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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 18, 2025Hindi
Relationship

Am 39 years I failed to get someone to get married to what should I do

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you feel like you’ve failed but you are only 39. There’s no set age for marriage. I suggest trying a dating and matchmaking app to find yourself a suitable partner. It will give you a little more control over your love life and open up a much wider pool of potential matches.

A gentle reminder, do not rush because you see everyone else finding love and getting married. I know it can be hard when you feel constantly left behind but I assure you that your time will come too. Rushing will not help; it will only lead to making wrong choices out of desperation.

Hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 17, 2025Hindi
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Hello I am 41 years old but due to careless in life I can't take decision for marriage but now I am realising something wrong happened i started searching alliance but didn't get I want to be relation soon. Please guide me
Ans: It’s completely okay to have taken time figuring out what you wanted in life. Sometimes we don’t move forward simply because we weren’t ready, or we lacked the clarity or emotional support needed at the time. But that doesn't mean you're behind. Everyone’s timeline is different, and yours is still very much unfolding.

Now that you're feeling ready for a serious relationship, here are a few steps you can take to approach this new chapter with confidence and self-awareness.

Start with clarity. Reflect on what kind of partner you're looking for—not just in terms of age or background, but emotionally and mentally. What values matter to you? What kind of connection are you seeking? Are you open to someone who has been married before? Children? When you’re clear, it becomes easier to recognize the right person when they appear.

At the same time, look inward. Do some emotional housekeeping. Ask yourself: What kind of partner do I want to be? Am I emotionally available? Am I still carrying regret, fear, or pressure about being “late” to marriage? Because entering a relationship out of guilt or urgency often leads to settling. But entering it from a place of self-respect and genuine desire creates something meaningful.

Since you're actively searching, it’s okay to use all tools at your disposal—matrimonial sites, family networks, friends, or even a good matchmaker if culturally appropriate. But be patient and realistic. Finding someone who is also ready, aligned with your values, and emotionally compatible can take time.

Also, try not to let pressure—internal or external—rush you. You don’t need a "perfect" partner; you need someone who sees you, respects you, and is willing to grow with you.

And here’s something to hold on to: many people find love in their 40s, 50s, even later—and those relationships are often more conscious, mature, and fulfilling, because they’re built on real-life experience and emotional wisdom, not just youthful impulse.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 22, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2025Hindi
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Inam finding difficulty to get second marriage after my first marriage ended in divorce. I am 39 year female. Please suggest ways to get a good companion how to choose at this age and also I am looking guy with no issues/children and within same community which I belong.
Ans: First, be clear within yourself about what you truly seek — not just "no past baggage" but also shared values, lifestyle compatibility, emotional maturity, and a sense of peace when you're with him. You’re not just choosing a partner — you’re choosing a future that aligns with the person you’ve grown into.

Since you are specific about the community and the absence of children from a previous marriage, you may need to be strategic but open in where you look. Along with trusted matrimonial platforms (you may try both community-based ones and modern curated matchmaking services), also let friends or extended family you trust know that you’re open to exploring proposals — sometimes word-of-mouth alliances bring surprisingly good connections.

While choosing, don’t just assess background or profession — give time to observe his emotional depth, communication style, respect for your past, and how he responds to small differences or stress. These are the real foundations for peace and partnership.

Also, give yourself permission to set boundaries without guilt. You are not obligated to compromise your standards just because it’s a second marriage or because of age. You deserve companionship, not adjustment.

And perhaps most importantly, don’t let societal timelines cloud your confidence. You are 39, not late — just clearer than before. Be honest, hopeful, and patient with yourself.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 22, 2026Hindi
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 22, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 22, 2026Hindi
Money
I plan to withdraw ₹6 lakh from my EPF after completing only 3 years of service, and my PAN is linked with my EPF account. Since my service period is less than 5 years, how much TDS at 10% will be deducted at the time of withdrawal? How will this EPF withdrawal be taxed in my income tax return, and can I claim a refund of the TDS deducted if my total income falls below the taxable limit?
Ans: You are thinking ahead, and that is very important. EPF withdrawal before 5 years has tax impact, but with the right understanding, there will be no surprise later.

