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Asked by Anonymous - May 26, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I married 1 year ago my wife told me she was forced to do a marriage against her concern and she didn't want the marriage life and wanted to live as strangers, also she refused to take wife responsibilities at home i have waited trusting she would change but she never changed. She is alone daughter to her parents borned after 16 years to their parents and she used to live outside around 17 year for her studies. After marriage whenever her parents come she used to ignore me, also she work in private sector and not share even single rupee to home. However all house hold work i do being boy, also she is not at all interested in intercource as well. After marriage 2 week she stayed in PG stating that my close friend will go to native allow me to spend time with her reast all i will be with you like. I agreed. Later 6 Month she used to give reasons for intercource i got periods, rashes, not feeling good, tiered, no mood, etc this happen till 6 month. After this we had 4 times in 2 month with protection that too just for 1 or 2 min as she mentioned lot of pain, after that she started avoiding, since i was not fulfilled by sex desire i started making extra marital affairs in facebook and turned to whatsapp only text, one fine day she saw all msgs i did with extra marital affair and she took photos of that and went to PG without informing any one. Later both families elder sat and asked she used to show the msgs that i did with extra marital affairs and she wanted seperate now from me. Though i accepted the extra marital affairs only interms of msgs and since you not willing to do sex i choose this way i mentioned. But she dont like to come back now. Her father took 2 month of time that he will change her mind set but i dont think she can. As her mother is also not good women, suporting her daughter and making such big issues and she also not interested in this marriage itself.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes people are just not ready for marriage and here your wife certainly came along with a huge baggage of unresolved issues behind her.
Marriage requires both partners to be responsible not just towards one another but take an active interest in their roles. This calls for maturity from both partners here.
Now, this was never a possibility with your spouse as she felt the marriage was a forced one. That is enough to destroy any chances of the marriage falling in place. You are also in a soup now that she has found her 'proof' that gives her a ticket out of this marriage.
The question here is: Do you want this marriage? If YES, then you will have to start down the part of proving your innocence and what led to what and how and when...If NO, then since your spouse has found her ticket to freedom, the only thing you might have to do is clearly state and not explain anything as to how things went downhill right from the beginning. Her parents may believe you or not, but that's what your decision needs. They may try to malign you in the family, just stick to your version of what happened and move on.
So, you are at that point where you need to make a decision. What is it going to be?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Hi, I married 1year ago my wife told me she was forced to do a marriage against her concern and she didn't want the marriage life and wanted to live as strangers, also she refused to take wife responsibilities at home i have waited trusting she would change but within 3 months she had medical issues and went to her home for treatment. after informing all her activities now her father is threating me and my family, also making false allegations against me for all her problems. Now he is demanding to go separately from my parents to send her back. if not they will file case against me in the court and make me and my family suffer. Now she was not telling the truth with their parents about her mindset and acting according to their portents guidance that i am the reason for her medical issues and she was not interested in the marriage because i didn't take care of her well. she have depression and anxiety issues from childhood her mother refused to see her face when she was born, as 5th girl child as they expect atleast 1 boy kid she said this to a doctor. she faces refusal and ignorance in her family she said this too the doctor i dont know the truth behind it. she has chronic gastritis also she is under weight (35kgs still at 27years old) and cant increase weight even after trying for 5 years of medication. Doctor suggested for a therapy but she refused to come with because she already had therapy before which we don't know. . even though we lived in same house but she lived in separate room all the days she was with me. Now due to her inability to handle her father she is acting along with them like i was the one who refusing her. Her father even knows about all these matters to hide is fraud he is now threatening me like police case and court. I did nothing wrong in this except married her. what should i do now ?. And I lost hope that she would change here after.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There are many cases like yours where men are being trapped with false allegations.
First evaluate:
Do I want this marriage to continue?
If YES, I feel it's time your parents also step in to state your side of the story. It will be an uphill task to bring her back as she clearly had mentioned to you that she was forced into this marriage. Also, how do you plan on working out the home situation given that the condition is that you separate from your parents?

If NO, will you be able to prove all the allegations put on you are false? Hire a good lawyer, because you will surely need one. Tread carefully and make very calculated moves in terms of what you say (even if it's on a text message) as everything can be held against you. Your lawyer will advise you on this.

