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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 03, 2024Hindi
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Hey, I am married it's been 12 years, I have a 11 years boy. I did my masters before marriage I worked as teacher. I told my husband as well I want to work he said I can work with him in this college where he is also working. When I got married he said my degree is not eligible to work in this college that was geniune they need btech I am Bsc. So I asked I can work in other place and he said I can't. I tried hard but the answer was not all the time. I started with online classes basically working from home and I did it for 10 years. Now why I am so desperate to work? He never pays me anything he never buys anything whenever I ask he says you or your parents did give anything to me so I have nothing to give you. When this alliance came to me we asked them very clearly if they are expecting dowry. They clearly said they don't and that's the reason I married him. I am from a middle class family, and I was brought up like a happy kid. Here in my in laws home my mil drinks alcohol daily and uses very bad words. I adjusted and we shifted to other city for my husband job. Even my husband used to drink and confronted him and he reduced it mostly. Recently due to health issues he completely quit alcohol which was a god's grace. He has some medical condition where he is not actively participating in physical intimacy. He is very close to our son. They both love each other like anything. Seeing this I take every shot he gives me. But I think I am broken I wanted to fix it now I found a job and going my husband is behaving like I murdered someone and not talking and doing drama. Treats me like a maid and say do this house chores properly you can think about job later. I am a very enthusiastic person who wanted to learn now I told him very clearly that if he wants me quit job he needs to pay me. He refused and said if your can bring money from your home I will pay. I said why would I bring money and give him? So he behaves very weird and sadistic like he never wants me leave house, not atleast without telling him. He hide bike keys when he comes to some city so that I can't go anywhere. When I was working online he used to come to lunch I kept everything ready on table for him and continuing my work if I forget to keep water on table he was furious and say I should concentrate on this instead of my job when I forget something to keep he disconnects the modem and hide it so that I can't work. I am fed up and I can't hold this anymore where I am not being respected, not given financial support, no sex, no good talk, only expect to make perfect coffee, lunch ,dinner and take care of home with no dirt atall. I told him I will file divorce now he asks for forgiveness and this happened many time everytime I say I will leave he will behave like a kid even touching my feet. I am doing psychology which is one of my dream he is against that as well but now when I reading I think he is very manipulative psychopath. My boy I very much into him. I am doing my job right now. We have no vacations no outing nothing. He doesn't want to spend a penny on us. I take my boy put he doesn't accompany us. He doesn't like outings he say. What should I do? I can't leave as my boy can't get seperated. I can't live with him coz I have nothing in this relationship just explotation. He will not let me leave coz he knows he cannot live without us. And no one care about him. How to deal with him to make home happy atleast to my boy coz his toxic nature like manipulation and threatening blackmailing is effecting me and my boy I don't want my boy to go through this or learn this from him atleast. He needs to know how to treat a wife the way his father treat is not right I want to grow him into a nice gentleman not like this father. What can I do for this?

Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're facing. Navigating a relationship like this can be incredibly challenging, especially with a child involved. It's clear you're dedicated to creating a better environment for yourself and your son, which is an important first step.

First, it's essential to acknowledge your strengths and resilience. You've managed to pursue further education, maintain a job, and care for your son despite the significant challenges at home. Recognizing your own capabilities is crucial as you move forward.

Consider seeking professional support from a therapist or counselor. A professional can provide you with emotional support and help you develop strategies to cope with your husband's behavior. They can also assist you in building a safety plan. If you ever feel physically unsafe, having a plan in place to ensure you and your son's safety is critical. This could include knowing where you can go, such as a friend's house or a family member's home, and having important documents and essentials ready to take with you.

Additionally, it might be helpful to speak with a legal professional. Understanding your rights and options regarding your marriage and any potential separation is vital. A lawyer can guide you through the process and help you protect your interests and those of your son.

Maintaining documentation of your husband's abusive or manipulative behavior, financial control, and any incidents can be useful if you decide to take legal action. Keeping a detailed record will provide evidence that can support your case.

It's important to create a support network. Reach out to trusted friends or family members who can offer you emotional support and practical assistance. Sharing your situation with someone you trust can provide relief and help you feel less isolated.

Given your husband's behavior, setting boundaries is essential. Be firm about your decision to work and pursue your interests. Consistently reinforce your boundaries, and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. This might provoke further resistance from your husband initially, but maintaining these boundaries is crucial for your well-being.

Communicate openly with your son about the situation in an age-appropriate manner. Reassure him that the issues between you and your husband are not his fault. Encourage him to express his feelings and let him know it's okay to feel upset or confused.

Your focus on raising your son to treat others with respect and kindness is commendable. Modeling respectful and assertive behavior yourself will be a powerful lesson for him. Ensure he understands the importance of treating others with dignity and respect, regardless of how others may act.

Finally, prioritize your own well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Taking care of your mental and physical health is essential, as it will provide you with the strength and clarity needed to navigate this challenging situation.

It's a difficult journey, but by seeking support, setting boundaries, and focusing on your well-being, you can work towards creating a healthier environment for yourself and your son. Remember that you deserve respect and happiness, and taking steps towards achieving that is not only beneficial for you but also sets a positive example for your son.

