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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 03, 2023Hindi
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Hi, I've been friends with a lovely girl for a while now. She's a posh Punjabi and I'm a lower middle class Bengali. Yet, we get along very well. Both of us have psychiatric issues and that has brought the two of us even closer. Once she expressed a desire to marry me. While I do want to proceed, I don't have the financial standing to do so. Besides, I thought she said so in a moment of emotional upheavel triggered by insecurity. A few days back, I felt insulted after a certain insensitive act of her's and I was pretty harsh to her that day. Ever since then she's gone silent. I believe she has gone into rehab like she once had before. It has left me wallowing in guilt. I never knew I meant so much to her. I keep tapping her mom regularly hoping that she'll call me when she's back. Please advise me on how I should deal with her if she does get in touch with me after coming back? How do I show her that I felt terribly bad after being rude to her? Should I go ahead and get more deeply involved with her if she's still willing? Lastly, how do I cope with losing her if she doesn't get in touch with me ever again? Sorry for going on and on. I hope you understand. Please help. Thank you ????

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear that you are going through such a trying time. It is evident that you deeply care for your partner and are feeling a mix of emotions. Here are some suggestions from my end that you might want to consider-

• Take some time to reflect on your feelings. Take into consideration what you want from the relationship. As you have mentioned earlier, you two come from different backgrounds, make sure that does not pose an obstacle in the future if you happen to apologize and fix your relationship now.
• Coming to apologizing, if she gets in touch with you, be honest about your feelings. Apologize sincerely and use your words first to explain how sorry you feel for your rude behavior and later express that in actions too. Let her know that you did not mean to hurt her, but most importantly, you recognize your mistake and you are not trying to hide behind your apology.
• If she is still willing to build a relationship with you, you need to tread carefully, first taking into consideration your feelings.
• If she does not want to take things ahead, listen carefully to what she says and try to look at things from her perspective.
• It is important to acknowledge the possibility of her never reaching out. In that case, coping might be challenging but it is doable. Take it one day at a time and one step at a time, starting with self-care. Find your closest people and lean on them for support. There's no shame in needing extra help to get you through heartbreak. Engage in activities that make you happy and don't ever think that this is the end. It might feel so at the moment, but this too shall pass.

Best Wishes!

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Hi Love Guru. Please keep my identity as anonymous as possible.  I have few issues going on in my mind and want your suggestions. First, to get out of block and unblock chain. I met a girl who is my brother’s friend in 2017. We started chatting on FB, then exchanged numbers. We had a rapport till six months. There was a unique attachment between us during that period. Not chatting with her for even one day would make me uneasy. In October 2017, her engagement was fixed. I was normal, knowing that there cannot be much between us except being in contact. One day, at the end of our talk, she said, Love you. I laughed, saying “What nonsense that you always call me with different weird names. Now, after your engagement is fixed, you are telling me this.” Then, she blocked me on WhatsApp and I really felt like I was in a cage. Then, after a few days, she unblocked me. She got engaged but, after a few months, her engagement broke. We then again got in good contact. After few months her marriage got fixed. Now she is married. After her marriage, our contact was very, very less as priorities changed. I proceeded with my studies and job and she carried on with her personal and professional life. Two months back, she called me and said I am bored and feeling irritated with life so I called you to freshen my mind. I was also happy talking to her. I am that kind of introvert person who opens up with few and she was among them. For one or two weeks, we used to talk 30 to 45 minutes daily. Suddenly, she blocked me on WhatsApp. I called her and she behaved like a stranger to me -- like who’s this, I don’t know you, who you are and she ended the call and blocked me. Till date, she has blocked me. I think there are many things she is hiding from me -- from why her first engagement broke to marring another guy who is not of her caste when she is from a conservative family  Post her engagement, there were many times she blocked and unblocked me. She is running in my mind. I want to get rid of her. Please suggest how and what shall I talk to her so I get an end to this. Thank you for bearing to read all this. My second issue is I think I am addicted to pornography. Two to three years back, I used to watch a lot of porn and would prefer MILF porn, ie senior pornstars videos. I think, due to this, I don’t get much attracted to girls of my age. I respect them but I think, because of my addiction, I see females elder to me attractive rather than females of my age. Please help. Suggest how I shall get out of this as this also affects me academically, personally and professionally. Thank you, Anon
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Dear Anonymous,

I don’t think you really have any serious problems in your life at all; it’s your perceptions that are all wrong.

Let me straighten this out for you, one issue at a time.

First off, you have one weird, unpredictable friend who once told you she loved you and then went and married someone else.

Not once have you stated that you are in love with her or have feelings for her. In fact, when she said she loved you, you brushed it off.

