Hi Anu, I am 50 years old , my wife doesn’t support me for sex. Previously she used to but now she does hardly once in a month
Ans: Dear Nilesh,
Clearly your wife has lost interest in sex.
Have you found out the reason. It could be physiological or an emotional one. Encourage her to have some tests done as a woman at 50 is undergoing a huge hormonal change due to menopause. Encourage her by saying how beautiful she is and how much you love and appreciate her.
Intimacy cannot be forced; and menopause and onset of it can be very challenging and confusing for a woman, Read up about it or visit a doctor who will tell you about how you can play an active role in being a huge support to your wife during this phase.
Patience also will go a long way in letting her know that no matter what, you stand by her. Understanding this truly will change things for her to allow sex not because you want it but because she desires it to.
So, indulge in a lot of cuddling, kissing and hugging without an expectation of it leading to sex. Eventually, it might happen.
Educate yourself first about all of this and sooner than later, the two of you will be on the same side on this.
All the best!
