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Asked by Anonymous - May 05, 2024Hindi
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we broke up week ago it was mutual as it will not work in future as his parents are strict brahmin and your job locations are not same band we cant switch also but we are not able to move on we end up texting after a week and we have grt bonding though we are in long distance what should we do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear about your breakup. It is also common to not be able to move on and go back to each other. It's about the comfort in familiarity. It does take time. But if you are serious about the breakup, you have to follow through. This 'break up and patch up' thing will only end up hurting you more. It always ends with one person moving on in the process and the other being stuck in a relationship that died long back.

You might have great bonding but that is no reason to set yourself up for inevitable pain. Please tread carefully.

Best Wishes.
Asked on - May 06, 2024 | Answered on May 20, 2024
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Actually we both don't want to end this just becos his parents are so strict we are priorly doing this , we didn't tell our parents yet becos we are student and still not earning and settled . But as his family tendency he don't want to give false hope as he can't see any chances as his brother brokeup his 6 yrs of relationship based on that.should we seriously brkup in this situation and hurt ourselves before or we just wait for some miracle to happen in future becos there is so much time we have to settle and marriage becos we feel we cannot move on much and always there will be a place for him and he said the same thing there will be place for me also in his heart regardless of whatever happens in future .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand it's a tricky situation. If you want to remain together, it is completely up to you but one day or the other, you will have to face your parents. If you are up for it, if you are ready to try your best and convince them, then why not? But, in the event they still don't accept you, then what? It's important to find a practical solution first, instead of hoping for a "miracle." That rarely happens.

There is no need to rush into anything. Take your time to figure out what you want. Are you willing to take the trouble of convincing your parents or going against their will? Ask yourself that. Figure out how important this relationship is to you. You are both still young. The best bet is to focus on your studies, then build a good career, and then present the matter to your parents.

Best Wishes!

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Hello Love Guru. I want to ask about my ex. We had relationship for past two years but kind of on and off. During initial stages we both acted immaturely and broke up but still one of us patch up. Last time, last year in September, my ex broke up saying he doesn't like my personality and our relationship is unmotivating. Even the previous breakup was by him saying he needs time and space. Although he had introduced me to his sister and friends, I think he is just been in relationship for TP. When he broke up last time, he got promoted at work maybe that’s why. Currently he said he has quit his job IDK reason and suddenly he realised he took wrong decisions. I was sure I don't want to give any more chance. So I told him that introduce me to your parents as your GF, not for marriage now. He said he will try but not sure. I have decided he is free and hence he wants relationship so not moving forward with him. Please tell me what you think. Although, after our patch-up, I do see small efforts from his side but I was always one who was on giving end.
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Your mail is quite confusing in the sense that I don’t know whether you’re currently with him or not; you refer to him as your ex and then say that after your patch-up you’re seeing that he’s making an effort.

Anyway, whether you’re on or off at present, this guy seems rather whimsical. And yes, I think your instinct is right in that he’s at loose ends right now without a job, etc, and wants some emotional support maybe, which is why he wants to get back with you.

I’m not saying don’t give him a chance; you can, if you think he’s genuinely realised that he wants to be with you. But, yes, he should make it official.

