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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 09, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 06, 2023Hindi
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In a healthy relationship, communication is a key component. What are some effective communication strategies that can help improve a relationship?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

1. Listen empathetically out of concern rather than to react and retort
2. Communication is also non-verbal; small gestures that tell that the other person is valued and cared for goes a long way in establishing a strong grounding
3. Mutual trust based on past shared experiences can also fortify communication
4. Set aside time everyday for at least 15 minutes to talk about each others' day
5. Use 'We' rather than 'I' will ensure that both people are on the same side and not against one another

There can be many more and it can evolve differently in different relationships...Seeing what works and what doesn't can help in improving and improvising the quality of communication...
Lastly, a relationship and being in one (any relationship) is a constant work-in-progress...You must strive to evolve and also work on it till both people are on the same page...Yes, relationship and being in one is a lot of work...so keep working...

All the best!

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How can i improve my communication with my partner
Ans: Dear Prakriti,

The first step to improving your relationship is putting in the effort, and I am glad to see you are doing so. A healthy relationship runs on proper communication and there are many ways to do it. For starters, while discussing something important with your partner, set aside all things that can take away your concentration from it; for instance, keep your phone at a distance, turn off the TV, etc.

Here are some more ideas:

• During a conflict (conflict is also communication) think before you speak. Don't randomly assign blames because that won't get the discussion anywhere productive, but rather heat it up further.
• Be clear about what you want to talk about; beating around the bush will lead to more confusion. If you want to convey something, be accurate and straightforward about it; it helps leave nothing to assumptions.
• I statements are better than you statements. For instance, "I feel sad when you speak to me in this tone" sounds much better and calmer than, "You always make me feel sad with your tone." It successfully steers the conversation from turning into a blame game.
• Say sorry and thank you when it's due.

Another important part of communication is paying attention and listening intently to what your partner has to say. We often speak our piece and barely lend an ear when it's the other person's turn. Make sure to hear them out for better communication. And don't just talk about negative feelings; communicate the positive ones too.

Hope this helps.

Best Wishes!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 08, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 06, 2025Hindi
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Me married from last 5years. But from last 10months me and my wife having disputes. Any reason
Ans: One possibility is communication breakdown. Over time, couples may fall into patterns where they no longer communicate as openly or effectively as they once did. Misunderstandings, unmet expectations, or unspoken feelings can lead to tension and disputes. It’s important to reflect on whether you both are expressing your thoughts and emotions clearly and listening to each other with empathy.

Another potential factor could be unmet needs or changes in individual priorities. As people grow and evolve, their needs, desires, and priorities may shift. If these changes are not acknowledged or discussed, it can create friction. Consider whether you or your wife feel that certain emotional, physical, or practical needs are not being met.

Stress from external factors, such as work, finances, or family issues, can also spill over into the relationship. If either of you is experiencing significant stress, it might contribute to increased irritability or conflict. Identifying these stressors and finding ways to manage them together can be helpful.

Changes in intimacy or connection can also lead to disputes. Emotional or physical intimacy might wane due to various reasons, such as busy schedules, health issues, or unresolved conflicts. It’s important to nurture the bond and find ways to reconnect.

Lastly, unresolved past issues can resurface and cause ongoing disputes. If there are lingering resentments or unresolved conflicts, they might continue to affect the relationship. It’s crucial to address these issues constructively, possibly with the help of a couples counselor if needed.

Reflecting on these areas and having open, honest conversations with your wife can help you both understand the root causes of your disputes. Working together to rebuild communication, connection, and trust can guide you toward a healthier, more harmonious relationship.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 07, 2025Hindi
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Im married from last 3 months and we are from very conservative family. My wife and i never met before marriage and after marriage i asked her she had relationship before marriage but she denied. But after 3 months i received a call from her ex that she had relationship with him he had physical relationship with her atleast for 5 years straight and she had 2 bf before him too what should i do now with this information?
Ans: allow yourself to process your feelings. It's normal to feel a range of emotions—shock, hurt, confusion, or even betrayal. Give yourself the space to sit with these emotions without rushing to any immediate decisions or confrontations.

