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Bj Question by Bj on Mar 17, 2023Hindi
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Hello Doctor, I am a 42 year old working woman, happily married for the last 17 yrs, I have had a total work experience of about 18 yrs and at a mid-mgt level at work, I have a problem, I have worked extremely hard and long hours most of my life and now I have come to a point where I no longer want to work as hard. While I am good at what I do, and get appreciated at work and also have been getting monetary rewards, I also realise that I have a certain episode at times where I am no longer in control of my emotions at work, there have been two episodes in the last 1 year where I cant control my tears and have excused myself and gone to the washroom to be able to stop the episode; and sometimes the reasons are trivial, I dont know what to do to keep myself calm during such episodes. I have tried multiple things like deep breathing when the situation like this arises, i try to do a mental math, try my best to analyse what is the trigger point, but I seem to have no control over this emotional breakdown. What can I do to deal with this ? I am embarrassed of myself and find it difficult to confide in anyone when this situation comes. Please help.

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing difficulty controlling your emotions at work. It sounds like you are experiencing emotional dysregulation, which can be challenging to manage. There are several strategies that you can try to help you cope better with these episodes:

Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness meditation regularly, as this can help you stay more present and centered in the moment. This practice involves focusing your attention on your breath, physical sensations in your body, or other objects of attention. The goal is to observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment or reaction, which can help you respond more effectively in difficult situations.

Identify Triggers: It is important to identify what is causing these emotional breakdowns at work. You may want to keep a journal to track the triggers that set off these episodes. Once you have identified the triggers, you can work on ways to minimize or eliminate them.

Self-care: It is important to take care of yourself, both physically and mentally. This includes getting enough sleep, exercise, eating healthy foods, and engaging in activities that you enjoy.

Seek support: It may be helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor who can help you develop coping strategies for dealing with your emotions. A therapist can also help you explore the root causes of your emotional dysregulation and work with you to develop a plan for managing it.

Seek professional help: In some cases, emotional dysregulation can be a symptom of an underlying mental health condition. If you are experiencing other symptoms, such as difficulty sleeping, persistent sadness or anxiety, or changes in appetite or energy levels, it may be a good idea to speak with a mental health professional.

Remember that it is okay to feel emotions and that you do not have to suppress them. However, learning to regulate them can help you manage them more effectively and prevent them from interfering with your work and personal life.

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Dear Mayank,My name is Dinesh Kumar, age 38.I am working as an EHS coordinator (in the environment health and safety department) in a corporate office in Noida since the last 15 years.But since the last three years, management has given extra work of the quality dept.I am coordinating with approx 300 site safety and quality engineers (admin role), managing the safety store at the Noida office (safety uniform, personal protective equipment, safety promotional material, etc), managing the upkeep of documentation part of ISO 14001 and OHSAS 18001, distribution of safety uniform kit to sites approx 600 persons, MIS of safety reports, etc.I am feeling overloaded and stressed and not interested in my job.I am giving 100 per cent in my job but work not completed always.Please advise me on how I can control my stress at the workplace and find a new job.Dinesh Kumar
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Dear Dinesh,

I understand you are overloaded, like many people in the corporate world.

The first step to streamline your work is to clearly list down the tasks that you do and how much time it takes.

Then sit with your manager and explain to him the support you want from the management in terms of resources like manpower, online system, etc.

You are a valuable resource and if you can systematically explain the situation, then I am sure you will be heard and allocated resources to optimally carry out the critical tasks related to ESH of your organisation.

Many of the ESH activities are legal requirements, so the company will definitely support you.

 