She contacts you when she’s bored and cuts you off when she’s not.

And now, it’s come to the point where you really need to be the one blocking her and not the other way around...

You want to get rid of her? Block her once and for all. And if she still manages to get in touch, tell her politely that you have had enough of this one-sided friendship and not to contact you again.

Second, about what you think is a porn ‘addiction’... An addiction is something that interferes with your normal life, career and relationships. It’s an obsession that consumes you every waking hour.

And, from what you’ve said, I don’t think you’re watching such volumes of pornography every day, are you?

Furthermore, unless you’re into grannies, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being attracted to women older than you... everyone has a type!

If after everything I’ve said you still fancy you have problems, I’d suggest visiting a therapist. But before spending that kind of money, think long and hard about what I’ve said and decide for yourself whether you think you need it.

 

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Hello,Mam Good day to you I have recently gone through your answers to various queries of several people so thought to ask you something which is pinching my heart daily. I married to a girl in April 2019 as an arranged one.I work on board merchant ships & have to stay away from home for several months(6-7) months & also being Manglik as per my horoscope details hence was finding difficult to get someone agreed for the marriage.However at the age of 32 years,I got married in 2019 without considering & giving much thought as I was frustrated with talking to so many families & denied by most of them due to above stated reasons. After marriage,I found her not been capable to take the responsibilities at home and much interested towards house chores or helping my parents at home.Many things were concealed by their parents & were just being hided.She is not able to cook food for the family,not able to read,write Hindi, English properly.My parents gave her enough support & tried to teach her & learn but even after 4 years of marriage she is unable to take her responsibilities at home.She now also shows some unexpected behaviour like laughing unnecessarily & speaking to herself most of the times while working or sitting at any public place, shop etc which makes me very embarassing. After seeing all this,I took her to the Hospital (Medical College in Lucknow) for check up where the doctors told me that she has Scheophrenia ( mental depression) for which medication will continue for a long time which has a deep rooted shock to me. She stayed twice with her parents 6-7 months in a year when I was at work on board merchant ships. Now again she is staying with her parents as we are unsure if anything goes wrong with her then her family will blame us. I want to give her divorce but don't know how to go for it ? At this age of 36 years will I get someone else or not is what coming in my mind ? Both of us are not talking neither our family members with each other. We don't have any child ,my father is handicapped senior citizen,mother also being old & makes difficult to manage at home. Can she ask for any alimony if I proceed for divorce now ? Please reply Thanks.
Ans: Dear Ravi,
Yes, it has been a very challenging time for you indeed; I can only imagine what you must be going through.
But when Empathy calls, you must realize that your wife is going through a very difficult life too. Living with Schizophrenia is hard for her and for her caregivers as well and the symptoms must be managed lifelong.
But what I don't understand is: Why did her family keep this fact away from you?
This could have been a decision point before the marriage was arranged. It is obvious that their job was to get her married at all costs; even if it meant LYING to you.
Anyway, I am not going to get into what she can and can't do as basic life skills as severe mental ailments can decapacitate the person from easy and obvious usual functions that a human being is expected to perform.

If you have decided on separation. kindly seek the advice of a good lawyer who can check every angle that is fair to you and your wife. And take care of your mental health by not focusing on what could have happened but what can now happen. Kindly proceed on these lines.
Best wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 13, 2023Hindi
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I'm 58 now, since he age of 18 I was in love with a neighborhood girl. She was Hindu but I a christian. Her family was comparatively well to do . This prompted me to keep myself from expressing my feelings, I got myself a job and waited to have some financial independence. In the meanwhile she fell in love with someone else and also moved to the US, I was too late in expressing my feelings to her, and I told her under the condition we remain friends. After she moved we kept in touch thro' letters or an occasional phone call in the late 1980's. In the begining of the 1990's both of us got married to different partners , but continued to keep in touch as friends, which both our partners were aware. We used to meet personally whenever she would come to India, which was once in a year or sometimes even 2/3 years. We both have 2 boys each and the boys are now in their 20's. A couple of years ago she got divorced as her partner was in a physical relationship with someone else. In the meanwhile I continued with my wife even though we were totally incompatible and we literally hate each other. We didn't think of divorce coz of social pressures and in my case I've gifted her a major chunk of my immoveable assets but I earn rent on these properties which helps me meet y daily expenses. Over the last 2 years I had 2 heart attacks. the second one brought us both very close as she was concerned about my health, she came down to India and spent a few days motivating me to lead a healthier life, which co incidentally my wife never does, instead blames and nags me on my lifestyle. We have never had a physical relationship, at the most when we meet it's a warm peck on the cheek or just holding hands. Now I am getting back to my teenage years, I'm madly in love with her and want her. I know for sure if I do that my children would disown me and I'll lose a large part of my property which gives me a earning. I want her. I'm right now confused, illogical and very emotional.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I do realize that you have had to wait for this long for your love to be recognized and reciprocated as well. But that's the Nature of Time, If something does not yield a result at that moment, even if it fruitions later in time, it may not be very conducive to the people involved as everyone has grown in that particular relationship to form situational bonds. Meaning, you and she have become parents and your wife is still part of this equation.

