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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 23, 2024

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2024Hindi
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Dear Anu, please keep it anonymous. I am 36 year old , married and with a kid. Though i am married , i have fallen aparr from my spouse and we don’t stay together since many years. In the last couple of years, I fell in love with a much younger person who happens to be my colleague. We are a great couple sharing and caring. We have been intimate too. Now, since two months They are searching for my lover's marriage. There is no resistance from my lover for this. My lover also tell that it was to happen and we have no future, my parents wont allow. Im trying to keep distance but because of work we keep meeting. Everytime the push pull is eating me up...im unable to work. Please advise what should I do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
So, the younger chap had his fun and now when you look for emotional support, he talks of no future together.
What does this tell you? Should you allow yourself to be a part of the push and pull drama? Also, without a closure from your marriage, this is just going to be an off-on relationship. It's time you acknowledge that you are more into this than he is...
Safeguard your mind now by drawing lines where necessary...
As far as meeting at the workplace, you will now face resistance from him, he might even fail to acknowledge your presence...And this will hurt; that's why I suggested it's more than a heartbreak, a mind game...Become your own best friend and do the right think for yourself!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked on - May 23, 2024 | Answered on May 24, 2024
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Thank you Anu, I have anothre challenge. His work is still at a very nascent stage. We worked together for his growth, I fought at work to get him a comfortable stay. We are still working on project where we need to work together. I had committed earlier that I will be there for your project and help. Also, it is even difficult because his parents helps me out with certain stuff in personal life. I am unable to take him out of my life but unable to stay because of the mind game. How should I tackle this? The project he is working is a career making work, my idea and my hard work...I gave it to him thinking this will help him establish himself. He keeps telling that we are friends and that we can still work together. But I am unable to get over my anxiety and attachments. Please guide! Thank you
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This thing of 'being friends' is possible only when the feelings have gone away completely...
as for your work, maintain strict professional and personal boundaries while working with him AND as for his parents; the more you link to things that are associated with him, the harder it will get for you to move on...
Now, is there a part of you that is still holding onto him? If Yes, then you are inviting this anxiety thru this association and attachment.
So, be clear as to what you want and it is important to take care of your mind space else you will end up playing games with yourself and he will think that 'being friends' zone is happy and comfortable.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Asked on - May 25, 2024 | Answered on May 27, 2024
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Thank you Anuji, I have started to work because I am at a all hands on deck situation. I am trying to make my boundaries. Thank you again.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for letting me know that you area making your efforts to drop boundaries.
Boundaries not only safeguard your mind space but also sends out a clear message to people concerned that there are a few things and more that you will not give into and you intend to stand up for yourself.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked on - May 27, 2024 | Answered on May 27, 2024
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Dear Anuji, I could not resist today...Not only I broke down but I confronted him twice. I fought and asked him how can he do this. How can someone forget a 2 year relationship? I could not control. I could not shut up...I said some terrible things...I'm unable to forgive him or forgive myself. I can't stop working with him. It is not possible. Can you help? I lost it ... I could not do anything Now feeling helpless
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Why are you beating yourself up for saying how you feel about things?
I will still say the same thing; your lack of boundaries have caused you this pain. So UNDO this...But you can undo only if you want to.
If you have decided that this Undoing will take some time and you still want to grieve over what has happened, then by all means, do just that...But at some point you will realize not having being loved, appreciated and valued the way you must be, will help you move on...
If he was so much in love with you, where is his voice when his parents are looking for a bride or him? Isn't that a huge, huge red flag? Then why are you wasting your time, love and tears over this guy? HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU!
You deserve to RESPECT yourself...so, please do just that...
MOVE ON...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
Asked on - May 27, 2024 | Answered on May 28, 2024
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Thank you for such prompt response ...I appreciate you taking time and effort..lots of love
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I wish you the best in life. Happy if have been able to guide in some way!
Will leave you with this thought: Make yourself important to yourself and the rest falls into place...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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