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Smart Boy Question by Smart Boy on Mar 02, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu, I am 50 years old , my wife doesn’t support me for sex. Previously she used to but now she does hardly once in a month

Ans: Dear Nilesh,
Clearly your wife has lost interest in sex.
Have you found out the reason. It could be physiological or an emotional one. Encourage her to have some tests done as a woman at 50 is undergoing a huge hormonal change due to menopause. Encourage her by saying how beautiful she is and how much you love and appreciate her.
Intimacy cannot be forced; and menopause and onset of it can be very challenging and confusing for a woman, Read up about it or visit a doctor who will tell you about how you can play an active role in being a huge support to your wife during this phase.
Patience also will go a long way in letting her know that no matter what, you stand by her. Understanding this truly will change things for her to allow sex not because you want it but because she desires it to.
So, indulge in a lot of cuddling, kissing and hugging without an expectation of it leading to sex. Eventually, it might happen.
Educate yourself first about all of this and sooner than later, the two of you will be on the same side on this.

All the best!

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I have problem with my wife from last 10 months, she is not interested in sex. Every time I told for that she denied me and reason that in winter she says chilling and in summer she told any other reason. Please give some solution to me what can I do?
Ans: Dear HS, Isn’t it time that you actually asked your wife what she wants rather than just focusing on what you want?

Since you haven’t mentioned her age, I may not be able to relate a particular phase of a woman’s life and sex in relation to that age. But broadly, I can say that for a woman to be in a mood to have sex/make love only when she is emotionally well and fit.

Maybe there is an underlying stress condition that must be looked into as this might make her lose interest in sex.

Also, certain hormonal changes with age can make women less responsive in bed. And sometimes a few medical conditions may also cause this challenge.

Whatever, it maybe, she is your partner and spouse. I would suggest that you first get down to a peaceful communication where the intent is not to drive your agenda of sex but instead being there for her and understanding her as well.

This will create a space of trust where she will be able to share her feelings and what she is going through.

Do get a basic blood work done where a few medical conditions can be ruled out as well.

And if it still persists, then it’s perhaps time to seek a professional out who can help put things into perspective by going deeper into what exactly is going on.

A strong emotional distress maybe the cause for this too.

Whatever it maybe, be with her through this entire journey. She will need a friend to fall back on for sure.

Happy bonding and all the best!

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