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Amar Question by Amar on May 20, 2024Hindi
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Dear Madam, I am 45 yrs old person living with wife and son. As i am working in educational institute office, one of 33 yrs old lady faculty has shown interest in me in last 3 moths. So i invited her to meet me outside office for some minor office work. She came in hotel. We have taken coffee and discussed for half and hour on various personal things. In the end of meeting, i just gave her yellow rose to express my feelings as a good friend. But she got angry. So mam where i went wrong or wrongly made hurriness. Can i approach her again but she is not talking with me. If she is not interested, then why shown interest to come in hotel and talked so much time?

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Here is the response to it.
https://gurus.rediff.com/question/qdtl/relationship/anu-45-yrs-person-living-wife-working-educational-institute-office/5154747

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