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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 23, 2025Hindi
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Hello there!! There are past trauma experiences in my relationship due to caste issue since my family are strictly against it . But I eventually liked another boy seeing his true love n affection n care towards me , he loved me since our skl days !! He expressed himself but i gave him my answerr after many yrs due my past experiences!! But eventually we had a healthy relationship ,and he told me he is of same caste!! Since his father lied to him related to this to keep him away from this caste called thing!! But now his father relved tht it was a lie !! Now we ended up intercaste!! We truly love each other we dreamt of our future together!! He became huge part of my life !! His family is okay with me regarding our marriage but my family is strongly opposed to this intercaste thing!! We are 24 yrs we thought of settle in our lifes and approach my parents few years back since untill fewdays back we together thought we are of same caste so there eill be no issue!! But now within few days n few lies our both world n hopes turned upside down!! I cant make my family suffer due to me!! At same time i cant leave him im struck !! What should we do!!

Ans: Your family’s suffering is a valid concern, but will they truly suffer because of your decision, or is it more about their expectations and societal norms? Often, parents react strongly at first, but with time, they adjust when they see their child happy and settled. Right now, their resistance is based on tradition and belief systems they’ve held for years. But is their love for you truly conditional on whom you marry? Would they rather see you unhappy in a marriage they approve of than happy in one they initially resisted?

Your happiness and future matter just as much as your family’s feelings. If you truly cannot see a life without him, you need to ask yourself whether sacrificing that love for family approval will truly bring you peace. Walking away from love to please others often leads to lifelong regret. On the other hand, if you fight for your relationship, you might face pain now, but there’s a chance your family will eventually come around.

The most important thing is to stand firm in what you want. If you and your partner truly love each other, you will need patience, strength, and a strategy to gradually help your family accept your choice. This won’t be easy, but living a life where you constantly wonder "what if?" will be even harder.

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hello ma'am I'm 27 independent girl . i want to marry my partner but my parents not agree due to intercaste i tried to convinced my mom last three year but she not agree and last month i told my father about him. he is not agree with my whole family denied to marry him because to caste. he is independent and his family dont have any issue regarding anything.my parents are said that they will not given their permission for intercaste marriage due to what people will say.because of my family have name in society. my partner family also have name in society. my elder cousin refuse to help me. from last 3 year i was so emotionally tried and sometime i dont want to live . he love me so much i dont want to lose him or cheat him .i dont want are relationship end like that. he never ever forgive me if i leave him.he waiting for me from last 4 years and in 4 years he is loyal with me. i dont understand what to do i feel heavyheartness and low .i can't sleep and eat ,forget things easily now i am exhausted all of this.please reply me as you can with best solution .
Ans: Dear Albatross,
Inter-religion marriages are still a taboo in society; so you are dealing with what has been normalized in society.
If you looking at your parents' approval, it may never happen. So decide how you want to go about it...Of course, you can try to patiently work with your parents and your partner. Think about how to get the two of them together so that your parents get a chance to meet him and interact with him.
Still, be prepared for things not to work out, but do make that humble attempt!
Make a decision that seems the best and stick with it...

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We are a family of three (me + my parents). I am 30 and have no plans on getting married. Will explore spirituality and try to be a social worker after working for 2-3 more years. We have a corpus of Rs. 1.1 cr invested in FDs. The interest generated (Rs. 8,00,000 p.a.) is withdrawn monthly and used for daily expenses. Please tell me - 1. How long can my corpus last if we keep withdrawing the same amount each year? 2. Is there a need to add more money in corpus? 3. How will inflation hurt and play a role?
Ans: Your situation is well-structured, and your financial discipline is impressive. Let’s break down your concerns step by step.

1. How Long Will the Corpus Last?
You have Rs 1.1 crore in fixed deposits (FDs).

Your annual withdrawal is Rs 8 lakh, covering living expenses.

The duration your corpus lasts depends on the FD interest rate and inflation.

If the interest earned matches your withdrawals, the corpus remains intact.

But if expenses rise due to inflation, the corpus may start depleting.

If inflation is higher than your FD interest rate, the corpus will shrink faster.

Over time, this gap can significantly reduce your savings.

Without additional earnings or reinvestment, depletion becomes inevitable.

A detailed cash flow analysis is necessary for exact projections.

2. Is There a Need to Add More Money?
Your current strategy works well for now.

But inflation will increase expenses each year.

FD interest rates may also decline in the future.

A 25-year time frame requires careful planning.

If expenses rise but income stays the same, your corpus may not last.

Having an extra financial buffer is always good.

You may need to add funds over time to sustain withdrawals.

Consider a mix of investment options for better returns.

Balancing risk and stability is key for long-term security.

3. The Role of Inflation
Inflation reduces the value of money over time.

What costs Rs 50,000 today may cost Rs 1 lakh in 15-20 years.

If expenses double, your withdrawals must also double.

But your FDs may not generate enough interest to support this.

Over time, the real value of your corpus declines.

This means either increasing your corpus or reducing expenses.

Investing in assets that beat inflation can help.

A financial plan with regular reviews is necessary.

4. Fixed Deposits – Strengths and Weaknesses
FDs offer stability and guaranteed returns.

But they may not keep up with inflation in the long run.

Tax on FD interest further reduces net earnings.

Interest rates fluctuate and may decline in the future.

Over-reliance on FDs can erode wealth over time.

A diversified investment plan is essential.

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You can explore better investment options alongside FDs.

Actively managed mutual funds have the potential for higher returns.

Debt mutual funds offer stability with tax efficiency.

Some portion in balanced hybrid funds can manage risk well.

Conservative investment in gold can hedge against inflation.

Having multiple sources of income is always better.

Choosing the right mix of investments is crucial.

6. Steps to Strengthen Financial Security
Review expenses and identify areas for cost-cutting.

Maintain an emergency fund for unexpected needs.

Consider reinvesting some interest earnings to grow the corpus.

Diversify investments instead of relying only on FDs.

Keep track of inflation and adjust withdrawals if needed.

Reassess the financial plan every year.

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High taxation reduces the effective return on FDs.

Some alternative investments offer better tax efficiency.

Choosing tax-efficient options helps preserve more wealth.

8. Planning for Spiritual and Social Work Phase
After 2-3 years of work, your income may stop.

Your corpus must fully support expenses post-retirement.

Ensuring a steady income source is essential.

Passive income streams like dividend-yielding investments can help.

Reducing lifestyle costs can make funds last longer.

Proper financial discipline is crucial for long-term sustainability.

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Your financial setup is strong, but long-term risks exist.

Inflation, tax impact, and lower FD rates can hurt corpus longevity.

A well-diversified portfolio will offer better security.

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Hello there, I'm 20 years preparing for neet but I'm not confident to get mbbs seat what alternative is there for me I'm so confused and stressed.Will it be ok if I do bsc in biotechnology and Mba in healthcare data science ? Can I succeed in this pathway Help plz
Ans: Hi,
Health-related courses are a great choice for a promising future. If you've completed your +2 with PCB (Physics, Chemistry, Biology) or PCMB (Physics, Chemistry, Mathematics, Biology), there are many courses available to you, both with and without a NEET score.
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