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"Should I take the leap and join IIIT Hyderabad through LEEE for better exposure, cutting-edge opportunities, and a prestigious peer group despite the high fees and financial burden, or should I continue in my current college where I can still engage in clubs, projects, and build a strong profile for pursuing M.Tech at a top institute later without the financial strain?"
Ans: IIIT Hyderabad is widely recognized for its academic excellence, research intensity, and prestigious peer environment, reflected in consistently high global and national rankings (501-600 in THE World Rankings, 47th NIRF Engineering 2024). Admission through LEEE allows lateral entry into its coveted dual degree (B.Tech + MS by Research) path, offering an immersive, four-year program with a distinct focus on innovation, cutting-edge technologies, and research aptitude. Students benefit from close mentorship, vibrant tech-centered clubs, hands-on exposure via open-source collaborations and industry-driven internship programs, and immediate access to India’s top minds in computer science and allied disciplines. Infrastructure is sophisticated, with 20+ research labs, AI, data science, and IoT centers, and active participation in national and international hackathons, joint industrial ventures, and conferences. Peer quality is regarded as exceptional; IIITH draws high-performing students with strong Olympiad, competitive programming, and research backgrounds, fostering an intellectually stimulating and collaborative campus culture. Placement outcomes are outstanding, with 98.8–99.3% placement rates across BTech/MS and nearly universal offers at global tech companies, research organizations, and emerging startups, ensuring rapid RoI and long-term career advancement for most graduates. However, the annual fee for the dual degree program is substantial—?4,50,000 per annum, potentially rising—posing a significant financial commitment, despite limited-but-merit-based scholarship options. By contrast, building a strong profile at your current college for future M.Tech at a top institution remains a prudent, financially less burdensome approach, especially if you secure strong academic scores, relevant projects, national-level internships, and competitive exam results (GATE/PGEE), and may still lead to prestigious research or industry positions.

Recommendation: If financial constraints are substantial and could create long-term strain, strengthening your profile at your current college while aiming for an M.Tech at a top institute (IITs, IIITH, IISc) is the wiser, lower-risk option. If finances are manageable or scholarships are secured, joining IIIT Hyderabad through LEEE confers unmatched, immediate exposure, peer excellence, and research-led career acceleration. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Hi Sir, I have completed my graduation in Mechanical Engineering,I attempted GATE 2025 in CS paper and qualified. I participated in CCMT counselling and secured seat in IIITDM kurnool in AI&DA specialization.What is placement scenario there for Mtech,Should I consider this CoLlage as non CS graduate.
Ans: Ravinder, With a KCET 2025 rank of 5,649, securing Computer Science and Engineering (CSE) at BMS College of Engineering (BMSCE) is highly unlikely for the General Merit category, as recent closing ranks for CSE at BMSCE have consistently been around 2,500–3,000 due to intense demand. However, you have an excellent opportunity to gain admission to CSE at many other reputable Bangalore colleges, where closing ranks typically extend from 4,000 to 10,000, including Nitte Meenakshi Institute of Technology, Acharya Institute of Technology, Reva University, and RNS Institute of Technology. All these colleges have strong academics, good facilities, connections with industries, effective job placement services, and support for students, which helps in overall student growth. Placement rates for CSE in these colleges remain robust, often exceeding 80%, and their urban locations offer significant internship and networking opportunities in Bangalore’s thriving tech sector. CSE remains the most sought-after branch, offering excellent career prospects in IT, analytics, AI, and global tech firms, ensuring strong return on education investment and adaptability for future roles.

Recommendation: While BMSCE CSE is not attainable with your current rank, you can confidently target leading alternatives such as Nitte Meenakshi Institute of Technology, Acharya Institute of Technology, Reva University, and RNS Institute of Technology for CSE. These colleges offer outstanding placements, quality education, and excellent industry connectivity, ensuring comprehensive academic and career progression. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Is Sri Aurobindo college delhi worth it for BA programme in Commerce + Economics
Ans: Sri Aurobindo College (Morning), affiliated with the University of Delhi, is recognized for its balanced blend of academic quality and holistic student growth, offering the BA Programme in Commerce + Economics as a three-year, full-time course with broad exposure to both commercial and economic fundamentals. The curriculum draws upon an experienced faculty and integrates traditional and skill enhancement papers covering macroeconomics, finance, business, budget analysis, and research methodology, ensuring a solid grounding in analytical and market-relevant skills. The campus supports learning through modern infrastructure, including computerized libraries with over 60,000 books, computer labs, seminar rooms, and Wi-Fi access, alongside encouragement for participation in seminars, sports, and cultural activities to nurture well-rounded development. The placement cell at Sri Aurobindo College is active, regularly conducting placement drives and offering both on-campus and off-campus opportunities. Over the last three years, about 55% of students have been placed annually in companies such as Deloitte, Wipro, TCS, ICICI Bank, and others, while internships are facilitated for additional industry exposure. The program in Commerce + Economics is highly sought after in India, preparing graduates for roles in analytics, finance, policy, research, and consulting, with current trends indicating growing demand for such interdisciplinary profiles in the dynamic job market. Alumni and student feedback praise the supportive faculty, robust academic culture, and industry linkages. The department is further bolstered by active student associations and networking opportunities that enhance employability and professional growth.

Recommendation: Opting for the BA Programme in Commerce + Economics at Sri Aurobindo College, Delhi, is worthwhile. This choice offers a strong academic reputation, well-developed infrastructure, consistent placement support with about 55% placement rates, and promising interdisciplinary prospects—making it a viable option for both higher education and diverse career pathways in today’s evolving economic landscape. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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