We had a relation 2 years . He cheated on me, he is with someone now I want him back I am in the depression now even I can't breath properly I don't know what to do or not

Ans:

Dear D,

Emotional maturity is what is in question here. He still is at an age where commitment is not something he is aware of.

It’s like try this relationship, if it doesn’t work, try another one and so on….

Give him time to settle his emotions till he is ready for a committed relationship; which does not mean, you wait around for ever.

Now that you are ‘friends’ or not, please surround yourself with people your age and if an interesting person comes along, see where that goes.

As far as being attached to him goes, do you really want to continue to inflict pain on yourself by basing your entire emotional world with him?

The world is huge and so are your sights…. Focus on yourself and what you love and be in that space to find yourself again.

Be kind to yourself, all the best! 

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
A breakup that affected you so badly, is it worth going back? I cannot comment much further without knowing the entire scenario but I would suggest focusing on looking ahead and moving on.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
First of all, no problem is worth ending your life. Let's work together to find a solution to this. While infidelity is unacceptable, it is a good sign that you are feeling guilty- it shows that your moral compass isn't broken after all. Now, I don't know if you have disclosed the matter to your partner but if you haven't, just take a beat and figure out why you want to tell him- to ease your guilt or because you think he deserves to know and make an informed decision about this relationship. In case, he decides to break up with you, all you can do is apologize and do so genuinely. If he still doesn't want to stay, I know it will hurt, but don't force him. Bad things happen sometimes for no good reason, but it's not the end of life. You will move on and you will never repeat the same mistake again. That is growth.

But before we jump to moving on, let's work on apologizing and making up for the mistake. I hope things get better.

Best Wishes.