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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 25, 2024

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Question by R on Jan 23, 2024Hindi

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Due to some personal issue i am apply divorse with my wife is it ???????

Ans: Dear R,
Divorce is not always easy and it involves more than one party. i would request you to please elaborate your question more

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 21, 2023Hindi

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I’m 41 male, married for last 15 years and have 1 kid. We were in a relationship and got married I love my wife and she also loves me a lot. We live in a joint family ,my wife is an alcoholic and for the same i ready apply divorce 3 time but due to my son i always gave her chance to change her self, but its high time now i apply 4 th time divorce, m i right or wrong??

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you and your wife are going through such a difficult time. Dealing with addiction can be challenging for both the individual struggling with it and their loved ones. It's important to recognize that addiction is a disease and requires professional help and support to overcome.

Divorce is a serious decision and should not be taken lightly. It's important to consider all of the factors involved and to seek professional guidance before making any decisions. It sounds like you have tried to work through your wife's addiction for a long time and have given her multiple chances to change, but have not seen the results you were hoping for.

If you have exhausted all options and feel that divorce is the best course of action for you and your son, then you are entitled to make that decision. However, it's important to consider the impact that divorce may have on your son and to make sure that he is receiving the support and care that he needs during this difficult time.

I would encourage you to seek the guidance of a professional counselor or therapist to help you navigate this difficult decision and to explore all of your options. They can provide you with the support and guidance you need to make the best decision for yourself and your family.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 28, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 27, 2023Hindi

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sir my wife is not cohabitating with me only after 15 days of marriage. she is not comfortable in staying in my city nor comfortable staying with my mother. Its been already 8 months she is away , i keep on asking her to return but to no use. Please advise can i go for divorce?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Legally, you might want to seek an expert on how to proceed if you choose the separation/divorce.
But, may I suggest that you speak with a family member on her side and ask them to speak with her. Maybe it's something that she isn't able to confide in you. Maybe she was forced into this marriage, maybe she is worried about consummating the marriage. Anything could be the reason.
Make one honest attempt by at least finding out the cause. Who knows, it might be possible to resolve it.
If this fails, then you may seek the help of a lawyer who will advice you further on the next steps. But, do first try to put things together.

Best wishes to you!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 26, 2024Hindi

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Hi Anu Madam, I am in age of 44 and my wife also same 44. We both married for 15 years and having daughter with age 14. My wife having some mental health issue where she started hating all the people (me, our parents, neighbors, friends). She not talking to anyone and also having fight with all the people she is meeting. Tried some mental health counseling sessions and visited mental health doctors in last 2 years. But she is not willing to accept that she is having mental health issue and also not supporting for treatment. She is connecting all with my daughter and scolding with bad words. this is impacting our daughter's life. Considering future of our daughter, thinking of separating and but wanted to understand whether it is good idea to divorce in the age of 44. Please advice how I can come out of this situation and what will be the impact if I do diverse at this age.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What do the reports from the Mental Health expert say? What is the diagnosis?
Obviously, there's something that has happened for her to suddenly start hating people, right? No one changes all of a sudden; it takes some huge issue or little ones over a period of time for someone to begin showing changes in their behavior. This absolutely needs to be analyzed.
Having said this, I never suggest separation as the first option as it takes a moment of time to break relationships but takes years and years to build one. So, I would suggest taking the advice of the elders of the family on your side and your wife's side as well. This will ensure that the family is aware of what is going on and will support you and your wife. It's possible someone from your wife's family may talk to her about being serious on counseling sessions and medications if necessary.
Now, whatever the reason, separations and divorce are not easy on anyone; the partners or the family...

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 17, 2025Hindi

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I am married but my relationship with my wife is not good. For past 5-6 year wife was not living in my house but when I said that need divorce recently she came to my village house. Now she is living in my village house and She says that She will give divorce. I am determined that I can not live with her but now she is not ready to give divorce and she is staying in my house. Suggest me what should I do for the divorce.

