Hi Anu, I am 50 years old , my wife doesn’t support me for sex. Previously she used to but now she does hardly once in a month

Ans: Dear Ritesh,
Your question is quite similar to many others' and my responses have been keeping in mind the age of the woman here.
Many women either have menopaused at this age or are in the process...The sexual urge drops drastically for women as there is depletion of a very vital hormone; estrogen. You can find more information on this in books and on the internet.
When there is almost no or nil sexual interest as the body does not want to indulge in the act, how do you get her to like it?
But all is not lost; what I suggest is for you to clearly communicate your needs without expecting things to heat up in the bedroom. Instead, indulge in a lot non-sexual intimacy acts like cuddling, kissing and more...If she is worried about how menopause has impacted her sex life, suggest to her that she can visit a doctor who will then suggest on how to combat all of this.
But also expect her to say a firm NO to all of this. In that case, please be patient, loving and supportive. Things usually turn around with the understanding that you display genuinely and she may very well want to try adapting to the new phase of life with sexual intimacy in it as well...
be patient, educate yourself on menopause and spice things up outside of the bedroom with little focus on sex. It may work!

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Some medications do have side effects that can affect sex lives. This is something that you and your wife can discuss with a doctor who possibly may look at what can be done.
Also hormonal changes after during and after menopause shows a decline in sexual activity in many women. There are other forms of sexual intimacy that you and your wife can share. Discuss with her without sounding rigid only about sex being the important topic and make her the center of the discussion. It might help her to know that you still care and love her and she maybe more open to actually see what the challenges are.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's not the time that matters but what you do within that time that counts...
There's obviously reasons for her not wanting much sex. It could be:
- hormonal changes
- same bedroom routine
- lack of emotional connect in the marriage
- overburdened with house and office work
- low self-esteem issues

This only you as her husband can find out; work with her if you figure out that she is facing any of these challenges. She will be able to then respond better to intimacy.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/