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Question by Gayathri on May 27, 2024Hindi

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i got committed to a divorced person . will my parents accept?

Ans: Well, that is for you to answer if your parents will be fine with it or not. Divorce is a situation and not a label, the sooner we understand this the better it would be for all.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 16, 2024Hindi

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I'm in a relationship with a divorced man. After reaching about his past relationship I came to a conclusion that the divorce was not due to his mistake but now my parents are telling that they are ashamed of getting me married to him as it's his second marriage. Is there any solution to convey my parents and my I know the legal rules to getting married to a divorced man?

Ans: Addressing your parents' concerns about marrying a divorced man requires open communication and understanding. Start by having an honest conversation with them, explaining that you've carefully considered his past and believe the divorce was not his fault. Emphasize his positive qualities and how well he treats you.

Acknowledge their concerns about societal stigma, but gently challenge these perceptions. Highlight that successful second marriages are common and that his past does not define your future together. Encourage them to get to know him better, as personal interaction can help change their views.

Legally, there are generally no obstacles to marrying a divorced person, as long as his previous marriage is legally dissolved. Ensure all necessary paperwork, such as the final divorce decree, is in order. Consulting a lawyer can provide clarity and ensure all legal requirements are met.

By combining open communication, education, and personal engagement, you can help your parents see the strength of your relationship and work towards gaining their support.

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 26, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2024Hindi

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Dear Expert, I am in a committed relationship with a divorced woman who has a 6-year-old daughter. We have known each other for six years and became deeply involved in relationship after her divorce, which was finalized a year ago. She is currently 23 years old and was married at the age of 14. She endured domestic harassment during her marriage, leading to a separation, and has been living apart from her ex-husband for the past four years before their legal divorce. Presently, she has no source of income and relies on her parents, who themselves face financial difficulties. Despite these challenges, we both wish to marry and build a life together. However, I am facing some concerns that I hope you can help me address: I am uncertain about how to approach my parents regarding our relationship, given her previous marriage, her young child, and her challenging circumstances. Her ex-husband is my colleague and is currently unaware of our relationship. I fear that he will react negatively, potentially tarnishing my and my family’s reputation among friends and relatives or even attempting to harass us in the future. I'm seeking your guidance on the following: 1. Is marrying her and embracing this responsibility a prudent decision, considering her past and the challenges we may face? 2. How can I effectively address her ex-husband's behavior and protect our relationship and my and family's reputation? 3. What strategies can I use to gain my parents' understanding, acceptance, and support? 4. How can we ensure a strong and healthy future together, considering the complexities of our situation?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Let me address your issues one by one
1. Is marrying her and embracing this responsibility a prudent decision, considering her past and the challenges we may face?
I can't tell if it is prudent but I don't see it to be a dangerous decision as well. Yes, I understand your concerns, but you have been with her for a long time now. You must have considered all of these concerns beforehand. But if you think you are not sure, I would suggest you don't keep her hanging with hope. Discuss the doubts and concerns directly with her.

2. How can I effectively address her ex-husband's behavior and protect our relationship and my and family's reputation?
Her previous marriage involved domestic harassment and that's how the relationship ended. You had no part in it. You came into the picture after their separation. Why should her husband have any say in her life after divorce? Be strict with him from the very beginning. As a part of courtesy, you can let him know that you are considering marrying his ex, but besides that, you owe him no explanation.

3. What strategies can I use to gain my parents' understanding, acceptance, and support?
Highlight the positives in your partner; let them know how happy she makes you and how much she means to you. Parents being unsupportive in such cases are very common, but with some persistent counseling from your end can make things work out in your favor.

4. How can we ensure a strong and healthy future together, considering the complexities of our situation?
The complexities of the situation don't necessarily have to play part in your future together. Let her move on from this past and if anything, you should help her move past this divorce and harassment instead of bringing that into the future. Yes, it is a part of who she is, but is so much more than just a divorcee and a very young mother; she is the person you fell for- there must be some solid reason for that. After all, you fell knowing all the complexities. That makes her even more special. All you have to do is remember those.

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My relationship started Four years ago and everything was fine My parents accepted him but his mother started creating problems over small things He is Jain and I understand that it is difficult for them to accept someone from a non-vegetarian family However his mother told my father that my entire family should stop eating nonveg and said many hurtful things She also said that I should only wear suits and follow their rules I have always lived a comfortable life where I never had to do any household chores but his mother told my parents that I need to learn everything I come from a wealthy family while his family is average, and I am not sure if I can adjust to that lifestyle His mother created a lot of drama for two years and now suddenly she is ready to accept me But I am afraid she might go back to her old ways after marriage I have never had to worry about financial issues but I know things might change if I marry him He has also lied to me a few times and when my parents visited his home and business his father avoided showing anything and made excuses which made my family suspicious

Ans: Hello mam.
I understand that it feels strange when someone changes suddenly so much like you said the boy's mother's attitude changed and now she is ready to accept you. Marriage is a big decision and it does not work only with love. It needs many other practical things to work. Like many compromises from both side, finances, acceptance, trust and respect. Think as much as you want before marriage a d take a good decision but after marriage you cannot change the things so easily.
Take some more time and get information on their business, thier family reputation, their relatives and neighbours. Only then take a decision. And leave the things upto your parents. They are much more experienced and have a much more willingness to see you happy.
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 21, 2025Hindi

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hi, i want an advice on how to convince my parents, i am in love with a guy who is very genuine, understands me completely, he accepts me and loves me with all my flaws. my parents are rejecting him because he earns a quite less and is a different cast. i have tried convincing them by saying that we both can live happily and lead a peaceful life. but my parents aren't accepting, kindly help

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sorry you are standing in such a tricky situation. First of all, I want to know if you have a job? If yes, would two people's salaries together provide a comfortable life? If not, do you think his salary alone will cut it in this economy?
I want you to ask yourself the same questions. If you do not have a job yet, I would urge you to try for one. Financial independence is extremely important, especially for women. Now, I cannot comment on the caste thing, because the seriousness of that differs from family to family, but if it is earning that is bothering your parents, you can wait a bit and aim for a higher-salaried job and pitch in the same idea. Or at least, show your parents that you and your parents are willing to put in the work. Their concerns about income are not completely baseless, because once life becomes uncomfortable, love can take a backseat. Focus on building a better career and then get married. Do this for yourself, and not just for your parents.
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Can I marry a 19yr elder person will the relationship susttain and wt about the future

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I don't predict the future BUT I can tell you that when the age gap is large, thoughts and value systems start to become different and 19 years is a very long gap...so, it can cause issues within the marriage when mind compatibility fails.

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Sir/madam My jee main CRL is 23059 In csab round there are chances of getting NIT DURGAPUR ECE and IIEST SHIBPUR Information technology!! Which one should I prefer more ? I am from WB

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Sir,My son got B tech mechanical in iit tirupati and also btech cse in shiv nadar university chennai.Which one will be the best for his future?

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Recommendation: Opt for Shiv Nadar University Chennai CSE if you prioritise higher placement consistency, strong industry partnerships and cutting-edge computing specializations, (OR) choose IIT Tirupati Mechanical Engineering for a government institute pedigree, robust core-engineering foundation and growing research infrastructure. My Suggestion: Prefer IIT-T-Mechanical over SNU. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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