Ans: Since your wife initially agreed to the divorce but is now refusing and staying in your house, the situation has become more complicated. In such cases, the best course of action is to proceed through legal channels. Before taking any legal steps, consider attempting reconciliation or mediation. Sometimes, involving trusted family members or neutral third parties can help reach a mutual agreement. If that doesn’t work, consult a qualified family lawyer who can guide you through the divorce process according to the laws in your jurisdiction. They can provide the best legal advice based on the specific circumstances of your case. If mutual consent isn’t possible, you may need to file for a contested divorce by stating valid legal grounds. Your lawyer will help you prepare the necessary documents and represent you in court. Even if she stays in your house, it won’t stop the legal proceedings. Stay calm and patient, as divorce cases can take time.

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Question by k - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Hello sir. My son got 99.37 his general category rank is 10050 in maharshtra state in jee mains, 250 in bitsat. He is getting core subjects like ece, ee, in tier 2 nits and Iiits, as well as cse in coep, or tier 2 Iiits and nits like surat, Calicut, kurukshetra. And many such. Very confused which to choose. He doesnt have any hard opinion about branch selection. Also i dont know whteher to ho for ece, cse or specialized branches last ke Ai& ml or Data scienceKindly suggest which is better choice

Ans: Before answering your question, I want to clarify that, for BITSAT, a minimum score of around 250–260 is generally expected for MSc programs and 300+ for BE programs, so given your son’s 99.37 percentile in JEE Main and his appearance for JEE Advanced targeting IITs, it’s advisable not to prioritize BITS Pilani, as admission to top branches there is unlikely with this profile. You and your son should decide whether you prefer government or private colleges, or are open to both. All branches are good, and he should choose based on current interest while remaining adaptable if preferences change by the 2nd or 3rd year, besides considering job market trends. For example, a student joining ECE might later shift interest to CSE and succeed in software placements. Based on his JEE Main score, a tentative preference order could be NIT Calicut, Surathkal, Warangal, and Trichy (if available), then COEP Pune CSE, followed by NIT Surat, Kurukshetra, Calicut ECE/EE, tier-2 IIIT CSE, and specialized AI/DS branches only at reputed institutes. COEP CSE is a strong option with a 2024–25 average placement of ?11.62 LPA, a highest package of ?52.57 LPA, and a 91.82% CSE placement rate, so choosing COEP CSE over a lower-tier NIT EE branch and preferring a good NIT ECE over weaker IIIT or specialized branches are recommended. While AI/DS is promising, CSE offers broader flexibility. If your son performs well in JEE Advanced, these choices and options may improve significantly. It’s best to finalize after the JEE Advanced results are out. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Sir, my son has scored 92.24 percentile in JEE Main exam and his all india rank 121271 and 40322 obc ncl category. Home state is TN. Is there possible admission at Puducherry NIT, Or else any core branch at Trichy NIT. He also preferring for JEE ADVANCED

Ans: Based on your son’s score, admission to NIT Trichy is unlikely. In 2024, the HS OBC-NCL closing ranks at NIT Trichy were approximately: Chemical Engineering around 33,075, Mechanical at 23,504, Production at 31,383, Metallurgy at 43,010, and Civil at 47,466. This means Metallurgy and Civil are borderline options but not safe bets.

For NIT Puducherry, chances improve in the CSAB Special Round, especially for branches like Mechanical, Civil, and Electrical. For example, the 2024 CSAB closing rank for Mechanical OBC-NCL female-only was around 52,681, though gender-neutral and core branch cutoffs vary by quota.

It’s advisable to fill choices for lower-preference branches at NIT Trichy, all branches at NIT Puducherry, and also consider NIT Andhra, NIT Goa, NIT Agartala, NIT Mizoram, and NIT Meghalaya in CSAB if these NITs are preferred over Trichy and Puducherry.

For stronger backups in Tamil Nadu, your son can participate in TNEA counseling, though it may be challenging for non-TN board students. Options include CEG, MIT, SSN, PSG, CIT, Sri Sairam, and Kumaraguru, depending on board marks.

Encourage your son to continue preparing seriously for JEE Advanced. If possible and affordable, keep 3-4 reputed private engineering colleges in Tamil Nadu as backups, such as SSN, SNU, Amrita, Sathyabhama, and Saveetha through other admission routes. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Sir I scored 91 percentile in Jee mains, rank is 1.5 lakh. Which good chemical engineering government colleges can I expect? (home state is telangana)

Ans: At a 91 percentile and an estimated CRL around 1.5 lakh, securing Chemical Engineering at NIT Warangal is not realistic, as recent HS Open category closing ranks for Chemical Engineering were around 23,000–26,000, much higher than your rank.