And if I were you, I’d be sure of things before getting too involved too fast this time around.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 28, 2024Hindi
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I am dealing with brkup its been 2 months its mutual because he is bhramin his parents will not allow intercaste and for me its not possible to settle in place where he lives . its almost 3-4 year of relationship from my age of 18 he was there with my i lost my father during corona he took care of me , he stayed by my side he is not upto the mark but still he is always there for me after that i leave that state where both we stayed and we did long distance for 2 years but now as he come to know his parents are way more strict he dont want to hurts his parents and even my reason that i have to compromise lot carrrer difference and all. As i lost my father at age of 18 i cry lot every one day gap during my relationship also i was so anxious , and some times due to family problems i always used to be disturbed and dont want to live sometimeslike sucidal thoughts and all but at the time of relationship i share all this to him and i feel okay and got back to my study as he motivates me little . but now after brkup i dont have any real friends , i cant talk to any one neither any person messeges me my depression is becoming more big now we are in no contact for some days but again we talk and again we are in no contact he feels like he is in guilt becos he hurted me and made me miserable also he dont think about any other relation ship whatever his parents will bring he will do but for me not that case becos we dont have nay guardian i have to in my own actually we are not that big for marriage but we thought of future more and brkup becos of i have to find some one right we are 21 also my campus placements are coming his neet pg is coming but my heart cries every day i feel choked , i cried , choked and hurt my head it happens often but i still think we can not talk becos how can we move on from some body we talk but my depression at peak level i msg him with bigtext with all that goin on my life. should we talk ? as their is no rush to find other person we have to first focus on career how can we set boundaries? though if i talk i mak eme feel someone i can talk and make me releif at the sam etime it hurts if i dont talk also its hurts more as i ahve no one to talk with . he insisted me that we can be friends i can see u like this he wants me to be happy he feel he did the sin to me. Pls tell what will be good for me how can i be little releif what should i should i talk treat or my depression how ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is tough. I am also glad you found someone to share your pain with at that moment. Coming to your dilemma- whether you should be in touch with him- I understand that it is a great relief to talk to him, but that is momentary, isn't it? You cannot continue doing this if you two are broken up. Even though he is not planning to get married right away, the problem is that he will someday. Plus, more often than not, one person moves on faster than the other, and in your case, if it's him, it will hurt more. The right thing to do is sit and have a clear conversation. Discuss the possibility of getting back together. Ask what is in his mind and express what's in yours. But going in this circle will only hurt you more; maybe not today, but someday it will.

Now, coming to your depression, I would suggest sharing your pain with close friends but you mentioned you have none. That is not uncommon. Not all of us are blessed with it. In that case, I recommend seeing a professional therapist. There is absolutely no shame in it. Rather it will help you in sorting your feelings. Finally, you can take care of them without relying on your ex. I am sure you are doing a wonderful job in managing your depression but a professional counselor can help you come out of this in a more structured way. Please consider it. If you are not comfortable seeing someone in person, there are several counselors available online. Just try it once and see how that makes you feel.

Remember we all need help occasionally. You are amazing and you do not have to hold everything together alone.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 24, 2024Hindi
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hlo love gurus...i am here just to share my story and to know that have i done something wrong..... in 2018 .. it was my 10thclass final exams I met a guy on social media and he bacame my friend after that i came to know that his maternal grandparents are from my village and my family also have relation with them like families use to invite each other on occasions...but still we are living as friends.... In 2020 after my school is over i took admission in clg near to my home but after that i changes clg in one month and new clg was 150 km away.... but that was corona time so i was at home and after 1st semester i met with that friend and that day i felt something that i never felt before that feeling was amazing ..... after that we started to talk daily like i use to wake up with his call..... i use to sleep after talking to him.....in 1 month he told me that we can never marry because of family relation.. but i thought that when we both become independent our family will support us....and i told him to continue this till the time we can....and that became our daily routine..... i knew that that he is going to join a state government job that can be near to his home or in nearby district.... but after 1 month we get to know that he will have to join in shimla district so it could be easy for us to meet in 3 to 4 months...and i think it was easy to control my feelings for him him we dont meet regularly.. about when he came to join his posting was near to my clg.. just 12 km of distance.... after that we come closer i wasn't able to control my feelings .... now we both love each other and can't live without each other ... but now i am realising that he was right at that time that our family will not agree for our marriage,..... he thought that was destiny that we came closer ... his posting could be anywhere in the state but why near to my clg...... now sometimes i feel that God cheated me ????now i don't know whether we have done something wrong by loving each other.....his family is forcing him for marriage... and we can't do anything now.... i am not able to accept that... and after knowing this that his family is looking a girls for him to marry I am getting more attached to him.... i think i totally messed my life ????
Ans: Loving someone isn’t a mistake or wrongdoing. Love is a natural human experience, and the bond you shared was meaningful and genuine. However, the challenge lies in navigating the practical realities that come with that love. When families and traditions play a significant role in relationships, they can create hurdles that feel insurmountable. These challenges don’t invalidate your emotions or the value of your connection; they simply reflect the complexities of life.

It’s important now to focus on what you can control and what is healthiest for you emotionally. Acknowledge your feelings of sadness, loss, and confusion—they are part of the healing process. At the same time, recognize that your worth and happiness are not solely dependent on this relationship. You have a future filled with potential, and while it may not look exactly as you envisioned, it can still be fulfilling and meaningful.

