I am 39 now married 7 years ago, my wife is 27 yrs now. Due to various reason i am stayed near to my job location and she lives in my native, i usually meet twice a month. Few weeks ago she shifted near to my work place along with my son and mother in law. An hour ago i encountered a situation wherein my inlaw approached me i managed the situation, left the home and traveling to office now. How can i make her understand that i dont want to get into any other relationship.

Ans: She’s taking you for a ride for sure. She’s obviously not being truthful or faithful. Just because it’s your second marriage doesn’t mean you let yourself be taken advantage of in a bid to make things work. It looks like she’s in this relationship only for convenience. I would suggest a marital counsellor asap.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There is some sort of trend of stepping out of marriage when physical needs are not met within the marriage. It's the easiest way out!
Why is it so hard to figure out what is happening when one of the partners in the marriage is not interested in intimacy?
Why doesn't the other partner try to understand, accept and work with the partner who is struggling through something?
And this goes for the husband and wife and partners within a relationship.

It isn't something written in stone that sex 'MUST' be a part of marriage BUT it certainly is a pillar to creating a stronger relationship. So, why assume and go searching for it? Then you will have all reasons to justify why you did it and how your partner is responsible for it.
Now, you are in a soup with two women vying for your time and attention. And with children involved, things only get complicated. Yes, your wife feels that it his her right to be in your life and your question is: where was she all these years? My question is: why did you stop trying all these years to put things together?

My suggestion: As much as you want to be in the other lady's life, she is clear that she does not want to settle with you. You are also clear that you don't want to separate from your wife but you want her to accept the other lady. Doesn't it seem highly impractical to you?

Before you end up hurting someone or yourself, do what's right for everyone and especially the children. They don't deserve a set of parents that is confused. Good people who come into our lives can end up becoming good friends as well.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It could be one of these:
1. Hormonal changes related to age OR certain medications that she maybe taking
2. A disconnect between the two of you OR lack of emotional connection
3. Boredom in the bedroom OR lack of something new in sexual intimacy

The best way to work through challenges relating to sex and sexual intimacy is for both partners to sit down and be honest with each other and talk it out. It's possible to sort out issues once you know what could be causing them, right?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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