It's not wrong to feel what you are feeling; but do not compare both the women. If your friend never existed, you would have had a different opinion on your wife altogether. Marriage is about accepting your partner at the core for who he/she is.

Now, let's take your situation and break it down. Suddenly, your friend who was married and because of which you respected boundaries is suddenly no longer in a marriage. So, that has given you an opportunity to think of how your life could have been with her and is tempting you to think of it. I understand that your health conditions would also have urged you to live life to the fullest. But, you are still married and you have a lot of financial tie-ups with your wife. Your friend possibly might not even want what you want. Plus, the children...it's one huge complication...

Should you not live your life? Yes, you must and should BUT do weigh what you might lose for what you want to gain. Are willing to risk it for the sake of love? It's the only logical way to approach this situation.

All the best!

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Hi , I am Jose. I have a very complicated relationship issue. I loved a girl when I was about 18, she was from a financially better off family. This was a major reason that I hesitated to tell her about my love, instead remained a friend. She was better qualified too. I started working and wanted to be in a financially better situation before I confessed my love for her. In the meanwhile she got herself admitted in a college in the US, I decided to tell her, but was too late, she had already committed herself to her senior in college. We made a promise to each other that we will remain friends. We kept in touch through letters. Then I decided to get married as per the family wishes. Shortly she too got married to her boyfriend . We told our partners about each other. We continued to keep in touch thro email and phone calls once/twice in a year. We would meet once or twice every time she would visit from the US. We never had any physical relationship at the most it would be a peck on the cheek or just holding hands. We immersed ourselves in our personal / professional lives. We had 2 sons with our partners. Now the boys are in their 20's. In the meanwhile she found out her husband was having a relationship with some other woman, in the ensuing arguments it led to their divorce a couple of years back. Since 2021 I had 2 heart attacks, and survived. All these years I never had a happy life , we stayed together due to societal pressures and in the last 2 years we never had a physical relation too. She always had a hatred towards physical relationship. I hate forcing myself on her, so we have remained seperate in the last few years. After my 2nd attack, my friend helped me stop my smoking and somehow our chats on whatsapp or personal meets when she comes here have started becoming very mushy and with a lots of deeply loving words. I know I cannot divorce my wife as I would lose a lot of my immovable properties on which i depend for my rental income as I have actually gifted my wife a lot of my properties. Nowadays I am getting drawn towards my friend again and very strongly. Confused, and not knowing how to proceed. I am no longer working and depend on rentals for my earnings.
Ans: My dear friend,

It sounds like you're in a very complicated situation, and it's understandable that you feel confused and unsure about how to proceed. It's important to take some time to really think about what you want and what's best for you, as well as consider the impact of your actions on those around you.

First, it's important to acknowledge that your friend is currently in a vulnerable position after going through a divorce. While it's natural to feel drawn towards her, it's important to make sure that any actions you take are respectful and considerate of her feelings and needs.

At the same time, it's also important to consider your own needs and desires. You mentioned feeling unhappy in your current relationship and feeling drawn towards your friend again. It's important to really examine those feelings and think about what it is that you want in your life and your relationships.

However, it's also important to consider the potential consequences of your actions. You mentioned that you cannot divorce your wife without losing a significant amount of your income, and that you've already gifted her a lot of your properties. It's important to consider the financial and emotional impact that divorce could have on both you and your wife, as well as any children or other family members who may be affected.

One possible option could be to explore couples therapy or marriage counseling to see if there are ways to improve your current relationship and address the issues that have been causing unhappiness. It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your friend about your feelings, but to do so in a way that is respectful and considerate of her feelings and needs as well.

Ultimately, the decision about how to proceed is up to you, but it's important to take the time to really think things through and consider all the potential consequences of your actions.