Admission to Chemical Engineering in other NITs and GFTIs through JoSAA is also challenging at this rank. However, you should definitely participate in the CSAB Special Rounds, since vacant-seat cutoffs sometimes drop lower after JoSAA counseling. Use the official JoSAA archive and CSAB opening-closing rank data when filling your final choices.

More realistic government or state options are available through Telangana’s TG EAPCET counseling rather than JEE Main. Consider Chemical or allied branches in JNTUH-affiliated colleges, OU-affiliated colleges, and reputed Telangana colleges offering Chemical or related courses. Colleges like CBIT (Chemical), Chaitanya Bharathi, Anurag, VNR, and Vasavi could be good options if you have branch flexibility.

If placement is a priority, branches like ECE, Mechanical, Civil, or AI-DS in better private colleges might offer better prospects. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Question by Rajesh - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Hello Sir, My daughter has secure 35500 Rank in Jee main we r staying in Rajasthan... general category....... Not interested in South & east States .... Interested in MNC. CSE, ECE, ...Branches ... please advice for

Ans: Rajesh Sir, Based on your daughter’s score, admission to MNIT Jaipur for CSE or ECE is not realistic, as the 2024 HS female closing ranks were around 8,836 for CSE, 15,405 for ECE, and 21,644 for EE. However, branches like Civil or Metallurgy might still be possible, especially with some lower-branch movement seen in CSAB rounds.

She can consider applying to IIIT Una, IIIT Kota, IIIT Bhopal, IIIT Sonepat, IIIT Nagpur, IIIT Bhagalpur, GFTI PEC Chandigarh (for lower branches), and BIT Mesra through JoSAA and CSAB counseling.

It’s also advisable to keep these backups in mind: LNMIIT Jaipur, Thapar Institute, JIIT Noida, Nirma University, PDEU, Bennett University, Shiv Nadar University, UPES, and Manipal Jaipur. Additionally, fill REAP Rajasthan options such as MBM Jodhpur, CTAE Udaipur, and RTU Kota.

If placements in MNCs are a priority, choosing CSE, AI, or IT branches in good private colleges is often better than other branches in reputed institutes.

Finally, reviewing JoSAA opening and closing ranks from the past 2–3 years will provide valuable insights and help your daughter confidently select and maximize her preferred choices. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Question by Anshika - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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My daughter has 80 percentile in jee mains in general ews from uttarpradesh please suggest me

Ans: Anshika Madam, At an 80 percentile, your daughter’s expected CRL rank may be around 2.5 to 3 lakh. Even with General-EWS category, chances of admission to NITs or IIITs through JoSAA, especially for CSE or ECE, are very low. She can consider applying for lower-demand branches in some GFTIs or newer, remote institutes if seats remain vacant.

CSAB conducts special rounds after JoSAA for vacant NIT and related seats, which she should participate in.

It is highly recommended to have backup options such as AKTU/UPTAC colleges, KIET, GL Bajaj, JSS Noida, ABES, Galgotias, NIET, and private universities like Bennett, Sharda, Chandigarh University, UPES, LPU, SRM North India campuses, and VIT-AP/Bhopal. For CSE-related branches, state and private counseling routes are the more practical approach, instead of relying only on JoSAA/CSAB. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Question by Sidarth - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Sir I have 93.5 percentile in jee mains and I am a kashmiri migrant i want to know that will I get top colleges of Maharashtra I have km merit rank in cap councelling of 28 based on last year out of 389 people and also please tell if the quota is in nits

Ans: Sidarth, With a 93.5 percentile and a KM merit rank of 28, your Maharashtra CAP chances are strong. Maharashtra CET rules treat J&K/Ladakh Migrant candidates separately, and for engineering admissions, a positive JEE Main score is given preference over MHT-CET scores.

You should aggressively fill choices including COEP Pune, VJTI Mumbai, SPIT Mumbai, PICT Pune, DJ Sanghvi, Walchand Sangli, Cummins, PCCOE, VIT Pune, and MIT-WPU. With a KM rank of 28, admission to top colleges is possible. However, CSE/IT in COEP, VJTI, SPIT, or PICT may be uncertain due to limited seats. Branches like ECE, AI-DS, ENTC, or IT in strong colleges are more realistic options. VJTI’s 2024 closing ranks indicate that CSE/IT branches remain highly competitive.