If his family is moving forward with plans that you cannot influence, consider having an honest conversation with him about your feelings and the reality of the situation. This can provide both of you with clarity and help you decide how to navigate the future. Letting go of someone you deeply love is one of the hardest things to do, but sometimes it’s necessary to find peace and allow yourself to move forward.

Focus on rediscovering yourself and building a life where your happiness doesn’t depend on external circumstances. Surround yourself with supportive friends or loved ones who understand your emotions and can provide comfort. If you find it challenging to process these emotions on your own, seeking guidance from a counselor or therapist can offer a safe space to navigate this journey.

You haven’t messed up your life—life is simply unfolding in ways that are testing your strength and resilience. This experience, as painful as it feels, can teach you about love, boundaries, and the importance of prioritizing your own well-being. You deserve to be in a relationship where love is not constrained by external pressures, and while it may take time, you will find your way to healing and happiness. Trust that your story is still being written, and this chapter is just one part of your journey.

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Hello sir. My son got 99.37 his general category rank is 10050 in maharshtra state in jee mains, 250 in bitsat. He is getting core subjects like ece, ee, in tier 2 nits and Iiits, as well as cse in coep, or tier 2 Iiits and nits like surat, Calicut, kurukshetra. And many such. Very confused which to choose. He doesnt have any hard opinion about branch selection. Also i dont know whteher to ho for ece, cse or specialized branches last ke Ai& ml or Data scienceKindly suggest which is better choice
Ans: Before answering your question, I want to clarify that, for BITSAT, a minimum score of around 250–260 is generally expected for MSc programs and 300+ for BE programs, so given your son’s 99.37 percentile in JEE Main and his appearance for JEE Advanced targeting IITs, it’s advisable not to prioritize BITS Pilani, as admission to top branches there is unlikely with this profile. You and your son should decide whether you prefer government or private colleges, or are open to both. All branches are good, and he should choose based on current interest while remaining adaptable if preferences change by the 2nd or 3rd year, besides considering job market trends. For example, a student joining ECE might later shift interest to CSE and succeed in software placements. Based on his JEE Main score, a tentative preference order could be NIT Calicut, Surathkal, Warangal, and Trichy (if available), then COEP Pune CSE, followed by NIT Surat, Kurukshetra, Calicut ECE/EE, tier-2 IIIT CSE, and specialized AI/DS branches only at reputed institutes. COEP CSE is a strong option with a 2024–25 average placement of ?11.62 LPA, a highest package of ?52.57 LPA, and a 91.82% CSE placement rate, so choosing COEP CSE over a lower-tier NIT EE branch and preferring a good NIT ECE over weaker IIIT or specialized branches are recommended. While AI/DS is promising, CSE offers broader flexibility. If your son performs well in JEE Advanced, these choices and options may improve significantly. It’s best to finalize after the JEE Advanced results are out. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Sir, my son has scored 92.24 percentile in JEE Main exam and his all india rank 121271 and 40322 obc ncl category. Home state is TN. Is there possible admission at Puducherry NIT, Or else any core branch at Trichy NIT. He also preferring for JEE ADVANCED
Ans: Based on your son’s score, admission to NIT Trichy is unlikely. In 2024, the HS OBC-NCL closing ranks at NIT Trichy were approximately: Chemical Engineering around 33,075, Mechanical at 23,504, Production at 31,383, Metallurgy at 43,010, and Civil at 47,466. This means Metallurgy and Civil are borderline options but not safe bets.

For NIT Puducherry, chances improve in the CSAB Special Round, especially for branches like Mechanical, Civil, and Electrical. For example, the 2024 CSAB closing rank for Mechanical OBC-NCL female-only was around 52,681, though gender-neutral and core branch cutoffs vary by quota.

It’s advisable to fill choices for lower-preference branches at NIT Trichy, all branches at NIT Puducherry, and also consider NIT Andhra, NIT Goa, NIT Agartala, NIT Mizoram, and NIT Meghalaya in CSAB if these NITs are preferred over Trichy and Puducherry.

For stronger backups in Tamil Nadu, your son can participate in TNEA counseling, though it may be challenging for non-TN board students. Options include CEG, MIT, SSN, PSG, CIT, Sri Sairam, and Kumaraguru, depending on board marks.