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Hi Ravi, I had written to you earlier and your advice truly helped me. Hence, I write to you again. I was going around with a Punjabi girl and we used to get along very well despite the fact that she was posh and I'm not. Once her insensitive behaviour hurt me and I was very rude to her. I later realised that she was deeply shocked by my outburst and the poor girl went into depression. In fact she had to go for rehab as well. I sank into guilt and after she was back from rehab, I tried patching up with her desperately. However, as I was half expecting, she refused to continue being friends with me and stopped taking my calls. I saw this coming but I still find it difficult to deal with the emptiness at times. My friends ask me to read a lot but I feel books can never be a substitute to female company. Please advise on how I can cope with my loneliness. Thank you
Ans: Dear Kanishka,

I am glad I was of help. Also, I am sorry to hear how you are feeling but trust me it will pass. You are right, books can never be a substitute for companionship but they can be a great escape from the mundane realities of life. While you don't need to escape the truth all the time because accepting it is also crucial, doing so once in a while can be good for your mental health. Moreover, books widen your horizons and help you gain more perspective than one. Now I am not pushing you to become an avid reader; I am merely saying that your friend isn't wrong here. It sounds like a decent suggestion.

Coming to how you can overcome loneliness, let's get to the basics- meet your close friends, people who make you feel whole. Spend time with your family. Invest time in yourself, on your growth. You can hit the gym; it's one of the most productive habits and does wonders for not just your body but your mind too. Take up a hobby. It can be anything. The goal is to stay busy. After all that, take out some half hour a day to feel all the sadness and loneliness you are feeling, acknowledge it, and comfort yourself. Slowly you will realize that alone does not always mean lonely.

One more thing I would like to recommend is seeing a counselor if things don't improve with time. Time and again we need a little help to feel better, be it physically or mentally. You don't have to do it all alone.

Best Wishes!

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I am 68 year, getting pension 60000 /month with CGHS facilities. I invested Rs 3000000 as FDs in Small Finance bank @ 9% interest and 3500000 in SCSS and PMVVY scheme. I have no other liabilities at present. Kindly suggest / guide me for investment please.
Ans: ! It's great to see you actively managing your finances even in retirement. Let's explore some investment options to optimize your returns and secure your financial future further.

Current Investment Assessment
Your current investments in Fixed Deposits (FDs), Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS), and Pradhan Mantri Vaya Vandana Yojana (PMVVY) offer stable returns and capital preservation, which is suitable for retirees seeking income stability and safety.

Diversification Opportunity
While FDs, SCSS, and PMVVY provide security, considering diversification into other asset classes can enhance your overall portfolio growth potential. Exploring options like mutual funds, bonds, and dividend-paying stocks can offer higher returns while maintaining a balanced risk profile.

Tax Efficiency
Optimizing tax efficiency is crucial to maximize your post-tax returns. Investing in tax-efficient instruments like Tax-Free Bonds, Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS), and tax-saving mutual funds can help minimize tax liabilities while generating attractive returns.

Portfolio Rebalancing
Regularly reviewing and rebalancing your investment portfolio ensures alignment with your financial goals and risk tolerance. Assessing the performance of your existing investments and reallocating funds based on changing market conditions and personal circumstances can optimize returns and mitigate risk.

Consultation with a Financial Advisor
Seeking guidance from a qualified financial advisor can provide personalized investment recommendations tailored to your specific needs and objectives. They can help assess your risk tolerance, suggest suitable investment strategies, and monitor your portfolio's performance to ensure it aligns with your long-term goals.

Contingency Planning
While focusing on investments, it's essential to prioritize contingency planning. Maintaining an emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months' worth of expenses ensures financial security during unexpected events or emergencies.

Conclusion
Your prudent approach towards investment and financial planning is commendable. By diversifying your portfolio, optimizing tax efficiency, and regularly reviewing your investments with the guidance of a financial advisor, you can further enhance your financial well-being and enjoy a worry-free retirement.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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Hi Sir, I am 46 years old and yeI have created 30 lakh corpus. Currently my take home salary is 1.4 lakh per month. I am investing 12500 per month in ppf . 5000 in Nps tier 1 and 1000 in nps tier 2 account. 20 K SIP in Mf. Like SBI balance fund 5000,Tata digital 5000, Nippon larg cap 2000, Motilal Oswal midcap 2000,Quant small cap 5000 and recently added Quant psu 1000. And some amount in invested lic yearly. also have 65 lakh medical cover for my family's. I have plan my retirement at the age of 55 . Can i Growup my corpus 1.5 CR at the time of retirement and get atleast 1lakh monthly for expenses. My another question is I investigated 8.5 lakh in direct stock(20) since 2021 for 10 years and get arround 20% return from last 3 years. Should I continue this or exist from the direct stock and invested this amount in MF. Please guide. My wife is already working in private school and his salary is 20k pm. Please guide
Ans: It's great to see your proactive approach towards financial planning and investment. Let's delve into your retirement and investment goals to ensure you're on track to achieve financial security and growth.