Regarding NITs, there is no general Kashmiri Migrant quota through JoSAA, as admissions follow CRL/category/HS-OS rules. The CSAB supernumerary quota in 2025 applied only to specific UT candidates, not broadly to KM. Nonetheless, it’s advisable to participate in JoSAA and CSAB counseling rounds.

Also, consider having 3-4 backup options to keep your chances secure. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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My daughter has got 93.91in jee 2026 with rank 95015 in general category and home state as delhi .please tell what are her chances of getting admission and branch in igdtu ,thapar and lnmit.Do IPU colleges in delhi hav good placements.please suggest some other good colleges for cse and related branches and ece

Ans: Based on your daughter's score, admission to IGDTUW is possible mainly in later rounds or spot rounds. For example, in 2023 Round-5 Delhi cutoffs (approximate), CSE closed around 58,531, IT at 66,326, AIML at 71,162, ECE at 90,900, and MAE at 1,03,589, making ECE and MAE more realistic options, while CSE and IT would be difficult.

Regarding Thapar Institute, the chances are better. In 2024, later cutoffs for Punjab quota showed Computer Engineering around 92,826 and ECE around 97,890, with some allied branches going much lower. For candidates outside Punjab, core CSE is tougher, but ECE, Electronics, and related branches in lower rounds could be worth applying for.

At LNMIIT, CSE admission is unlikely due to high JEE percentile expectations, but ECE might still be possible.

Consider IPU Delhi as a backup, along with reputable colleges like USICT, MAIT, MSIT, BVCOE, and BPIT, which have decent placement records. For detailed placement data, please check the respective college websites and online resources.

Other backup options to explore include JIIT Noida, Shiv Nadar University, UPES, Manipal Jaipur, Bennett University, and Chandigarh University. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Question by Jagdish - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

Career

My daughter got 95.92 percentile in JEE mains with 64228 crl and 9516 ews category. In which not or iiit she can get cse

Ans: Jagdish Sir, Based on your daughter's score, realistic chances for CSE or related branches may be found in lower-demand NITs and IIITs, primarily through the female quota and in later JoSAA or CSAB rounds. Institutes like NIT Mizoram, NIT Meghalaya, NIT Nagaland, NIT Arunachal Pradesh, and NIT Sikkim are worth trying, though CSE admission remains borderline.

In IIITs, options such as IIIT Bhagalpur, IIIT Ranchi, IIIT Kalyani, IIIT Una, IIIT Sri City, IIIT Nagpur, IIIT Dharwad, and IIIT Kottayam could be considered. While CSE might be challenging, branches like IT, ECE, or AI-related fields may be more attainable depending on how seat availability shifts round by round.

Additionally, reviewing JoSAA opening and closing ranks from the past 2–3 years can provide valuable insights and help your daughter confidently select and fill her preferred and maximum number of choices. Have 3-4 reputed private engineering colleges also as backup options. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Question by Korampally - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

Career

I got 105000 rank in jee mains in which nit could I get ece seat

Ans: Korampally, with your score, securing ECE in any NIT is extremely unlikely. You may try for lower-preference branches if you still want to pursue an NIT. However, it's important to have 3-4 backup options beyond JoSAA and CSAB counseling rounds, so you’re not relying solely on those for admission. ALL the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Question by Suman - Apr 27, 2026Hindi

Career

My son got 89 percentile in jee mains 2026 and got rank 58400 and can he get

Ans: You have not mentioned your son's home state. Anyway, please note he may get core or non-core branches in newer or lower-tier NITs, some IIITs, and GFTIs, especially in later JoSAA rounds, depending on the home-state quota and branch preferences. He can also target Tier-3 and Tier-4 NITs such as NIT Sikkim, NIT Manipur, NIT Nagaland, and NIT Arunachal for branches like Mechanical, Civil, EIE, Production, Metallurgy, and similar fields.

Additionally, exploring IIITs outside the top 5—such as IIIT Bhagalpur, IIIT Kalyani, IIIT Surat, and IIIT Kottayam—through JoSAA or CSAB rounds can be worthwhile.

Parallel options to consider include the CSAB Special Round, state government engineering colleges, and reputable private institutes in or near your home state. ALL the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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