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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 05, 2023

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Satish Question by Satish on Jul 04, 2023Hindi
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Hello Ma'm, I have been married since 2007 having 2 children 14 yrs, 12 yrs. Now a days my wife having not interest in family life drama. means making tiffing for husband, caring of older men in home. so she make some little disute and left me alone. She went to her mother's home with 2 children. filed 498 domestic violence against me and other 4 family members (1 mother, 3 sisters-married). we went to get back her so many times but she refused to come as she has not remain interest to live with me. Ma'm, I become viable, sometimes feeling to commit sc, whats wrong with us i dont understood. pl. let me know , how to face this situation and keep mind calm or what to do next

Ans: Dear Satish,
Section 498A is a serious charge and do not let it slip by...Kindly contact a lawyer and present your side of the case for the lawyer to be able to fight on your behalf.
What has transpired between you and your wife, is something known only to the two of you; but instead pf talking it through, I don't understand why she has to drop a serious charge. Has there been any instances of cruelty against her from you or any family member? If Yes, do not waste any time and take this charge on you seriously. If No, it can damage your reputation, call for a lawyer immediately. (I don't have much information from you on why all of this could have happened; hence this is the only suggestion that i can make).

All the best!

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Ego trips have divided the two of you considerably.
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Dear Madam, i am 49 and married with 2 kids (10th standard and 8th standard), my problem started we move to india and settled near my mother/sister-law and there is lot influence things happened alast 2 year and also i have drinking habit which i have overcome by attenting rehibition, but last 8 month i am staying with mother house due my health and now i ok, but every time last 3 months i asking my wife can we staying together but no proper answer and she away most of time on spiritualty, even i allow her go but she is not inform were about even after 20 phone call that triggers me and i drink and make my life diffocult myself, recently i have asked move alone with me and kids but again blaming for all the past thing, due to this i have flight my parents and brother which not keep peace to them....i am really confused and what stage they will expect me i know sure..please let me know any suggestion
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Your drinking is the main reason why your wife cannot trust you again. Rebuilding that trust is going to take a lot of time and patience, Simply by saying that All is Well, let's move back together is not going to help.
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