So, time to think what is the best option...lay all the cards on the table and play this very carefully...

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 15, 2023Hindi
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Hello, I have been married from 15 yrs. I have a 9 yrs old son with me. In oct 21 my wife (age 38) started making REELS on insta of the facial acting. She got involved and told me that she is just doing for followers and like. People used to comment good and bad which i didnt like. She was trying to make young guy friends. In april 2022 she had an affair with a 22-year-old boy who was not even financial stable. I could she changes in her every day. In June 2022 I caught her and she confess that she did affair and also done physical relationship. I had unconditionally loved her all these years and didn’t wanted to let her go. Also, didn’t wanted to hurt my son by taking a divorce. That guy refused to keep my son and their relation broke, but my wife still loved him and missed him. Few months she was in depression and I took her upmost care and swallowed what she did. I just told her that please come back to our life as you were before but she was not getting back. There used to be few quarrels, she was just staying alone within herself and I never felt that love which she used to give me. Later in feb23 there was a marriage at her family and I agree to go with her so she may get that feel during our times and she promised me to enjoy the marriage and make love with me. But she was happy with her relative and didn’t even bother to make that love and affection with me. from that time, I used to get angry and fight with her. I went into depression. In May 2023 she was getting worst and one day fight increased and I asked her to leave my house which I wasn’t intentionally wanted to. She left and went missing 24 yrs and then called from her mom mobile who was in her village, since she didn’t come back home and from last two month, she has been asking me money for herself and says it’s her rights. She doesn’t bother for my son and just show that she loves him. She works and stay with woman from 6 months and I’m looking after my son all alone. I told her u can work but just come home and make things better for my son. Her conditions is to give money security (money) then only she will return. All my family says she is just behind money and doesn’t care what I and my son is going through. She is not guilt for what she did. 15 yrs of marriage has been ruin and now she has no shame at all. She talks rudely if i dont send her money and now I refused sending her. Please advice what do I do now.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You seem to have done a lot to try and get her back. What can you do if she doesn't want to acknowledge your efforts or appreciate what family life is! One would imagine that a child in the equation may bring about a change in heart but that doesn't seem to be the case here at this moment.
Your family members are right in their mind about the way that see your wife as they have been observing how this has impacted you and your son.
Either you wait for her to come to her senses OR simply learn to live life without her. If the outside world of social media is what seems to satisfy her, no matter what you do, she will be dissatisfied and unhappy. This only means that she has to learn and appreciate what she has with you and your son.
It is also possible that she has been disinterested in the marriage for a while now and has been seeking approval and validation from people on social media. Even if this is the case, being angry with you is understandable BUT what about her own child? What makes her not want to deal with that reality? If you need an answer to this, simply WAIT and WATCH without begging her to come back...That will give you an idea as to where her mind is and then decide on the future course...