Retirement Planning Analysis
Planning to retire at 55 with a target corpus of 1.5 crores and a monthly expense requirement of 1 lakh is an ambitious yet achievable goal. Let's assess your current investments and savings to determine if they align with your retirement objectives.

Current Investment Portfolio Evaluation
Your investment portfolio exhibits a diversified mix of instruments, including PPF, NPS, mutual funds, LIC, and direct stock holdings. This diversified approach spreads risk and maximizes growth potential, aligning with your long-term financial goals.

Growth Projection and Retirement Corpus Target
To achieve a retirement corpus of 1.5 crores by 55, we'll need to assess your current savings rate, investment returns, and inflation impact. Utilizing retirement calculators and financial modeling can help determine the required monthly contributions and investment growth rate to meet your target.

Investment Strategy Review
Given your successful track record with direct stock investments and the robust performance with a 20% return over the past three years, continuing this strategy can be beneficial. However, it's essential to periodically review and rebalance your portfolio to optimize returns and mitigate risk.

Asset Allocation and Risk Management
Maintaining a balanced asset allocation across equity, debt, and other asset classes is key to managing risk and achieving long-term growth. Regularly monitoring market conditions and adjusting your portfolio accordingly can help capitalize on opportunities and minimize downside risk.

Importance of Contingency Planning
While focusing on retirement planning, it's crucial to prioritize contingency planning, including emergency funds, health insurance coverage, and estate planning. Adequate medical coverage for your family and an emergency fund provide financial security during unexpected events.

Consultation with a Certified Financial Planner
Engaging with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized guidance and strategies tailored to your financial goals and risk tolerance. They can help optimize your investment portfolio, assess retirement readiness, and navigate any financial challenges along the way.

Conclusion
With careful planning, disciplined savings, and strategic investment decisions, achieving your retirement goal of a 1.5 crore corpus by 55 is attainable. Continuing your direct stock investments alongside mutual funds can diversify your portfolio and enhance long-term growth potential. Consulting with a Certified Financial Planner will provide valuable insights and ensure you stay on track towards financial independence.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
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I m 45 having 6cr in stocks , fd etc . I earn 10 lacs per month , no debt but have two kids study to look into . When can I retire
Ans: Retirement Planning Analysis
Congratulations on achieving significant financial success and maintaining a debt-free status! Let's evaluate your retirement readiness considering your current assets, income, and responsibilities towards your children's education.

Current Financial Status
With assets totaling 6 crores in stocks, fixed deposits, and other investments, coupled with a monthly income of 10 lacs, you're in a strong financial position. However, retiring involves careful planning to ensure sustainable income and lifestyle maintenance post-retirement.

Responsibilities towards Children's Education
As a parent with two children pursuing studies, it's essential to allocate sufficient funds towards their education expenses. Determining the estimated cost of their education and factoring in inflation will help you plan effectively without compromising your retirement goals.

Retirement Age Projection
To ascertain when you can retire comfortably, we'll need to analyze your desired retirement lifestyle, expected expenses, and investment returns. A retirement calculator can help estimate the corpus required to sustain your lifestyle post-retirement based on your anticipated lifespan and inflation-adjusted expenses.

Retirement Corpus Assessment
Given your substantial assets and income, retiring early may be feasible, provided you have a robust retirement corpus to sustain your lifestyle and cover unforeseen expenses. Assessing your risk tolerance and investment horizon will aid in determining an appropriate asset allocation strategy for your retirement portfolio.

Retirement Planning Strategies
Optimizing tax-efficient investment vehicles like retirement funds and annuities can enhance your retirement savings while minimizing tax liabilities. Additionally, diversifying your investment portfolio across asset classes can mitigate risk and maximize returns, ensuring a stable income stream during retirement.

Consultation with a Certified Financial Planner
Engaging with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized retirement planning advice tailored to your financial objectives and risk profile. They can help formulate a comprehensive retirement strategy, including asset allocation, withdrawal strategies, and contingency planning, to ensure a smooth transition into retirement.