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Hi, I am a mechanical engineer and having been working in the field of power plant from last 12 years. I don't enjoy my work now and feel that I am not meant for this job as I see no growth in my career. I'm 36 now and can't think of anything new as I don't think I can't enter into a new field at this age. No one will prefer me. What should I do?
Ans: Feeling stuck in your current career path is a common experience, but it's important to remember that it's never too late to make a change. Take some time to reflect on your skills, interests, values, and strengths. Consider what aspects of your current job you enjoy and what you would like to do differently in your next career move. Research other career paths and industries that align with your interests and transferable skills. Look for opportunities where your mechanical engineering background and experience in power plants could be valuable, such as in renewable energy, sustainability, project management, or technical sales. Identify any gaps in your skills or knowledge that may be necessary for transitioning to a new field. Consider taking courses, certifications, or workshops to acquire new skills or enhance existing ones. Many online platforms offer flexible learning options that you can pursue while still working. Reach out to your professional network, including colleagues, mentors, former classmates, and industry contacts. Inform them of your career interests and ask for advice, informational interviews, or referrals to potential employers or opportunities in your desired field. Evaluate whether pursuing additional education, such as a master's degree or specialized certification, would be beneficial for your career transition. Some programs offer opportunities for mid-career professionals to gain new skills and credentials. Look for volunteer or internship opportunities in your target industry or field. This can be a valuable way to gain hands-on experience, expand your network, and test out whether a new career path is the right fit for you before making a full transition.
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I'm 35 years having 9 years experience in the old generation pvt bank as an officer. Worked in different capacities at branch n back office. I have done global certificate in fraud detection n interested in pursuing my career in the fraud domain. N i don't see any opportunities in my current bank. Planning to switch other new generation bank.
Ans: Switching to a new generation bank to pursue a career in the fraud domain sounds like a promising move given your interest and expertise in fraud detection. Research new generation banks known for their focus on technology, innovation, and digital banking services. Look for banks that prioritize cybersecurity, fraud prevention, and risk management as part of their core business strategies. Leverage your professional network and connections to explore job opportunities in new generation banks. Reach out to former colleagues, mentors, and industry contacts for referrals and recommendations. Attend industry events, webinars, and seminars to expand your network. Evaluate your skills, experience, and knowledge in fraud detection and prevention. Highlight any specialized training, certifications, or relevant qualifications you have obtained in this field, such as the Global Certificate in Fraud Detection. Update your resume to highlight your experience, achievements, and skills related to fraud detection and prevention. Optimize your LinkedIn profile to showcase your expertise in this area and network with professionals in the fraud domain. Monitor job portals, company websites, and professional networking platforms for job openings in fraud detection, risk management, compliance, or cybersecurity roles within new generation banks. Tailor your job search to match your skills and career interests. Stay informed about the latest developments, regulations, and best practices in fraud detection and prevention. Consider pursuing additional certifications, training programs, or continuing education opportunities to enhance your knowledge and skills in this evolving field.
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Ans: If you're interested in pursuing a career in forensic science after completing your B.Sc. in Chemistry and Botany, develop a strong foundation in scientific principles, analytical techniques, and laboratory skills through your coursework and practical experiences. Familiarize yourself with the methods and techniques used in forensic analysis, such as DNA analysis, toxicology, and crime scene investigation. Consider pursuing a Master's degree (M.Sc.) or a specialized postgraduate diploma or certificate program in forensic science or a related field after completing your B.Sc. This advanced education will provide you with the specialized knowledge and skills required for forensic science careers. Seek opportunities to gain practical experience in forensic science through internships, research projects, or volunteer work. Look for opportunities to work in forensic laboratories, research institutes, or government agencies involved in forensic investigations. If possible, choose a specialization within forensic science that aligns with your interests and career goals, such as forensic chemistry, forensic biology, forensic toxicology, or forensic anthropology. Specializing in a specific area will enhance your expertise and job prospects. Stay updated on advancements and trends in forensic science through professional journals, conferences, and online resources. Network with professionals in the field by attending industry events, joining professional associations, and connecting with experts in forensic science. Stay committed to lifelong learning and professional development to enhance your skills and advance your career in forensic science. Consider pursuing advanced certifications, attending specialized training programs, or pursuing higher education opportunities as you progress in your career.
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Hello, I'm 18F just gave my board exams and is interested in international relations, international studies, cultural studies Which universities are offering these undergraduate /graduate courses in India?
Ans: Thank you for your queries...the 18F sounded like an algorithm..!

Sure you must have developed an interest in International relations, studies .Now you must develop research skills to find study opportunities.
The international environment is all about doing one's task,which is contrary to the spoon feed environment in and around here!

India is a subcontinent offering education opportunities across the Union of States, which I have no idea where you hail from.

However here are a few ...spoon feed!
Ha Ha!

Jawaharlal Nehru University
Jawaharlal Nehru University (JNU) is a public or government research university located in New Delhi, India. It was established in 1969 and named after ...Jawaharlal Nehru !

New Delhi: The School of International Studies at JNU offers a two year course in MA Politics (International Studies.