» EPF withdrawal before completing 5 years of service
– Your total service is only 3 years
– EPF withdrawal is treated as taxable income
– PAN is linked, so TDS applies at a lower rate
– Withdrawal amount mentioned is Rs. 6 lakh

» TDS deduction at the time of EPF withdrawal
– When PAN is linked, EPFO deducts TDS at 10%
– TDS is calculated on the taxable portion of EPF
– In practical terms, EPFO usually deducts around Rs. 60,000 as TDS
– You will receive the balance amount after TDS deduction

» Important clarity on TDS
– TDS is not final tax
– It is only an advance tax collected by EPFO
– Actual tax depends on your total income for the year

» How EPF withdrawal is taxed in your income tax return
– EPF withdrawal is added to your total income
– Employee contribution portion becomes taxable
– Employer contribution portion becomes taxable
– Interest earned also becomes taxable
– The full taxable amount is taxed as per your income tax slab

» Filing income tax return after EPF withdrawal
– EPF withdrawal amount must be declared in the return
– TDS deducted by EPFO will appear in Form 26AS
– You must include both income and TDS details correctly

» Can you claim refund of TDS deducted
– Yes, refund is fully possible
– If your total income including EPF withdrawal is below taxable limit
– Or if your final tax liability is lower than TDS deducted
– The excess TDS will be refunded after return processing

» Common misunderstanding to avoid
– Many people think 10% TDS is final tax, which is not true
– Actual tax may be zero, lower, or higher based on income slab
– Not filing return will result in loss of refund

» Planning insight from a long-term view
– EPF is a retirement-focused asset
– Early withdrawal increases tax and reduces future safety
– Withdraw only if there is real financial need
– If employment resumes soon, transfer is always cleaner

» Finally
– TDS of around Rs. 60,000 will be deducted at withdrawal
– Entire EPF withdrawal is taxable due to service below 5 years
– Refund can be claimed if total income is within limits
– Proper return filing ensures no permanent tax loss

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 22, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 22, 2026Hindi
Money
I applied for EPF transfer, but the request was rejected due to a mismatch in my date of birth between EPFO records and Aadhaar/PAN. My old EPF account has a balance of ₹4.5 lakh. What is the correct procedure to get the date of birth corrected, how long does this correction process usually take, and will my EPF balance continue to earn interest during this period or will there be any loss of interest?
Ans: You have done the right thing by checking this issue early. EPF date of birth mismatch is common, and it is fully correctable. Your Rs. 4.5 lakh balance is safe, and there is no panic situation here. This can be handled in a structured and clean way.

» Why this mismatch happens
– Older EPF records were created based on employer data entry, not Aadhaar
– Even a small difference like day or month swap leads to rejection
– EPFO now treats Aadhaar as the master record
– Until DOB is matched, transfer and withdrawal requests stay on hold

» Correct procedure to update date of birth in EPFO
– Step 1: Ensure Aadhaar DOB is correct

If Aadhaar DOB is wrong, correct Aadhaar first

EPFO will not accept changes unless Aadhaar is accurate

– Step 2: Initiate “Joint Declaration” online

Login to EPFO member portal

Select “Joint Declaration” option

Choose “Date of Birth” for correction

Enter correct DOB as per Aadhaar

– Step 3: Employer verification

Current employer must digitally approve the request

No physical form is required if employer is active on EPFO portal

– Step 4: EPFO field office approval

EPFO officer verifies Aadhaar, PAN and service history

Once approved, DOB gets updated in EPFO records

» Documents usually required
– Aadhaar (mandatory)
– PAN (supporting)
– School certificate or birth certificate only if EPFO asks for extra proof
– In most cases, Aadhaar alone is enough

» How long this correction process takes
– Employer approval: 3 to 10 working days
– EPFO verification: 15 to 30 working days
– In some regional offices, it may go up to 45 days
– Follow up is possible through EPFO grievance if it crosses 30 days

» What happens to your Rs. 4.5 lakh EPF balance meanwhile
– Your EPF account remains active
– Money stays invested with EPFO
– No freeze on balance
– No deduction or penalty

» Will EPF continue to earn interest during correction
– Yes, interest continues to accrue
– EPF interest is calculated yearly, not daily
– As long as account is not withdrawn, interest is credited
– DOB correction or transfer rejection does NOT stop interest
– There is no loss of interest for this delay

» Impact on EPF transfer after DOB correction
– Once DOB is updated, submit transfer request again
– Transfer usually gets approved smoothly
– Past service period is fully preserved
– Pension eligibility and years of service remain intact

» Important points to keep in mind
– Do not apply for withdrawal while correction is pending
– Keep Aadhaar linked and active
– Track request status every week
– If employer delays, raise EPFO grievance online

» Broader financial planning insight
– EPF is a core long-term retirement pillar
– Keeping records clean avoids future delays during retirement
– Small admin issues today prevent big stress later
– You are doing the right thing by fixing this now

» Finally
– DOB correction is a process issue, not a financial loss
– Your money is safe
– Interest continues without break
– Once corrected, your EPF journey becomes smooth and future-ready

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 22, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 22, 2026Hindi
Money
I resigned from my job in April 2024 and my EPF balance is ₹2.1 lakh. If I remain unemployed for 3 months, am I eligible to withdraw the full EPF amount, or is only a partial withdrawal allowed? What are the EPF rules regarding unemployment period, and does it make any difference if I do not join a new employer during this time?
Ans: You have taken a timely step by understanding EPF rules before acting. This clarity will help you avoid mistakes and protect your long-term savings.

