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sk Question by sk on Mar 18, 2024Hindi
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My father & uncle started business 50 yrs back. I have joined 30yrs back. I kept working from 9 am to 5 pm under Uncle. Now around 2011 ,Uncle son joined .Till then everything was alowed & fine except core part was not allowed to handle by Uncle.After 2011, slowly my cousin started taking operations of factory under him . When I protested ,Uncle used to say he will see ,but did nothing about that. AlthoughUncle is genius as well as my Father ,but my Confidence started tumbling after 2019. When his son (lets say A) made whole work force according to him & I was cornered .As challenge I in 2020 started some operations to complete production & it run well until 2022. But they (Factory staff) introduced as if I was buyer of those components. It kept on untill uncle showed the debt as in lacs for me while he getting all support for his production from Everyone &My father tensed but doesnot retaliate. What should I do?

Ans: Dear SK,
Well, you need to build your territory and being a family business, boundaries have never been clear...It seems obvious that your uncle favors his son over you and your father does not want to ruffle feathers by standing up for you...then you stand up for yourself.
What position that you have earned through your hard work must be acknowledged...if it isn't and it's going to lead to a family rift, then maybe it's time for you to build something for yourself by expanding the business within or outside. It is difficult to balance relationships within the family and at work; somewhere emotions come in the way of doing what is right and just. So, play it safe and start looking at how you can expand your work profile and enhance what you can bring to the business exclusively through your skill sets. This helps pass a message down the organization as to you being an expert in that particular area. If this fails, well...let yourself shine where you can and must...

All the best!

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Dear Khevna Shah I am in the business of my father's after his death with my uncle for the last 15 years and so and when my father died my age was 22 and I was a simple, shy and fear boy and was happy and i am doing the accounts job and i was not taking my salary on monthly basis or yearly basis means i want to say that i take 200 or 500 or sometimes 10000 to 20000 as per my requirement and sometimes i have to give it to my mom for her personal expenses. After two and half years, i was having problems with my uncle due to professional reasons and i was talking to him at that time and discussing all the problems and business related issues facing by me and he was listening but not responding to my problems during these years and after passing of two and half years i tried my best for talks, discussion but i was not getting any response from his end and after that period i stopped myself for any talks, discussion and sharing with him and I was prepared to left him and go elsewhere and do something new or do a job or start a new business on my own as we were are living in joint family and still we are in joint. Mam i did not left him and he provided me a new business and I became the proprietor of that new business and i didnot have any idea of that new business and when i engaged in that business i came to know that this business is all runs on liabilities for around three months to six months and depends on how you capture the market with low competitive rates and that time was new and i was not having any distributorship also and the business went on losses and i have beared losses for almost lakhs and lakhs of rupees. So, I closed the shop and again started doing account job in my father's business with my uncle as all the decisions related to business was taken by my uncle and same problem which i was facing in my early stage was repeated and the days were passing as it was passing previously. Now when corona came in the world, we were all lockdown in our homes and in that time we were all of our family members lockdown in our home. In that period we were all fighting with the corona that when will corona go and when we will go outside again and when will our normal life will start we were talking about our works of home should be divided. In that period all the works were divided and when lockdown was over and we were slowly slowly coming back to normal. Our joint family divided and now we are separate but our business is not separate and i am getting the salary fixed after our separation. Now the problem is that the salary fixed is not upto the mark and i am facing financial crisis at my end and our relation are so so and i am facing heated conversation with my wife related to money problems as i have to give her the money for household activities, personal expenses, my child school fees, admission fees and other activities related to school and i am very much exhausted with all the daily dose. So, therefore what will be my steps to go forward regarding the issues with my uncle and the problems which i am facing right now and have a peaceful time.
Ans: Dear Ashish,
Time and again you have been waiting for things to change in your favour. Your first sign was when your uncle's resistance at doing or thinking anything good for you.
Good nature of yours to trust him and still keep at it, but I guess now being in your 30s, should tell you that you need to make your life yourself and on your own terms.
Don't hang around thinking that the tides will change for you; instead change things the way you want by breaking free. Now. how you want to do it; is something that you need to discuss with your wife and decide. You have been far too dependent on this dream world that your uncle is going to make things happen and will be kind to you.
Be kind to yourself and now ask yourself:
- how can I revive my financial position on my own?
- what support do I need and from whom to achieve this?
- how can I keep myself motivated every day as I change things for the better?

