Second Marriage Blues: How to Convince Parents?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing. I understand that it must be heartbreaking to have to let go of your love merely because of a difference in caste and even worse to have to forcefully marry someone you don't love. I suggest you have a clear discussion with both your partner and parents if you think you cannot remain in the marriage. Try to convince them that you are not happy and consider separation. It can be difficult to persuade the people we call family and some choices might even hurt them, but you still have to make them understand if your peace and happiness depend on them. Remember you are an adult who is allowed to have her own emotions and choices. If you choose to separate from your partner, it is okay.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How can you convince your parents? Well, I am unsure of how your parents are going to react to the news of you being married...They may react out of hurt and disappointment but I am sure you knew that this would be a possibility.
Break the news to them gently and be prepared for whatever their reactions maybe. Do not try to convince them as much as wait for them to come around.
You will know if and when they are ready and then you can introduce your spouse to them. Patience is the only thing that can help you through this situation.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that you are in a challenging situation. If you want to convince your parents, the first thing is to acknowledge their concerns. It is normal for parents to be worried about their child's future. You mentioned your partner is comparatively less educated than you and works as a driver; while every profession is equally important and as long as he is honest and hardworking and puts food on the table, he is doing well, parents can find the financial situation a little concerning. Instead of avoiding or being defensive about these concerns, address them. Let them know how you plan on tackling these differences in your relationship. Emphasize his character, personality, and all the qualities that drew you to him. Tell them how you have been in a stable relationship for 4 years, despite all the odds. In today's day and age, that is a huge thing. Convincing them would also require you to show that you are mature enough to make this decision so have the discussion once you and your partner have a solid plan and have the nitty-gritty all sorted.

Be practical and do not expect them to be onboard immediately. They have your best interest at heart and you know that your situation isn't ideal. Give them time to come around. It might take some compromises as well.

In the end, I would also urge you to think this through before introducing the relationship to your parents. Marriage is a big decision. Ultimately, it's your happiness and life at stake. Don't rush.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
16 years is a long time and I am sure that you have thought this through...It's possible that your father may come around someday...for now, it's time for you to take a decision to live life and take charge. You cannot force him to agree to anything and maybe address what his worries. Some of it may make sense and some of it may seem unnecessary. But ultimately he is a parent and wishes you well.
Address his concerns and if he still does not want to look at things differently, you know what you can do...So, take charge...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/