Can I marry my engineer boyfriend? My doctor parents oppose it.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There is no hard and fast rule that a doctor should marry a doctor, an engineer an engineer, and so on. It is just their school of thought. If you do not adhere to it, you should clearly communicate the same. You both are consenting adults and well-settled; you have every right to make your own choices especially if that makes you happy. And I am assuming that your partner is also a good person, which, by the way, matters more than his profession. Please sit with your parents and have a clear conversation with them. In today's day and age, the man does not mandatorily have to earn more in a marriage. Women can and are in many cases, earning more and that has nothing to do with how happy and healthy their marriage will turn out to be; please speak to your parents. Consider introducing your partner to them. It would help humanize him.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You don't want this but this and that, that is okay but only if this happens. You can't solve a problem by putting so many constraints. You will reach a dead end.
Instead, be ready for some compromises that are inevitable given the outcome that you wish for.

What I mean is:
If you have decided to marry this person, be ready to accept that your father may never approve of the marriage and you may have to go through it without his approval
OR
You may have to go through the task of making both families meet and then ironing out their challenges with one another

Everything may not go as per plan so, do what's you can and then if things still don't work out, accept it...ultimately if you know your decision is right, well...

Okay, I am curious...if your boyfriend has not finished his graduation, how old is he and how old are you? Your father is then fully justified worrying about this as you two are quite young. Also, why are you going to depend on your boyfriend for your financial stability, Do you not have a job? Or do you not plan on working in the future?
Don't skirt around these questions as you know that doing anything rash and foolish can impact your entire life.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Kanak,
Convince nahin balki apne papa ko yeh ehsaas dilaane ki koshish karo ki is ladke mein tumhe kaunse gun nazar aate hain jise tum pyaar karne lagi.
You can't convince him but you can definitely try and make him experience your point of view.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: You need not run…maybe just stand your ground and get married? Tell your father that if he loves and respects you, he has to respect your choices in life too. Even if it’s a mistake according to him, it is your mistake to make! You have the support of the rest of your family, maybe they should show it overtly so he knows he’s in the minority. And any threats to your life etc — if you feel the least bit like he will follow through on his threats of violence — lodge a police complaint. You are an adult and so is your partner — he cannot bully you like this.

Ans: in my view you have 2 choices

(1) give in to what parents are saying and forget your current friend


or

(2) get your friend to meet parents and give it a year or so - let parents see for themselves how wonderful he is as you have shared

wishing you the best.