The time has also come to have a clear chat with the person controlling the business. It gets messy when the family is divided and the business is still joint. Money troubles are never going to have clarity ever in this type of an arrangement. So, take matter into your own hands without fearing the outcome and think of only how you can have a better and peaceful life. The answer will be crystal clear to you.

All the best!

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Sir thank for valuable support only my job profile OK it is selling of cnc cutting tool for mahindra Bajaj Indian ordinance factories and I traveling all over India but my owner not listening our grievances last 20 year not even single increase made also in my line lot of local competitors there I tried with them also nothing going on my way
Ans: I understand that your situation is challenging, and it can be frustrating when your efforts don’t yield the desired results. Working tirelessly for two decades without any increase or acknowledgment can indeed take a toll. Let’s explore this further:

???? In the Realm of Cutting Tools ????

In the heart of India’s bustling factories, Where sparks fly and machines hum, You tread the path of precision, Selling CNC cutting tools, your daily drum.

Mahindra, with its rugged might, And Bajaj, weaving dreams on wheels, Their factories echo with industry’s pulse, And you, the silent architect, sealing deals.

But alas! Your grievances fall on deaf ears, The owner, a distant figure in the shadows, Twenty years of dedication, yet no raise, Your spirit wanes, like a fading meadow.

Local competitors swarm like hungry ants, Nibbling at the edges of your territory, You’ve tried to forge alliances, find common ground, Yet the winds of fortune blow contrary.

???? The Forge of Resilience ????

Fear not, my friend, for within you lies strength, Like a well-tempered blade, you endure, Sharpen your resolve, wield your persistence, For every challenge is but a whetstone, be sure.

Speak louder, not in decibels, but in purpose, Craft your grievances into a symphony of change, Seek allies among the stars and the moon, And let the universe conspire to rearrange.

Perhaps it’s time to forge a new path, To temper your mettle in the fires of innovation, Explore avenues beyond the familiar anvil, Where your cutting tools can carve a new foundation.

Remember, even the mightiest oak was once an acorn, And the smallest rivulet carved the grandest canyon, So persist, my friend, for within your veins, Flows the molten steel of resilience, unbroken.

???? Claim Your Raise, Shape Your Destiny ????

When the sun sets on your final day of service, And the CNC machines hum their lullaby, May your legacy be etched in the chips of metal, And your grievances transformed into a battle cry.

Seek justice, not just in increments of currency, But in the recognition of your unwavering toil, For you are more than a seller of cutting tools, You are the architect of progress, the maker of soil.

And when the winds of change blow fiercely, May they carry your name across the factory floor, A testament to resilience, a beacon for others, A legacy forged not in gold, but in something more.

???? Keep Turning the Wheel, My Friend ????

So, as you traverse the vast expanse of India, Remember that every twist of the road, Every handshake, every nod of agreement, Shapes the contours of your story, bold.

May your CNC cutting tools continue to spin, Carving paths through steel and adversity, And may your grievances transform into victories, As you forge ahead, a modern-day alchemist of tenacity.

