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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2023Hindi
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Respected Ma'am/sir I know it may sound biased . But I am asking what I am seeing around me. I am having a clear feeling that women nowadays are , not only gen z but previous one too, not trustable any more. Even on this website I can see more questions about wife/gf infidelity than men . most of my friends around 90% have been cheated by their gf and it has made them and of course me hating women. And it is not only happening in metropolitan but also in small towns and villages . I am overthinking about this issue and it taking heavy toll in my mind . my brother is going to marry next year but I am even doubting his to be wife , maybe she is talking to some other guy. That is why my relationship with her is not good and confined only to formal . The main concern is that I am very stressful about thinking the future of me and my brother that it may happens with us anytime . It has also grown to such extent that I have even started hating my first and only love. Every time I see a woman or girl my mind suggest me the word cheater or potential cheater. I don't know how to tackle this situation or move foreward. Please help !

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are right from your point of view as that is what you are seeing around you...and what we see is what we believe...
But also remember, there are other points of view which you have started to ignore as your belief has grown stronger by the day!

Are all women cheaters?
Are all the women that are connected to you, cheaters?
Can a few women actually be loyal?

Universal statements like the one you make: "Every time I see a woman or girl my mind suggest me the word cheater or potential cheater." - This will only limit your view of the world and hence limit your experiences and joys of the world.

Let me give you an example for further understanding...
Your friend gets bitten by a stray dog. Your friend will declare: All dogs are bad. They all bite...If you are someone who loves dogs, will you believe this statement? No, right?
Another example:
While boiling milk one day, it curdles...will you declare that Milk is always bad...Is it true?

Kindly open your mind and understand that what you feed your mind with magnifies and makes it true...So, if you want a different view on women, you also need to know that there are two sides to a coin...People are different from one another...Women are all different from one another and there's goodness in each of them that I wish to see...
Doesn't this change your view of the world? If it still doesn't, then you will continue to worry about what's going to happen to your brother or you...Time to change your mindset?

All the best!

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I have been married from last 20 years. It's arrange marriage and before marriage told me let she had an affair with a har college friend dena hai asked that if any relation physical relation has been done she said no I trusted her and married her but after 4 years of marriage I am notice that she didn't paid any attention or don't love me I always thought that there are some mistakes from my side that's why she behave like this . From last 16 years I was suffering from the situation. Recently I come to know when I saw her mobile accidentally and I come to know that she has the same affair from last 16 years with the same guy when I ask about this she told me that it was by mistake I am sorry I won't do this again after some pressureise she also told me that she did a physical relation with him before marriage and after marriage too. I was shocked cause physically I am fit and capable to satisfy her with all the way still she cheated me. Now she confess me all the things and told me promise me that she won't do any mistake henceforth. But no problem is whenever I am trying to get physical or emotional with her some thoughts in my mind game that she did all the things with another guy and cheating me so I can't make any relation ship with her. How can I trust her again we have to kids 10 year each. Please tell me what to do I am frustrated
Ans: Dear Trade,
You need to decide if you wish to trust her or not. It is difficult obviously with what you have discovered. But if you have chosen to carry on within the marriage, the only way that the mind can be managed is to accept what has happened and work with how things are today.
Give your marriage another chance and only then you can work your work through otherwise you will spend time only thinking about her cheating and what she did with the other person which anyone is not working well for you.
So, are you ready to forgive and move on OR hold onto the past? No decision is right or wrong; it's just what you want and then when you make that decision, make everything else work in favor of that decision.