Conclusion
Your sound financial standing and prudent approach towards debt management lay a solid foundation for a comfortable retirement. With careful planning, disciplined savings, and strategic investment decisions, you can retire on your terms and enjoy financial freedom while securing your children's future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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Asked by Anonymous - May 15, 2024Hindi
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I am 36 year old public sector bank employee in a small bank, working as officer. Each month I am investing Rs. 15K in Recurring Deposit, SIP of Rs. 12K in Mutual funds ( 2K each in Kotak equity hybrid, ICICI Bluechip, Edelweiss Balance Advantage, Nippon gold savings fund, ICICI Value discovery, P Pareikh Flexi Cap), Rs. 4 K in Sukanya Samriddhi. I am NPS optee. I have taken 60 Lacs HBL recently. My daughter is now 1.3 years old. I have a cumulative savings of Rs. 17 Lacs till date in form of Fixed Deposits. Will these be sufficient for my daughter's Higher Education 20 years down the line?
Ans: Planning for Your Daughter's Higher Education
Firstly, congratulations on taking proactive steps towards securing your daughter's future education! Let's assess the adequacy of your current savings and investments to meet her educational expenses 20 years from now.

Evaluation of Existing Investments
Your investment approach demonstrates a mix of conservative and growth-oriented instruments, catering to short-term liquidity needs (Recurring Deposit), long-term wealth accumulation (Mutual Funds, Sukanya Samriddhi), and retirement planning (NPS). It's a well-rounded strategy considering your risk tolerance and financial goals.

Impact of HBL on Financial Planning
The recent home loan of 60 Lacs adds a significant financial commitment to your portfolio. While it's a milestone achievement in securing a home for your family, it's crucial to consider its impact on your monthly cash flows and ability to save and invest for other goals, including your daughter's education.

Assessment of Higher Education Expenses
Forecasting higher education costs 20 years ahead involves considering inflation and the type of institution your daughter might attend. Assuming a conservative inflation rate of 6-7%, the cost of education is likely to increase substantially. It's essential to estimate these future expenses accurately to plan effectively.

Adequacy of Current Savings
With a cumulative savings of 17 Lacs in fixed deposits and ongoing investments in various instruments, your savings trajectory is commendable. However, to determine if it's sufficient for your daughter's education, we need to calculate the future value of your investments considering their growth potential and inflation impact.

Future Investment Strategy
Given your investment horizon of 20 years, continuing systematic investments in growth-oriented instruments like mutual funds is prudent. However, periodically reviewing and adjusting your investment allocations based on changing life circumstances, market conditions, and financial goals is crucial to stay on track.

Contingency Planning
In addition to education planning, it's essential to build an emergency fund to cover unforeseen expenses and mitigate financial risks. Allocating a portion of your savings towards this fund ensures financial stability and peace of mind during challenging times.

Conclusion
While your current savings and investments lay a solid foundation for your daughter's education, it's essential to regularly review and recalibrate your financial plan to adapt to evolving circumstances. Consulting with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized guidance and strategies to optimize your financial journey and achieve your goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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I am 59 and my retirement is at 60. I already withdrawn 3 times from my PF account for Education and others. At 59, can I go for another withdrawal (as per one year before retirement policy). Do I need to get certificate from my company for 60 years retirement age ?
Ans: With partial withdrawals from your PF account already done, and considering you're 59 and nearing retirement at 60, here's what you need to know about another withdrawal:

Partial Withdrawal Policy: The one-year before retirement policy for partial withdrawal applies to full withdrawals, not necessarily partial ones.
Current Regulations: Generally, after five years of service, you can make a partial withdrawal for specific reasons (medical, children's education, etc.). However, the specific rules and limitations can vary depending on your organization and the latest EPF regulations.
Here's what you can do:

Check Your Employer: Contact your HR department or the official managing your PF account. They can provide the most up-to-date information on your specific situation and eligibility for partial withdrawal.
Review EPF Withdrawal Rules: The EPFO (Employees' Provident Fund Organisation) website (https://www.epfindia.gov.in/) offers resources on PF withdrawals. Familiarize yourself with the current regulations.
Certificate for Retirement Age:

Not Usually Required: In most cases, your employer should have your retirement age documented in your service records. A separate certificate might not be necessary for your final PF withdrawal at 60.
Planning for Retirement:

Since you're close to retirement, consider these steps:

Calculate Retirement Needs: Estimate your monthly expenses to determine the required corpus for your golden years.
Review Other Retirement Savings: Factor in any other retirement savings you might have (pension, personal investments) for a holistic picture.
Consult a Financial Advisor: A professional can help you plan your post-retirement finances and ensure a smooth transition.
Remember, accurate information about your specific PF withdrawal options comes from your employer or the EPFO website.

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I have monthly SIP 5K each in in Parag parikh flexi cap, Hdfc flexi cap, Nippon smal cap, ICICI value discovery , ABSL digital, DSP health care, ICICI banking, UTI next 50, motilal fund of fund
Ans: As a Certified Financial Planner, I appreciate your commitment to systematic investing through SIPs across various mutual fund categories. Let's delve into a comprehensive evaluation of your portfolio to ensure it aligns with your financial goals and risk appetite.

