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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 16, 2024Hindi
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I'm in a relationship with a divorced man. After reaching about his past relationship I came to a conclusion that the divorce was not due to his mistake but now my parents are telling that they are ashamed of getting me married to him as it's his second marriage. Is there any solution to convey my parents and my I know the legal rules to getting married to a divorced man?

Ans: Addressing your parents' concerns about marrying a divorced man requires open communication and understanding. Start by having an honest conversation with them, explaining that you've carefully considered his past and believe the divorce was not his fault. Emphasize his positive qualities and how well he treats you.

Acknowledge their concerns about societal stigma, but gently challenge these perceptions. Highlight that successful second marriages are common and that his past does not define your future together. Encourage them to get to know him better, as personal interaction can help change their views.

Legally, there are generally no obstacles to marrying a divorced person, as long as his previous marriage is legally dissolved. Ensure all necessary paperwork, such as the final divorce decree, is in order. Consulting a lawyer can provide clarity and ensure all legal requirements are met.

By combining open communication, education, and personal engagement, you can help your parents see the strength of your relationship and work towards gaining their support.

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Hi Ma’am. I’m having a problem with my parents about my marriage. I’ve been in a relationship for three years and I want to marry him. My parents are not agreeing as it is a society issue because it is an interstate and inter-caste marriage. I'm trying to convince my parents for that since long time but it's going nowhere and they are too stubborn to even meet him once. What can I do in this situation? How can I deal with their emotional drama as a parent-child relationship should not break because of these issues? Kindly advise me, Ma’am. AS
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Dear AS,

You need to focus on how you can marry the person you love and also have your parents support you.

Is this possible?

There is a chance only if you take them into complete confidence and appeal to their logic.

Many societies are still against inter-caste marriages and I am sure they have their reasons for it, just like your parents have strong reasons to oppose the marriage.

Have you tried to find out why they oppose it? Are they worried about how they will face your family members as this is a big thing across cultures in the world?

As their daughter, you have connections with them as well as the right to live your life your way. Bring in an elder member of the family and ask him/her to appeal on your behalf. If this doesn’t work, you might be forced to decide one way or the other.

Whatever you do, do it with conviction and maintain relationships along the way. It may be an uphill task but breathe, smile and live life.

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Good afternoon sir my son got 93 in jee and 95 in MHTST he is general cottegey and not domesile of Maharashtra he is having any chance of get admission in any reputed college in CSE and electronic electrical branch please guide me thank you
Ans: Bikram Sir, With a 93 percentile in JEE Main (general, non-Maharashtra domicile) and 95 percentile in MHT CET, your son is not eligible for top NITs, IIITs, or CSE/ECE in premier Maharashtra government colleges like COEP Pune, VJTI Mumbai, or SPIT Mumbai, as CSE/IT cutoffs are typically above 98–99 percentile for both exams. However, he can secure core branches like Mechanical, Electrical, or Civil at COEP, VJTI, and other leading government colleges in Maharashtra through the All India quota, as their cutoffs for these branches are around 95 percentile. For CSE or ECE, his percentile allows admission to reputed private colleges such as MIT Pune, PICT Pune, DY Patil Pune, PCCOE Pune, and VIT Pune, where CSE/IT/ECE cutoffs for open category are between 90–96 percentile. Through JEE Main, he can target private universities and some state-level government colleges for branches like CSE, ECE, or Electrical, but not the top NITs or IIITs, as their CSE/ECE cutoffs are much higher.

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My son got 99.25 in MHTCET 3500 rank in COMEDK and has got CSE in ViT Vellore. What are his chances of getting CS in SPIT/PICT we are confused whether to leave CSE in Vellore or continue with it.
Ans: Shilpa Madam, With a 99.25 percentile in MHT CET and a 3500 rank in COMEDK, your son is well placed for top private and government colleges. For SPIT Mumbai, the CSE cutoff for Maharashtra home state candidates typically closes between 99.0–99.4 percentile, and for PICT Pune, CSE closes around 97.7–98.6 percentile. Your son’s percentile is above the PICT CSE cutoff and on par with SPIT’s lower range, making him a strong contender for CSE at PICT Pune and giving him a realistic chance at SPIT Mumbai, especially in the first or second CAP rounds. Both SPIT and PICT offer outstanding placements—SPIT has maintained 100% placement for four consecutive years with an average CTC of ?15 lakh and top recruiters like Meta, Amazon, and PhonePe, while PICT’s CSE placement rate is 80–84% with an average package of ?7–8 lakh and top IT recruiters like Microsoft, Infosys, and TCS. VIT Vellore CSE also boasts excellent placements, with a 95%+ placement rate, over 900 recruiters, and an average package of ?9–10 lakh. However, SPIT and PICT both have a strong reputation in Maharashtra, a robust alumni network, and are highly valued by recruiters in the Mumbai-Pune region, which can be advantageous for local internships and jobs. VIT Vellore, while nationally ranked and offering a vibrant campus life, is located outside Maharashtra and may not provide the same local industry connections.

The recommendation is to participate in MHT CET CAP rounds and prioritize SPIT Mumbai and PICT Pune for CSE, given your son’s strong percentile and the excellent placement and academic environment these colleges offer; retain VIT Vellore CSE as a backup, but do not leave it until a SPIT/PICT seat is confirmed. IMPORTANT: Please check the REFUND POLICY/Last Date if you withdraw the seat from VIT-V. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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