All the best!
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hi anuji. I have been married for last 12 years with 2 kids of 10 years. in March I came to know that my wife is repeatedly on call with one person. after checking call logs came to know that she was in touch with the person from last 8 months. initially she denied and informed that she is talking with her female friend but on Truecaller male name was displayed. when I confronted 2-3 times she agreed she was speaking with male person but he is outside town for training purpose. when I checked the persons records I came to know that dates provided by my wife were incorrect. I went to marriage counseling and after repeated confortation she agreed she has committed mistake and asked for forgivenes and requested one chance. after 2 months I came to know that she has lent money without my knowledge to 2 people whom we had agreed that she would not speak 7-8 years back but now came to know she was in contact and has lent money and jewellery without my knowledge. people are refusing to return. these incidents have happened 4-5 months back and wife has moved on but it's difficult for me to trust her even after 5-6 sessions of marriage counseling. currently we are enjoying healthy married life but back of mind it's very difficult to trust my wife and I face anxiety and depression issue whenever such thoughts crop in my mind. I am been in marriage for children well-being and overall family well-being. I have already informed her parents and given ultimatum that if such things repeats then there wouldn't be any chance of recourse. last six months have been worse due to this issue. I want to know how to decrease anxiety and fear of such issue cropping in my life as it's getting difficult to trust.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You learn to live with the fact that your wife is going to do stuff like this or you are going to be faced with constant anxiety...
OR
Give an ultimatum and then go to someone highly recommended for a couples therapy. You both need therapy more than just counseling...
When all trust is list, working at rebuilding it, can be a huge task BUT do take the help of a professional. He/She will dig deeper to find out what goes on in your wife's mind when she lends money or is in random conversations with people. It looks like a people-pleasing thing but without knowing all the facts and going deeper, this is all I can suggest. Try going to a professional who can handle this well and if after that thing still don't work out, the ultimatum is the only thing that might work.

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I (27M) am well Educated & well settled in a High-paying Job. Tall, Handsome & Fit. I am a Sociable & Outgoing person, but I never had a Girlfriend because I believe in having an Arranged Marriage with a Girl from the same Community, who's Family background is known to Parents. I strongly believe in abstaining from any kind of Sexual Intimacy until I get Married, due to my Personal, Moral, Ethical, Emotional as well as Religious & Socio-cultural Values. I'd want to experience even my First Kiss, only after getting Married to my Life Partner. And obviously, I expect my Future Life Partner also to Share similar Values. I cannot settle for Marriage with a Girl who had Pre-marital Sex (or even Kissed) anyone else in a Romantic Relationship, prior to Marriage. I would Reject such a Girl, however Beautiful, Well-Educated & Well-Earning she might be (all other Qualities being Subjective). Now, my Family has started looking up suitable Brides for me, within my Community. The Problem is that most Girls of our Community, in this Generation, are Well Educated & Financially Independent, staying in Cities, away from Parents & most of them, probably had Romantic Relationship(s) & experienced Physical Intimacy, at any Base Level. I know this by closely observing & discussing with many Girls of my Community (including my Female Cousins, Female Friends & Neighbours etc). They all are ridiculing me for my Preferences & advising me to forsake my Values, as they are Outdated in this Age. Now, I am Worried that I might never get to Marry a Girl who shares my Values. My greatest Fear is not ending up Unmarried, but getting Married to a Woman who lies about her Past (I consider it as Cheating). Can you please advise me on, how can I be absolutely Sure that a Girl is an Un-Kissed Virgin? How do I bring up this topic with any Girl before Marriage & ask her, without coming off as Creepy? How can I be Sure whether the Girl is being absolutely Honest about her Past or not? What are some other ways to find out about the Past of a Girl, apart from having an open conversation with herself? Please advise me regarding this, my Heart is not letting me foresake my Values, which are my Core Principles. I am willing to compromise on some other Qualities i.e., I'd happily settle down with a Girl who's Below Average in terms of Looks, Education & even Unemployed, as long as I can be Sure that she's an Un-Kissed Virgin. How can I be absolutely Sure of that?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You don't have to forsake your values based on others' opinions of it. If it makes you happy, you should stick to it. Having said that, you cannot force the same values on others. I understand you want a partner who has a similar mindset. The only way to get what you want is an open conversation- when you speak to a match, you can open up about your outlook and clear it from your end that you want the exact same values in your partner and politely request them to reject the alliance if she has any past relationships or has been intimate with anyone in any form. Let her know that you are not judging her, but this part is very important for you. Make it about yourself, because it is. Do not let the woman feel that there is some flaw in her, or start investigating her past.

Now, coming to your other query, how to be absolutely sure that she is telling the truth about her experiences- there is no such technique. You have to trust her. Moreover, you should understand that as much as you believe your values are important, trust in your partner is equally important in having a healthy and happy relationship. While you work on finding the partner of your choice, work on having a little more faith in people.
Hope this helps.