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 16, 2024Hindi
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Hi , I am a professor mech engineer , after death of my wife and due to having 5 year girl baby I planned for 2 nd marriage as I live alone away from home town because my of job with my little baby . I accepted a widow having 2 child ,she was working in a govt job 250 km away , after ensuring and agreeing her possibility of transfer and job vacancy @govt office near my house and ensuring she agreed that she will come to live with me along with her 2 kids and my little baby as her trasfer was due in comming few months . We lived apart during her job at 250 km away.,while meeting on weekly offs 6 /7 time in 6 months , then she take 360 degree u turn and said she will not get job transfer to my place and get her trasfer in other dept. in same previous office. And started telling many reasons like she will loose her children's inheritance in her in-laws property ,she will loose promotion , kids Don't want trasfer , and said we will live apart forever . This was contradictory to earlier agreed things .and my my purpose to live in family with my baby not fulfilled , so after long ruckus ,I mutually got divorce from her , Then After divorce I decided to marry non working women having no child and don't expect child as I am @48 year old and tired of living alone and managing job ,girl , house chores . I married to a divorcee girl from Pune ,she was BA first year college drop out girl of 44 yr age after 6 months of long dating on week ends . During 6 months I tried to know her indepth but was don't used to talk much as I was trying to know her true nature, we visited many places ,movies . She seemed perfect as per my requirement of girl wanting no child , and she is house wife . after marriage she behave well for 1 st week ,then she started trouble to hate my baby ( became kaikai )on pety things , she want my baby to house chores at the cost of her important year of 10th std study . She don't liked me taking tution of girl , she didn't like if I help my girl any way . She don't like if I spent some money on my girl . She used to fight all night and don't let me sleep . Now she stated demanding that she want baby , though I was against and b4 marriage agreed to not have any more child due to old age ,cost ,and no personal time for self , then I agreed to have child but b4 that I got her and my fertility tested ,she had weak eggs and syst on her reproductive organs and doc warned to not go for pregnancy due to risk and probability of unhealthy baby birth , but she kept repeating That she want child we consulted 4 Drs. She used to fight and go to her mother's home for 2/4 months after living with me for 2/3 days only . Now she wants divorce , and asks me to keep my girl in hostel if I want her in my life . This Ramayan has left me baffled , What should I do ??? .....
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The reason to marry for you mainly has been companionship, a mother for your daughter...
And marriage is not a transaction BUT a meeting of minds...when there is no compatibility, there is no space for agreeing on the same things or wanting to make things work which is possibly what has happened with your 2nd and 3rd marriage.
If you want this marriage to work, there has to be an equal commitment by both of you, so, start by emotionally bonding first. Slowly build on this by making goals for the marriage and the future...your only goal can't be mother for your child...not all women are going to readily accept this and some may even falter along the way. Allow the lady and your daughter to bond together for sometime so they develop a unique relationship...
Understand that transactional relationships do not last; so, invest enough time in building trust in that companionship for it to become something meaningful

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I have invested 25k each in the following via Lump sum sometime in August and it's return is negative but I am not worried as I always the market works that's how - Quant Multi asset fund direct - 25k (invest 1k since then) Quant large and mid cap direct - 25k (invest 1k since then) Motilal Oswal midcap fund direct - 25k (invest 1k since then) Hdfc dividend yield fund 2k every month. Should I continue to invest 1k as I don't need this money for at least 5 years and add the mentioned amount every month. Please advise. Thank you
Ans: You have chosen a disciplined approach to investing. Market fluctuations are normal, and patience is key. Since your investment horizon is five years, your strategy must be optimized.

Reviewing Your Current Portfolio
Your investments are spread across different fund categories.

Equity markets can be volatile in the short term.

Over five years, equity funds can deliver strong returns.

Continuing SIP Investments
SIP investments reduce risk through cost averaging.

Investing consistently helps in long-term wealth creation.

You should continue your SIPs as planned.

Assessing Fund Selection
Multi-asset funds provide diversification but may have lower returns.

Large and mid-cap funds balance growth and stability.

Mid-cap funds have high growth potential but higher risk.

Dividend yield funds provide stability with lower volatility.

Portfolio Optimization
Too many funds can create overlap.

A balanced mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and multi-asset funds is ideal.

You may consolidate some funds for better performance.

Monitoring and Adjustments
Review your portfolio every year.

Rebalance if any fund consistently underperforms.

Avoid reacting to short-term market movements.

Final Insights
Continue SIPs to benefit from market growth.

Diversify wisely but avoid too many funds.

Review performance yearly and make necessary changes.

Stay invested with a long-term perspective.

Keep emergency funds separate from your investments.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 02, 2025Hindi
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What are the best ways to invest for a child, not aware of it's a boy or girl at this time. Investment should take care of education preferably getting some returns at a fixed time interval so that it take care of educational expenses at several stages. Also something for marriage or for further education.
Ans: Investing for a child’s future is a great decision. You need a structured plan. Your investment should cover education at different stages. It should also provide funds for higher education or marriage. A mix of investment options will ensure stable and timely returns.

Understanding Financial Goals for the Child
The first goal is school education expenses.

The second goal is higher education at 18 years.

The third goal is marriage or further studies after 22 years.

Investments should align with these timelines.

Investment Strategy for School and Higher Education
Education costs rise every year due to inflation.

A long-term investment approach will help in wealth creation.

Investments should give returns at different stages.

Equity Mutual Funds for Long-Term Growth
Equity mutual funds provide high returns over long periods.

