Hi Guru , my 17+year old son passed 12th with 70% marks and took a drop this year to get admission in IISER,NISER or some good research college . but he has no schedule for sleeping and study. He sometimes sleeps for 14-15 hours and sometime 8-10 hrs he remains online everytime and study less. he say he try to set the schedule but unable to do so, visit to psych also not much fruitful. we r very worried as he arguments with us everytime an cry also.pls guide

Ans: I suggest meeting a coach or a psychologist who will then help you manage his behaviour pattern. Please remember, there is no stigma attached to meeting a psychologist. People think it has to do with mental health. No, it is not. They are qualified professionals who can identify behaviour patterns in young adults and help you with strategies to succeed. This is called life coaching. There are many qualified professionals in your city. You might want to reach out.

Ans: Time management is the key to success.
Productivity is not through number of hours but through quality of time to be spent at each course.Smart study hours along with continuous schedules should help. Be consistent in the efforts and maintain a log for understanding how he has planned vs spent his day.

Ans: Hello Saket!!

It is unfair to expect a child all of 08 to come back home from school late in the evening and study(I am assuming he is home by 6.30 PM). You can shift his study time to the morning hours, say from 8 to 10 AM.

Now to manage his well being after coming back from school.
Take care of the following-
1. it's a good time to introduce time management to your 8yr old son
2. on a Sunday when both of you are relatively free, involve him to make a time table for studies. Stick the time table in a place where it is visible to him
3.let him relax for an hr after coming back from school
4.if you assume 10 PM is his sleeping time( the child needs 9-12 hrs of sleep), and 7:45 PM is dinner time, some where between dinner time and sleeping time, see if you can manage a little bit of HW/studies
5. there is so much happening at school apart from studies, he is developing - social skills, coping mechanism, developing new ideas ,etc....let home be a place where he is loved, nourished and a place to relax and rejuvenate
6. have fixed time to study and make him study during those hours.

You cannot be rigid, every child's requirements are different try out what suits you and your family!!

Happy parenting!!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I would be worried too...
Too little sleep does not refresh the body or the mind. The sharp mind depends on how well-rested it is!

Competitive exams preparation demand so much out of students. If I am right, many institutions in cities have Integrated syllabus wherein the child has some breathing space and leeway. I am not sure of this...So, educationists may guide you further on this...

But on the front of well-being, I can only tell you one thing...he needs good food, good sleep, good amount of exercise and good rest to be able to function well. It could just be a case where you need to rework his schedules in order to ensure that he is fit to actually be able to study and study hard. Health first!

All the best!
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Ans: Priya Madam,

You have not provided information regarding the number of hours your son sleeps.

(1) Given that your son is only 8 years old, it is important to ensure he gets a minimum of 8 hours of sleep at night and 2 hours in the afternoon. Sleeping hours can be reduced once he enters the 6th Standard.

(2) Ensure he receives a balanced diet and nutritious food to sustain his energy levels. (3) Encourage him to maintain regular water intake to prevent dehydration. (4) Facilitate opportunities for him to take regular breaks and engage in play. (5) A 3rd standard student can't study for extended periods. He should study for 25 to 30 minutes, followed by a 10 to 15-minute break after each 25-minute study session.

(6) I am providing this information for general awareness. Parents should refrain from physically assaulting their children to achieve compliance, as this can undermine their self-confidence. (7) They should engage in more polite and loving communication with the children. (8) Children frequently observe their parents and tend to emulate their actions. Ensure that the environment at home is tranquil. (9) Addiction to electronic gadgets may also result in fatigue. (10) Regarding the Study Planner, it has been previously stated that regardless of whether he studies in the morning or evening, he should engage in study sessions of 25 minutes followed by a 10-minute break after each session. He will not experience fatigue, and the output will be increased. Hope, this answer will help you, Madam.

All the BEST for Your Prosperous Son's Future.

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