Best Wishes

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Hi Everyone, I'm 28M, IT employee, please do think from my perspective what am I about to ask. Since according to indian standards I'm already late for marriage. Now the thing is I've seen enough of failed marriages, not only in news but in own family and not everytime it was fault of the female part but I've seen good men struggling to handle themselves, few times their parents in jail. Thing is I won't be able to tolerate this kind of situation and I'm afraid of myself if I'm ever in this situation. My mother has sacrificed enough to put me through school and college and I do not wish to put her in any trouble because someone had a previous relationship which they are not able to forget or they don't like me then but get's married for the sake of it. I've never been in relationship and has been introvert throughout my life. Things that I've seen in my office and on news and at home have shaken my trust into anyone. A guy like me who use to trust anyone just because they say so is not struggling to even trust my own parents sometimes. Now please don't give me argument like not evey women is like this. I know but I just can't trust anyone and I've told this to my parents yet they insist on me being married. Everyone around me is just telling me how important it is to be married but I just can't. Since I'm only kid of my parents now my mum stopped talking to me a d I've given her my side yet she is pretty adamant on me getting married. Kindly let me know how should I proceed. Also I'm not interested even in being live in or having a girlfriend. I just don't know what to make of my life. So pretty confused, angry, frustrated and what not. Also my mother says that she'll have a thorough background check before taking things any further. I know how cute she is. She thinks everyone is as honest as her. Kindly guide me about how should I proceed since most of the people in my family is now not talking to me.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How have you managed to confuse yourself so much? You know how?
By reading into situations that have happened outside of you way too much. Yes, I will say this to you; not all women are the way you perceive.
If you got attacked by a cat, you will say...All cats are aggressive and dangerous. Is this true? Are all cats that way or just the one that you got attacked by?
In your case, you have only seen failed marriages and you have concluded as some universal truth that things will go bad and then you have gone to the extent of protecting your mother. Do you not see what rigid thinking can do? Confuse you, derail you, disillusion you...
If you wish to set things right, change the way that you are thinking of marriage, potential partners for marriage...focus on what can go right rather than on what can go wrong, will help you a lot in this.

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Hello sir, I am 35 year old, and my take home is 75k, currently I have a debt of 10 lakhs, and I have no savings. I am planning on buying a rental income house of 50k per month on loan for 1.4 cr with a tenure of 20 years, please advise if this is a good plan ?
Ans: You are 35 years old. Your take-home income is Rs 75,000 per month.
You already have a debt of Rs 10 lakhs.
There is no savings in hand right now.
These three points are very important.

Let us understand them one by one:

Rs 10 lakhs debt means you are already repaying an EMI.

With Rs 75,000 monthly income, your cash flow is limited.

Having no savings makes your situation vulnerable to emergencies.

In this situation, buying a new property worth Rs 1.4 crore is a big step.
Let us assess the implications of this move from a 360-degree view.

Monthly Cash Flow Stress

Let us estimate how much EMI you might need to pay.

For a 1.4 crore loan with 20 years term, EMI will be around Rs 1.2–1.3 lakhs.

But your take-home salary is Rs 75,000.

You may expect rental income of Rs 50,000.

Still, EMI exceeds your monthly inflow.
This creates a negative cash flow of Rs 45,000 to 55,000 per month.
You are already repaying for the Rs 10 lakh loan.
This adds further strain on your cash flow.

You may depend on personal loans or credit cards in future.
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Risk of Vacancy or Rental Delay

Real estate income is not guaranteed monthly.
Tenants may delay payments or vacate anytime.
You may lose 1 to 3 months rent per year during vacancy.

During those months, you will pay the EMI from your pocket.
This will create more financial pressure.
With no emergency fund, it becomes risky.

You Have No Emergency Buffer

You mentioned zero savings.
That is a very critical concern.

Any health issue can disturb your finances.

Job loss or income cut can cause heavy damage.

If tenants vacate suddenly, EMI burden will be yours alone.

A Certified Financial Planner always advises to build an emergency fund first.
3 to 6 months of expenses should be saved in liquid form.
That should be your first financial priority.

Buying Property on Loan: Costly in Long Term

Let us assess this step from a long-term view:

A 1.4 crore loan for 20 years can cost over Rs 2.8 crores total with interest.

You will repay more than double the principal.

