MY son is studying in 3rd year BE, preparing GRE, attending online courses, also doing JYM regularly, college hours more than 8 hrs, managing time schedule is difficult, pls guide on time schedule.

Ans: Hello Saket!!

It is unfair to expect a child all of 08 to come back home from school late in the evening and study(I am assuming he is home by 6.30 PM). You can shift his study time to the morning hours, say from 8 to 10 AM.

Now to manage his well being after coming back from school.
Take care of the following-
1. it's a good time to introduce time management to your 8yr old son
2. on a Sunday when both of you are relatively free, involve him to make a time table for studies. Stick the time table in a place where it is visible to him
3.let him relax for an hr after coming back from school
4.if you assume 10 PM is his sleeping time( the child needs 9-12 hrs of sleep), and 7:45 PM is dinner time, some where between dinner time and sleeping time, see if you can manage a little bit of HW/studies
5. there is so much happening at school apart from studies, he is developing - social skills, coping mechanism, developing new ideas ,etc....let home be a place where he is loved, nourished and a place to relax and rejuvenate
6. have fixed time to study and make him study during those hours.

You cannot be rigid, every child's requirements are different try out what suits you and your family!!

Happy parenting!!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The main issues:
1. Lack of focus which can be due to lack of interest in his chosen field of academics
2. Lack of discipline which can be due to excess online presence
Visit to the psych (psychologist or psychiatrist?) has not been fruitful simply because in his mind there is no issue to solve and sort. Till he becomes aware of what his actions are causing, the process with an expert will not work.
I suggest find an expert in your city/town who can handle adolescents especially in this digital age as the life out there for them is confusing and perhaps intimidating as well.
In the meantime, motivate him by being with him rather than pointing what he is and isn't doing. That is only going to make him go further into a shell. Arguments and then crying could be his way of not being able to cope up with pressures of what he is going through. Support him and eventually through therapy/counseling/coaching, he will be able to gather himself and do what's right for him.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I would be worried too...
Too little sleep does not refresh the body or the mind. The sharp mind depends on how well-rested it is!

Competitive exams preparation demand so much out of students. If I am right, many institutions in cities have Integrated syllabus wherein the child has some breathing space and leeway. I am not sure of this...So, educationists may guide you further on this...

But on the front of well-being, I can only tell you one thing...he needs good food, good sleep, good amount of exercise and good rest to be able to function well. It could just be a case where you need to rework his schedules in order to ensure that he is fit to actually be able to study and study hard. Health first!

All the best!
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Ans: Priya Madam,

You have not provided information regarding the number of hours your son sleeps.

(1) Given that your son is only 8 years old, it is important to ensure he gets a minimum of 8 hours of sleep at night and 2 hours in the afternoon. Sleeping hours can be reduced once he enters the 6th Standard.

(2) Ensure he receives a balanced diet and nutritious food to sustain his energy levels. (3) Encourage him to maintain regular water intake to prevent dehydration. (4) Facilitate opportunities for him to take regular breaks and engage in play. (5) A 3rd standard student can't study for extended periods. He should study for 25 to 30 minutes, followed by a 10 to 15-minute break after each 25-minute study session.

(6) I am providing this information for general awareness. Parents should refrain from physically assaulting their children to achieve compliance, as this can undermine their self-confidence. (7) They should engage in more polite and loving communication with the children. (8) Children frequently observe their parents and tend to emulate their actions. Ensure that the environment at home is tranquil. (9) Addiction to electronic gadgets may also result in fatigue. (10) Regarding the Study Planner, it has been previously stated that regardless of whether he studies in the morning or evening, he should engage in study sessions of 25 minutes followed by a 10-minute break after each session. He will not experience fatigue, and the output will be increased. Hope, this answer will help you, Madam.

All the BEST for Your Prosperous Son's Future.

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