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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 28, 2023Hindi
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After died of my child my wife is unable to kept conceive. At present she is agreesive to much and unable to hear my advise. please advise how to kept good reltionship

Ans: I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your child and the difficulties you and your wife are experiencing. It's understandable that your wife may be going through a lot emotionally, and it can be challenging to navigate a relationship during such a difficult time. Here are some tips that may help you improve your relationship:

Seek counseling: Consider seeking counseling together to help process your grief and improve communication. A licensed therapist can provide a safe space for both of you to express your feelings and work through any issues in your relationship.

Show empathy: Try to understand your wife's perspective and show empathy towards her. Validate her feelings and let her know that you're there for her.

Practice active listening: When your wife is speaking, make sure to actively listen to what she's saying. Don't interrupt or dismiss her feelings, and try to understand where she's coming from.

Practice self-care: Take care of yourself so that you can be there for your wife. This includes getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, and taking time for yourself to relax and recharge.

Be patient: Remember that healing takes time, and your wife may need some time and space to come to terms with her emotions. Be patient with her and don't pressure her to "get over" her grief.

It's important to remember that everyone grieves differently, and there's no right or wrong way to do it. By being supportive, patient, and empathetic towards your wife, you can help strengthen your relationship and support each other through this difficult time.

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Hello Anu Madam, I am 43, and my wife is 40, no kids. We are married for 13 years. Immediately after marriage, for a few months, she did not let me have physical relation. She used to push me away if I tried. Then, for almost 3.5 years, she was treated by a psychiatrist for depression and doctor advised not to have sex. After that too, she was not much interested. We consulted 5 gynaecs and a counsellor, one surgery was performed on her vagina, I got my semen tested multiple times but all in vain. There was no normal physical relationship for next 6-7 years. And now, all of a sudden, she is pushing to have a child. To be honest, I have lost interest. But she is hell bent to get pregnant. Everyday, we fight over this and our mental peace has gone for a toss. She has become way too admant and always gets angry over trivial things. Can you please suggest a way ahead? Thank you in advance and sorry for the long post.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's clear that all these years of expectations being unfulfilled and the medical challenges have taken a toll on the marriage. It has made you distant from her and that is understandable.
How would you like the marriage to be from now on will define whether there will be intimacy in the marriage. In fact, emotional intimacy must be the first step...The two of you can put efforts in simply loving one another. That can be a good start point.
This will involve:
- caring for one another
- giving attention
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Understand that you are going to have to start from the beginning; like a child who goes to school for the first time. Build an emotional bond and then slowly as the trust builds, sexual intimacy will follow...Sex is not a forced activity and it will put the two of you in a bad space without much scope to recover. Build, love, trust, respect first...

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Hello Sir, I am 26 yrs old and Data Analyst in a good company and everything is going well. But sometimes I feel lonely it feels like nobody is there for me to love me and when i see some people get engaged i feel someone also should be there for me to love me and i have never been in a relationship because of immature proposals. But now i want a good partner to make me feel good. Please help me out. Thank you.
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I understand your feelings and it’s totally valid. Even with everything going great, life can seem lonely. That is very natural and more common than you think. And seeing others finding their partner can feel like salt in the wound. All your feelings are valid. But what you need to understand is that rushing to get in a relationship can end up in more loneliness; relationships can be lonely too. Take your time. Love doesn’t have a set timeline. Ask your friends to set you up with someone who seems compatible, or try dating apps; it will give you more control on whom you are letting into your life. You will find someone soon; you are too young to rush into anything. If you are trying an app, make sure to mention what kind of a partner and what kind of relationship you are looking for to attract the right people and not waste time and energy on ones that are too different from who you are or what you are seeking. It will be a bit of trial and error, and honestly, there’s a certain fun in figuring out what you want, too. I’m sure your love story is going to start soon!