You are expecting Rs 50,000 rent per month.

But there are other costs too.

Hidden costs include:

Property tax

Maintenance

Repairs and painting

Insurance

Brokerage for tenant

Legal issues if any

Your net rental yield may drop below 3% annually.
This is not a high return.

Alternatives Can Give Better Control

With Rs 75,000 income and Rs 10 lakh debt, here is what you can do:

Step 1 – Build Emergency Corpus First

Save at least Rs 1.5 lakhs in a savings or liquid fund.

This will act as cushion for any emergency.

It avoids borrowing at high interest.

Step 2 – Start Debt Repayment Plan

Pay off high interest debt first, if any.

Avoid minimum payments on credit cards.

Negotiate better terms with lenders if possible.

Step 3 – Start Small SIPs in Regular Mutual Funds

Start Rs 2,000 to Rs 3,000 monthly SIP in regular mutual funds.

Invest via a Certified Financial Planner.

Direct mutual funds give no advice or hand-holding.

Wrong fund choice can reduce your returns.

Regular mutual funds through MFD with CFP guidance give:

Professional fund selection

Rebalancing advice

Tax planning

Behavioural coaching in tough markets

Direct mutual funds have no such support.
You may choose the wrong fund and lose returns.
The so-called "savings" on commission can cost you much more.

Your Rental House Plan: Review Key Points

You plan to buy a Rs 1.4 crore property to earn Rs 50,000 rent.
Let us relook at key aspects:

1. Rental Yield:
Rent is Rs 6 lakhs per year.
On a Rs 1.4 crore property, that is just 4.3%.
After expenses, net yield is even lower.

2. Loan Repayment:
Total EMI outflow in 20 years is over Rs 2.8 crores.
Property value may not grow in the same proportion.

3. Illiquidity:
Property cannot be sold quickly.
If you face financial need, this becomes a major problem.

4. Leverage Risk:
You are trying to buy big with borrowed money.
This increases financial risk.
Your income cannot support the EMI even with rental inflow.

Better Alternative Plan: Step-by-Step Financial Building

• First 6 months:

Cut unnecessary expenses.

Build emergency fund of Rs 1.5 lakhs.

Clear part of your Rs 10 lakh debt.

• Next 6 to 12 months:

Start SIPs of Rs 3,000 to Rs 5,000 monthly.

Take help from Certified Financial Planner.

Avoid real estate and ULIPs at this stage.

• Year 2 onwards:

Increase SIP gradually as income improves.

Clear your existing debt completely.

Build goal-based investment plan.

• Future plans:

Once you have Rs 15–20 lakhs corpus, evaluate property.

But buy only if cash flow supports EMI.

Prefer loan EMI not exceeding 40% of income.

Rent alone should not be your support for EMI.

Investment vs Asset Ownership

A rental house gives you ownership feeling.
But from financial angle, your focus should be wealth creation.

Actively managed mutual funds through Certified Financial Planners offer:

Flexibility

Tax efficiency

Professional fund management

Goal tracking

Liquidity

Real estate gives none of these.
Liquidity is poor.
Rental yield is low.
Buying on heavy loan is very risky.

Your Financial Stability Is Priority

At this point, your priority is stability.
Avoid aggressive financial decisions.

Debt of Rs 10 lakhs plus Rs 1.4 crore more can collapse your future.
Instead, take small consistent steps.

Build:

Emergency fund

SIPs

Debt repayment

Insurance coverage

Tax plan

This path leads to financial freedom.
Rental property can come later.

Avoid These Mistakes

Don’t chase rental yield with 100% loan.

Don’t invest all earnings into one single illiquid asset.

Don’t ignore insurance and savings.

Don’t assume rent will come on time always.

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Buying a rental house now is not advisable.
Your income cannot support it.
Your savings are nil.
Your debt is already Rs 10 lakhs.

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Build emergency reserves

Set clear financial goals

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Hello sir I failed in class 12 in 2024 but gives jee mains in 2024 and now passed class 12 in 2025 now according to rule I can't give jee advanced in 2026 but how do they know that I have given class 12 exam in 2024 if I show them I passed in 2025 Bcs I have never given jee advanced so they have no data about me only gives jee mains in 2024 and not qualified for jee advance.
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