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sir i need your guidance in my career path... i am a mechanical engineer passed out in 2014 from bhubaneswar, back then my father business collapsed which was in jharkhand and my father had lakhs of debt.. we were having another home which is in kolkata which is basically an ancestral property having some joint cosharers. I tried many area but i didn't get any job in my field so i started doing pvt tuitions but the earnings is very less . I was earning 8 thousnad a month back then , i too had education loan for my engineering degree so i too had the burden of clearing the debt of my education loan which was of 3 lakhs rupees .. . my father had 2 option to clear the dues and debts: 1) selling his running loss making business which was in jharkhand 2) sell the share of his ancestral property. The ancestral property is a 3 story building , my father was resided in ground floor with family, his elder brother is residing in 1st floor and the younger brother of my father residing in 2nd floor... but the partition was not being done on papers , as we need to sell our share of property so the consent of the cosharers was also matters , my younger uncle agreed to give he is consent but my elder uncle didn't give his consent also threat my father " I will see how will you sell your share your property , i will make sure no body can purchase your share of property and i will never give my consent" these were his words ... My father spent majority of the expenses of elder uncle's marraige as my father started earning from the age of 17 , my father also gave him money when his income was low and supported each of his siblings but when my father business collapse no body came to help us. My father never saved money , had no savings, had no investments .. so My father sold his business and home which was in jharkahnd to clear the debts still my educational loan is there My father started very low profile job , our prestige , recognition has gone in the society and so my father wanted me to become a sarkari babu / officer I was primarily taking tuitions and giving numerous exam but i can't clear any of the officer level exam due to stress or lack of guidance Basically from childhood i was interested in singing,dancing, mimicry so i gained huge popularity in my childhood in jharkahnd , but as my mother wants me to become engineer as she knows my father never saves money and had no backup so she wanted me to become engineer... I joined a MNC as customer service associate in 2021 as my communication is good .... Due to HEART AATACK ""MY FATHER PASSED AWAY IN NOVEMBER 2022" ... MY elder Uncle took all the documents of the house and capture major chunk of the property. All the peoples of our society in kolkata respects our elder uncle , he is very polite and generous to others but He only envy with us just because his son is unemployed, had not completed his studies after 10th and aged 38 and never come out of his home. My Mother is with me she has become silent and barely talk with others and barely out from home.. i am working in a company ... My education loan has become 7 lakh rupees... My EMI is 5.5k per month i have only 2 or 3 friends and also fears to make friends i am 32 now I NEED YOUR GUIDANCE SIR i can't able to handle emotions when i see my elder uncle , He is a real MIRZAFUR. i can't live in the same building with him, i want to change the state but i have expecting that once we leave our home it will be captured by the local goons and by my uncles as our flat is in ground floor and a landmark of the society . i am not very keen to file a court case as i have less money and also it will be difficult to stay in the same building with tehem once i file a case for the Partition. I haven't mentioned all the pains and agony of us because it will not possible to explain all the things here. Majority of the times i am tensed and not interested to join any socail gatherings SIR HOW CAN I LIVE ALONE ? SIR CAN I BECOME SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE ? I HAVE LEARNED JAVA and working as Java Developer. CAN I GET A GOOD COMPANION FOR MY LIFE? CAN I BUILD MYSELF TO A LEVEL FROM WHERE MY MOTHER GET BACK THE PRESTIGE SHE LOST? PLEASE SUGGEST A WAY FORWARD RESPECTED SIR
Ans: Hi ER. Your question is too lengthy and unable to correlate multiple problems with each other. You along with family members, sit together to solve the problems wisely and get the proper solution to get it out. Or you can talk with a counselor one to one so that he can understand it clearly and will try to give the solution.

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Hello, I am 3 yr neet dropper.in 2025 it will be my third attempt... I'm trying my best to crack neet ...i don't know what will happen will i score good marks or not ... please help me in suggesting good career options if not crack neet .....there are many options through neet marks also like bhms , veterinary...etc. i will also give entrance exam also like cuet ,gbpuat ,....but i want that what to choose which course will be best for me ...i want to make my life good and happy... having a good degree, good job ,...
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Have you analyzed your failure in 2 successive attempts in the NEET examination? If yes, then the question is what you have done for improvement and not then again the question arises why not? Here, I would like to suggest you focus now only on the NEET examination which is your 3rd attempt. Don't think about any other options right now till May 2025. After the NEET exam is over, you have ample time to explore the options available. Depending on your score in NEET 2025, we will guide you at that time. But yet, if you are confused, then looking towards your question and anxiety, you need personal counseling where you can express yourself face-to-face. Only after the NEET exam is over, you contact a counsellor for one-to-one counseling. Till then, keep mum and focus only on NEET. Take this exam as your mission and project. Work on this project, apply forces from all sides, success is there which is waiting for you eagerly.
Best of luck for your bright future.