They help in building a strong education fund.

Actively managed funds perform better than index funds.

SIPs ensure regular contributions with rupee-cost averaging.

Debt Mutual Funds for Stability
Debt mutual funds provide low-risk returns.

They are useful for short-term education needs.

Withdrawals are easier compared to FDs.

Hybrid Mutual Funds for Balanced Growth
These funds combine equity and debt.

They provide stable returns with controlled risk.

Suitable for medium-term goals like college fees.

Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) for Regular Payouts
SWP helps in getting a fixed amount at regular intervals.

You can plan withdrawals for school and college fees.

It ensures cash flow without disturbing long-term investments.

Gold for Future Expenses
Gold investments can be used for marriage expenses.

Gold ETFs and digital gold are better than physical gold.

They are safe and do not have storage risks.

Insurance for Child’s Financial Security
A term insurance plan is essential.

It ensures financial stability in case of uncertainties.

Do not mix insurance with investment.

Tax Considerations
LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh on equity mutual funds is taxed at 12.5%.

STCG is taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual fund gains are taxed as per the income slab.

Final Insights
Start early to maximize returns.

Choose investments based on different education stages.

Use SWP for regular payouts during school and college.

Ensure term insurance for financial security.

Avoid insurance-linked investment plans.

Keep reviewing and adjusting investments as needed.

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I am 27 years old with 2 cr corpus to invest planning to retire at the age of 35 can realistically consider??
Ans: Retiring at 35 is an ambitious goal. With Rs. 2 crore, it is possible but challenging. You need a strong strategy to make your corpus last a lifetime.

Key Factors to Consider
Inflation Impact
Inflation reduces the value of money over time.

Expenses today will be much higher in the future.

Your investments must grow faster than inflation.

Retirement Period
If you retire at 35, you need income for 50+ years.

A safe withdrawal rate is important.

Poor planning can lead to financial stress later.

Current and Future Expenses
List all your current expenses.

Add future costs like medical, travel, and lifestyle.

Adjust for inflation to get a realistic estimate.

Investment Allocation
Your corpus must be invested wisely.

A mix of equity, debt, and liquid funds is essential.

Equity gives growth. Debt provides stability.

Investment Strategy for Early Retirement
Growth-Oriented Investments
Invest a major portion in actively managed mutual funds.

Equity funds offer high long-term returns.

Select funds with strong historical performance.

Stable Income Investments
Allocate some funds to debt instruments.

Debt investments reduce market risk.

They provide stable returns for regular expenses.

Emergency Fund
Keep at least 2-3 years of expenses in safe investments.

Liquid funds and fixed deposits are good options.

This ensures financial security during market downturns.

Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP)
Use SWP to generate monthly income.

Withdraw only a small percentage yearly.

This helps preserve your corpus for longer.

Risks and Challenges
Market Volatility
Stock markets go through ups and downs.

A market crash can impact your investments.

Long-term focus is necessary.

Medical Expenses
Healthcare costs will rise over time.

Ensure you have sufficient health insurance.

Consider a separate fund for medical needs.

Lifestyle and Unexpected Costs
Early retirement may bring unexpected expenses.

Keep a buffer for such situations.

Avoid unnecessary spending in early years.

Alternative Options
Semi-Retirement
Instead of full retirement, consider part-time work.

This reduces financial pressure.

You can still enjoy financial independence.

Passive Income Sources
Explore ways to generate passive income.

Freelancing, consulting, or business investments can help.

This ensures your corpus lasts longer.

Finally
Retiring at 35 is possible but risky.

Your corpus must grow and last for decades.

Plan carefully to avoid financial stress later.

Maintain a good balance of growth and stability.

Consider semi-retirement or passive income sources.

A well-planned strategy will ensure a worry-free future.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 30, 2025Hindi
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I am 45 years old Government Servant. I am planning to take VRS . My corpus after retirement will be 2.0 Cr and monthly pension of 1.5 lacs. I have 2 children , son and daughter 17 yrs and 12 yrs old. I have my own house and no loans. Should i proceed with Retirement
Ans: Taking Voluntary Retirement (VRS) is a big decision. You have built a strong financial foundation. Your pension and corpus give you security. However, early retirement needs careful planning. Let’s analyse all aspects before making a final decision.