» EPF rules after resignation and unemployment
– EPF withdrawal rules depend on the period of unemployment
– Resignation in April 2024 starts the unemployment clock from the last working day
– EPFO treats unemployment as no contribution from employer and employee

» Withdrawal eligibility after 1 month of unemployment
– After completing 1 full month without a job
– You are allowed to withdraw up to 75% of the EPF balance
– This is considered a partial withdrawal
– Remaining balance stays in the EPF account

» Withdrawal eligibility after 2 months of unemployment
– After completing 2 continuous months of unemployment
– You become eligible to withdraw 100% of the EPF balance
– This includes both employee and employer contribution
– Pension portion follows separate rules and is not paid in cash

» What happens if unemployment continues for 3 months
– Staying unemployed for 3 months does not restrict withdrawal
– Full EPF withdrawal remains allowed after 2 months itself
– No additional benefit for waiting beyond 2 months

» Does not joining a new employer make any difference
– Yes, it matters for eligibility
– If you do not join a new employer, withdrawal is allowed
– If you join a new employer, EPFO expects transfer, not withdrawal
– Even a short-term job with EPF contribution restarts employment status

» Interest on EPF during unemployment
– EPF continues to earn interest up to 36 months of no contribution
– Interest credit is done at year-end
– Withdrawing early may stop future interest accumulation

» Tax aspect to be aware of
– If total EPF service is less than 5 years, withdrawal may be taxable
– If service is 5 years or more, withdrawal is tax-free
– This includes service across multiple employers

» Practical decision guidance
– EPF is meant for retirement security
– Withdraw only if cash flow is truly needed
– If job search is ongoing, keeping EPF intact helps future compounding
– Transfer is always better than withdrawal when re-employed

» Common mistakes to avoid
– Withdrawing EPF just because it is available
– Ignoring pension portion rules
– Assuming 3 months wait gives higher benefit

» Finally
– After 2 months of unemployment, full EPF withdrawal is permitted
– 3 months of unemployment does not change eligibility
– Not joining a new employer allows withdrawal
– Joining a new employer shifts the option to transfer

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 22, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 22, 2026Hindi
Money
My monthly basic salary is ₹18,000. As per EPF rules, what percentage of my salary is deducted towards EPF every month? How much EPF contribution goes from my salary, how much does my employer contribute, and how is the employer’s contribution split between EPF and EPS? Please explain with exact amounts.
Ans: EPF rules are simple and helpful for salaried people like you.

» EPF Deduction Basics
– As per EPF rules, 12% of your basic salary gets deducted every month for EPF.
– For your Rs. 18,000 basic salary, your contribution is Rs. 2,160 (12% of 18,000).*
– This amount goes to your EPF account and builds your retirement corpus steadily.*

» Employer’s Total Contribution
– Your employer also puts in 12% of your basic salary, so another Rs. 2,160 each month.
– Total EPF deposit becomes Rs. 4,320 (your share plus employer share).*
– This matching contribution is a big plus, doubling your savings power without extra cost.*

» Split of Employer’s Share
– Out of employer’s Rs. 2,160, most goes to EPF but a part goes to EPS for pension benefits.
– For salary up to Rs. 15,000, EPS gets 8.33% (Rs. 1,250 max), rest to EPF. But since your basic is Rs. 18,000, EPS is still capped at Rs. 1,250.*
– So employer’s EPF gets Rs. 910 (2,160 minus 1,250), giving you good growth in both pension and provident fund.*

» Why This Setup Works Well
– EPF gives tax free interest around 8-9%, safe and better than many options.
– Your total Rs. 4,320 monthly addition grows big over years with compounding.
– Review your EPF statement yearly to track and appreciate this steady wealth builder.*

Final Insights
– EPF is a solid 360 degree start for retirement, insurance, and loan access.
– Keep contributing fully for max benefits. Talk to your HR if salary details change.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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