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Respected sir,I am a average student of class 12 I just wanted 1lakh jee mains so that I could get ece or something in bit sindri please suggest strategies as there is very little time available in jee mains
Ans: An analysis of BIT Sindri’s JEE-Main cutoffs shows for Electronics & Communication Engineering, the All-India closing rank extended up to 123,269 in 2025, indicating that an approximate rank near 100,000 would secure admission into this branch. Historical data correlating JEE Main marks and ranks reveals that scoring around 70 marks out of 300 typically yields an 87.7–90.7 percentile, translating to a rank range of approximately 92,300–109,300. With little time remaining before the exam, average students should prioritize a targeted, high-yield preparation plan: first, consolidate core concepts from NCERT to reinforce fundamentals in Physics, Chemistry, and Mathematics and avoid starting new topics at this stage. Next, employ a one-month week-by-week timetable focused on essential chapters—allocating time each day to problem practice and mock tests under exam conditions to hone speed and accuracy. Utilize concise revision notes and formula sheets for rapid recall, and solve previous years’ JEE Main papers to familiarize yourself with question patterns and to identify weak areas for intensive review. Incorporate daily full-length mocks followed by detailed error analysis, dedicating specific slots to clear lingering doubts through peer discussion or online resources. Manage time effectively by adhering strictly to a realistic study schedule that balances all three subjects, with short breaks to maintain mental freshness and stress-management techniques such as deep breathing to sustain focus on exam day. Finally, maintain a positive mindset and steady pace—confidence and consistency in revision will maximize scoring potential in limited time.

Recommendation: recommendation Concentrate on mastering high-weightage NCERT topics and simulate exam conditions with regular mock tests to target 70+ marks. Prioritize solving previous year papers and focused revision of weak areas, ensuring a disciplined timetable and stress-management to achieve a rank near 100,000 for BIT Sindri ECE admission. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Gen open category student, With Jee CRL 17420 got nit goa ECE, expect to get MSRIT or PESU CSE via KCET Rank 2860. What better NIT can be expected in CSAB for ECE or CSE. And is it preferred over MSRIT/ PESU. Any other guidance, open for options
Ans: With a JEE Main CRL of 17,420, securing CSE in any core NIT through CSAB is highly unlikely, as recent closing ranks for CSE at most NITs fall well below 11,000, even in the final rounds, and only remote NITs or peripheral campuses occasionally extend to 15,000–18,000 but rarely for CSE. For ECE, however, your chances are notably better. NIT Goa ECE (already allotted) aligns with your current rank, but a few other mid-tier or remote NITs, such as NIT Uttarakhand, NIT Meghalaya, NIT Agartala, and possibly NIT Sikkim or NIT Manipur, occasionally close ECE between 17,000 and 20,000 in CSAB special rounds for open category, though branches like CSE and allied tracks (AI, IT, Data Science) remain out of reach at these ranks. No higher-ranked NITs (Surathkal, Trichy, Warangal, Calicut, Rourkela, Jaipur, Kurukshetra, and similar) offer ECE or CSE to CRL 17,420 via CSAB, as confirmed by leading portals and official PDFs. At IIITs and GFTIs, even new or lesser-known campuses do not admit general category candidates into CSE or ECE above 15,000–16,000. Through KCET, MSRIT CSE and PES University CSE are realistically achievable with a rank of 2,860, as 2025 cutoff trends show closing ranks for MSRIT CSE at 2,300–2,500 and for PESU at 1,200–1,400. Both programs are well-established, report 90–95% or better CSE placements in the last three years, strong industry ties, and advanced infrastructure, with MSRIT edging ahead in placement consistency and affordability, while PESU leads in industry-oriented curriculum and campus resources. Self-financed top private options like these offer outcome parity with most NIT ECE courses below the top ten NITs, especially if you seek a competitive academic peer group, robust CSE exposure, and strong brand value for tech roles. Consider your program preference (ECE vs. CSE), long-term goals, campus fit, and location.