Consider the source of this information. An ex-partner might have motives that are not aligned with the best interests of your marriage. It's crucial to evaluate the credibility of the information and not act solely on a third-party account.

Open, honest communication with your wife is key. Instead of approaching the conversation with accusations, try to express your feelings and concerns calmly. Let her share her perspective and feelings. This conversation is not just about the past, but about building trust and understanding in your relationship moving forward.

Reflect on the importance of your wife's past in the context of your marriage. Everyone has a history, and it's essential to consider how much weight you want to place on past relationships versus the present and future you are building together. Focus on your current connection, values, and shared goals.

If this information continues to weigh heavily on you, consider seeking professional support. A couples counselor can provide a safe space to explore these feelings and help you both navigate this challenge. Counseling can also strengthen your communication, trust, and emotional intimacy.

Ultimately, the decision on how to move forward lies with you both. Reflect on the foundation of your relationship, your shared values, and your vision for the future. It's about understanding, forgiveness, and whether you both are committed to growing together despite the challenges.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 08, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 07, 2025Hindi
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I am turning 40 and still single. I still live with my parents. I dont want to rush into any arranged marriage but that seems like the only option left to have a family. I am feeling lost and anxious at turning 40 and still single.
Ans: take a moment to appreciate where you are in life. Living with your parents can be a sign of strong family bonds, and it's okay to lean on that support. Remember, everyone’s journey is different, and there is no one-size-fits-all timeline for life events like marriage or starting a family.

Feeling lost might stem from comparing your path to others or societal norms. Try to shift the focus inward and reflect on what truly matters to you. What are your values, desires, and goals? Understanding yourself more deeply can guide you towards decisions that align with your true self, rather than external pressures.

If the idea of an arranged marriage feels like the only option, it might help to think about what kind of partnership you envision. Is there room to explore relationships in a way that feels authentic and comfortable for you? Perhaps consider expanding your social circles, trying new activities, or even seeking professional help to navigate these feelings and options.

Anxiety about being single can often stem from fears of the future. Practicing mindfulness and staying present can help manage these feelings. Focus on the aspects of life you can control and find joy in the present moments. Engage in activities that bring you happiness and fulfillment.

Finally, remember that seeking a relationship is a journey, not a race. Rushing into something out of anxiety may not lead to the fulfillment you desire. It’s okay to take your time and seek what genuinely aligns with your heart. Your journey is unique, and there is no right or wrong timeline for love and family.

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Study Abroad Expert - Answered on Jan 08, 2025

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I've completed my graduation (B.Sc) from Delhi University, however I've come to realise that my interest lies someplace else, I hold a passion and wish to persue masters in Psychology and be a clinical psychologist down the line, what should be my next steps? Am I eligible for a master's program in Psychology even though my undergrad is in Science? I'm really troubled and cannot find a definitive answer, Willing to put in the work to crack any exam to get into a master's program, but cannot afford private colleges, Ideally, I would like to put in the work, clear and entrance examination, get into a master's programmes, maintain a great score throughout my masters and be eligible to move to some western nation to do my PhD or psy.D, whatever is applicable, It so happens that I do not see a way forward, any guidance is very much appreciated and needed. I would like to hear your thoughts on this, thank you.
Ans: Hello Aaryan,

First of all, thank you for reaching out to us. To answer your question, I can tell you that as an aspiring clinical psychologist, your B.Sc. background does not disqualify you from pursuing a Master's in Psychology, but you may need to meet specific prerequisites, such as having some foundational coursework in psychology.

Many Western universities, such as those in the US, UK, or Europe, offer postgraduate programs in Psychology with a clinical focus. You will likely need to prepare for exams like the GRE (for the US) or other relevant entrance tests depending on the country. Focus on excelling in the required exams, and explore scholarships or government-funded options to make your education more affordable. After completing your Master's, you'll be well-positioned to pursue a PhD or Psy.D. in clinical psychology if you wish to continue your studies abroad.

For more information, you can visit our website: edwiseinternational.com
You can also follow us on Instagram: @edwiseint

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