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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 04, 2022
Dear Anonymous,
I understand that he is hurt but how convenient! Things happen, like the way it happened to you before marriage.
But to use that as an excuse to have an affair is very convenient. He needs to look at the situation for what it is now and work with that.
It’s great that the families are involved. The elders in the family can now act as a good mediator to bring the two of you to the discussion table.
Your husband possibly is hurt from your situation before your marriage.
Keeping these kinds of things can draw a wedge in the marriage. He now needs to recover from that before he can be a husband to you in the marriage.
When he found out, how did you deal with it?
That is very crucial to understand as all his actions are stemming from the fact that the situation is unresolved in the mind, and he feels victimized and turns to another woman to feel some sense of normalcy.
As much as it seems disturbing and inappropriate, the fact that it was hidden from him is disturbing him.
So, work with this and as families let this be handled delicately, so that he begins to trust you all over again.
Till then be patient…
All the best!
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