Centre for International Relations, Islamic University of Science and Technology, Jammu and Kashmir. Jadavpur University · Jawaharlal Nehru University, School .

jawaharlal nehru university

Jamia Millia Islamia

University of Mumbai

Central University of Kerala

Noida International University

Christ University

Galgotias University

Jadavpur University

Jindal School of International Affairs

South Asian University

Symbiosis International University

Adamas University

Pondicherry University

Ashoka University

Chanakya University

Gujarat University

IILM University

Central University of Jharkhand

Delhi University

Faculty of Law, Integral University

Manipal Academy of Higher Education

RV University

SHARDA UNIVERSITY

Ajeenkya DY Patil University

This is just a synopsis, as there are many more,its not a recommendation , kindly do your research and select what's best and suits your budget!
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Hi..I am a 45 years widow lady and having a son. I am widowed since ten years. One person age of around 50 years is asking about love and may be marriage who is a divorcee and having no kids. Problem is that I am good looking and he is just an average looking person but his nature is good and he continuously asking me for my companionship. I am in a very much confusing state of mind. I love his talks, his concerned towards me except his looks. Kindly tell me what should I do. I know everything that he may be good for me but my mind is not allowing me. does the looks of a person matters if I choose him? kindly clear my confusion.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry for your loss. It is certainly not easy to put yourself out there and find love. And it might seem that you should have to settle because it's difficult to find a kind man, but you shouldn't. While I would like to point out that looks don't last forever; it's people's nature, their kindness, and their behavior that stays in the long run, that doesn't mean you must settle down with the first man who ticks the boxes. If your heart isn't into it, you should not have to rush. Give it some time. If you are okay with it, maintain a friendly relationship with him. If, with time, you grow to like him, then that's amazing. If you don't, that's perfectly fine too.
My only suggestion here is don't rush. A good nature, though hard to find, is still the bare minimum. Also, please don't focus on outward appearances only. They can be deceiving.

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I am married since 2015 and I live in a joint family comprising of more than 20 members .everything was good until member of the families started accusing me of everything bad happening to family .father in law started abusing me ,when husband came in support of me even he was abused and man handled by everyone in the family .we live now in different town 400 away from them ,due to husband job, every now and the we both are made accused of something bad happening in family which the family member of mother in law side are instigating ..like sister in law caught in a relationship she named me for that blaming that i was the one who led the boy to meet and other started saying so to in laws and then same abusing over phone started...husband is supportive and is ready to leave everything for our mental peace but is emotionally down as he has to leave his family ...i am feeling very disturbed now of all this and the situation some how affecting my 5 years old son who always asks for the reasons for crying .
Ans: it's important to prioritize the safety and well-being of yourself and your family. No one should have to endure abuse or false accusations, especially within their own family. It's commendable that your husband is supportive and willing to prioritize your mental peace, even if it means leaving behind his family.

In such toxic and volatile situations, it may be necessary to distance yourselves from the negative influences and create boundaries to protect your mental and emotional health. Moving away from the family home was a positive step, and it's important to continue prioritizing your own well-being and that of your son.

Communication between you and your husband is key during this time. Lean on each other for support, and continue to have open and honest conversations about your feelings, concerns, and plans for the future. Together, you can navigate through this challenging time and make decisions that are in the best interest of your family's happiness and safety.

It's also important to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or a therapist who can offer guidance, empathy, and perspective during this difficult time. You don't have to face these challenges alone, and reaching out for support can provide valuable emotional support and validation.

Lastly, remember to prioritize self-care for yourself and your son. Take time to engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, and ensure that your son feels loved and supported during this transition. Children can be sensitive to family dynamics, so providing a stable and nurturing environment is crucial for his emotional well-being.

Overall, it's important to remember that you deserve to be in a safe and supportive environment, free from abuse and false accusations. It may be a difficult journey, but by prioritizing your own well-being and making decisions that are in the best interest of your family, you can navigate through this challenging time and emerge stronger and happier in the end.
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My parents said to me for marriage but i am in relationship with someone but he doesn't want marriage with me what i can do. I feel depressed and no one understands my feelings because it's very hard move on in life
Ans: it's important to acknowledge and validate your feelings. It's natural to feel upset, disappointed, and even depressed when facing such circumstances. Allow yourself to feel those emotions and give yourself permission to grieve the loss of the future you envisioned with your partner.

However, it's also important to recognize that you deserve to be in a relationship where your needs and desires are valued and respected. If marriage is important to you and your partner is unwilling to commit to that, it may be a sign of fundamental differences in your priorities and goals. In such cases, it's essential to have open and honest communication with your partner about your feelings and needs.

Express to your partner why marriage is important to you and listen to their perspective as well. However, if you find that you're unable to reach a compromise or if your partner remains unwilling to reconsider their stance, you may need to reassess the relationship and consider whether it's ultimately fulfilling and healthy for you.

Moving on from a relationship can indeed be incredibly challenging, but it's important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can offer understanding and empathy during this difficult time. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and help you navigate through your emotions.

Remember that while it may feel overwhelming now, with time and self-care, you will be able to heal and move forward toward a brighter future. You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued, respected, and fulfilled, and it's okay to take steps to pursue that happiness, even if it means letting go of something that's no longer serving you.
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