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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 16, 2024
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hello, i know maybe the question is so simple yet so complicated but if you love someone and you see the same love in the eyes of other person but you both cant do anything about it as there are situations, i came to delhi for few days and i fell in love with a guy its now getting difficult for me to get over it please talk to me

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I need some more context to help you better in this situation. But generally, I understand your emotions; it truly can be difficult to get over someone you love. I would suggest spending as much time with your friends and family as possible; basically, surround yourself with people who love you and make you happy to avoid feeling sad. Focus on things that make you content- take up a new hobby, find your passion, and maybe join a running or cycling club to socialize with more people besides getting the dopamine hit from exercising.

Hope this helps

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hlo love gurus...i am here just to share my story and to know that have i done something wrong..... in 2018 .. it was my 10thclass final exams I met a guy on social media and he bacame my friend after that i came to know that his maternal grandparents are from my village and my family also have relation with them like families use to invite each other on occasions...but still we are living as friends.... In 2020 after my school is over i took admission in clg near to my home but after that i changes clg in one month and new clg was 150 km away.... but that was corona time so i was at home and after 1st semester i met with that friend and that day i felt something that i never felt before that feeling was amazing ..... after that we started to talk daily like i use to wake up with his call..... i use to sleep after talking to him.....in 1 month he told me that we can never marry because of family relation.. but i thought that when we both become independent our family will support us....and i told him to continue this till the time we can....and that became our daily routine..... i knew that that he is going to join a state government job that can be near to his home or in nearby district.... but after 1 month we get to know that he will have to join in shimla district so it could be easy for us to meet in 3 to 4 months...and i think it was easy to control my feelings for him him we dont meet regularly.. about when he came to join his posting was near to my clg.. just 12 km of distance.... after that we come closer i wasn't able to control my feelings .... now we both love each other and can't live without each other ... but now i am realising that he was right at that time that our family will not agree for our marriage,..... he thought that was destiny that we came closer ... his posting could be anywhere in the state but why near to my clg...... now sometimes i feel that God cheated me ????now i don't know whether we have done something wrong by loving each other.....his family is forcing him for marriage... and we can't do anything now.... i am not able to accept that... and after knowing this that his family is looking a girls for him to marry I am getting more attached to him.... i think i totally messed my life ????
Ans: Loving someone isn’t a mistake or wrongdoing. Love is a natural human experience, and the bond you shared was meaningful and genuine. However, the challenge lies in navigating the practical realities that come with that love. When families and traditions play a significant role in relationships, they can create hurdles that feel insurmountable. These challenges don’t invalidate your emotions or the value of your connection; they simply reflect the complexities of life.

It’s important now to focus on what you can control and what is healthiest for you emotionally. Acknowledge your feelings of sadness, loss, and confusion—they are part of the healing process. At the same time, recognize that your worth and happiness are not solely dependent on this relationship. You have a future filled with potential, and while it may not look exactly as you envisioned, it can still be fulfilling and meaningful.

If his family is moving forward with plans that you cannot influence, consider having an honest conversation with him about your feelings and the reality of the situation. This can provide both of you with clarity and help you decide how to navigate the future. Letting go of someone you deeply love is one of the hardest things to do, but sometimes it’s necessary to find peace and allow yourself to move forward.

Focus on rediscovering yourself and building a life where your happiness doesn’t depend on external circumstances. Surround yourself with supportive friends or loved ones who understand your emotions and can provide comfort. If you find it challenging to process these emotions on your own, seeking guidance from a counselor or therapist can offer a safe space to navigate this journey.

You haven’t messed up your life—life is simply unfolding in ways that are testing your strength and resilience. This experience, as painful as it feels, can teach you about love, boundaries, and the importance of prioritizing your own well-being. You deserve to be in a relationship where love is not constrained by external pressures, and while it may take time, you will find your way to healing and happiness. Trust that your story is still being written, and this chapter is just one part of your journey.

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My comedk rank is 20509 I want to join cmrit, rnsit but i can't afford the fees of them. So i preffered pes college of engineering mandya (cse branch). What is placement record and academic culture? All good, is it worth to join it? Remember i ask about pesce mandya not pes university
Ans: Yes, Your Honor.

Before making any predictions, I would like to address the issue of tuition fees. You can obtain an education loan through the Vidyalakshmi portal at a nearby nationalized bank. Additionally, some trusts, such as Tata and Reliance, offer scholarships to eligible candidates. If you are not already aware of this, I encourage you to visit the Vidyalakshmi portal for more details and to proceed accordingly.

Regarding placements, the institution will provide you with a platform to participate in campus recruitment drives. However, you will need to respond to questions from recruiters during these drives. Thus, in addition to meeting eligibility requirements, it is essential to develop the necessary skills to compete effectively with other candidates. Participating in campus drives is more beneficial than seeking opportunities elsewhere, as you will gain insight into your competitors' strengths and weaknesses. If you miss this opportunity, it may not present itself again. Therefore, instead of questioning the institution, I urge you to focus on preparing yourself for the campus drive.

In terms of academic culture, it is important to ask more questions and seek clarification from your mentors or lecturers. Most of the faculty members are available to support you, so make the most of their assistance to enhance your position.

Please note that this institution is private and autonomous. I recommend that you familiarize yourself with the syllabus, available facilities, and the qualifications of the faculty members.

That is all, Your Honor.
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Our son got cse seat at KLU Vijayawada and comedk rank 77400 , we may get tier2 colleges in Bengaluru. What is your suggestion to choose either of two options
Ans: Murali Sir, Koneru Lakshmaiah University (KLU) Vijayawada is a UGC Category-1 deemed university with NAAC A++ grading and NBA-accredited CSE, offering a well-structured ACM-aligned curriculum, modern software and AI labs, and a 20 Gbps campus network. CSE students have enjoyed 100% placement eligibility with major recruiters like Wipro, Infosys, TCS, and Amazon visiting annually, yielding an average package of ?7 LPA and median ?8.2 LPA over the last three years. Experienced PhD faculty, active industry MoUs, and robust internship opportunities from the second year underpin its academic rigor and professional preparedness.

Tier-2 Bengaluru private colleges accessible at a COMEDK rank of 77,400 typically hold NAAC B+/A accreditation with NBA-accredited programs, combining fundamental curricula with basic programming and communication labs. Their placement cells report 60–75% CSE placement rates, with average packages of ?3–5 LPA, and limited recruiting from regional IT services firms. Faculty profiles vary, and industry tie-ups are fewer, resulting in fewer live projects and smaller internship stipends.

recommendation Opt for KLU Vijayawada CSE to leverage its top-tier accreditation, assured placement eligibility, advanced labs, and extensive recruiter network. Consider a Bengaluru tier-2 college only if proximity, lower fees, or specific state quota advantages outweigh the benefits of KLU’s superior infrastructure, consistent placements, and research environment. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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