Encourage your son to continue preparing seriously for JEE Advanced. If possible and affordable, keep 3-4 reputed private engineering colleges in Tamil Nadu as backups, such as SSN, SNU, Amrita, Sathyabhama, and Saveetha through other admission routes. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Hello Sir, My daughter has secure 35500 Rank in Jee main we r staying in Rajasthan... general category....... Not interested in South & east States .... Interested in MNC. CSE, ECE, ...Branches ... please advice for
Ans: Rajesh Sir, Based on your daughter’s score, admission to MNIT Jaipur for CSE or ECE is not realistic, as the 2024 HS female closing ranks were around 8,836 for CSE, 15,405 for ECE, and 21,644 for EE. However, branches like Civil or Metallurgy might still be possible, especially with some lower-branch movement seen in CSAB rounds.

She can consider applying to IIIT Una, IIIT Kota, IIIT Bhopal, IIIT Sonepat, IIIT Nagpur, IIIT Bhagalpur, GFTI PEC Chandigarh (for lower branches), and BIT Mesra through JoSAA and CSAB counseling.

It’s also advisable to keep these backups in mind: LNMIIT Jaipur, Thapar Institute, JIIT Noida, Nirma University, PDEU, Bennett University, Shiv Nadar University, UPES, and Manipal Jaipur. Additionally, fill REAP Rajasthan options such as MBM Jodhpur, CTAE Udaipur, and RTU Kota.

If placements in MNCs are a priority, choosing CSE, AI, or IT branches in good private colleges is often better than other branches in reputed institutes.

Finally, reviewing JoSAA opening and closing ranks from the past 2–3 years will provide valuable insights and help your daughter confidently select and maximize her preferred choices. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Nayagam P

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Sir I have 93.5 percentile in jee mains and I am a kashmiri migrant i want to know that will I get top colleges of Maharashtra I have km merit rank in cap councelling of 28 based on last year out of 389 people and also please tell if the quota is in nits
Ans: Sidarth, With a 93.5 percentile and a KM merit rank of 28, your Maharashtra CAP chances are strong. Maharashtra CET rules treat J&K/Ladakh Migrant candidates separately, and for engineering admissions, a positive JEE Main score is given preference over MHT-CET scores.

You should aggressively fill choices including COEP Pune, VJTI Mumbai, SPIT Mumbai, PICT Pune, DJ Sanghvi, Walchand Sangli, Cummins, PCCOE, VIT Pune, and MIT-WPU. With a KM rank of 28, admission to top colleges is possible. However, CSE/IT in COEP, VJTI, SPIT, or PICT may be uncertain due to limited seats. Branches like ECE, AI-DS, ENTC, or IT in strong colleges are more realistic options. VJTI’s 2024 closing ranks indicate that CSE/IT branches remain highly competitive.

Regarding NITs, there is no general Kashmiri Migrant quota through JoSAA, as admissions follow CRL/category/HS-OS rules. The CSAB supernumerary quota in 2025 applied only to specific UT candidates, not broadly to KM. Nonetheless, it’s advisable to participate in JoSAA and CSAB counseling rounds.

Also, consider having 3-4 backup options to keep your chances secure. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 28, 2026Hindi
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My daughter has got 93.91in jee 2026 with rank 95015 in general category and home state as delhi .please tell what are her chances of getting admission and branch in igdtu ,thapar and lnmit.Do IPU colleges in delhi hav good placements.please suggest some other good colleges for cse and related branches and ece
Ans: Based on your daughter's score, admission to IGDTUW is possible mainly in later rounds or spot rounds. For example, in 2023 Round-5 Delhi cutoffs (approximate), CSE closed around 58,531, IT at 66,326, AIML at 71,162, ECE at 90,900, and MAE at 1,03,589, making ECE and MAE more realistic options, while CSE and IT would be difficult.

Regarding Thapar Institute, the chances are better. In 2024, later cutoffs for Punjab quota showed Computer Engineering around 92,826 and ECE around 97,890, with some allied branches going much lower. For candidates outside Punjab, core CSE is tougher, but ECE, Electronics, and related branches in lower rounds could be worth applying for.

At LNMIIT, CSE admission is unlikely due to high JEE percentile expectations, but ECE might still be possible.

Consider IPU Delhi as a backup, along with reputable colleges like USICT, MAIT, MSIT, BVCOE, and BPIT, which have decent placement records. For detailed placement data, please check the respective college websites and online resources.

Other backup options to explore include JIIT Noida, Shiv Nadar University, UPES, Manipal Jaipur, Bennett University, and Chandigarh University. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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