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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 04, 2024

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Question by Navin on Oct 29, 2024

Relationship

Hello Mam, I am 37 Yrs Old Married With 2 Kids & Leaving Happy Life. But Wife is Now not much Interestd goingPhysical . Recently I have come Across One of My Staff Who is Married with 2 Kids & Happily Married But Somehow We started talking each other & be on call for 1/2 Hrs on daily (in Night) as Her Husband Come Late at Night We Both Like Each Other & Will Not Mind to Go Physical in Near Future. Should we Keep Taking each Other & Can go Ahead Or Not

Ans: Dear Navin,
Do you want your marriage and the other lady's marriage to be intact or not? Do you want your professional reputation to clean or not?
If there are some things not going as per plan at home, you don't start searching for it outside. You actually figure out what can be done to bring things back on course, right?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

Asked on - Nov 04, 2024 | Answered on Nov 04, 2024

Mam I have Tried Many a Times To Get Physical with my wife at least once in 15 Days. But I Think she Has Lost Interest. Please Guide me

Ans: Dear Navin,
If your child has a problem, what would you do? You would talk to the child, understand, reason out and then suggest something that might work, right?
You two need to do the same thing with one another; figure out what has made her lose interest in physical intimacy...what seemed to interest her earlier isn't working now...
Talk, talk and listen as well...it will surely be a way to rekindle the bond between the two of you and also increase emotional connection which is something that women need to be physically intimate...
Trying the same things will only give you the same results; you want the outcome to be different, then try what you have already not...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Hello. Although i am married for 12 years and have a 9 year old son, the relationship with My Wife when it comes to Intimacy is not good. There was a Female Colleague in My Last Company who was very much similar to me when it comes to hobbies and interests. Although i and her left that Job sometime back, but till date i am in touch with her and love talking to her. I talk with her everyday wishing her on WhatsAPP and sometimes chat on life. But i guess have developed feelings for her but i am not sure. Due to lack of sex in my married life, i sometimes also fantasise about her making love. She is ok always meeting me but i fear that if i meet her i might cross the line. Is it ok to feel like that and should i share my feelings with Her?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

A long-term relationship might seem mundane and routine after a while but that does not permit you to develop feelings for someone else. While meeting up with your female colleagues is no big deal, when you have feelings for that colleague and doubt that you might cross a line, do you still think it's worth considering the meet-up? I doubt that.

I understand that you have a good bond with this person, and you are feeling unfulfilled in your marriage, but that still does not allow you to cheat on your wife in good conscience. I suggest three things-

1) Introspect and evaluate why you are having these feelings outside of your marriage.
2) Have a clear discussion about the same with your wife.
3) Work on the issue one step at a time, and work on it together. If needed, see a marriage counselor. We all need a little extra help once in a while.

Every marriage hits a bump or two. It will be okay once you shift your focus to the right place.

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I am 52 year old married manwith good physique and working as a higher group executive . For last few months I m in a relationship with a married lady who works with me and in just next subordinate to me who is married and 40 yr old. In my married life though I love my wife, she is keeping distance from me and our relationship is not at all in good shape. Also We r staying in separate house. I have a son 18yrs. My extramarital partner is also not happy in her family life. But she is very caring and expressed her respect and affection for me. I also care for her and I expressed my feelings to her. We respect each other very much and we feel good when we together. Our relationship is purely mutual respect and caring. No physical attraction for each other ,except occasional hug with affection. I donot know the future of our relationship. What should I do. I tried to just move on but unable to do so. She also tried as she told me, but whenever we come across we could not resist to think again and again for each other. Please advise.

Ans: You are having an emotional affair, not a physical one. You have a choice — you say you love your wife, so one option is to try and salvage your marriage. The other one is closing that chapter and moving on with your extramarital partner — but is she willing to do the same as well? No point remaining stuck in limbo for years to come. Make a decision as to your future and move ahead.

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Ans: Hello Sunil!!

I am doing great, thank you for asking, God bless you!

I can totally understand when you say you are worried.

Your son is 12.5, he will soon be a teenager. There will be different challenges, I want you to read up on parenting a teenager and be ready to handle him well.

The problem as I see it is that everyone of you, his teachers included have made studies like a burden for him.... and subjected the young child to a lot of anxiety, he just wants to run away form it....
"Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class".... this statement of yours... it is the teacher's duty to ensure the child listens to him/her, how can she start labeling a child like this. From a young age your son has been conditioned to believe that he is not not good in studies, he doesn't focus and he doesn't sit in one place. All my sympathies are with your son...every child comes with immense potential and it's our duty as parents and teachers to nurture the child.

The following is what I propose so that we bring him back to loving to learn ( not score marks, that should never be the barometer)-
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2. Give him lot of positive strokes
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5. look for a school where they nurture him... not just a reputed one...less number of students and a teacher who is invested in her/ his students,

If you can connect with me, I can help him. Have had many a students in this kind situation.
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