Financial Strength After Retirement
Your corpus of Rs 2 crore is a good base.

A monthly pension of Rs 1.5 lakh ensures a steady cash flow.

No loans and a self-owned house reduce financial burden.

Your current financial position looks stable.

Monthly Expenses Assessment
Calculate your family’s monthly expenses.

Include household costs, medical needs, travel, and lifestyle.

Check if Rs 1.5 lakh pension covers all future expenses.

Consider rising costs due to inflation.

Children’s Education and Future Needs
Your son is 17 years old and will soon enter higher education.

Your daughter is 12 years old and also has upcoming education needs.

Estimate future education costs for the next 10-15 years.

If required, allocate a part of Rs 2 crore corpus for education.

Medical and Health Security
Medical expenses increase with age.

Ensure you have a good health insurance policy.

Keep a medical emergency fund separate.

Investment Strategy for Corpus
Equity Mutual Funds (40%-50%)

These give higher returns over long periods.
Ideal for growing wealth beyond pension income.
Actively managed funds perform better than index funds.
Debt Mutual Funds (30%-40%)

These provide stability and liquidity.
Useful for short-term goals and emergencies.
Returns are better than fixed deposits.
Hybrid Mutual Funds (10%-20%)

These balance risk with growth.
Helps in generating consistent income.
Tax Implications on Investments
Equity Mutual Funds

LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG is taxed at 20%.
Debt Mutual Funds

Gains are taxed as per your income slab.
Plan investments to minimise tax impact.

Alternative Income Options
Consider part-time consultancy or freelancing.

This will keep you engaged and provide extra income.

Passive income from investments also helps.

Should You Proceed with VRS?
If your expenses and goals fit within Rs 1.5 lakh pension, VRS is feasible.

If education and future costs are uncertain, continue working.

If you retire now, invest wisely to maintain financial security.

Final Insights
Your financial position is strong.

Plan children’s education and medical costs before deciding.

Invest wisely to ensure wealth growth post-retirement.

Consider part-time work for additional security.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 26, 2025Hindi
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Hello sir I am 22 and doing SIP of 16k in mf Have 1lac in mf and 1 lac in forex and 50 k in crypto what should be my steps to invest wisely for my higher education and better future .
Ans: You have started investing at a young age. This is a great step. With the right strategy, you can build wealth and secure your future.

Current Financial Position
Investments
Mutual Funds: Rs. 1 lakh.

Forex Trading: Rs. 1 lakh.

Cryptocurrency: Rs. 50,000.

SIP: Rs. 16,000 per month.

Investment Goals
Higher education.

Wealth creation.

Financial security.

Key Challenges and Risks
Forex Trading Risk
Forex trading is highly volatile.

It requires deep knowledge and experience.

A small mistake can lead to huge losses.

It is not suitable for long-term wealth creation.

Cryptocurrency Risk
Crypto markets are unpredictable.

They do not have strong regulations.

Prices can drop suddenly.

Do not invest more than 5% of your portfolio in crypto.

Funding Higher Education
Education costs are rising every year.

You need a reliable and safe investment strategy.

Market volatility should not affect your education plans.

Long-Term Wealth Creation
Your money must grow faster than inflation.

Choosing the right investments is important.

Avoid high-risk, short-term trading strategies.

Steps to Secure Your Future
Reduce Risky Investments
Reduce exposure to forex trading.

Limit cryptocurrency investment to 5% of your portfolio.

Increase Mutual Fund Allocation
Mutual funds provide better long-term returns.

Actively managed funds offer higher growth.

Continue your Rs. 16,000 SIP consistently.

Increase your SIP amount when income rises.

Create an Education Fund
Invest in a mix of equity and debt funds.

Equity gives higher returns.

Debt provides stability.

Start a separate SIP for education expenses.

Build an Emergency Fund
Keep at least Rs. 1-2 lakh in a safe investment.

Use a combination of liquid funds and fixed deposits.

This will help during emergencies.

Tax-Efficient Investing
Mutual fund gains are taxable.

Equity funds have lower tax rates for long-term growth.

Debt fund taxation depends on your income slab.