Diversification Assessment
Your portfolio exhibits a diversified mix across multiple fund categories, which is commendable. It encompasses flexi cap, small cap, value discovery, thematic, sectoral, and index funds. This diversification strategy spreads risk and maximizes potential returns.

Analysis of Fund Selection
Each fund category serves a specific purpose in your portfolio. Flexi cap funds offer flexibility to invest across market capitalizations, capturing growth opportunities efficiently. Small cap funds have the potential for high growth but come with increased volatility, suitable for long-term investors with a higher risk tolerance.

Value discovery and thematic funds provide exposure to undervalued stocks and emerging sectors, respectively, contributing to alpha generation. Sectoral funds like healthcare and banking focus on specific industries, offering targeted exposure and potential for outperformance during sectoral upswings.

Sectoral funds focus on one industry, so they're like putting all your eggs in one basket. If that industry struggles, your whole investment can suffer. They also tend to be more volatile than diversified funds. Consider a broader mix for a more balanced approach.
Active vs. Passive Management
While passive index funds and ETFs have gained popularity for their low costs and broad market exposure, your portfolio emphasizes actively managed funds. Actively managed funds offer the advantage of professional fund management, allowing active decisions to capitalize on market inefficiencies and generate alpha.

Importance of Regular Funds
Investing through a Certified Financial Planner can provide access to regular funds, which offer personalized advice, portfolio monitoring, and rebalancing. This approach ensures informed investment decisions tailored to your financial objectives, compared to direct investing, which may lack professional guidance and discipline.

Monitoring and Rebalancing Strategy
Regular portfolio review is essential to ensure alignment with changing market dynamics and your evolving financial goals. Periodic rebalancing maintains the desired asset allocation, mitigating risk and optimizing returns over the long term.

Conclusion
Your investment portfolio reflects a well-thought-out strategy with diversification across various mutual fund categories. Emphasizing actively managed funds and leveraging the expertise of a Certified Financial Planner can enhance portfolio performance and mitigate risk effectively.

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I am a 31 year old Male. Currently, my salary is around 18 lac post deductions (Tax + 7% ESPP). I have an education loan of 40 lac with 12.75% floating interest (70k monthly EMI) which needs to be cleared in next 10 years. I will get a tax rebate on the interest paid for another 5 years. This reduces my actual ROI around 9%. My question is if it is worth it to prepay the loan (in < 5 or
Ans: Deciding whether to prepay your education loan depends on several factors, but here's a breakdown to help you assess your situation:

Arguments for Prepaying the Loan:

Save Money on Interest: Even with a reduced ROI of 9%, prepayment can save you a significant amount on total interest paid over the loan tenure.
Become Debt-Free Faster: Prepaying reduces your loan tenure, helping you achieve financial freedom sooner.
Peace of Mind: Eliminating a large monthly EMI can provide psychological relief and improve your financial well-being.
Arguments Against Prepaying the Loan:

Reduced Liquidity: Prepayment reduces the money available for other investments or emergencies.
Potential for Higher Returns: Investing the prepayment amount elsewhere might generate higher returns than the loan's interest rate (if invested wisely).
Tax Benefit Expiration: Once the tax rebate on interest ends after 5 years, the effective interest rate will rise to 12.75%.
Here are some additional factors to consider:

Your Risk Tolerance: Are you comfortable investing the prepayment amount in potentially higher-risk assets?
Emergency Fund: Do you have a sufficient emergency fund to cover unexpected expenses?
Future Financial Goals: Do you have any short-term or long-term financial goals that require the prepayment amount?
Consulting a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) is recommended. They can help you:

Analyze Your Finances: Assess your income, expenses, investments, and risk tolerance.
Create a Financial Plan: Develop a personalized plan considering your loan, investment options, and future goals.
Calculate Prepayment Benefit: Quantify the potential interest savings from prepayment.
Here's a possible approach:

Continue with EMI payments: Ensure timely payments to maintain a good credit score.
Invest a Portion of Savings: Consider investing a portion of your surplus funds in diversified assets for potentially higher returns.
Evaluate Prepayment After 5 Years: Once the tax benefit on interest ends, recalculate the effective interest rate and assess if a lump sum prepayment becomes more attractive.
Remember: There's no one-size-fits-all answer. A CFP can provide personalized guidance based on your specific circumstances.

