right now my salary is good and can save, but can't say for the future, since there are decisions by the countries to give job preference to the citizens rather than expats. So just I want to start something save for future I haven't started investing in Stocks / Mutual Funds. Just planning to invest soon. Just a beginer in these areas. Apart from that I have own home, wife home, some land properties altogether adds to 2 to 3 Cr. But these are properties not planned for selling as these will have carry on to next generation. Please advice me for my future financial security for myself and wife, 2 Sons and If I plan for another kid. My Goals as below. I have a salary of 2.5L+ INR per month. I not planned for early retirement. Will just work based on my health conditions (right now ok). So i have to plan for 1. Son 1 (Age: 3) - Education & Marriage 2. Son 2 (Age: 6m)- Education & Marriage 3, 3rd kid if in case.... 4. Also If I want to buy a property (say 5 years once), how can I save or invest money. 5. Then a decent income of 75000 to 100000 per month in future once I started investing from now onwards. 6. Emergency funds. 7. Soon to buy a car (mostly 2nd hand) 1. I don't have any loans. 2. I don't have health insurance for myself or my family 3. I have started invested in HDFC Sanchay PLus 4. My expenses in India is around 15000 to 20000 per month 5. My abroad expenses around 40000 per month
Ans: You have a strong financial foundation with a good salary, no loans, and multiple properties. Since you are new to stocks and mutual funds, a structured approach will help secure your family's future. Below is a complete financial plan considering your goals.

1. Emergency Fund
Keep at least 6 to 12 months of expenses in a separate account.
Since your monthly expenses (India + abroad) are around Rs 60,000, maintain Rs 5-7 lakhs in a liquid fund or fixed deposit.
This will protect you from unexpected job loss or medical emergencies.
2. Health Insurance
Since you and your family don’t have health insurance, getting coverage is important.
Opt for a Rs 10-20 lakh family floater health insurance plan.
Choose a separate policy for your parents if they are dependent on you.
A good insurance policy will reduce the risk of medical expenses affecting your savings.
3. Investments for Children’s Education & Marriage
For Son 1 (Age: 3) & Son 2 (Age: 6 months)
Higher education costs in India and abroad are rising.
You need at least Rs 50-80 lakhs per child for higher education after 15 years.
Marriage expenses may require Rs 20-30 lakhs per child after 25 years.
Investment Plan:

Invest Rs 25,000 per month in a mix of equity mutual funds.
Split between large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds.
Increase investment by 10% every year to match inflation.
Invest in regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) for expert guidance.
4. Future Property Purchase (Every 5 Years)
Buying a property every 5 years requires structured saving.
You should accumulate at least Rs 50-80 lakhs in 5 years for the next property.
Investment Plan:

Set aside Rs 40,000 per month in a combination of debt and equity funds.
For short-term (5 years), invest 60% in debt funds and 40% in equity funds.
This ensures capital safety while still getting growth.
5. Building Future Passive Income (Rs 75,000 to Rs 1 Lakh per Month)
To generate Rs 1 lakh per month, you need a corpus of Rs 2-3 crore.
Since you are just starting, a mix of growth and income-based investments is necessary.
Investment Plan:

Allocate Rs 50,000 per month to mutual funds with dividend options.
Invest in a mix of high-quality debt and equity funds for steady returns.
Increase investment as your salary grows.
6. Retirement Planning
You haven’t planned for early retirement, but financial freedom is important.
You need Rs 5-7 crore to retire comfortably by 55-60 years.
Investment Plan:

Invest Rs 50,000 per month in equity mutual funds.
Increase SIP amount as your income increases.
Later, shift investments to safer options like senior citizen schemes and annuities for retirement income.
7. Buying a Car (2nd Hand Car Soon)
If planning to buy in the next 6-12 months, keep the amount in a fixed deposit or liquid fund.
For a Rs 10 lakh car, set aside Rs 1 lakh per month for the next 10 months.
Avoid car loans since you have good savings potential.
8. Life Insurance Protection
If you don’t have term insurance, buy a Rs 2-3 crore term plan immediately.
This ensures your family is financially protected.
9. Investment Strategy for Beginners
Since you are new to stocks and mutual funds, start SIP investments in regular mutual funds.
Avoid index funds and direct plans, as actively managed funds provide better risk-adjusted returns.
Work with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to select the best funds.
10. Reviewing & Monitoring Investments
Review investments every 6 months with a Certified Financial Planner.
Rebalance asset allocation based on market conditions.
Increase SIP amounts as income grows.
Final Insights
Your current financial position is strong, and you have the potential to create long-term wealth.
A structured investment plan in mutual funds will secure your family’s future.
Protect your family with health and life insurance immediately.
Set clear financial goals and invest consistently.
Avoid unnecessary loans and focus on building assets.
Work with a Certified Financial Planner for better financial security.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 04, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 05, 2024Hindi
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My mother sold a house with Rs. 50Lac capital-gain. Can she buy a Rs. 50Lac house to get tax exemption, but register it under my name? Or she need to register in her name and then execute a gift deed to avoid tax for both of us?
Ans: For your mother to claim capital gains tax exemption under Section 54 of the Income Tax Act, the property must meet certain conditions:

Key Conditions for Section 54 Exemption
Ownership: The new property must be purchased in your mother’s name.
Timeframe: Purchase should be within 1 year before or 2 years after the sale of the original property.
Type of Property: Must be a residential property in India.
Can She Register the Property in Your Name?
No, she cannot claim the tax exemption if the property is directly registered in your name.
The exemption is strictly allowed when the new property is purchased in the name of the seller (your mother).
Alternative Option: Gift Deed After Purchase
Your mother can purchase the property in her name and claim the exemption.
After the purchase, she can execute a gift deed to transfer the property to you.
A gift from mother to child is tax-free under the Income Tax Act.
However, you may incur stamp duty charges on the gift deed, depending on your state’s rules.
Why This Approach Works
The Income Tax Department recognizes the exemption because the initial purchase was in your mother’s name.
The gift deed is treated separately and doesn’t affect her eligibility for the exemption.
Final Suggestion
Buy the property in your mother’s name to claim the exemption.
Afterward, transfer it to you through a gift deed to avoid capital gains tax for both of you.
Consult a tax expert for proper documentation and compliance.
This ensures tax savings and a smooth transfer of ownership.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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