Plan withdrawals wisely to reduce tax burden.

Increase Earnings and Savings
Focus on skill development.

Higher skills lead to better income opportunities.

Invest surplus income wisely.

Avoid unnecessary expenses.

Finally
You have a great start in investing.

Avoid high-risk trading for long-term stability.

Build a strong mutual fund portfolio for growth.

Plan your education fund with a mix of equity and debt.

Keep an emergency fund for financial security.

Your disciplined approach will ensure a bright future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 25, 2025Hindi
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Hi , I would like to start my investment in mutual funds already im saving 25k in stocks and 50k in chit fund. I have 25k more to save please advice me Thank you
Ans: You are already taking solid steps in your investment journey. A well-balanced portfolio with stocks, chit funds, and mutual funds can help you achieve financial growth. Below is a detailed investment plan for your Rs 25,000 monthly investment in mutual funds.

Why Mutual Funds?
Mutual funds provide diversification and professional management.

They help balance risk and returns based on your goals.

You can invest with flexibility and liquidity.

How to Allocate Rs 25,000 in Mutual Funds?
Equity Mutual Funds (Rs 15,000 - Rs 18,000 per month)

Ideal for long-term growth.
Invest in different categories for risk balance.
Choose actively managed funds for better returns than index funds.
Hybrid Mutual Funds (Rs 5,000 - Rs 7,000 per month)

These funds invest in both equity and debt.
Reduce risk while giving decent returns.
Debt Mutual Funds (Rs 2,000 - Rs 3,000 per month)

Suitable for stability and emergency funds.
Ideal if you need funds in the short term.
How to Choose the Right Mutual Funds?
Investment Goal

Define your target, such as wealth creation or passive income.
Risk Tolerance

Higher risk means potential for higher returns.
Lower risk gives stability but lower growth.
Fund Performance

Look at historical returns over 5-10 years.
Consistency matters more than high short-term returns.
Expense Ratio

Lower expense ratios help improve overall returns.
Regular funds provide advisor support, which helps in fund selection.
Benefits of Investing Through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP)
A CFP helps you create a solid investment plan.

They guide you to rebalance your portfolio regularly.

Investing through an MFD with CFP certification ensures expert monitoring.

How Mutual Funds Fit Into Your Existing Portfolio
Stocks (Rs 25,000 per month)

Direct stocks give higher risk and rewards.
Mutual funds balance this risk with professional management.
Chit Fund (Rs 50,000 per month)

Chit funds provide disciplined savings but may have lower returns.
Mutual funds offer better liquidity and tax benefits.
Mutual Funds (Rs 25,000 per month)

A mix of equity, hybrid, and debt funds ensures diversification.
Helps achieve long-term wealth creation with stability.
Key Mistakes to Avoid in Mutual Fund Investment
Avoid Investing in Direct Plans Without Expert Guidance

Direct plans seem cheaper but require deep research.
Investing through a CFP ensures better selection and monitoring.
Don’t Chase High Returns Only

High-return funds also come with high risks.
Focus on consistency and long-term growth.
Skipping Periodic Review

Markets change, and your investments need rebalancing.
Review your portfolio every 6-12 months with your CFP.
How Taxation Affects Your Mutual Fund Returns
Equity Mutual Funds

LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG is taxed at 20%.
Debt Mutual Funds

Gains are taxed as per your income tax slab.
Hybrid Mutual Funds

Taxation depends on the equity-debt ratio.
Final Insights
Your current investments are well-structured.

Mutual funds will add diversification and balance.

Follow a disciplined approach for better long-term returns.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner for expert advice.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 31, 2025Hindi
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I'm in a relationship, I’m 19, and he’s 26. He works and is the eldest son in his family, and I’m still in college. He’s often busy with work and other commitments, so we only talk for about 1-2 hours at night, but even then, he doesn't talk late, he goes to bed early. Is this okay, because I like talking late, but he doesn’t give me enough time? His family is pressuring him to get married, and on top of that, he’s not from my caste. So, what should I do to make him sure about me and wait for me? Also, lately, he’s been a bit rude, he’s not the same as before. Is it that he doesn’t care about me, or is he taking me for granted, or is it just me thinking that he’s not as good as before?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your wish to keep talking late, but there's a big difference between your lifestyle and his. He is the elder son with responsibilities and a job, while you are a college student; besides studies, you have the luxury of not having all the burdens of your family on your shoulders. His eagerness to sleep early might be owing to tiredness or having to wake up early.
Having said that, if you think there is some other reason, you can always ask him directly. Coming to his rudeness- while I do not support misbehavior in any condition, there still might be reasons like office pressure or family pressure and more. In no way am I excusing his behavior- what I am saying is to talk to him about it. Let him know that his behavior is hurting you and you would like to know the reason behind it.