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I am looking for a job, I had uploaded my resume in job site. A consultant called me & introduced himself telling he know some of the openings. He had a detailed discussion about my job & my skills. He told need to register to his consultancy for scheduling interview. I registered with him & he got me a interview. Interview was done by the company through skype. I could not see the company persons. They told only they can see me. Interview went on well & regarding salary I told my expectation but they told it is not possible & they told their proposal. Finally I agreed to them. They gave me code & told to visit the company for next round. Consultant called me after first round & told recruiter is very happy with the interview. Regarding salary he told why I agreed for the proposal,he will discuss again & asked to pay charges for some of his services which he will refund the day I visit to the company & take the orders. I paid him. He told there is a increase in salary he has discussed with recruiter & again asked for the money I did only partial payment & further will not pay anything. Second round also happened through skype instead of in person. Interview went on well & salary offered was good comparing to before & there was a big jump. Recruiter told they have planned to give additional responsibilities so they have increased. Finally they gave me a date to visit company. I asked when will I get the order, he replied he will send to consultant as I was taken by them. Till now i did not get the orders, consultant is keep on postponing. Now he told visit to company date is also postponed, he will update in next week & not to worry as job is confirmed. Now not understanding what to do, am I been cheated or wait.
Ans: Dear Mr. Keshava ,

There are many unscruplous job agents who are fake and claim themselves to be a Placement consultant. In short You have been cheated . Before paying any fee for registration , you must ensure that the agency is genuine . If not don't even upload your resume . You may write to company , lodge a complaint against the agency. If the amount is very high , pl. take the help of police . .

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I hv started sip in 2008 and still continued , now the monthly sip is 55k and total value is 1.85cr. Need to accumulate 7cr with in next 4 yrs pls guide how can i achieve. - Deepak J. Hajari
Ans: Deepak, your long-term SIP discipline is impressive. Accumulating Rs. 7 crore in 4 years is ambitious. Achieving this goal requires a strategic approach, as time is limited. Let's create an actionable plan for your success.

Current Financial Snapshot
Ongoing SIPs: Rs. 55,000 monthly.
Current Portfolio Value: Rs. 1.85 crore.
Target Corpus: Rs. 7 crore within 4 years.
Your consistent investing habits have built a solid foundation. However, to achieve your target, adjustments are needed.

Key Challenges
Short Time Frame: Four years is a limited period for aggressive wealth accumulation.
Significant Gap: A gap of Rs. 5.15 crore remains to meet the Rs. 7 crore goal.
Market Volatility: Equity investments might face short-term volatility.
Recommendations to Bridge the Gap
1. Increase Your SIP Contributions
Raise your SIP amount to Rs. 1.25 lakh per month.
This increase ensures faster wealth creation through compounding.
Prioritise high-growth funds in equity-oriented categories.
2. Invest Lump Sum Amounts
Consider deploying a lump sum if you have idle savings or low-yield investments.
Invest in aggressive equity mutual funds for higher potential returns.
Break down the lump sum into tranches for better market timing.
3. Diversify into High-Growth Mutual Funds
Focus on small-cap and mid-cap mutual funds for higher growth potential.
Maintain a balance with some large-cap exposure for stability.
Ensure the portfolio aligns with your high-return requirements.
4. Avoid Overexposure to Debt or Low-Yield Instruments
Limit debt investments during this aggressive growth phase.
Avoid instruments like FDs or debt mutual funds with lower returns.
Rely on equity for the next four years to maximise growth.
5. Rebalance Your Portfolio Regularly
Conduct a portfolio review every 6 months.
Reallocate funds based on underperforming or outperforming sectors.
Keep your portfolio aligned with market trends and your goals.
6. Capitalize on Bonus or Windfall Gains
Direct any bonuses, salary hikes, or windfall gains towards your target.
Avoid unnecessary expenses during this focused phase.
Tax Efficiency Matters
Equity Mutual Funds Taxation: Gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Debt Mutual Funds Taxation: Taxed as per your income slab.
Plan redemptions strategically to minimise tax liabilities.
Leverage Market Opportunities
Benefit from Market Corrections: Use corrections as opportunities to invest lump sums.
Stay Invested for Compounding: Avoid early redemptions to let compounding work fully.
Role of Regular Monitoring
Track Performance: Ensure funds are performing as per expectations.
Switch Funds if Needed: Shift from underperforming funds to high-growth options.
Final Insights
Deepak, achieving Rs. 7 crore in 4 years requires aggressive yet calculated strategies. Increase your SIPs, deploy lump sums, and focus on high-growth funds. Regular monitoring and disciplined investing are key to your success. Stay patient and consistent.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am 50 yrs old. If I invest 60k per month for 10 yrs in SIPs of MF then will I be able to achieve the corpus of Rs. 2.50 Crs and if not how much shall I invest per month and in which SIP schemes
Ans: You have a clear goal to invest Rs. 60,000 per month for 10 years. The goal is to accumulate Rs. 2.5 crore through mutual fund SIPs. Let us analyse your query in detail and provide actionable insights.

