Hello M'aam, I am a 43 year old woman happily married and we hv a 15 year old son. Recently I became friends with a man in my building and we r now good chat friends. I hvnt met him ever though. Hes married too and has two kids. By now we hv developed a good friendship and we sometimes chat till late night too. The talks are all about my family, his family, movies, series, work. Initially i felt extremely guilty to talk to him as I felt i was betraying my husband by talking to another married man. but now i hv begun to love these chats. He too dsnt mind talking and we hv becum very good friends. I want to know if this is wrong. I am getting so used to sharing all updates about my family to him. And he shares updates about his family. I hv been so lost in his words that i hv not let my hubby touch me for intimacy and I just sleep with thoughts of this friend. What should i do??

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Ans: Hello;

Request you to kindly elaborate on the query.

I am not getting any reference to your previous query, if any.

Thanks;

Ans: First know it thoroughly and then jump into it, certainly it will affect your studies.

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Ans: Hi Arjun
You are giving an impression of being extra conscious.
We tend to overthink as to what others think/perceive about us.
The best way is to be your natural self rather than trying to be someone else. Yes we all have areas of improvement & we must continue to work towards self enhancement but it should be based upon your own honest introspection & not lead by what others think/feel, some random thoughts.
Feel free to ask about any specific area of self development that you feel the need to work upon.
All the Best !!

Ans: Hello
If the new work assigned is going to add value to your career, then you should take it as an opportunity & give it your best shot.
It is not normal to feel uneasy when you are pushed out of your comfort zone but the real learning happens then only. Am sure there will be others around you whom you can approach for help or look at online options since nowadays everything is available on online platforms.
But just stressing/quitting won't help. We take inspiration from our tough battles fought well regardless of outcomes.
Feel free to ask anything further/specific.
All the Best!!

Ans: the most important thing is supporting your girlfriend without letting fear or confusion overwhelm you. She trusted you enough to share her past, which means she sees you as her safe space. Right now, your focus should be on helping her deal with the blackmail rather than doubting your future together.

Blackmail is a crime, and this guy is taking advantage of her fear. The worst thing you both can do is let him control the situation. Encourage her to take legal action—she can file a police complaint under cybercrime laws, and in many cases, authorities act swiftly against such threats. If she is too scared to go to the police, you can explore other options like speaking to a lawyer for guidance.

As for your family, you need to assess how they might react. If they are open-minded and supportive, telling them could help, but if you think they will overreact or judge her unfairly, you may want to keep this between you and your girlfriend for now. The key is ensuring she feels safe and not abandoned.

If you truly love her and see a future together, don’t let her past or someone else’s threats ruin what you both have. Instead, focus on finding a solution. Stand by her, but also make sure she takes action to free herself from this emotional and psychological burden.