I can't tell you for sure if he is taking you for granted, or has stopped caring for you, but a direct and open discussion with him can certainly offer you some clarity on it.
Best wishes.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 25, 2025Hindi
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Hi, I am 42 yr old, living with my family including two children of 5 and 8 yrs. I have a loan free flat and two other properties in Gurgaon. I have an expenditure of 75 K monthly.. My monthly rental income is around 80k, I get salary of around 1.7 L per month. Currently invested 20 L in FD, ppf around 25 L and ppf accumulation is around 4 L. I want to retire now, please advise.
Ans: Your financial position is strong. You have multiple income sources and no loans. However, retiring now requires careful planning. You need to ensure steady cash flow and protect your wealth from inflation.

Current Financial Position
Income Sources
Salary: Rs. 1.7 lakh per month.

Rental Income: Rs. 80,000 per month.

Total Monthly Income: Rs. 2.5 lakh.

Expenses
Monthly Household Expenses: Rs. 75,000.

Annual Expenses: Rs. 9 lakh.

Investments and Savings
Fixed Deposits: Rs. 20 lakh.

Public Provident Fund (PPF): Rs. 25 lakh.

PPF Accumulation: Rs. 4 lakh.

Properties: One loan-free flat and two properties in Gurgaon.

Key Financial Challenges
Sustaining Cash Flow After Retirement
Your rental income is Rs. 80,000 per month.

Expenses are Rs. 75,000 per month.

Rental income alone is not enough in case of vacancies.

You need a stable alternative income source.

Inflation and Wealth Protection
Expenses will rise due to inflation.

Fixed deposits and PPF grow slowly.

You need higher returns for long-term financial security.

Children’s Future Planning
Your children are 5 and 8 years old.

You need funds for their education and marriage.

Ensure proper allocation for these goals.

Medical and Emergency Fund
Medical costs rise with age.

Keep a separate emergency fund.

Health insurance is necessary for protection.

Steps to Secure Your Retirement
Maintain an Emergency Fund
Keep at least Rs. 10-15 lakh in liquid form.

Use a combination of sweep-in FDs and liquid mutual funds.

Create a Reliable Income Stream
Rental income may not be consistent.

Invest part of FD and PPF maturity in mutual funds.

Use Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) to get monthly income.

Investment Strategy for Growth
Reduce dependency on fixed deposits.

Invest in actively managed mutual funds for inflation-beating returns.

Balanced mutual funds can provide stability and growth.

Children’s Education and Marriage Fund
Set aside a portion of your investments for their education.

Invest in long-term funds for growth.

Medical Insurance for Family Security
Get a health insurance policy for your family.

This protects your savings from medical emergencies.

Finally
You are in a strong financial position.

Ensure steady income beyond rentals for financial security.

Invest wisely to beat inflation and sustain long-term wealth.

Plan for children’s education early to avoid future burden.

