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MHT-CET, IIT-JEE, NEET-UG Expert - Answered on Aug 03, 2024

Radheshyam Zanwar is the founder of Zanwar Classes which prepares aspirants for competitive exams such as MHT-CET, IIT-JEE and NEET-UG.
Based in Aurangabad, Maharashtra, it provides coaching for Class 10 and Class 12 students as well.
Since the last 25 years, Radheshyam has been teaching mathematics to Class 11 and Class 12 students and coaching them for engineering and medical entrance examinations.
Radheshyam completed his civil engineering from the Government Engineering College in Aurangabad.... more
ER Question by ER on May 28, 2024Hindi
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sir i need your guidance in my career path... i am a mechanical engineer passed out in 2014 from bhubaneswar, back then my father business collapsed which was in jharkhand and my father had lakhs of debt.. we were having another home which is in kolkata which is basically an ancestral property having some joint cosharers. I tried many area but i didn't get any job in my field so i started doing pvt tuitions but the earnings is very less . I was earning 8 thousnad a month back then , i too had education loan for my engineering degree so i too had the burden of clearing the debt of my education loan which was of 3 lakhs rupees .. . my father had 2 option to clear the dues and debts: 1) selling his running loss making business which was in jharkhand 2) sell the share of his ancestral property. The ancestral property is a 3 story building , my father was resided in ground floor with family, his elder brother is residing in 1st floor and the younger brother of my father residing in 2nd floor... but the partition was not being done on papers , as we need to sell our share of property so the consent of the cosharers was also matters , my younger uncle agreed to give he is consent but my elder uncle didn't give his consent also threat my father " I will see how will you sell your share your property , i will make sure no body can purchase your share of property and i will never give my consent" these were his words ... My father spent majority of the expenses of elder uncle's marraige as my father started earning from the age of 17 , my father also gave him money when his income was low and supported each of his siblings but when my father business collapse no body came to help us. My father never saved money , had no savings, had no investments .. so My father sold his business and home which was in jharkahnd to clear the debts still my educational loan is there My father started very low profile job , our prestige , recognition has gone in the society and so my father wanted me to become a sarkari babu / officer I was primarily taking tuitions and giving numerous exam but i can't clear any of the officer level exam due to stress or lack of guidance Basically from childhood i was interested in singing,dancing, mimicry so i gained huge popularity in my childhood in jharkahnd , but as my mother wants me to become engineer as she knows my father never saves money and had no backup so she wanted me to become engineer... I joined a MNC as customer service associate in 2021 as my communication is good .... Due to HEART AATACK ""MY FATHER PASSED AWAY IN NOVEMBER 2022" ... MY elder Uncle took all the documents of the house and capture major chunk of the property. All the peoples of our society in kolkata respects our elder uncle , he is very polite and generous to others but He only envy with us just because his son is unemployed, had not completed his studies after 10th and aged 38 and never come out of his home. My Mother is with me she has become silent and barely talk with others and barely out from home.. i am working in a company ... My education loan has become 7 lakh rupees... My EMI is 5.5k per month i have only 2 or 3 friends and also fears to make friends i am 32 now I NEED YOUR GUIDANCE SIR i can't able to handle emotions when i see my elder uncle , He is a real MIRZAFUR. i can't live in the same building with him, i want to change the state but i have expecting that once we leave our home it will be captured by the local goons and by my uncles as our flat is in ground floor and a landmark of the society . i am not very keen to file a court case as i have less money and also it will be difficult to stay in the same building with tehem once i file a case for the Partition. I haven't mentioned all the pains and agony of us because it will not possible to explain all the things here. Majority of the times i am tensed and not interested to join any socail gatherings SIR HOW CAN I LIVE ALONE ? SIR CAN I BECOME SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE ? I HAVE LEARNED JAVA and working as Java Developer. CAN I GET A GOOD COMPANION FOR MY LIFE? CAN I BUILD MYSELF TO A LEVEL FROM WHERE MY MOTHER GET BACK THE PRESTIGE SHE LOST? PLEASE SUGGEST A WAY FORWARD RESPECTED SIR

Ans: Hi ER. Your question is too lengthy and unable to correlate multiple problems with each other. You along with family members, sit together to solve the problems wisely and get the proper solution to get it out. Or you can talk with a counselor one to one so that he can understand it clearly and will try to give the solution.

