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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 16, 2024
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hello, i know maybe the question is so simple yet so complicated but if you love someone and you see the same love in the eyes of other person but you both cant do anything about it as there are situations, i came to delhi for few days and i fell in love with a guy its now getting difficult for me to get over it please talk to me

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I need some more context to help you better in this situation. But generally, I understand your emotions; it truly can be difficult to get over someone you love. I would suggest spending as much time with your friends and family as possible; basically, surround yourself with people who love you and make you happy to avoid feeling sad. Focus on things that make you content- take up a new hobby, find your passion, and maybe join a running or cycling club to socialize with more people besides getting the dopamine hit from exercising.

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hlo love gurus...i am here just to share my story and to know that have i done something wrong..... in 2018 .. it was my 10thclass final exams I met a guy on social media and he bacame my friend after that i came to know that his maternal grandparents are from my village and my family also have relation with them like families use to invite each other on occasions...but still we are living as friends.... In 2020 after my school is over i took admission in clg near to my home but after that i changes clg in one month and new clg was 150 km away.... but that was corona time so i was at home and after 1st semester i met with that friend and that day i felt something that i never felt before that feeling was amazing ..... after that we started to talk daily like i use to wake up with his call..... i use to sleep after talking to him.....in 1 month he told me that we can never marry because of family relation.. but i thought that when we both become independent our family will support us....and i told him to continue this till the time we can....and that became our daily routine..... i knew that that he is going to join a state government job that can be near to his home or in nearby district.... but after 1 month we get to know that he will have to join in shimla district so it could be easy for us to meet in 3 to 4 months...and i think it was easy to control my feelings for him him we dont meet regularly.. about when he came to join his posting was near to my clg.. just 12 km of distance.... after that we come closer i wasn't able to control my feelings .... now we both love each other and can't live without each other ... but now i am realising that he was right at that time that our family will not agree for our marriage,..... he thought that was destiny that we came closer ... his posting could be anywhere in the state but why near to my clg...... now sometimes i feel that God cheated me ????now i don't know whether we have done something wrong by loving each other.....his family is forcing him for marriage... and we can't do anything now.... i am not able to accept that... and after knowing this that his family is looking a girls for him to marry I am getting more attached to him.... i think i totally messed my life ????
Ans: Loving someone isn’t a mistake or wrongdoing. Love is a natural human experience, and the bond you shared was meaningful and genuine. However, the challenge lies in navigating the practical realities that come with that love. When families and traditions play a significant role in relationships, they can create hurdles that feel insurmountable. These challenges don’t invalidate your emotions or the value of your connection; they simply reflect the complexities of life.

It’s important now to focus on what you can control and what is healthiest for you emotionally. Acknowledge your feelings of sadness, loss, and confusion—they are part of the healing process. At the same time, recognize that your worth and happiness are not solely dependent on this relationship. You have a future filled with potential, and while it may not look exactly as you envisioned, it can still be fulfilling and meaningful.

If his family is moving forward with plans that you cannot influence, consider having an honest conversation with him about your feelings and the reality of the situation. This can provide both of you with clarity and help you decide how to navigate the future. Letting go of someone you deeply love is one of the hardest things to do, but sometimes it’s necessary to find peace and allow yourself to move forward.

Focus on rediscovering yourself and building a life where your happiness doesn’t depend on external circumstances. Surround yourself with supportive friends or loved ones who understand your emotions and can provide comfort. If you find it challenging to process these emotions on your own, seeking guidance from a counselor or therapist can offer a safe space to navigate this journey.

You haven’t messed up your life—life is simply unfolding in ways that are testing your strength and resilience. This experience, as painful as it feels, can teach you about love, boundaries, and the importance of prioritizing your own well-being. You deserve to be in a relationship where love is not constrained by external pressures, and while it may take time, you will find your way to healing and happiness. Trust that your story is still being written, and this chapter is just one part of your journey.

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I've completed my graduation (B.Sc) from Delhi University, however I've come to realise that my interest lies someplace else, I hold a passion and wish to persue masters in Psychology and be a clinical psychologist down the line, what should be my next steps? Am I eligible for a master's program in Psychology even though my undergrad is in Science? I'm really troubled and cannot find a definitive answer, Willing to put in the work to crack any exam to get into a master's program, but cannot afford private colleges, Ideally, I would like to put in the work, clear and entrance examination, get into a master's programmes, maintain a great score throughout my masters and be eligible to move to some western nation to do my PhD or psy.D, whatever is applicable, It so happens that I do not see a way forward, any guidance is very much appreciated and needed. I would like to hear your thoughts on this, thank you.
Ans: Hello Aaryan,

First of all, thank you for reaching out to us. To answer your question, I can tell you that as an aspiring clinical psychologist, your B.Sc. background does not disqualify you from pursuing a Master's in Psychology, but you may need to meet specific prerequisites, such as having some foundational coursework in psychology.

Many Western universities, such as those in the US, UK, or Europe, offer postgraduate programs in Psychology with a clinical focus. You will likely need to prepare for exams like the GRE (for the US) or other relevant entrance tests depending on the country. Focus on excelling in the required exams, and explore scholarships or government-funded options to make your education more affordable. After completing your Master's, you'll be well-positioned to pursue a PhD or Psy.D. in clinical psychology if you wish to continue your studies abroad.

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