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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 22, 2022

Asked on - Sep 22, 2022Hindi

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Dear Anu
We got married in December 2015. It was love marriage arranged by our parents.
From the first day of marriage my spouse started irritating me. But I love her from the bottom of my heart.
She always disrespects my parents but they also didn't say a single word because they don’t want any dispute in our relationship.
In July 2017, she forced us to shift to a new home. She’s always fighting with everyone in office, in train and in our society also.
I told her to work on her anger otherwise some day we will lose our relationship.
From 2017 to Nov 2021 I tried very hard to save my relationship with her but she never understood my love.
At the end of 2021 I left my home. There are many complaints register by her in the police station, she harassed me and my family members.
Now the divorce case is going on (don't know how many more days it will be)
But what is my fault?
I loved her truly.
Why did she do this to me?
How should I manage my life? I can't concentrate anywhere.
Every day I am in tears.
I want to keep this confidential.
Thank you very much in advance.
Regards
LR

Ans:

Dear LR,

What happened is beyond my comprehension.

Any relationship crumbles due to the weight of ego and misunderstandings.

Only the two of you will know what, why and how this happened. No point going behind this as all you will end up with is more resentment and sadness which isn’t going to help you anyway.

Divorce cases can go on for years if not settled mutually and amicably. So, it is quite possible that this might drag on.

What you need is resilience to put up a strong fight against all the cases registered against you and your family members.

Hire a good lawyer who understands the case not just as an ordinary one as cases against the husband and his family can be quite serious in a divorce situation.

In the meantime, you need to clear your mind to be less anxious and more productive.

I believe in changing the present for a better future rather than digging the past and robbing oneself of their peace of mind.

So,

  • Get deep into work and give it your all
  • Join a gym or anything that is a workout for the body
  • Indulge in a hobby that calm down the mind
  • Find joy in simple happenings
  • Express gratitude for everything and anything
  • Journal your thoughts and feelings daily
  • Spend a lot of time with Nature
  • Be with people who help you stand tall

Mind and body work in tandem and keeping both in the best condition is what is going to help you tide over this challenging phase.

Respect this and create a regimen of the above. It works. And be resilient and know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and so focus on believing in that.

All the best!

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