Hi,......... again met my girl after22 years, on social platform last 7 years back (not physically) and met physically last year, talked, smooched, but after all this she's being bit cold, cold in the sense she does not call and msg quite less now, what could be the reason behind all these changes. TILL NOW AM SURE YOU WOULD GOT TO KNOW THAT IT IS A LONG DISTANCE RELATION. (OUT OF THE COUNTRY TO BE MORE PRECISE).

Hi Love Guru. Please keep my identity as anonymous as possible.  I have few issues going on in my mind and want your suggestions. First, to get out of block and unblock chain. I met a girl who is my brother’s friend in 2017. We started chatting on FB, then exchanged numbers. We had a rapport till six months. There was a unique attachment between us during that period. Not chatting with her for even one day would make me uneasy. In October 2017, her engagement was fixed. I was normal, knowing that there cannot be much between us except being in contact. One day, at the end of our talk, she said, Love you. I laughed, saying “What nonsense that you always call me with different weird names. Now, after your engagement is fixed, you are telling me this.” Then, she blocked me on WhatsApp and I really felt like I was in a cage. Then, after a few days, she unblocked me. She got engaged but, after a few months, her engagement broke. We then again got in good contact. After few months her marriage got fixed. Now she is married. After her marriage, our contact was very, very less as priorities changed. I proceeded with my studies and job and she carried on with her personal and professional life. Two months back, she called me and said I am bored and feeling irritated with life so I called you to freshen my mind. I was also happy talking to her. I am that kind of introvert person who opens up with few and she was among them. For one or two weeks, we used to talk 30 to 45 minutes daily. Suddenly, she blocked me on WhatsApp. I called her and she behaved like a stranger to me -- like who’s this, I don’t know you, who you are and she ended the call and blocked me. Till date, she has blocked me. I think there are many things she is hiding from me -- from why her first engagement broke to marring another guy who is not of her caste when she is from a conservative family  Post her engagement, there were many times she blocked and unblocked me. She is running in my mind. I want to get rid of her. Please suggest how and what shall I talk to her so I get an end to this. Thank you for bearing to read all this. My second issue is I think I am addicted to pornography. Two to three years back, I used to watch a lot of porn and would prefer MILF porn, ie senior pornstars videos. I think, due to this, I don’t get much attracted to girls of my age. I respect them but I think, because of my addiction, I see females elder to me attractive rather than females of my age. Please help. Suggest how I shall get out of this as this also affects me academically, personally and professionally. Thank you, Anon

I am 49 years male, married and having two kids aged 16 years and 13 years. My relations with my spouse are not smooth since many years and we don't have physical intimacy and don't have sex with more than five-six years. I am attracted towards a girl aged about 30 plus years working in my office. We used to go around after office hours, had some coffee and chat and then I dropped her at her residence. I have expressed my love to her and she has responded that she will be my friend forever and don't want to disturb and ruin my family. I was okay with this as I was mentally happy to have her as my friend. But from few days, she has started ignoring me and giving late replies to my messages. I asked her to meet after office hours but she refused on one pretext or other. For few days, we don't have any communications. I was very disturbed and depressed about her behaviour. I even asked the reasons why she has changed, but she replied that she has not... Now, we are exchanging only rare few official messages...... I am so much shocked that I am not even finding courage to ask her to meet.... I fear I might lost her......Kindly advise me

Hi Shalini, Am in touch with a girl who is a doctor in Old Mumbai, Versova. She is practicing from 15 yrs and born and brought up from Mumbai only. She is around 40 yrs and am 43 yrs. She accepted via matrimony and now numbers are exchanged. She never does a VC nor comes to meet at mid way between Khargar to Versova. I stay in Khargar. I am requesting her many ways to meet, but she never responds when I say call VC or lets meet. She just talks via phone and reads whatsapp messages. Its almost from 2 months happening. Even at week ends she says she is busy but she attends all my calls at week days. But she never comes to meet nor to wish do VC also. Now whats your advice. Note; She is divorced without any child and it happened 10 years back. And I am purely unmarried and first marriage. Both of us horoscopes are matching with around 25 Gunas as per astrological reports. Pls advice further how to take it forward. Thanks,

Hello ..I was in a relationship for 4 years and our relationship was very much strong enough. Suddenly she started talking less and ignoring me a lot. She stopped calling me. It's been 6 months today. Did she come back? And what would be the reason for it?

Hii i am 40 years married man and last 2 years i am in relationship with a married women , we also like each other she also confessed me she love me, in starting we talk long time by phone , she give more effort to meet with me she call me to came his home when she alone but from 3-4 month she not giving that effort to meet with me and not come near me we just talk on mobile we meet some time but not closser like earlier , i am not understanding where is going wrong pls suggest