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Dear Khevna Shah I am in the business of my father's after his death with my uncle for the last 15 years and so and when my father died my age was 22 and I was a simple, shy and fear boy and was happy and i am doing the accounts job and i was not taking my salary on monthly basis or yearly basis means i want to say that i take 200 or 500 or sometimes 10000 to 20000 as per my requirement and sometimes i have to give it to my mom for her personal expenses. After two and half years, i was having problems with my uncle due to professional reasons and i was talking to him at that time and discussing all the problems and business related issues facing by me and he was listening but not responding to my problems during these years and after passing of two and half years i tried my best for talks, discussion but i was not getting any response from his end and after that period i stopped myself for any talks, discussion and sharing with him and I was prepared to left him and go elsewhere and do something new or do a job or start a new business on my own as we were are living in joint family and still we are in joint. Mam i did not left him and he provided me a new business and I became the proprietor of that new business and i didnot have any idea of that new business and when i engaged in that business i came to know that this business is all runs on liabilities for around three months to six months and depends on how you capture the market with low competitive rates and that time was new and i was not having any distributorship also and the business went on losses and i have beared losses for almost lakhs and lakhs of rupees. So, I closed the shop and again started doing account job in my father's business with my uncle as all the decisions related to business was taken by my uncle and same problem which i was facing in my early stage was repeated and the days were passing as it was passing previously. Now when corona came in the world, we were all lockdown in our homes and in that time we were all of our family members lockdown in our home. In that period we were all fighting with the corona that when will corona go and when we will go outside again and when will our normal life will start we were talking about our works of home should be divided. In that period all the works were divided and when lockdown was over and we were slowly slowly coming back to normal. Our joint family divided and now we are separate but our business is not separate and i am getting the salary fixed after our separation. Now the problem is that the salary fixed is not upto the mark and i am facing financial crisis at my end and our relation are so so and i am facing heated conversation with my wife related to money problems as i have to give her the money for household activities, personal expenses, my child school fees, admission fees and other activities related to school and i am very much exhausted with all the daily dose. So, therefore what will be my steps to go forward regarding the issues with my uncle and the problems which i am facing right now and have a peaceful time.
Ans: Dear Ashish,
Time and again you have been waiting for things to change in your favour. Your first sign was when your uncle's resistance at doing or thinking anything good for you.
Good nature of yours to trust him and still keep at it, but I guess now being in your 30s, should tell you that you need to make your life yourself and on your own terms.
Don't hang around thinking that the tides will change for you; instead change things the way you want by breaking free. Now. how you want to do it; is something that you need to discuss with your wife and decide. You have been far too dependent on this dream world that your uncle is going to make things happen and will be kind to you.
Be kind to yourself and now ask yourself:
- how can I revive my financial position on my own?
- what support do I need and from whom to achieve this?
- how can I keep myself motivated every day as I change things for the better?

The time has also come to have a clear chat with the person controlling the business. It gets messy when the family is divided and the business is still joint. Money troubles are never going to have clarity ever in this type of an arrangement. So, take matter into your own hands without fearing the outcome and think of only how you can have a better and peaceful life. The answer will be crystal clear to you.

All the best!

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Hello, I am 3 yr neet dropper.in 2025 it will be my third attempt... I'm trying my best to crack neet ...i don't know what will happen will i score good marks or not ... please help me in suggesting good career options if not crack neet .....there are many options through neet marks also like bhms , veterinary...etc. i will also give entrance exam also like cuet ,gbpuat ,....but i want that what to choose which course will be best for me ...i want to make my life good and happy... having a good degree, good job ,...
Ans: Hello.
Have you analyzed your failure in 2 successive attempts in the NEET examination? If yes, then the question is what you have done for improvement and not then again the question arises why not? Here, I would like to suggest you focus now only on the NEET examination which is your 3rd attempt. Don't think about any other options right now till May 2025. After the NEET exam is over, you have ample time to explore the options available. Depending on your score in NEET 2025, we will guide you at that time. But yet, if you are confused, then looking towards your question and anxiety, you need personal counseling where you can express yourself face-to-face. Only after the NEET exam is over, you contact a counsellor for one-to-one counseling. Till then, keep mum and focus only on NEET. Take this exam as your mission and project. Work on this project, apply forces from all sides, success is there which is waiting for you eagerly.
Best of luck for your bright future.

Some tips: (1) Analyse separately Phy, Che, Bio (2) Prepare a list of hard topics (3) First focus more on the topics which are easy for you and then try to excel in hard topics (4) Appear more and more online/offline examinations (4) Prepare your short-cut file for all subjects (5) Prepare a file for each subject having only synopsis of all chapters (6) Try to solve the problems at the lightening speed and observe the period on regular basis (7) Create your time table to revise the topics on regular basis (8) Do not hesitate to ask your difficulties to your teachers, if you have joined to offline classes (9) Keep the habit of marking the answers which you know 100%. Don't guess the answers and mark them, as there is -ve marking scheme. (10) Be calm, quite, and smiling all the time to release the tension and always have a healthy chat with your friends.

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