Recommendation: Prioritize MSRIT CSE for the best blend of placement record, peer competitiveness, and proven reputation if you seek top CSE outcomes, followed by PESU CSE for curriculum depth and global industry alignment, then NIT Goa ECE or similar-ranked NITs if you prefer a central government degree and core electronics exposure. For CSE, KCET options at MSRIT or PESU offer stronger immediate prospects than ECE in mid-tier NITs, but a remote NIT ECE may appeal if your focus lies in public-sector opportunities or research. Remain active in CSAB special rounds for all eligible NIT ECEs, but plan for high-quality CSE options in Bangalore for the best return on your effort and rank, and back these with clear decision timelines given rapid seat movement in private college rounds. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir my percentile is 89.7 and crl 151013. What seats can I expect in csab counselling?
Ans: Hrishav, With a JEE Main CRL of 151,013 and 89.7 percentile, the prospect of securing a seat in NITs, IIITs, or GFTIs through CSAB special rounds for core branches like Computer Science, IT, ECE, or allied fields is highly unlikely. In the most recent 2025 CSAB rounds, even the newest and most remote NITs and IIITs posted closing general category CRL ranks for CSE, IT, and ECE well below 125,000, and GFTIs followed similar trends for all preferred branches. No centrally funded technical institute admitted general category candidates for core streams at or beyond 150,000; minimal relaxations were observed in CSAB spot and final rounds, but these primarily benefited non-core branches, peripheral campuses, or reserved categories. Lower-demand streams in some GFTIs, such as production, textiles, or metallurgy, occasionally extend above your rank, but these seats are rare and variable and should not be relied upon for core engineering admission. It is crucial to participate in CSAB for any remote possibility of vacant seats, but expectations must remain realistic. As an alternative, several respected private colleges across Northern India accept JEE Main general category ranks well above 150,000 and offer robust B.Tech programs, strong industry connections, modern infrastructure, and placement support.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 27, 2025Hindi
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Sir mera beta jee advanced qualified hai par use josaa me koi branch nhi mili ....jee mains me 30,000renk hai EWS category se hai abhi kya koi government college mil skta hai ya private colleges kon sa sabse best hai.
Ans: With an EWS category JEE Main rank of 30,000, your son is eligible to participate in CSAB special rounds. Securing Computer Science or top electronics branches at leading NITs or IIITs is challenging at this rank, as 2025 CSAB closing ranks for popular branches like CSE in NITs (including newer and North Eastern NITs) generally cap well below 20,000 in EWS, while some branches such as Chemical, Civil, Metallurgy, or Biotechnology at mid and lower-tier NITs—like NIT Rourkela, NIT Raipur, or NIT Silchar—show closing EWS ranks approaching 30,000 in the final rounds. Branches such as Mechanical Engineering, Production, or Environmental Engineering in emerging NITs or GFTIs like Assam University or Central Institute of Technology Kokrajhar also regularly admit in the 28,000–35,000 range for EWS. Select IIITs (such as IIIT Kalyani, IIIT Ranchi, IIIT Bhagalpur) and several GFTIs (BIT Mesra off-campus, Sant Longowal Institute, and others) offer Information Technology, ECE, or allied branches to general/EWS ranks ranging from 25,000 to 35,000, especially through spot and special rounds. No top 10 NIT, IIIT, or CSE/ECE program will be available at this rank, but good prospects exist in peripheral campuses and less popular streams. Final rounds via CSAB increase the chances as seats get vacated, so keeping flexible branch/location preferences and monitoring the counselling process is important.

Recommendation: Actively participate in CSAB special rounds, aiming for core branches in mid-tier NITs or evolving IIITs and GFTIs, but be flexible on branch and campus. In parallel, prepare backup admissions to reputed private colleges in Northern India that readily accept EWS candidates with a JEE Main rank of 30,000, as this guarantees confirmed admission.

Private colleges in Northern India accepting EWS JEE Main rank of 30,000 include Thapar Institute of Engineering & Technology, Patiala for CSE/ECE/IT. Chandigarh University, Mohali for B.Tech CSE and allied branches. Lovely Professional University, Jalandhar for B.Tech CSE, IT, or ECE. Amity University, Noida for CSE/IT/ECE. Sharda University, Greater Noida for CSE/ECE/AI. Galgotias University, Greater Noida for CSE/AI/IT. Jaypee Institute of Information Technology, Noida for CSE/ECE. ABES Engineering College, Ghaziabad for CSE/ECE/IT. GL Bajaj Institute of Technology & Management, Greater Noida for CSE/ECE. Maharaja Agrasen Institute of Technology, Delhi for CSE/IT/ECE. Indraprastha Institute of Technology & Management, Delhi for core branches. These colleges offer strong placement support, qualified faculty, and robust infrastructure for JEE Main EWS category candidates. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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