Evaluating the Feasibility of Your Investment Plan
10-Year Time Frame:
Ten years is a medium-term horizon. Equity-based mutual funds offer good growth potential for this period.

Monthly SIP Contribution:
A SIP of Rs. 60,000 is significant. It shows your commitment to wealth creation.

Target Corpus Analysis:
The target of Rs. 2.5 crore depends on consistent returns. Market performance influences results.

Expected Returns:
Equity funds can give 10%-12% annualised returns in the long run. However, returns are not guaranteed.

Is Rs. 60,000 Sufficient?
Your current contribution may not be sufficient to reach Rs. 2.5 crore in 10 years.

For 10%-12% Returns:
You might accumulate Rs. 1.9–2.1 crore. There could be a shortfall of Rs. 40–60 lakh.

Solution:
Increase your SIP amount to Rs. 75,000–80,000 monthly for a better chance of achieving the goal.

Optimising Your SIP Contributions
Step-Up SIPs:
Increase your SIP amount by 5%-10% every year. This adjusts for inflation and higher earnings.

Lump Sum Boost:
If you have surplus funds, invest a lump sum. This accelerates your goal.

Diversify Investments:
Allocate across equity and hybrid funds for balanced growth and risk management.

Selecting the Right SIP Investments
Actively managed funds are suitable for your goals. Avoid index funds due to their limitations.

Equity Funds for Growth:
These funds have high growth potential over 10 years.

Diversified Portfolio:
Choose funds across large-cap, mid-cap, and multi-cap categories. This spreads risk effectively.

Hybrid Funds:
Hybrid funds provide stability by balancing equity and debt investments.

Avoiding Direct Funds
Investing through direct funds might seem cost-effective but has drawbacks.

Limited Guidance:
Direct funds lack professional advice. This could lead to suboptimal fund choices.

Benefits of Regular Plans:
A Certified Financial Planner ensures proper fund selection and portfolio review.

Managing Tax Implications
Understanding taxation helps optimise your returns.

Long-Term Gains:
LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%. Plan redemptions strategically.

Short-Term Gains:
STCG on equity is taxed at 20%. Avoid frequent withdrawals to minimise this tax.

Hybrid Funds Taxation:
Gains from hybrid funds are taxed as per your income slab.

Steps to Achieve Rs. 2.5 Crore
Increase SIP Amount:
Raise your SIP to Rs. 75,000–80,000 monthly.

Review Annually:
Monitor portfolio performance and adjust investments.

Use a Balanced Strategy:
Combine equity funds with hybrid funds to optimise risk and return.

Seek Professional Help:
Work with a Certified Financial Planner to refine your plan.

Final Insights
Your goal of Rs. 2.5 crore in 10 years is achievable with adjustments. Increase your SIP amount and maintain discipline. Diversify investments and periodically review the portfolio. A Certified Financial Planner can guide you for maximum efficiency and clarity.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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