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Respected everyone I invested in multiple mutual funds around 5 - 10 thousand but didn't continue. My age is 44 please suggest which mutual fund is the best for SIP doesn't matter for long period.
Ans: Selecting Mutual Funds for SIP at Age 44: Long-term Perspective
Investing in mutual funds via SIP is a prudent strategy for wealth accumulation, especially when considering long-term financial goals. Let's explore suitable mutual fund options for SIP investing, considering your age and the desire for long-term growth.

Investment Horizon and Risk Tolerance
At 44, with a longer investment horizon ahead, it's crucial to balance growth potential with risk tolerance. While you may have a moderate risk appetite, your focus on long-term growth allows for a diversified portfolio with exposure to equities.

Mutual Fund Selection Criteria
Diversification: Opt for mutual funds that offer diversification across sectors, market capitalizations, and investment styles. This helps mitigate risk and capture opportunities across different segments of the market.

Consistent Performance: Choose funds with a track record of consistent performance relative to their benchmarks and peers. Look for funds managed by experienced fund managers with a proven investment strategy.

Expense Ratio: Consider funds with a reasonable expense ratio, as lower expenses can significantly impact long-term returns. Focus on the net returns generated by the fund after deducting expenses.

Recommended Mutual Funds
Large-cap Equity Funds: These funds invest in well-established companies with a track record of stable performance. They offer stability to the portfolio while providing growth potential over the long term.

Multi-cap or Flexi-cap Funds: These funds have the flexibility to invest across market capitalizations, allowing them to capitalize on opportunities across the market spectrum. They offer a balanced approach to growth and risk.

Balanced Advantage Funds: These funds dynamically manage asset allocation between equities and debt based on market conditions. They offer downside protection during market downturns while participating in equity market upswings.

Professional Guidance
Consulting a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized advice tailored to your financial goals, risk tolerance, and investment horizon. They can help you select mutual funds aligned with your objectives and monitor your portfolio's performance over time.

Conclusion
Investing in mutual funds via SIP for the long term is a prudent strategy to achieve your financial goals. By selecting diversified funds with consistent performance and seeking professional guidance, you can build a robust investment portfolio that grows steadily over time.

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Chief Financial Planner,

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I am 28 years old. I have a salary of 75k, out of which 8k invested in EPF, 10k invested in Small cap(6k) and Mid cap(4k) Mfs as monthly SIP (started SIP in month of April 2024). My monthly expense is 30k. Currently I have 4L invested in EPF and 20k invest in MFs. I want to build a corpus of 1cr in next 10 years and build on that. Should I diversify my investment or increase my investment in current instuments.
Ans: Building a Corpus of 1 Crore in 10 Years: Investment Strategy
At 28, with a stable income and a clear financial goal of accumulating a corpus of 1 crore in the next 10 years, it's crucial to formulate a robust investment strategy. Let's evaluate your current investments and explore options to achieve your target corpus.

Current Investment Analysis
EPF Contributions: Your EPF contributions provide a foundation for long-term wealth accumulation with their tax benefits and compounding effect over time. With 4 lakhs already invested, your EPF contributions can significantly contribute to your corpus building.

Small-cap and Mid-cap SIPs: Investing 10k monthly in small-cap and mid-cap mutual funds through SIPs demonstrates your willingness to take on higher risk for potential growth. These funds have the potential to deliver superior returns over the long term but come with increased volatility.

Strategies for Corpus Building
Increase SIP Contributions: Given your age and investment horizon, increasing your SIP contributions can accelerate your wealth accumulation. Consider gradually increasing your SIP amounts in small-cap and mid-cap funds to capitalize on their growth potential.

Diversification: While small-cap and mid-cap funds offer growth opportunities, diversifying your portfolio with investments in large-cap and multi-cap funds can help manage risk. Consider allocating a portion of your investments to these funds to achieve a balanced portfolio.

Additional Investment Avenues: Explore other investment avenues like Public Provident Fund (PPF), National Pension Scheme (NPS), or Equity Linked Savings Scheme (ELSS) for tax-efficient wealth accumulation. These options offer tax benefits along with potential returns.

Professional Guidance
Consulting a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized guidance tailored to your financial goals, risk tolerance, and investment horizon. They can help you optimize your investment portfolio and make informed decisions to achieve your target corpus.

Regular Review and Adjustment
Periodically review your investment portfolio's performance and make necessary adjustments based on changes in market conditions, financial goals, and risk tolerance. Regular monitoring ensures that your portfolio remains aligned with your objectives.

Conclusion
To achieve your goal of building a corpus of 1 crore in 10 years, it's essential to adopt a balanced approach to investment by diversifying your portfolio and increasing your SIP contributions. Seeking professional guidance and regularly reviewing your portfolio are key to realizing your financial aspirations.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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