With proper planning, early retirement is possible without risk.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 07, 2025Hindi
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Hello ma'am...i am a girl of 21 yrs and my bf 24yrs.We met each other through an online friendly chat app.Since 1yr,we r chatting,video and voice calls.He told me,he loves me and wanna marry me.I too liked him and I took the matter to my parents and they agreed for our marriage also.I made him talk to my parents.He didn't still let this matter know to his parents.Recently,without my permission..my cousin sis took his insta id and chatted with him like an unknown girl for fun.She created an account in insta and sent a request to him n he accepted that request and continued chatting with her.She told him like she saw his profile and interested and so given a request.He was asking her for voice call,video call,but she didn't accept.She sent some other picture when he insisted her pic and later he asked her "do u like me" for which she funnily replied love at first sight and love you.He told her he want to express his love to her in voice call and later he too proposed..she showed all those screen shots to me. I am broken.I questioned him what is all this?...for which he replied...he just chatted to find out whether that account was a fake account or real account...but,the screen shots were showing something different..when my cousin called him bro..he was very upset and scolded her too. Now,he saying he thought it's a fake boy id and wanted to make fun of and even fought with me saying i don't trust him and without his acceptance..i gave his id to my cousin..but,i havent given.. He is saying he wanted to test whether it is a fake or a real account and so he made fun off and didn't mean it and that too just chatting it is n not to take it seriously and he loves me much.. I am confused after this whether to proceed for marriage..he isthe first guy and love in my life...should i believe him or let him go or should i give him one more chance?..please give u r advice..thank you
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry that you are in this situation. While I can't make a decision for you, I can help you by pointing out how this looks like from an outsider's perspective- your BF's interactions with this profile do not really support his claim of "just testing if it's a fake account." It seems like he was interested in chatting and continuing the flirty conversations. This does not mean he is in love with the person behind that online profile, but it surely looks like he can go behind your back for some thrill.

Trust and honesty are two very important things in a relationship, and if you are planning on getting married, this is not a good start. Moreover, his getting angry at you upon confrontation is a red flag- he tried to gaslight you.
It's your choice whether you want to leave or give him another chance but before you make a decision in haste, ask yourself-
1) If he loves you, would he flirt with someone or even chat with a stranger for entertainment?
2) Would you do the same to him?
3) Is he taking responsibility and asking for forgiveness?
4) Can you trust him completely after this or would you always keep wondering if he is cheating on you?
Once you answer these honestly, I think you will know what's the right thing to do.

One more thing- if you really are thinking of taking this ahead, please make sure to meet up in person before committing. Love can happen online but for your safety, meeting IRL is very important.

Hope this helps.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

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Dear sir I lost my job like 3 years back and since then there is no contribution in my pf account. I m 49. I don't hope of getting another fulltime job. There is around total 45lacs accumulated there. Can you please advice what is the best way to handle this amount? As of now I m debt free and small family with 2 school going kids, living on my savings and interest incomes from bank and equities.
Ans: You have a substantial PF balance, but with no new job, it needs careful planning. Your goal is to ensure stability, preserve capital, and generate income for the long term.

Should You Withdraw the PF Amount?
Your PF account stops earning interest after three years of inactivity. Since you haven’t contributed for three years, check with the EPFO if interest is still being credited.
If interest is not accruing, withdrawing gradually over time is better than keeping it idle.
If it’s still earning interest, you can defer withdrawal until you need the funds.
Where to Invest the PF Amount?
Once withdrawn, you need low-risk, income-generating investments to support your family.

1. Fixed Deposits for Short-Term Stability
Keep Rs 10-15 lakh in bank FDs for liquidity and stability.
Choose senior citizen or special deposit schemes for higher interest rates.
Opt for monthly or quarterly interest payout for regular income.
2. Debt Mutual Funds for Tax Efficiency
Invest Rs 15-20 lakh in debt mutual funds for stable returns and tax efficiency.
Banking & PSU Debt Funds or Corporate Bond Funds are safer choices.
Debt funds benefit from indexation, reducing capital gains tax over time.
3. Dividend-Paying Stocks for Passive Income
Allocate Rs 5-7 lakh in blue-chip dividend-paying stocks.
These stocks provide stable income and have potential for long-term appreciation.
Reinvest surplus dividends for future growth.
4. Monthly Income Plans for Regular Cash Flow
Consider conservative hybrid funds with systematic withdrawal plans (SWP).
This ensures regular cash flow while maintaining the investment corpus.
Emergency Fund & Medical Backup
Keep at least Rs 5 lakh in a separate savings account or liquid fund for unexpected expenses.
Ensure you have adequate health insurance for yourself and your family.
Set aside Rs 3-5 lakh for children’s school fees in a short-term investment.
Final Insights
Your PF corpus can provide financial security if managed well. Combining FDs, debt funds, blue-chip stocks, and SWPs ensures stability, liquidity, and income. Avoid risky investments and focus on capital protection.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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